Harvard Emotional Intelligence Class

Chapter 49 Inspiring Patience and Aggressiveness (2)
Don't be eager to show your imperfect abilities, and don't worry that you can't find someone who appreciates you.If you want yourself to have a bright tomorrow, then you should learn to observe and hone in your work and study. Only in this kind of test can your ability be improved and your level can be brought into play.If you already have a comprehensive understanding of your business, and you have a solid grasp of how it works, then you are not far from the day of success.Discovered by others and reused.When you are immature, when you feel that your knowledge is still relatively lacking, you might as well put away your complaints first and try to accumulate your energy. When the opportunity comes, you can let yourself develop your talents. Shining brightly.

(Pearls under the sand in the third section
Dickens said: "Stubborn perseverance can conquer the world any one peak."

If you can still endure the loneliness of your soul under people's attention, can you still endure such suffering in the corner forgotten by others?If you can do this, then you are destined to have a day of being noticed and a lifetime of being remembered.Maybe you don't have much desire on weekdays, maybe you are just obsessed with your own hobbies, maybe your actions have been ridiculed by others, but as long as you don't give up, as long as you persist, you will have unexpected things reward.At this time, other people's white eyes will also turn into envious eyes.

★Persistence to the end will lead to success

Many years ago, in a small town in the Netherlands, there came a young farmer with only a junior high school education. His name was Leeuwenhoek.His job is mainly to guard the gate for the town government, where he has been working for more than 60 years.In his spare time, he never plays cards or chess.He has only one hobby - grinding lenses.In order to master the technique of grinding mirrors, he sought teachers and friends everywhere, learned from opticians and alchemists.I often grind the lens until late at night and refuse to stop.Because of this love for lenses, he hid in the house to get busy after work, which naturally reduced the time to communicate with relatives and friends, so he was misunderstood by relatives and often regarded as an "unfriendly guy".In this regard, Leeuwenhoek remained indifferent and continued to study persistently.The magnification of the composite lens he ground out exceeded that of professional technicians, and finally made an unparalleled fine microscope at that time, which unveiled the "veil" of the microbial world that science and technology did not know, for which he was awarded the title of academician of the Paris Academy of Sciences.When the Queen of England visited the Netherlands, she made a special trip to visit him in this small town, and the Royal Society also elected him as a member of it. ★
Leeuwenhoek's success lies in his perseverance.Many people fail in their careers, often not because they did not choose the right goals, nor because they were too difficult, but because they lacked a strong will and a tenacious character.Su Shi of the Song Dynasty said: Those who achieved great things in ancient times not only have talents beyond the world, but also must have perseverance.This is an inevitable rule, ancient and modern, Chinese and foreign, but it is the same for all those who have achieved something.Leeuwenhoek has been polishing lenses for more than 60 years. The hardships, tediousness and tediousness are self-evident. Without a firm will and a spirit of perseverance, it is absolutely impossible.He walked a difficult and thorny road.Polishing lenses may seem like a common job to others, but it is in such small and ordinary things that one can see a person's attitude towards doing things.Leeuwenhoek is different from other people's ideas. He wants to polish every lens in his hand, so he does this kind of thing in a down-to-earth manner and meticulously, and spends his whole life to complete every ordinary lens. Actions.When he was 85 years old, his friends advised him to spend the rest of his life away from the microscope, but he said: "To succeed in one thing, you must spend your whole life..." He lived to the age of 90 without leaving the microscope.It is precisely with the tenacity of character as a magic weapon for protection that Leeuwenhoek has gone through a long and bumpy path, pouring brilliant flowers of success with hard work and sweat.

Many so-called "success in one fell swoop" and "one blockbuster" feats in science are the result of long-term and silent series of tenacious efforts, and are the result of overcoming countless difficulties with steely will and perseverance.Nobel laureate and chemist Davis said: "Real ambitions are almost all the accumulation of wisdom, hard work, learning, and experience, and they can't achieve their goals at all. As for those blockbuster scholars, they are just people. I think he is a blockbuster, but in fact, his hard work and potential intelligence have not been appreciated by others beforehand!" To be successful, there are no "shortcuts" to take, and there are no "tricks and tricks", what is needed most is perseverance character.As the French microbiologist Pasteur said: "Tell you the mystery that makes me achieve my goal. My only strength is my persistence."

So patience is a kind of painful training, which is engraved in the heart after suffering like purgatory.Especially those engaged in scientific research, without the spirit of perseverance, it is impossible to complete cutting-edge research projects.Under those conditions, what is challenged is not just a person's intelligence, but more a challenge to a person's psychological quality.Without a good psychological quality, without a spirit of patience that can withstand external pressure and difficult environments, it is impossible to make achievements.

If you are a pearl, then you don't have to worry about staying in the shell for too long, and don't deny the effect of the sand on you. One day you will be discovered and reused.When a person is in adversity, it is easy to be negative and decadent, and it is easy to feel slack. He would rather sit there and wait than take action or try to move forward.They believe that time will solve everything, and time can heal the scars of the soul. Whether it is personal or career, they all hold the attitude of "don't do it unless you are sure it will succeed".But in fact, some things simply cannot be known in advance whether it will be feasible or not.So this kind of people always shrink back when doing things, so they often can't feel the joy of life, can't find the direction of their own development, can't find the goal of their struggle and the hope they pinned on.This state of waiting is not that of patience.You have to be patient when times are uncertain, but you must not lose sight of where you are going.But if you want to achieve yourself, you must go all out to fight for it, and actively wait for the opportunity to come.

(Section [-] Accumulate the Strength of Fighting

No matter what you do, there is a "right time".Timing is a force of nature beyond human ability.No matter how much you desire, the cherry blossoms will never be in full bloom before spring comes; no matter how anxious you are, when the time is not ripe, you will definitely not succeed in doing things.The severe winter is here, and spring is not far away.Even if the cherry blossoms are blown by the cold wind or heavy snow that bends the branches, they still wait quietly for the arrival of spring, fully expressing their trust in the blessings of nature.

Unsatisfactory things have passed, and good times are bound to come.Therefore, those who achieve great things all wait for the time to come.Neither anxious nor flustered, quietly deal with the work in front of him.The mood of a great man waiting for the opportunity is like a cherry tree waiting for spring.However, waiting passively is tantamount to hoping for luck.Although the cherry trees are quietly waiting for spring, they are always recharging their energy.Without savings potential, even when the time comes, nothing will be achieved.

The more you need to wait, the more anxious your heart will be. This is human nature.However, the laws of nature cannot be influenced by human emotions.This is not indifference. Opportunity greets those who wait quietly for it with warm hands.Therefore, we must be able to develop the mentality of "waiting for the opportunity".

★Keep your goals in mind
An American named Yurga, his story is a good illustration of this truth.He moved to New Orleans after living in Detroit for a while.He was just a plumber in Detroit, and he struggled for years without developing his own business because of a lack of funds.

When he first moved to New Orleans, he had his wife, three children and $120, all of his possessions and assets.On the first day he moved in, he went to eight plumbing companies, but none of them would hire him, they just told him they had enough.

Reluctantly the next day he hopped on a bus and walked down a long, busy street.There were several fast food restaurants on that street, and he noted the names of the shops that were looking for clerks posted in the windows.At the end of the road, he hopped into another car heading home and visited four fast-food restaurants along the way, but failed to find work.

Finally, the manager of the fifth house finally took some interest in him.Yurga assured the manager that he was hardworking and honest.The manager told him the pay was pretty low.But he told the manager that the treatment is not a problem and he will provide first-class service to customers.

He worked so hard that within six weeks he was the sales manager of the fast food restaurant.During that time, he met many customers.According to their requirements, he improved the quality of service and increased work efficiency.Nine months later, the owner of the fast-food restaurant called him into his office.It turned out that besides running the catering business, the boss had other investment projects, especially in real estate.The boss saw that Yurga was very capable and dedicated, so he wanted to send him to a building with 90 households as an assistant manager.

Yurga froze and told the boss that he had only worked as a plumber and knew nothing about running buildings.But the boss smiled and said to him: "I checked your records in the fast food restaurant, and the profit has increased by 83%. The principles of managing a building are the same as managing a fast food restaurant-being helpful, promoting plans, and delegating. I think you must Keeps the building full, rented on time, and well maintained.”

As a result, Yurga took the job—three times the pay he made at the fast food restaurant, plus a nice apartment.

Two years later, Yurga had been promoted to senior manager, and before long he had enough money to start his own business—a large-scale plumbing business. ★
Yurga chose a job that few people would want to do, but he ended up making a career out of it.So it doesn't matter where you start, what matters is that you know where you are going.Even if you choose the most humble job, if you can make your goals clear, then you can make full preparations for extraordinary careers in ordinary positions and lay a solid foundation for your career , it is possible to realize your dream and become a successful person.

(Section [-] Genius is nothing but long patience

Almost everyone will be teased by the God of Destiny on the journey of life.Maybe you have to work several times more than others to get rewarded for success, maybe you have to take many detours than others to reach the other side of victory.But no amount of suffering can overwhelm what is resilient, nor can it destroy the unyielding strength in the body.Therefore, as long as you have the quality of patience, the firmness of perseverance, and the determination to move forward steadily after stepping on one step, then you can become the master of your destiny and your own master.All the pain can be melted into the passion of patience, and all the tears can be turned into a puff of smoke in the patience!
The vicissitudes of life bury unspeakable pain in the abyss of life. Patience can make people believe that the pain will disappear, and the sky will be brighter after the storm.A turbulent life makes people feel confused. Patience allows you to suppress the unbearable loneliness, anger, and hardships in your heart, preventing them from sneaking out and spreading out, and allows you to keep the balance of your mind in balance.

Learn to be patient, learn to persevere in the pursuit of patience, and have a deeper understanding of life in the process of patience.Work hard in patience, fight hard in patience.Always remember: the enemy that stands between you and great achievement is impatience.As long as you can bravely reflect on and review the reasons for your lack of patience, and then overcome those weaknesses one by one, then you will be able to grasp the most valuable things in life.If you find yourself lacking grit, you can make up for it by simply lighting up the flames beneath your desire to succeed.No matter how old you are or how young you are, as long as you have a certain awareness and thinking ability, you should cultivate yourself to have lasting patience.It is what everyone needs and it can help you achieve more.

If you want to make a difference, you have to be prepared to endure! "Genius is nothing but long-term patience! Work hard!" The famous French novelist de Maupassant practiced Flaubert's words, and finally became a striking star in the world literary world.Believe in yourself, with the encouragement of endurance, you can also have extraordinary achievements.

As long as you learn to breathe regularly and give your heart the ability to run long distances, then you will persevere in the marathon of life, and you may achieve ideal results in this race and realize your dreams.

(End of this chapter)