Be a Man and Do Things Pillow Book

Chapter 75
Every leaf has its own charm.

No leaf is exactly the same, and any leaf has two sides.The world is a combination of contradictions.Everything has pros and cons.When you look at it from another angle, the front becomes the back, and the back becomes the front.

Once, an old man told a story of his own:
When I was young, I thought I was great. At that time, I planned to write a book. In order to add some "local color" to the book, I used my vacation to go out and search.I'm looking for a hero among the poor, idle, idle people, and I'm sure you can find them there.

Not bad at all, I found such a place one day.It was a desolate and dilapidated manor, and the most exciting thing was that I also found the smell of idleness that I had imagined.A bearded old man in brown overalls was sitting on a chair weeding a potato field, and behind him was an unpainted wooden shed.

I turned and went home, wishing I could be at the typewriter right away.And when I went around the wooden shed and turned a corner on the muddy road, and looked at the old man from another angle, I subconsciously stopped suddenly.It turned out that looking from this side, I found a pair of disabled crutches leaning on the old man's chair, and a pair of trouser legs hanging down to the ground. Became an indomitable hero.

Since then, I have never dared to judge and draw conclusions easily on a person who has only met or chatted a few times.Thank God for letting me go back and take another look.

The premise of taking another look is to change the angle, otherwise, no matter how you look at it, you will not find new discoveries.

Think from another angle.

A scholar came to Beijing for the third time to take the exam and lived in a shop where he often lived.Two days before the exam, he had three dreams. The first dream was that he was planting cabbage on the wall. The second dream was that he was wearing a bamboo hat and an umbrella on a rainy day. The third dream was that he was with his beloved. The cousins ​​were naked and lying together, but back to back.

These three dreams seemed to have deep meanings, so Xiucai hurried to find a fortune teller to interpret the dreams the next day.When the fortune teller heard this, he slapped his thigh and said, "You should go home. Think about it, isn't it a waste of effort to grow vegetables on a high wall? Isn't it superfluous to wear a bamboo hat and an umbrella? You and your cousin are naked and lying on the same bed , but back to back, isn't there no play?"

When Xiucai heard this, she was disheartened, and went back to the store to pack her bags and prepare to go home.The shop owner was very surprised and asked: "Isn't the exam tomorrow? Why did you go back to your hometown today?"

After Xiucai said this, the owner of the shop was happy: "Oh, I can also interpret dreams. I think you must stay this time. Think about it, isn't it a good idea to grow vegetables on the wall? Wearing a bamboo hat Doesn't holding an umbrella mean that you are prepared for this time? Being naked with your cousin and lying on the bed, doesn't it mean that the time for you to turn over is coming?"

When the scholar heard it, it made more sense, so he took the exam with high spirits, and unexpectedly won a prize.

A positive person is like the sun, it shines wherever it shines; a negative person is like the moon, the first and fifteenth day of the new year are different.Ideas determine our lives, what kind of ideas we have, what kind of future we have.Thinking from another angle, there will be unexpected changes when doing things.

Cooked ducks can also fly.

Between advance and retreat, it all depends on people's grasp.It often seems to be advancing, but it is retreating.

When Mike was a child, he once went into the woods with his grandfather to hunt pheasants.Grandfather taught Mike to use a hunting machine, which was like a box, supported by wooden sticks, and the ropes tied to the wooden sticks led to Mike's hiding place in the bushes.As long as the pheasants are tempted by the scattered corn kernels to peck their way, they will enter the box.All Mike has to do is pull the rope and he's done.

After they set up the box and hid it, a flock of pheasants flew over, nine of them in total.Probably because I had been hungry for a long time, six pheasants walked into the box in a short while.Mike was about to pull the rope, and thought, those three will go in too, just wait.After waiting for a while, instead of going in, the three came out instead.Mike regretted it, and said to himself, even if another one walked in, he would pull the rope.Then, two more came out.If you pull the rope at this time, you can still catch one, but Mike is not reconciled to the lost good luck, thinking, some of them must go back.Finally, even the last one came out.

That time, Mike failed to catch even a pheasant, but he caught a truth that will benefit him all his life: people's desires cannot be satisfied, but opportunities are fleeting.Greed not only makes it difficult to get more, but even loses what could have been obtained.

People who have traded in stocks have the deepest understanding of this story: When the stocks in their hands start to make money, they think that they will rise again, and so on.When it fell in the past, I thought that I didn’t sell at the high point a few days ago, and I can only make so much money by selling now.This is the reason why a cooked duck can fly.

Sad to imagine.

One night, on a dark and lonely road, a young man's car broke down: the car tire burst.

The young man went down and rummaged through the toolbox, but he couldn't find the jack.what to do?There will be no vehicles passing by this road for half a day. He saw a lighted house from a distance and decided to borrow a jack from that house.

On the way, the young man kept thinking: "What if no one comes to answer the door? What if there is no jack? What if the guy has a jack and refuses to lend it to me?..."

Thinking along this line of thought, the more he thought about it, the angrier he got, when he walked to that house, knocked on the door, and the owner just came out, he said straight to him: "Damn, what's so rare about your jack. The owner, Monk Zhang Er, was puzzled, thinking that the person who came was a mental patient, and closed the door with a bang.

During such a journey, the young man entered into a common "self-failure" thinking mode. After constant negation, he actually lost confidence in borrowing the jack, thinking that he would definitely not be able to borrow it. At the door, he couldn't help but cursed.In our normal life, many people will make a series of unfavorable assumptions about themselves, and as a result, they really put themselves in a disadvantageous situation.

Before doing something, do you often say to yourself in your heart: maybe it won’t work, what if it happens, you may not have confidence in the result before you do it, and things will be envisioned towards you in all likelihood unfavorable direction of development.

The power of super reverse thinking.

An old man who had just retired returned to his hometown. He bought a house in a small town to live in. He wanted to spend his old age peacefully there and write some memoirs.

In the first few weeks, everything was fine, and the quiet environment was good for the spirit and writing of the old man, but one day, three and a half boys started to come here to play after school, and they kicked some broken trash cans Kick it away and have a great time.

The old man couldn't stand the noise, so he went out to negotiate with the young man. "You guys are having so much fun," he said, "I really like watching you kick the bucket. If you come to play every day, I'll give you one yuan each for the three of you." hard work.After three days, the old man said sadly: "Inflation has cut my income in half. From tomorrow, I can only give you fifty cents."

The young people were very unhappy, but they still agreed to the condition, and continued to perform after school every afternoon.A week later, the old man said to them with a sad face: "I haven't received a pension remittance recently, sorry, I can only give [-] cents a day.

"Twenty cents?" A young man turned blue, "We won't waste our precious time performing for you for a mere two cents, so quit."

From then on, the old man lived a quiet life again.The old man was the chairman of the trade union of a unit before retiring.

Salary and benefits are rigid and can only go up but not down. Coupled with the rebellious psychology of young people, the old trade union chairman skillfully achieved his goal.If instead of beating around the bush like this, but bluntly denouncing each other, the hairy kids would be even more mischievous and difficult to deal with.

Do some empathy.

A person's mistakes often come from only thinking about problems from one's own perspective.In order to avoid such mistakes, you have to learn to empathize and adjust the "channel" of behavior on this basis.

Empathy is to completely switch to the original position of the other person, so as to understand and tolerate people better.

Once, everyone wanted to kill a prostitute.Jesus said: "Yes, anyone who has never made a mistake can do it." Everyone present had a guilty conscience, and no one hit her in the end.

Why did everyone become afraid to do anything before this question from Jesus?Because no one is qualified to do it, as long as you think that you may have made mistakes, you can sympathize with this prostitute.

Even the most incompetent people are often able to speak out when they blame others; even the most intelligent people are often confused when dealing with their own shortcomings.

Don't make simple mistakes.

One day the zookeepers found that the kangaroos had run away from the cage, so they held a meeting to discuss and agreed that the height of the cage was too low.So they decided to increase the height of the cage from the original ten meters to twenty meters.As a result, they found that the kangaroos still ran out the next day, so they decided to increase the height to [-] meters.Unexpectedly, the next day they saw all the kangaroos running outside again, so the administrators, very nervous, decided to increase the height of the cage to [-] meters.

One day the giraffe was chatting with a few kangaroos, "Do you think these people will continue to raise your cage?" the giraffe asked. "It's hard to say," said Kangaroo, "if they keep forgetting to close the door!"

The mystery is that the administrator only thought of the height of the cage, but did not think of closing the door.

In class, the teacher first told the students such a story.A deaf-mute went to a hardware store to buy nails. He first held the nail with his left hand, put two fingers on the counter, and then hammered it with his right hand.The salesperson first handed over the hammer, the deaf-mute shook his head, and pointed to the two nail-like fingers. This time the salesperson finally got it right.

At this time, another blind customer came and wanted to buy a pair of scissors. "How can the blind man buy the scissors he wants in the simplest way?" the professor asked.As soon as the professor finished speaking, a student rushed to answer: "Just stretch out two fingers to imitate the appearance of scissors." Other students also nodded in agreement with his "simplest method".Unexpectedly, the professor shook his head. "Actually, a blind person only needs to speak." The professor raised his voice.

The students suddenly realized.The teacher said earnestly: "Remember, if a person enters a dead corner of thinking, his intelligence will be below common sense."

In daily life, it is common for people to "think left and right" when thinking about problems, and "talk around" when speaking, which is one of the forms of lateral thinking.If we just think along a certain line of thought, we often can't find the best feeling and can't solve the problem, and even let ourselves go into the dead corner of thinking, which leads to some common sense mistakes.At this time, you can let your thinking diverge to the left and right, or do reverse reasoning, and sometimes you can get unexpected gains, thus contributing to the improvement of thinking and the solution of problems.

Reverse thinking is one of the ways of thinking beyond the conventional.According to conventional thinking, sometimes we will not be creative, or follow the pace of others.When you fall into a dead corner of thinking and cannot extricate yourself, you might as well try the reverse thinking method, break the original thinking pattern, do the opposite, and open up a new realm.

Changing your thinking is the best way to solve the problem.

An enterprise provides an internal training for its employees. According to the usual practice, an in-depth communication with the general manager of the company should be conducted as a pre-training research.The company's office is in a luxurious office building with floor-to-ceiling glass, which is very grand.During the communication, through the window of the general manager's office, I accidentally saw a visitor bumping his head on the tall and bright glass door because he didn't pay attention.Less than a quarter of an hour later, I saw another guest bumping his head against the glass at the same place just now.The lady at the front desk couldn't help laughing, and the obvious meaning of that expression was: "These people are real. When walking, they can't see through such a big glass. Where did the eyes go?" In fact, we know that the solution to the problem The method is very simple, that is to paste a horizontal marking line on the door, or paste a company logo.However, the crux of the problem is: Why is there no one to solve the problem when there are many problems here?What is really hidden behind this phenomenon is an important problem-solving way of thinking, that is, the "road-building principle".

When a person makes the same mistake more than twice in the same place, or two or more different people make the same mistake in the same place, it must not be a problem with the person, but the "road" that makes them make mistakes something wrong.At this time, as the manager of the problem, the most important job is not to manage people and ask them not to make mistakes again, but to build "roads".

(End of this chapter)