We are all the same in the pursuit of our dreams

Chapter 20 The best time has just begun (2)
There is a kind of person who is excellent in all aspects, so excellent that you may mistakenly think that the Creator has deserted when he created you, but you are convinced of him, and you can’t feel jealous, only admire and appreciate.Miss Jing is such a person.

It’s okay for her to be good-looking, and she can write; it’s okay for her to write, and she can also translate; it’s okay for her to translate, but she also performs well in the workplace; , Reading, and traveling have not been left behind.

If I were to present a "Decathlon Champion Award" to a friend around me, she would be the first person I would think of.

God not only gave her a beautiful appearance, but also gave her wisdom and talent.She has always given me the impression that she is elegant and refined, transparent and intelligent, independent, confident and humble.

I often think, is there a time when such an outstanding person like Miss Jing is confused?Later I realized that I was not the only one who thought this way. Someone really asked her: "Ah Jing, sometimes I feel so confused, but you always know what you want and you have always worked hard. I really envy you. You will also have When you are confused? What will you do when you are confused?"

Miss Jing replied like this: "How come there is no time to be at a loss? But I still have to bite the bullet and go down, pretending to be confident and rushing forward. In the end, I found that I actually broke through. I was at a loss Sometimes, persistence itself is an effective way.”

Where is there a happy land in the rivers and lakes, and whose family has idlers?In life, no one will always go smoothly, there will always be times of confusion, and Miss Jing is no exception.

When Ms. Jing was young, her father was away from home, and her mother took care of her and her younger sister besides work.When the mother is too busy, she will become a punching bag and get beaten for no reason.Instead of crying, she went back to her room and closed the door.She either thumped the sofa cushions for a while, and then arranged the innocent cushions one by one; or she read science fiction, the universe is vast, tens of light years from here to there, and the anguish of life suddenly becomes insignificant.

In terms of learning, Miss Jing never let her parents worry about her since she was a child, and her grades have always been very good.But after being admitted to a prestigious school in high school, she became a bit "not doing business properly". In the eyes of some classmates, she was rebellious. A teacher once described her like this, "Your intelligence makes me admire, and your chicness makes me have a headache."As a result of playing too much, she missed the aircraft design major of China Southern Airlines and was transferred to Nanjing University of Finance and Economics to study international trade.After graduation, she successfully got an offer from the University of Glasgow, a well-established British university.The alumni of this university include the author of "The Wealth of Nations" Adam Smith, the inventor of the steam engine James Watt, the famous scientist Kelvin, etc., and Ms. Jing chose this school because of the mentor she wanted to follow. The school is old enough and beautiful enough.

When she was in graduate school, she studied media management.When she was not studying, she worked part-time to earn money for travel, roaming around England and Europe alone, and wrote what she saw and thought into the novel.So many of her readers said that reading what she wrote feels like being there, probably because she has never been pure YY, but is truly presenting the world she has traveled through.

At that time, in China, she had a boyfriend she dated in college, and their relationship had been approved by the parents of both parties. She originally thought that she would marry him after graduation and returning to China.

When she decided to study abroad, he said to her: "If you want to keep someone's heart, you must let her realize her dream." She always remembered this sentence and was grateful to him.

Until one day, a strange girl came to her and said that she was with her boyfriend. The girl also said: "He still loves you, I can quit and fulfill you."

Miss Jing replied calmly: "You don't need to quit or make things happen. If I turn back, you have no chance at all."

Miss Jing's boyfriend called to explain, but she said: "If what she said is true, then I have nothing to say, let's break up."

Afterwards, Miss Jing calmly called the mothers of both parties, explaining the reasons for the incident and her decision.

After that, when her boyfriend called again, she refused to answer.This may be the character of Scorpio. When you love someone, you will devote yourself wholeheartedly, but if you are disappointed, you will end it neatly.

After breaking up with her boyfriend, she never said a bad word about him.She said that there was happiness and joy in the days together. If you blindly deny the past and the person you chose, you are actually denying yourself.She doesn't want this.

Shortly after the breakup, the Wenchuan Earthquake occurred.Waking up overnight, the web page has turned into black and white.A Chinese girl held a donation box and knocked on the door of every shop along Sauchiehall Street in Glasgow.Standing behind the bar, Miss Jing looked at the girl's sincere expression through the clear glass window. She thought, in the face of the catastrophe that the mountains and rivers were torn apart, personal romance was insignificant at all.

She goes to class and works quietly. When she is the busiest, there are dozens of cups on the bar. She holds the drink nozzle with both hands and keeps pressing different keys. Lemonade, Coke, soda, and then poured into vodka, in the rum.In the meantime, you have to pay the bill, answer the phone at the reservation table, and change the cola syrup box and the gas can.

Once, an 80-year-old white-haired grandmother called her aside, slipped a £20 tip into her hand, and said, "Sweetheart, thank you for arranging such a great birthday party for me."

Another time, she complimented a woman on her perfume, who gave her a carry-on bottle of D&G Light Blue at checkout.

In a foreign country, having such a relationship with a stranger makes Miss Jing feel comfortable.

After the breakup, nothing seemed to change in her life.

She still went to the library for self-study alone, and said good night to the white-bearded old security guard in the middle of the night.Then, amidst the bustle of the bar on the street, she walked quietly back to her dormitory, smelling the fish and chips from the takeaway shop.

She was still alone in the snowy morning, wearing thin Converse shoes, walking to school with deep feet and shallow feet.Sometimes I couldn't help stamping my numb feet and staring up at the spire of the Gothic church.

She still traveled alone, went to Edinburgh, flew to Geneva, fell asleep on the train to Lausanne, and didn't know where she was; Her nose was red from the cold; at the Christmas market in Montreux, she drank a glass of mulled wine, was so dizzy that she forgot to get off the train, and quietly waited for the next train at a small station late at night.

She thought: Look, I can live a good life by myself.

Half a year later, on her birthday, she received a call from her ex-boyfriend, who wished her: "Happy birthday."

At that moment, she was on the Jungfraujoch in Switzerland, at an altitude of more than 3000 meters, looking at the white snow peak, listening to the familiar voice on the phone, she suddenly felt that all the past and the past disappeared.

Once loved, but never hated, but inevitably disappointed.Disappointed that people who thought they would be together for a lifetime will gradually drift away over the years.But at that moment, she realized that even the disappointment was gone.That person finally became nothing more than a youthful memory, like an old photo in the dust.

In order not to be affected by the most manly English accent in the world - the Scottish accent, after graduating from graduate school, Ms. Jing went to London alone with a big suitcase for an internship for half a year, and then returned to China.

Originally, she planned to go to Shanghai to find a job, but when her mother said, "If you work in Shanghai, I will visit you every week", she was entangled.Having lived alone abroad for two years, she is used to the freedom of being alone.

What's more, from the perspective of the majors studied, Beijing is the city with the most developed media industry in China.So, she decided to go north alone.

Soon, she received an offer from a well-known domestic financial media.But this media has just experienced a personnel turmoil that has caused a sensation in the entire media circle. Her best friend even persuaded her not to go there on the grounds that "there is only one brand left", but she felt that maybe this was the opportunity.Since she is more interested in online media, she finally chose the website platform business of this media.

It was here that Ms. Jing met Mr. C, who was called to the rescue as an executive of the group.

Everything started almost from scratch. Mr. C reorganized the team, led the team himself, and often worked until midnight.As a newcomer in the workplace, Ms. Jing will also work hard until late, basically she will not leave unless Mr. C leaves.

Mr. C is her direct supervisor, a divorced person with a daughter. He is mature, steady, honest and sincere, and vigorous in his work. His professional ability and devotion to work have attracted Ms. Jing.

This love affair has elements of "revolutionary friendship", so it is more profound.

They are different from ordinary couples. To her, he is not only a colleague who fights side by side, but also a companion who connects with each other, and a teacher she admires from the bottom of her heart.

Accompanied by the relationship between the two, the website has grown from loss to profit, its influence has increased sharply, and it has grown by 50% annually for four consecutive years. Such achievements are extremely difficult in the media's adverse environment.

Mr. C's marriage proposal is also very individual.One day, Miss Jing's work mailbox received an email titled "Love Letter, Proposal Letter and Prenuptial Agreement".

Let me talk about marriage first.

I was serious.Today I have made an appointment for the physical examination on the morning of the 22nd, and the results will be released in a week.

My feelings for you are complicated, or complex.The age difference, coupled with the working relationship, makes the relationship pattern different from that of ordinary couples.One of the many concerns I have when thinking about marrying you is my body.I often ask myself: If it is Xiao Y (his daughter), am I willing to let her marry someone who is very old and may be in poor health?Every time it is a firm negative.Same goes for you.So, I decided to do a physical examination first.

If I want to get married, I can't guarantee that I will be healthy in the future, but I must ensure that I will be healthy when I get married, otherwise it will be too unfair to you.

Intellectually, with our age difference and your situation, I can easily get along with you without being serious.Seriously, it's me who might end up getting hurt.I know how people change mentally, emotionally and physically as I go from your age to mine.Then why should I be serious?The real sign of my seriousness is deciding to live with you.Because I think you are different from most girls or women your age or older.You are unsophisticated, have high psychological maturity, and can endure.These three points are equally important to me.If you don't have one, you can't get along for a long time, especially if you and I are so different.

I was actually not sure if I made the right decision.Although I don't have a marriage certificate, for me, living together means getting married, because for more than ten years, I have never really lived with a woman for a long time.You can understand my decision to live with you before as a trial marriage, although I didn't say it explicitly.

Now, officially talking about marriage, I thought I should make it clearer what kind of person you're going to marry.

You know all the external things, so I won't go into details.Of course, although you can see it, I believe that I can’t really understand the pressure. For example, I support a child and an elderly person who is getting older by myself. How much weight, anxiety and fear have caused me.

Talk about the inside, only talk about the problem.The biggest and fatal shortcoming of me is that I only pay attention to my own feelings and ignore the feelings of others.This is the biggest problem and I'm not sure how much I can change.Beyond that, there is the issue of age.When a person is older, his concerns are very different from those of young people, and he is under greater pressure, especially at my current stage.This is inversely proportional to the person's physical state and mental state.Therefore, at my age, it is really difficult to have the energy to treat my lover with enthusiasm and meticulousness like a young man.

Well, here are the two big problems with the person you are going to marry.He will try to change, but really can't change much.This is not a pretext, it is the truth.

In general, we are about to embark on a difficult road that mixes the known and the unknown.

Known, is what I said earlier: I am from your age to my age, how people change psychologically, emotionally and physically during this process, I am very clear.

The unknown is that I will still continue to grow old, and for this process in the future, I know in theory what it will be like, but in fact I have not experienced it.I'm pretty sure the reality will be worse than the theory.

In short, you should actually take a far easier path than this, just like most of your peers.

You have to be clear that a person's life is very long, and we may face many troughs and difficulties, such as physical health and emotional depression.In the future, the main force to face and solve these problems is you.

I have many hopes for our future.I hope we can live a peaceful, ordinary life in the future.

You should seriously consider whether to marry or not.As for me, as I said at the beginning, I think it over.

After reading this email, Ms. Jing was very moved. Most people always propose sweet words and rose rings, but Mr. C's proposal letter is analyzing his shortcomings and various problems they will face after they get married.He is objective and honest. He really loves her, so he will tell her all these problems.

Miss Jing solemnly typed the three words "I do" and clicked send.

She chose to marry a man 19 years older than herself, which completely deviated from her mother's ideal state, and her mother could not accept it.She had a dispute with her mother. When the dispute was fierce, her mother said: "You have always been my pride. Now I don't say that I am ashamed of you, but it is hard to be proud of you."

Miss Jing was stabbed by this sentence, but she still insisted on her own opinion. She said: "Since I have never let you worry about it since I was a child, why do you question my choice this time?"

In fact, Miss Jing knew very well that her mother was thinking of her. She was only worried that after many years, she would work too hard alone, and she didn't want her relatives and friends to suspect that there was something wrong with her marrying an older man.

At the end of the dispute, the mother compromised, "What can I do? Since you like it, then it's up to you."

Miss Jing is grateful for her mother's concession, but she knows and believes in her heart that she will use her own happiness to comfort her elders' worries.

The life after marriage is as quiet and warm as she imagined, and the whole big family is happy and harmonious.Ms. Jing and Mr. C have never quarreled because of life problems. All their disputes are due to collisions at work.

Mr. C likes to be quiet. He even spends vacations in the mountains on the outskirts of Beijing. He loves to listen to Beijing operas. Ma Lianliang’s vocals are often heard at home. These girls “digest” them very well. Mr. C also often covets the American dramas she recommends. .

Life is already stable and happy, why does Miss Jing choose to leave Beijing, leave her husband, and go to Shanghai to work alone?
I was very puzzled by this, and Ms. Jing told me this: "In Gu Long's "Seven Weapons", my favorite is the farewell hook. There is a sentence on it that says 'you use the farewell hook just to get together' .I choose to say goodbye temporarily, also in order to be able to get together for a longer time in the future."

She said that if she was of the same age as Mr. C, she would choose to stay in Beijing with him.But the fact is that he is 19 years older than her, so she has to walk faster and stronger than others, and accept more challenges in order to make herself truly qualified as a housewife.

Regarding her choice, Mr. C considers three aspects: from the perspective of husband and wife, of course he does not want to be separated; " Angle, he was both relieved and emotional when she left his wings.

When she first took over the new job, Mr. C couldn't help but say, "It's not like I can't support you when you come back."

But she didn't want to leave all the pressure on him. She hoped that she and he could retire at the same time and live a peaceful and peaceful old age with him.

(End of this chapter)