We are all the same in the pursuit of our dreams

Chapter 21 The best time has just begun (3)
When Miss Jing said these words to me on a warm spring afternoon, I was moved by her.I originally thought that she accepted the position of corporate executive to prove her own worth and climb to the peak of her career. I didn't expect her to do it for her family and to spend more time with Mr. C in the future.

She said that in terms of work, she is one of the people who will definitely work hard to do well in whatever she undertakes, but compared with work and family, family always comes first.Many people are busy running around, just for the table of hot meals under the lamp.

She said that most people are trying to live a good life, and there is no comparison between who is better and who is worse.Happiness is not something that can be compared, it is more expensive than self-satisfaction.

She said that there is nothing important in life except life and death.Especially when a high school classmate passed away due to illness, and a friend from the media circle went to Xiamen to play and died in a car accident, I felt that the best life in life was "safe and happy".

Peace and joy, what a beautiful and moving word!Peace is luck, joy is blessing.

We are busy every day, just to make ourselves stronger and better able to care for the people around us.We have nothing else to ask for in life, only wish the people around us to be safe and happy.

In this busy world you have to live abundantly
How long have you not stopped to see the world?The leaves on the roadside became greener, the flowers withered and opened again, and there were a few white clouds floating in the blue sky, slowly.You are busy on the road every day, and work is almost everything.You're so worn out that you think it's the hard work of trying.But I forgot, isn't working so hard just to live a better life?Please slow down, take a look at the beautiful scenery, chat and laugh with friends... We want to live a fulfilling life in this busy world.

It was almost early morning when we walked out of the cinema, and the whole city was gradually falling asleep. Rows of street lamps and little lights from the windows of high-rise buildings warmed people at night.

I can't remember how long I haven't watched a movie. I just concentrate on work every day, and even watching a movie has become a luxury.

How long has it been since I put on my headphones and listen to music?Buying CDs and listening to music was a pleasure when you were young. Now that there are so many free music available for download, why don’t you have time to listen?Where is that girl who likes to listen to music and walks briskly while humming a song?

How long have I not stopped to see the changes in this world?Hurried on the road every day, work is almost the whole of life, and I missed the graceful scenery of spring, summer, autumn and winter.Where did the girl who likes to walk aimlessly around the moat of the small town, watching the flowers bloom and fall?
How long has it been since I sat and chatted with my best friend?A woman can live without a man, but she must not live without a girlfriend.A girlfriend is a warm wing, a strong backing, and an existence where all secrets can be revealed.Where did the girl who sat in the coffee shop with her best friend and chatted about life, love, and dreams with a cup of latte go?

Gradually growing up, but more and more deviated from the most innocent self at the beginning.There is often a feeling of being bound by work, as if stopping is a waste of time, and I can only force myself to keep spinning like a spinning top.Therefore, my mood fluctuates with work, and work can affect my emotions. I have lost the simplest happiness.

Once a few friends got together, I don’t know who mentioned the troubles encountered at work and worried about it. A friend said: “We don’t need to worry about work, work is for our happiness.”

Work is for our happiness?Hearing this is not without shock.

Many times, we think that work is to earn a lot of money, buy a big house, buy a car, and ignore the essence of work.

So, what is the meaning of work?

Different people have different interpretations of this question.Some people work so that their families can live a happy life, some people work to realize their self-worth, and some people work to chase their dreams.

Even if the interpretations are different, the purpose of the work is very clear - it is all for a better life and a happier life.

Yes, work is to live a happier life.But why do we work so hard, but become unhappy because of work?

Whether it is the job you use to make a living or the job you love, there will always be times when things don’t go well: hard work but not being recognized by your boss, tension with colleagues and you don’t know how to ease it, wronged by clients but nowhere to redress , When the employees are not strong enough, many things have to be done by themselves. The task is too heavy and I feel that I can't finish it even if I work overtime...

Troubles at work will come one after another, and sometimes you won’t be given a chance to breathe, and one wave of unrest will arise again, which is more bloody than TV dramas.

So, you are very depressed, and you are still depressed because of this after get off work, and your bad mood will even affect your family members.

The crux of the problem is that you have been tortured by work when you are working, and you are still tortured by work when you are not working.

One day, the people around you finally couldn't help but say: "The boss doesn't pay you after get off work, why are you still struggling with work? Can you separate work from life?"

This sentence wakes you up instantly.

Yes, work is only a part of life. Since when did you regard work as the whole of your life? !
In the company, you devote yourself to work, and you still communicate with the author when you get home. When you take the bus, you still read articles written by the company author. Even in your dreams, you design the cover, and your 24 hours are contracted by the work.

It turns out that it is not the work that binds you, but you that bind yourself.

It's because you don't have time for watching movies, listening to music, traveling, and chatting with your girlfriends. It's because you tie up your life with work and forget that the original intention of work is to live happily.

I, who often call myself a workaholic, finally understand this truth.

I have always regarded the work of making books as a dream and a belief, so I did my best for it.It is right to fight for the dream, but too much pressure compresses the living space, and it is unnecessary to reduce the quality of life.

Realizing this, I started balancing work and life.After returning home, I put aside my work, read books that I like that have nothing to do with work, tell stories with my children, take painting lessons with my children, and return to my childhood with my children; Watching the people around you feel the scenery, there is a kind of warm and comfortable; during the annual vacation, I set off to Xiamen alone, and talked with myself during the trip, let myself calm down, and understand what I want most.

I used to think that as long as I didn’t work or write, I was wasting my time, but now I feel that money can’t buy you a good mood, and making yourself happy is more important than anything else.What's the point of having a good job if you're not happy?
Looking at the photo of me standing on the beach in Xiamen with a bright smile on my face, I seem to have returned to my simple and happy self.

I couldn't help but raise the corners of my mouth.You have not changed, you are still the same self who can be happy for a long time because of a little beauty.

The best time has just begun

Every age group has its beauty. As long as you accept the baptism of the years, live in the present, feel every moment with your heart, and do what you like to do, you will ignore the passage of time and fully enjoy the joy of every moment.

When I first graduated from university and started working, I was the youngest in the company, and everyone called me "Xiao He". what".

In the past, when I met children, they would smile at me innocently and call me "sister". Now, they call me "auntie".

Maybe it’s because I’ve been writing books about youth literature, I’m very young at heart, and I always feel that I’m still young, but after the change of what others call me, I suddenly realized: I have graduated for ten years, and my youth is fading away.

I still remember that when I was 27 and 30 years old, I had faint worries and panics about the age of [-]. The most worrying thing was aging. I worried that when I looked in the mirror one day, I would have a few more wrinkles on my face. I was worried that my figure would lose shape after giving birth. no longer.

Even though I am not a beauty in the traditional sense, I never rely on my looks for a living, and I never even wear makeup, but when I approached 30, I started buying skin care products, trying to catch the tail of youth.

Later, I asked my female friends about their state of mind before they turned 30.Some people say that they are not reconciled, they are not reconciled to turning [-] soon, and they are not reconciled to the passing of youth like this; Married but not pregnant yet, worried about being urged by both families to have a baby...

I have also consulted with my male friends, is there any fear of turning 30?Most of them said that they didn't feel much, and some even said that for men at the age of 30, the good times have just begun.They are not afraid of aging, they feel that time will give them identity, status, wealth and strength, single people will attract more women's attention, and married people will make their families live better.

The reason why women have a natural fear of 30 years old is because women love beauty more than men and care more about their appearance.In fact, what women are afraid of is not age itself, but the youthful appearance that goes with age.

As women, standing on the tail of the 20-year-old and looking at the threshold of the 30-year-old, we all have more or less worries, and few people can be so calm.

However, when I really crossed the 30-year-old threshold one day, I was able to face it calmly.Even on my 30th birthday, I could still say with a smile, "Thirty, hello." It seemed that my life had entered a new stage.

My friend Fang told me quietly that when she was approaching the age of 30, she thought it would be too late if she didn't get married again, so she kept going on blind dates and almost married herself.Fortunately, it was discovered in time that she and the other party were not suitable, and they were married just for the sake of marriage, without deep feelings.

Now, she is 32 years old, and she is still a single literary young woman.She found that after the age of 30 and before the age of 30, her life has not changed significantly. She should still be a literary artist, should she work or should work, should write or write, should she be a foodie or a foodie.

We are always like this, full of worries about the uncertain unknown.

Just like before I had a baby, I also had a certain fear of having a baby.Every time there is a childbirth scene in a TV series, and I hear the heart-piercing voice of the person involved, I just think that childbirth must be painful.However, after I really experienced giving birth, I realized that the pain of giving birth is tolerable, and the clear cry of the baby when it was just born can overcome all pain and bring endless joy and joy. The supreme sense of accomplishment as a mother.

Now that I am 33 years old, maybe the nasolabial folds have deepened, maybe the complexion has become darker, maybe the eyebrows and eyes are a bit more mature, however, with age comes experience and wisdom, calmness and composure.

You lose here, you gain there, life is a cycle of gains and losses.

In fact, every age group has its beauty. As long as you cherish life and do what you like, every age group will emit its unique light.

Between the ages of 20 and 30, we look for love, people we like, things we like.In the past ten years, we have grown up stumbling, looking for similar people and chasing dreams in confusion.This journey is mostly lonely, but this time is also very precious.Youth is fleeting and must not be squandered.

Between the ages of 30 and 40, we use the accumulation of the previous ten years to do the things we like with the people we like.The person you like doesn't have to be a friend of the opposite sex, it can also be a close friend.

When you feel confused about age, you can find some role models for yourself, and you will find that every age group has its moving parts.

Zhao Wei told us that 30 years old is not so scary - she is 39 years old, and the years have made her lose the youthfulness of "Little Swallow", and what has accumulated is the mature charm of women.Her identity has also changed, not just as an actor, but she has also successfully transformed into a director, and her first film "To Our Dying Youth" has a good box office reputation.She also spent money to buy a certain winery in France and became the owner of the winery.She also bought shares in several film and television companies and became one of the shareholders of the film and television companies.Not only is her career flourishing, but her family is also running well. Her husband loves her very much, and her daughter, Xiao Siyue, is lively and lovely.

Liu Ruoying told us that turning 40 is not so scary-she has sung popular songs such as "Crazy for Love" and "Love You Very Much", and acted in excellent movies such as "Girl Xiaoyu" and "A World Without Thieves". Chen Sheng's master-student story.This fresh and elegant woman bravely pursues her career and love. Now she is 45 years old. She can sing and act well. She has gained a beautiful love and gave birth to a new life as a new mother.Washed away, she is still the milk tea exuding beauty from the inside out.

Carina Lau told us that turning 50 is not so scary - she is 50 years old and still active on the big screen, winning the Best Actress award softly.She is still beautiful and sexy, and she also taught us what it means to be elegant.The friendship between her and Faye Wong let us understand what it means to share weal and woe.The love between her and Tony Leung has become a legend after years of precipitation. At the age of 50, I can still do my favorite acting career, with my lover and best friend by my side, what a heart-warming and happy time.

Brigitte Lin told us that 60 years old is not so scary - she is 60 years old, although she has long retired from the film and television industry, she has become the goddess in the hearts of countless people with her previous film and television works.She married Xing Liyuan at the age of 40, and has since lived an ordinary life as a husband and a child. At the age of 57, she published her first collection of essays "In and Out of the Window"; on her 60th birthday, she published her second collection of essays "Clouds Go Clouds Come".She has deposited her wonderful life in words.Always low-key, she took a group of photos for the fashion magazine "ELLE" when she was 60 years old, showing her domineering, beautiful and elegant gestures.I can't help but sigh when I see it: the beauty is still there!Goddess forever!

Grandma Moses tells us that turning 70 isn't all that scary - Granny Moses was originally an ordinary peasant woman who embroidered country scenes for fun.At the age of 76, she had to give up embroidery due to arthritis and started painting.This was the turning point of her life.It was also at this time that she discovered that painting is her favorite thing to do, and she has devoted her time and energy to painting since then.She held an art exhibition at the age of 80, and then painted for 20 years until the end of her life, becoming a world-renowned genre painter.She said: "It is never too late to do what you want to do, even if you are 80 years old."

Yang Jiang told us that one hundred years old is not so scary——Mr. Yang Jiang is one hundred and four years old, and she is still reading, writing, and wandering in the world of words.Her writing career can be described by the phrase "writing equals her body".She has written popular works such as "Bathing" and "The Three of Us". The love between her and Mr. Qian Zhongshu has been praised by the world. She has come to the edge of life, but she still keeps writing, bringing her valuable experience and Wisdom is shared with the world.She wrote in "One Hundred Years of Thoughts": "We have longed for the waves of fate so much, only to find in the end that the most beautiful scenery in life is the calmness and calmness of the heart... We have longed for the recognition of the outside world so much, In the end, I realized that the world is my own and has nothing to do with others.”

Every age group has its beauty. As long as you accept the baptism of the years, live in the present, feel every moment with your heart, and do what you like to do, you will ignore the passage of time and fully enjoy the joy of every moment. .

Youth is of course precious, with flamboyant skin and a sexy figure, but the appearance is easy to age, and youth is perishable. Only by cultivating one's inner temperament can one resist the invasion of time.

In this way, as time goes by, what we grow is not only age and wrinkles, but also wisdom and calmness.

(End of this chapter)