Harvard Emotional Intelligence Class

Chapter 67 Change yourself, you are the master of your life (2)
Sophia Loren did not blindly follow the director's advice when facing her beloved film career. She insisted on her own characteristics and was unwilling to make any changes in her appearance, even at the risk of being fired by the director. She still believed in herself and did not make any concessions. In the end, she was recognized by the director and the audience. Her achievements in the film industry proved that her persistence and self-confidence were correct. ★
When facing a turning point in life, if you think your choice is correct, you must firmly believe in yourself and don't blindly follow other people's opinions, so that you will have a greater chance of success.

(Section [-] To be a hero, you must have the courage to defeat yourself

There is a saying that goes well: "The greatest enemy in life is yourself, and the greatest failure in life is to be despised by yourself." "Lao Tzu" once mentioned: "He who overcomes others is powerful, and he who overcomes himself is strong." Defeating others is just a sign of strength, but being able to defeat yourself is considered strong.If a person wants to make progress and succeed, he must have the courage to overcome himself.Those who have the courage to overcome themselves are the real heroes.

People are lazy, and they will always find various excuses to justify their lack of effort.People often make mistakes like this: in order to allow themselves to sleep for half an hour, they always leave their fitness plans behind; in order to seek comfort, they always take "study is a long-term task, don't care about this little time" as a mistake. Excuses; for the sake of pleasure, you can't restrain yourself from eating, drinking and having fun with public money, etc.It seems to be some small things, but if we can't overcome these small problems in ourselves, how can we finally overcome ourselves and achieve something?If a person wants to finally overcome himself and achieve a leap in life, he must restrain himself from small things and start by overcoming his own small shortcomings, so that he can finally achieve the ultimate goal of defeating himself.

Every successful person may not be the smartest person, but they are often the ones who know how to control themselves and overcome their weaknesses.

★The story of "Contemporary Paul"
Zhang Haidi was born in Jinan in the autumn of 1955. Suffered from myelopathy at the age of 5 and was paralyzed from the chest down.From then on, Zhang Haidi started her unique life.Unable to attend school, she homeschooled herself through secondary school. At the age of 15, Haidi followed her parents and was sent to the countryside of Liaocheng (Shandong) to teach her children.She also taught herself acupuncture and moxibustion, and treated villagers for free.Later, Zhang Haidi taught himself many foreign languages ​​and worked as a radio repairman.

In the face of the cruel challenge of fate, Zhang Haidi did not feel depressed or sinking. She fought against the disease with tenacious perseverance and perseverance, withstood severe tests, and was full of confidence in life.Although she did not have the opportunity to enter the school, she worked hard to study, completed all the courses of elementary school and middle school, taught herself college English, Japanese, German and Esperanto, and studied university and postgraduate courses. Zhang Haidi began to engage in literary creation in 1983. He has successively translated English novels of hundreds of thousands of words such as "Seaside Clinic", and edited books such as "A Window Open to the Sky", "Questioning Life", and "Dreams in Wheelchairs".Among them, "Dream in a Wheelchair" was published in Japan and South Korea, and "Question of Life" was published less than half a year ago, and has been reprinted three times, and won the national "Five One Project" book award.Before "Questioning Life", this award had never been awarded to prose works.Recently, a 3-word novel "Jue Ding" will be published soon.Since 30, Zhang Haidi has created and translated more than 1983 million words of works.

In order to make a greater contribution to society, she has self-studied more than a dozen medical monographs, and at the same time consulted experienced doctors, learned acupuncture and moxibustion and other medical techniques, and treated more than 1 people for free.

In 1983, "China Youth Daily" published "It is a shooting star, we must leave the light to the world". Zhang Haidi became famous in China and won two reputations, one is "80s New Lei Feng" and the other is "Contemporary Paul".

Zhang Haidi's fate is unfortunate. The illness took away her normal body, but she is strong. She did not give up on herself because of her physical disability. She used her strong will to walk out of a more exciting life than normal people. road.She is her own hero, and she has become everyone's hero. ★
To defeat yourself, you must have lofty aspirations and firm beliefs.Lofty goals can radiate passionate fighting spirit, and unremitting efforts can conquer any difficulties and hardships.Only with high standards and strict demands on ourselves, and with hard work, can we reach the other side of our ideals and achieve "Where there is a will, there is a way."Any attitude of being volatile, sloppy, sloppy, muddling along, and drifting with the flow will lead to giving up halfway and failing.

To defeat yourself, you must see the good and think of the same, and be brave after knowing your shame.People should have self-knowledge, and have a comprehensive and correct understanding of their own strengths and weaknesses.Only by facing up to one's own shortcomings, seeing one's own shortcomings, consciously comparing with others' strengths and weaknesses, and deeply analyzing one's own weaknesses, shortcomings and mistakes, can one find out where the gaps lie, realize one's shame and be courageous, and strive to eliminate one's own negative things. Self-motivation in self-motivation, improvement in reflection, and constant self-improvement in improvement.

To defeat yourself, you must be proactive and strive for self-improvement. "Proficiency in industry lies in diligence and leisure, and success in thinking and destruction in casualness."Those who have the courage to break through and surpass themselves are the strong in life; if they follow the trend and follow others' advice, they can only follow in their footsteps forever.Conquering oneself is a long and arduous process, and there is no shortcut. Any idea of ​​achieving it once and for all is an unrealistic fantasy.The infinite scenery is on the dangerous peak.Only those who are not afraid of hardships and dangers and climb bravely can appreciate the beauty and happiness of "being at the top of the mountain and seeing all the small mountains at a glance".

(Section [-] Believe in yourself, challenge yourself boldly

Everyone has their own dreams, but in the end there are very few people who can really realize their dreams. Why?People's IQ will not be much different. The key to success lies in whether you have the courage to challenge yourself, whether you can do things that others cannot do, and those who dare to challenge themselves can often stimulate their infinite potential , so as to achieve greater success.

"An old man, with aspirations for thousands of miles; a martyr in his twilight years, with a strong heart." Cao Cao uttered such bold words in his sixtieth year. Facing the complex form of "Three Kingdoms" and facing young and strong political opponents, he still wanted to unify the motherland and realize the prosperity of the country. The ideal of strengthening the people, although old and frail, still has the determination to challenge himself.

Successful people do not achieve it overnight. They are all in the process of constantly challenging themselves, setting higher goals for themselves, and stepping towards the glory of life step by step.A person who dares to challenge himself must be a very confident person. He thinks that he will be better than he is now, so he constantly raises the requirements for himself. People who dare to challenge themselves must have a fighting spirit, because he likes to make himself better , but to become better, you must maintain fighting spirit and enthusiasm.

★Challenge yourself bravely
Five years ago, Emily graduated from a certain polytechnic university. At that time, she had two positions to choose from: one was to work as a secretary in a large public institution, and the other was to work as a secretary in a high-tech enterprise that had not started for a long time but had a good development momentum. Sale.Some friends persuaded her to go to that business unit, thinking that such a job is more stable and suitable for girls; but Emily felt that she always liked challenges and believed that sales could stimulate her fighting spirit, so she finally chose to make sales.

Emily chose the right job that suits her development based on her career interests, which may be the first step to her success.

After several years of work experience, Emily, who was originally "very individual", has gradually mastered the skills of dealing with and communicating with people in the mall and some rules of the game in the workplace.From selling software to selling systems and packaged solutions, Emily has gradually established her own working principles and friendly style. She sells products from the perspective of customers in everything, and keeps her promises to customers in her work. .

As a result, Emily made herself an expert in selling products, and at the same time won the trust and rewards of customers.She is more confident in herself, and more convinced that the original decision was correct.

During this process, Emily constantly sets new goals for herself, including sales and personal income, and these plans are often challenging, forcing herself to achieve the goals.She wants to prove that she can do better. Under this goal, she not only has a good income, but also has a reputation in this industry.But when the sales achieved a certain performance, she found that she was a little weak in sales management.

Faced with such a situation, Emily bravely took a new step according to the advice of her career consultant. While choosing to recharge, she jumped to work as a sales manager in a company that was about to vigorously expand the market.Although this made her life not easy, she was "addicted" and had a sense of satisfaction like a duck to water. More importantly, she learned how to better manage a sales team, which is the main reason why she joined this company , she finally became an excellent sales manager in an IT company.

Later, Emily was spotted by a headhunting company, and she jumped to a company in the same industry very smoothly. In the new business year, the title became the sales director, and Emily will make a big leap in her career.

Emily is a person who dares to challenge herself. In the process of self-challenge, she has experienced the joy of life and the sense of accomplishment brought by challenges. ★
Challenging yourself is not as difficult as it seems. As long as you are good at discovering your potential, set your goals a little bigger, and then achieve it through your own efforts, as long as you keep going, you will be able to get closer and closer It ultimately achieves the goal of challenging yourself and making yourself better.

(End of this chapter)