Be a Man and Do Things Pillow Book

Chapter 74
If you want to take it, you must first give it. "Taiping Heavenly Kingdom Documents" says: "If you want to capture, you must first attack. If you want to be anxious, you will slow down. If you want to fight or conquer the opponent, you must skillfully handle the relationship between gains and losses, big gains and small losses. , There is no income, give up the child to trap the wolf.When Mao Zedong commented on China's military history, he said that in many battles in ancient China, the strengths of the two sides were different.

On December 1970, 12, Brandt, Chancellor of the Federal Republic of Germany, visited Poland.According to the schedule, Brandt will lay a wreath the next day at the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier in Warsaw and the Memorial to the Martyrs of the Warsaw Ghetto.During World War II, 6 million Poles died, and many people were hostile to the Germans.The next day, when Brandt came to the grave, he fell to his knees with a plop, pleading guilty to the victims on behalf of Germany.This unexpected move was not planned and Brandt consulted with no one.The Polish hosts were deeply shocked, and many were moved to tears by Brandt's actions.Brandt's trip to Poland reshaped the image of Germany in the whole world and won the favor of Poland and other countries. In October 600, the Nobel Prize Committee unanimously nominated Brandt for the Nobel Peace Prize.

Regardless of whether you are doing small or big things, you should have an overall and strategic vision.Don't care too much about current, personal preferences, but move towards the ultimate goal.

Periodically reset yourself to zero.

When the president of Harvard University visited Peking University, he talked about his personal experience.

One year, the principal asked the school for a three-month leave, and then told his family members not to ask me where I was going. I would call my family every week to report that I was safe.

The principal went to the countryside in the southern United States alone, trying to live a new life.In the countryside, he went to work on farms and washed dishes in restaurants.When working in the fields, smoking a cigarette behind his boss's back, or having a few words with his co-workers in secret, gave him an unprecedented pleasure.

The most interesting thing is that he finally found a job washing dishes in a restaurant. After working for four hours, the boss called him to pay him.The boss said to him: "Poor old man, you are too slow to clean the dishes, you are fired."

The "poor old man" returned to Harvard and returned to his familiar working environment, but felt that the things he was most familiar with before had become new and interesting.

His experience of the past three months, like a naughty child playing a prank, is fresh and interesting.More importantly, after returning to a primitive state, it is like the world in the eyes of children, everything is so interesting, and the "garbage" accumulated in the heart for many years is unconsciously cleaned up.

In a certain state, living in a fixed place for a long time, the body and mind are easily exhausted.Annoyed by unresolved issues all day long, this kind of mentality will make people unable to get out of their own circle to see problems and do things clearly.The "brainwashing" method of the president of Harvard has allowed him to re-understand his work and life, enabling him to do things well from another new perspective.Reset yourself to zero on a regular basis to remove the pollution in your mind, so that you can enjoy work and life better.

Only by respecting experienced people can we avoid detours.

There was a doctor who was assigned to a research institute and became the person with the highest education.

One day he went fishing in the small pond behind the unit, and it happened that the director and deputy director were on the left and right of him, and they were also fishing.

He just nodded slightly, these two undergraduates, what is there to talk about?
After a while, the director put down the fishing rod, stretched his waist, and walked from the water to the toilet on the opposite side.

The doctor's eyes almost fell out.Floating on the water?No way?This is a pond.

When the director came back from the toilet, he also floated back from the water.

what happened?It’s not easy for a doctoral student to ask, since I am a doctoral student!
After a while, the deputy director also stood up, took a few steps, and floated across the water to the toilet.Now the doctor almost fainted: No way, you are in a place where there are many masters of the rivers and lakes?

Doctoral students are also anxious.There are walls on both sides of the pond, and it takes 10 minutes to go to the toilet on the opposite side, and it is too far to go back to the unit, what should I do?
The doctoral students were also unwilling to ask the two directors. After holding back for a long time, they also got up and jumped into the water: I don't believe that undergraduates can cross the water, but my doctoral students can't.

With a bang, the doctoral student fell into the water.

The two directors pulled him out and asked him why he went into the water. He asked, "Why can you walk over there?"

The directors of the two institutes looked at each other and smiled: "There are two rows of wooden stakes in this pond. Because of the rain these past two days, the water has risen and the water is just below the surface of the water. We all know the location of the wooden stakes, so we can step on them. Why don't you ask?" Woolen cloth?"

Academic qualifications represent the past, and only learning ability can represent the future.Those who respect experience can avoid detours.A good person should be able to recognize his own shortcomings and the strengths of others, and respect experience.

The magic of saying a few more words.

Human social attributes are the sum of various social relations.Misunderstandings between people are often caused by lack of communication when people do things independently.People who have misunderstood not only will not cooperate, but will try their best to obstruct things that he doesn't like.If we want to do things well, we must not only get the approval of our own conscience, but also the approval of everyone.In this way, it is called doing things successfully.

There should be no such mentality: not seeking perfection, but seeking a clear conscience.We should communicate with a positive attitude so that everyone can understand and understand.Otherwise, we will break away from the group, live and do things with a self-centered attitude, and finally be eliminated by society.

A is going to plug a laptop into a network cable port in a house, when a man B who looks like a passer-by comes and says to him: This can't be connected. A said: "I'll give it a try." Then he got busy again. B got angry: "I told you it can't be connected, what are you still doing here?" A said again: "I'll try again." Then he planned to move the computer to another interface.It didn't work after a while. B was in a hurry, and came over and patted A on the back very hard: "Hey, hey, what are you doing? I told you not to do it." It sounded like A was wreaking havoc. A got angry, and said loudly: "You shoot me? I know I can't do it, haven't I done it!" B paused, said nothing, and left.As a result, things were not understood, and everyone was furious.

This is a big deal, because of a misunderstanding, everyone is on edge.Take B as an example, first, he didn't let others figure out who he was, and thought he was a meddlesome person.He was actually a trainee administrator there.Second, he treats others in a commanding tone, which is unacceptable in the first place.Third, he didn't give any explanation as to why he couldn't connect. How would others know what he said was right.Trying it won't affect anything, at most it will suppress his self-esteem.Fourth, the most taboo thing is that he used more misleading moves.Fortunately, they stopped arguing because they were afraid that things would become serious.Take A as an example, he didn't understand why he couldn't pick up in the end.One, instead of actively figuring out who was talking to him, he just ignored it.Second, he didn't communicate with the administrator what he was going to do, like a trespasser.Third, he didn't ask why others said no, he just insisted on going his own way, and he didn't know what the consequences would be.Fourth, when the admin pats him just to remind him, he gets annoyed because he put up with it for so long.

In fact, as long as everyone speaks a few more words, no one wants to make the situation so embarrassing, and things will be much easier.

May wish to have some new changes.

Apples have always been cut vertically, and people have always been like this. No one has ever thought of cutting them horizontally, and would think that cutting them horizontally is wrong.But a six-year-old child cut the apple horizontally, because he didn't have a frame like "cutting horizontally is wrong" in his mind.So people saw the five-pointed star composed of cores on the cross-section of the apple.

It can be seen that people will never discover this five-pointed star if they don’t change their approach. Therefore, this trivial matter tells us not to be bound by the inherent thinking patterns in doing things, and to find another way and have a hole in the sky.

When the ballpoint pen was first invented, there was a lot of oil in the core, and often the small ball was worn out before the oil was used up, making the user's hands full of oil, which was very embarrassing.So many people began to think of ways to prolong the service life of the ball. They used many special materials to make the ball, but the ball still broke when the oil in the refill was not used up.Therefore, many people think that the ballpoint pen will be eliminated.At this time, someone abandoned the method of improving the ball, changed the way of thinking, made the refill smaller, and let it hold less oil, so that the oil would be used up before the ball was broken.So, the problem was solved, and the ballpoint pen became popular in the world.It can be seen that at some point, the old thinking pattern cannot solve the problem, so we must change our thinking and find another path.

There is a man who works as an accountant in a company.The company's trading business is very busy, and the rhythm is also very tense. Often, the other party's goods are sent out in the morning, and the bill is faxed at noon.Then there are invoices, waybills, etc. that will be sent soon.This person's desk is always full of various debt collection bills.

There are too many debt collection bills, and they all ask for money in the same way. This person often does not know who to pay first, and the manager is the same. He always looks at it and throws it on the table, saying: "You can figure it out." But Once it was said immediately: "Pay him." The only time.

It was a bill faxed from Brazil. In addition to listing the item, price, and amount of the goods, a large "SOS" was written in a large blank space, and a head was drawn next to it. The head was dripping tears. Simple lines, but very vivid.This unusual bill immediately caught his attention, and it also attracted the attention of the manager. The manager looked at it and said, "I'm in tears, so pay him in the fastest way."

Both the manager and the friend knew in their hearts that the debt collector might not really be crying, but he succeeded and recovered a large amount of money as quickly as possible.Because he went the extra mile, swapping the simple "give me the money" for a little humor with a human touch, and that alone makes it stand out from the pack.

There are many people in the world who run into walls every day. They are all using the same, standardized but similar way of operation. In fact, a small improvement and a new way will bring good luck to themselves.

It is not too late to remedy the situation.

It's not too late to make up for a dead sheep, and I'm afraid that the jar will be broken.

If people who lose sheep think that the sheep are lost, they will lose them, and if they don't take any measures, it will only make more and more sheep lost.If he thinks that the sheep have been lost and there is no need to take any more measures, this mentality will only cause him to have no protection against any risks, and losses may occur at any time.

The other extreme of this mentality is breaking the cans and breaking the cans.Because one thing is not done well, I start to be discouraged, or vent my dissatisfaction or anger with various self-destructive behaviors.Listless at work, forgetful about work; arriving late and leaving early on purpose, or even claiming to be sick; feeling unhappy, keeping silent, pretending to be happy all day long, but giving way to things, hoping to see the boss make a joke; or simply angrily Resign.Although he knew that he might not be able to adapt to the new environment, he resigned in anger before he even found a new employer.

This way of working will only make people feel contemptuous, because this kind of venting basically cannot make everyone sympathetic or stimulate the proud. Not only will they not be happy, but they will also ruin their own future.

Even if we are criticized, ridiculed, or otherwise stimulated because we do something wrong, we should not give up on ourselves, because the world is often full of changes, maybe you will make another decision to turn things around?So don't let your anger out like a child, we need a kind of tenacity and a little "thick skin", so that what you lose can be covered by the light you gain.

(End of this chapter)