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Chapter 89 Illogical "Logic"

- Don't make fools of people!In front of the "silly big sister spirit", "Sherlock Holmes" is insignificant.The Chinese are world-renowned for being good at "logical reasoning". In terms of this talent, the quality of the Chinese is absolutely "superior", no worse than Europeans and Americans (especially the British who gave birth to "Sherlock Holmes").But what really kills me is that the "logical reasoning" talent of us Chinese is often not used in "things" (this is fatally different from the West, but people basically use the "logical reasoning" ability in things), but used in "people".

This is not the end, our ingenious "logical reasoning skills" are often used on "others", but we are often "informal" people, careless and careless all day long , half in the sky and half in the ground, there is no "logic" in words and deeds.This phenomenon is a huge contradiction, and this contradiction has brought a huge problem for us Chinese.That is, interpersonal relationships in China are particularly "tiring".To put it simply, on the one hand, we Chinese are seriously lack of order and logic in doing things, but on the other hand, we like to use extremely tight "logical relationships" to "reason" other people's words and deeds; We like to rigorously "analyze" and "reason" other people's lives, or to put it more bluntly, we are often too good at "doubting people", too fond of writing "movie scripts", "thinking about people", and doing some " "creating something out of nothing" and "provoking trouble", so we Chinese are always very tired when we get along with each other.For example, a person said A the day before yesterday, did B yesterday, and did C today. In fact, the performance of A, B, and C may be just a coincidence, and the person has no special intention, but The people around him will use their incomparable "logical reasoning" ability to start "diagnosing" A, B, and C, forcibly drawing out a clear "logical line" for them, and then confidently give this person Make the final "judgment" - this person must be ulterior motives, plotting evil, be careful!

And that "unlucky guy", the person involved, was actually completely kept in the dark, unaware that what he did had already been compiled into a "movie script" by others, and it was very "lifelike" and "lifelike". Waiting for him will be other people's suspicious eyes and harsh words, and he himself can only "feel unlucky" when he doesn't know what's going on.In fact, strictly speaking, we cannot say that this type of "reasoning" has no level at all. Since it is a "family heirloom" handed down to us by our ancestors, this kind of "logical reasoning" talent has gone through "thousands of tempering". ", of course has a very high "quality".The problem is that the daily behavior of most of us Chinese is really "not worthy" of such high-quality "logical reasoning".Think about it, unless they are "expert-level" talents who have received professional training from the National Security Agency or the US Central Intelligence Agency, how many people's daily words and deeds follow strict "logical relationships"?If the master is really of this level, I'm afraid he wouldn't do such stupid things that you can "see through" so easily, would he?

Therefore, using such a high-end "logical reasoning" tool to deal with us "small people in the market" is really "killing a chicken with a bull's knife", and the whole thing is "overkill".That is to say, although we Chinese like to "think about people" very much, most of the time we belong to the category of "thinking about people". To force others to be the "protagonist", not admitting it is a manifestation of "dishonest" and "slippery", which makes others tired as well as yourself.Set up a trap for others every day for them to exploit, and if they trap others, they also trap themselves, and the whole thing is "seeking troubles for nothing, tossing around poorly"!Therefore, as a person with eight years of experience in studying abroad, I fully understand the feelings of some people who stay abroad for a long time and are unwilling to come back.There are many reasons why they do this, but I think one of the most important ones is that it is "too tiring" to manage interpersonal relationships in China, and it is much "easier" to get along with foreigners.

In this sense, foreigners are really "simple and naive" and cute, and they have the feeling of "no distractions". Write a "script", so I can maintain a "natural state" in front of foreigners. I don't have so many scruples in speaking and doing things, and live a comfortable life.Taking my company as an example, nearly [-]% of my daily management work is often wasted on dealing with meaningless "interpersonal relationship disputes".For example, a while ago, the two beauties in the sales department "pinched" inexplicably, causing tears to flow down their faces and their faces dimmed.The two came to me and complained about each other's various "evil deeds" respectively, euphemistically saying "I have endured the other party for a long time, today's doing this is an act of 'removing harm for the people', and it is for the long-term interests of the company". Add a sentence "Leader, please believe me, the other party definitely has a character problem. As the saying goes, 'Long distance knows horsepower, time sees people's heart', just watch, sooner or later you will understand who is a good person, Who is the bad guy!" I couldn't laugh or cry when I heard it.

In fact, the "evil deeds" of the other party they listed are really some "everyday trivial matters" that are too ordinary.But in their eyes, these are definitely behaviors with "ulterior motives" and "bad intentions", and day after day, as their "logical reasoning" of each other's "clues" deepens, this kind of The "movie script" that has taken shape in their minds has become more "mature" and "clearer", and it really is "even if there is no ghost, it will make people think of ghosts".With the passage of time, the image of the other party's "villain" became more and more "vivid", more "three-dimensional", and more "ready to emerge", and finally led to the result of a full-scale outbreak of "war".I can only patiently say to them, "I don't deny that there may be something wrong with her words and deeds. But this does not mean that there must be something wrong with her character. Because everyone will say something that others may not like so much, Do something that others may not be able to accept.

As long as we communicate well, can't we solve the problem?Why do we have to put the hat of 'bad guy' on other people's heads? ""I don't agree with your statement that 'a horse is known from a distance, and a heart is seen from time to time'.Although I don't deny the correctness of the statement that 'as time goes by, we must further deepen our understanding of a person'.But your statement is equivalent to presupposing a premise, that is, the other party must be a 'bad person', but I haven't seen this in a short time with her. I can't accept this premise.I don't deny that she may still say and do wrong things in the days to come, but this does not mean that she is a 'bad person'.It's as if you can't guarantee that you won't say or do wrong things in the days to come. If I also say to you at that time, 'So you are a bad person, I really misunderstood you. 'Can you be convinced? "

Of course, this matter was resolved satisfactorily in the end, and within two days, the young ladies were as good as sisters.However, dealing with such trivial matters day after day does involve a lot of energy and makes people very headache.In fact, thinking about it, although we all like to think about others, the process of "thinking about others" often does not bring us happiness. On the contrary, it only brings us pain.Because our "thinking" is not to think about others as "good", but to think about others as "bad", holding back fantasies about how they want to "murder" us.Moreover, once our "thinking" energy starts, we will not be able to stop the brakes, become involuntary, and keep thinking about "deepness", thinking about "god", and thinking more and more The more "lifelike", as if it is real, so as the "truth" gradually "understands", we will become short of breath, dripping with cold sweat, restless, and extremely depressed—the whole is a "fantasy maniac" Add a "masochist" posture, eat and support yourself, and abuse yourself.

However, this is just the "first level of suffering" of "thinking about people blindly", and there is still "second level of suffering" waiting for you!Think about it, you are not the only one in the world who likes to "think blindly", everyone likes it.If you become someone's "thinking object" every day or two, and they are the "absolute protagonist" in the "movie script" "tailor-made" for you, let's see if you are tired!Isn't this tossing around with nothing to do?Unfortunately, this "tossing culture" is precisely our national quintessence.We have inherited it for thousands of years, and I am afraid that the next few thousand years will have to be inherited... The British only produced a detective "Sherlock Holmes" in a few centuries, but almost all of us are "Sherlock Holmes".I don't know if this is God's punishment or gift to us.please! "Sherlock Holmes" is fiction!However, the life we ​​have to face every day is extremely real, messy, random, rough, and hot, and there is no room for so many carefully crafted "movie scripts" and tight "logical analysis"!Wouldn't it be better to live a rough life?If each of us has the spirit of "Silly Big Sister" and "Ah Q", and doesn't think about things, don't speculate blindly, maybe our world will be much better!Life is much easier for everyone! Long live the "silly big sister spirit"!
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