The psychology of the aura that makes your heart strong

Chapter 17 Fighting in the workplace depends on aura

Work for a company, work for yourself

The most popular in the modern workplace are often those who work hard and work hard.It can be said that those who work steadily are the truly smart people in the workplace, because they know that they and the company are actually a community that prospers and loses.Only when the company is profitable can they get a high salary; on the contrary, if the company is not profitable, they cannot get a high salary, and they may not even get the most basic salary.What's more, they are likely to be the first to be laid off because of poor work performance.And once they are laid off, not to mention the high salary, even the treatment that can maintain food and clothing is a kind of help for them.

Therefore, smart people in the workplace work hard not only for the company, but also for themselves.And because they use the company's platform to achieve their career goals, the premise for them to work hard for themselves is that they must ensure that the company platform they borrow can run well, because once the company is not running well, they will not be able to exert themselves. ability to achieve their goals.This is a virtuous circle. A person who works hard for his career goals will definitely bring good benefits to the company. The better the company's benefits, the bigger the company's platform, and the bigger the stage for individuals to realize their value .

George has been working in a steel company for less than a month. He works very hard and learns some new knowledge every day to supplement his own deficiencies. Soon, he finds that the ore in the company's smelting workshop has not been fully smelted. was scrapped.He thought that if this problem is not resolved for a long time, the company will suffer great losses.So, George found the engineer in charge and explained to him the problem he found.But the engineer said: "Young man, first of all, this is not a problem that you should care about. Besides, my technology is top-notch in the industry, and such problems should not occur." The engineer even thought that George did this just to show off , Express yourself.

However, George did not give up his own ideas. He was constantly looking for a solution to the problem while reflecting the problem, although this problem has little to do with his major.He found the answer to the question during his studies, sorted out more reasonable materials, and handed them over to the chief engineer.The chief engineer looked at it and said: "Young man, the problem you reported is really a problem. You are right. Our company has first-class technology. I also feel very sorry for such a problem. I will immediately hold a meeting to discuss this problem. "The company quickly resolved the issue.

Later, when the general manager of the company found out about this, he not only rewarded George, but also promoted him to be an engineer in charge of technical supervision.For George, this can be regarded as a leap in position.Originally, he was still far away from the position of engineer, but the general manager said: "With your work attitude and hard work, I believe no one can do this job better than you."

In the above examples, George's behavior was to work hard for the company to reduce losses, and in fact he did the same.It turned out that everything he did was recognized and he got the weight to realize his own value.Precisely because he made the company gain benefits, so he also gained benefits.

It is not difficult to find that even if your working environment is very difficult, if you can devote yourself to your work, you will not only gain financial comfort in the end, but also have more room for development in your career.

The reason why many people can become rich is not because they can get high salaries when they first start working. On the contrary, many rich people often have lower wages than others when they first start working.The reason why they can become rich is because they have a clear concept of interests and values. They understand that although they are working for the company, they are also working for themselves.Because they have clear career goals, they will not give up their efforts under any circumstances.For them, ability, experience and opportunity are much more important than money.Because of this, when they achieve the final achievement, who can say that their original efforts are "worthless"?Although they may not get a high salary at that time, how can the intangible value that can make them a rich man be measured by money?
A business manager once said: "Only by doing your best at work can you have a smooth future. If you can find joy in your work, you can forget your hard work and get joy in your work, and you can find the road to success. The secret to success.” Once you understand the secret that putting your best effort into taking the toil out of work, you have mastered the principles of success.Even if your career is mediocre, you can achieve great personal success if you work hard at all times.If you want to be a successful employee who can be trusted by your boss, you must strive for precision and perfection.Only those who work conscientiously can be given more missions and be able to succeed more easily.

If you encounter difficulties at work, or feel that the salary paid by the company is too low, you have to keep saying to yourself: "I will fight for my today and tomorrow." Put your energy on learning new things. Knowledge, cultivating new abilities, and displaying talents are all things that are truly valuable.In your future life, all these are much more important than your accumulation of funds.You must know that no one can take away the intangible assets that work brings you from your hands. This is experience, confidence, determination and skills, and they will give you the ultimate return.

A says to B: "I'm leaving this company. I hate this company!"

B suggested: "I applaud your revenge with both hands. The broken company must give it some color. But it's not the best time for you to leave now."

A asked: "Why?"

B said: "If you leave now, the loss of the company is not great. You should take advantage of the opportunity of staying in the company, try your best to attract some customers for yourself, become a unique figure in the company, and then leave the company suddenly with these customers, the company will suffer serious losses.”

A felt that what B said was very reasonable, so he worked hard. After more than half a year of hard work, he had many loyal customers.

When they met again, B asked A: "Now is the time, you have to change jobs and act quickly!"

A smiled lightly: "The boss has talked with me for a long time, and he plans to promote me to assistant general manager. I have no plans to leave for the time being."

In fact, this is exactly the original intention of B.A person's work is always just for himself.Only when you pay more than you gain, and let the boss truly see that your ability is greater than your position, will you have more opportunities to create more profits for him.

If you think you're underpaid, most of the time it's because you're not doing enough, not enough.Because any boss who wants to make his company bigger will not suppress or deduct the treatment of employees-those who do big things will never lose big money for small money.Therefore, if the boss does not give you a salary increase, it is probably because you are not doing well enough.

Looking at those with high salaries and those with low salaries, the most direct difference is that no matter what they do, high-salary people will not take a rash attitude. They will definitely try their best to achieve the best state, even if there is a little They will never relax themselves easily even if there are errors. On the other hand, those low-paid workers are not even willing to invest even 5 minutes more in their work every day, and make a little more effort.Some of them even stubbornly think that their boss treats them too harshly, and it is not worth working hard for him at all.Perhaps, their thinking will harm the interests of the boss, but in fact, it is themselves who are actually harmed in the end.Because, maybe your boss does not know the specific performance of each employee, or is familiar with the details of each job, but one thing is certain, that is, promotion and salary increase will not fall on those who are cynical and disrespectful. Hard working people.

In addition, for a professional, your personal success is undoubtedly based on the success of the team, because no one can accomplish what a small team can accomplish.The success of an enterprise also means the success of its employees, and the relationship between an enterprise and its employees is a relationship of "one prospers, one prospers, one loses".Just imagine, if there is no rapid growth and high profits of the enterprise, where will the employees' generous salaries come from?

Therefore, as a member of the company, only by integrating yourself into the entire company, keeping in line with the company's goals at all times, and helping the company create performance, will you eventually become the backbone of the company and become an enviable successful person yourself .

You must be clear that work is not only for the enterprise, but also for yourself.Those who just want to work simply for a salary are easy to work passively, looking forward to leaving work just after going to get off work, and unwilling to give all their strength when working, and eventually bury all their talents and wear away their own strength. creativity.Therefore, many young employees, especially those who have just graduated from college to work, often change jobs because they can't stand the low wages they think.This superficial employment attitude and practice will only waste opportunities and time to exercise personal working ability.Therefore, your work attitude must be correct, and you should stop worrying about how much salary you should get, and stop complaining about how little money you get, because as long as you pay, you will definitely get something.The more you give, the more you will get, but the time, place and timing of your harvest cannot be determined.

The modern workplace puts forward stricter requirements for employees. It seems that it is no longer enough to complete the work meticulously and faithfully. What you need to do is to work harder, at least to do a little more than your boss expects.Only in this way can you better complete your work and create more favorable conditions for your promotion and salary increase.

make yourself indispensable

In the workplace, make full use of your own advantages and resources, seize opportunities, and make yourself the core figure of the company. Only then can you continuously get opportunities for salary increases and promotions, and be invincible at work.

Li Wei has been working in a company in Beijing for nearly ten years, but his salary has never increased, and there seems to be no sign of increasing.Finally one day, he couldn't bear the depression in his heart, and complained to his boss face to face.But the boss said frankly: "Although you have been in the company for 10 years, your work experience and skills are less than one year, and now you are barely at the level of a novice."

In life, there are many people like Li Wei.They often feel that they have done a lot for the company, but they always pass by like a wisp of smoke, without any effect, and cannot attract the attention of the boss at all.Also, there are many people who have done a lot of things for the company without being known, and they have done a lot of good things, but when the company is downsizing, these people are ranked first. Why is this so?When we complain about being treated unfairly, we should see where the crux of the matter lies and how to solve such problems.

In fact, although many people have done a lot of things for the company, they are always the primary targets of being laid off. One of the important reasons is that although you have done a lot of things at work, in the eyes of the boss, your work Anyone can do it, because you can't shoulder the burden of work independently, such a person will naturally become dispensable.On the contrary, if you can make yourself indispensable in a certain position, even if your position is very low, you will become an indispensable talent for the company.

Rui En is a young chef in a five-star hotel in London. He looks simple and honest, dull and taciturn.His boss even wanted to fire him at one point, because Rui En really didn't have any special strengths, and he couldn't cook any delicacies that could make a big scene, so he just worked as a helper in the back kitchen.But Rui En can make a very special dessert: put the pulp of two apples into one apple, and the core is also skillfully removed by him, but it can't be seen from the outside that it is made of two apples. put together.And this dessert tastes very sweet.Rui En likes making this dessert very much. Whenever he has free time, he will study how to make and improve this dessert.Once, a noble lady who stayed in a hotel for a long time discovered this dessert by chance. After she tasted it, she appreciated it very much, and specially asked Rui En, who made this dessert.Later, the noble lady often invited her friends to this hotel for the purpose of tasting this dessert.Therefore, not only was Rui En not fired by the boss, but even his salary was greatly increased.

How to make yourself that indispensable person?If you want not to be replaced by others, you have to have a unique skill, and you must find out which aspect you are the best at.Just like Rui En in the above story, he doesn’t know how to cook delicacies that can attract big scenes, but he has not only won the recognition of customers by virtue of his special skill of making apple desserts, but also has significantly improved his own treatment.It can be seen that how to make yourself more important is the key to whether you can develop in the company.Because once you are a person who cannot work independently, you will become a dispensable person in the company, and such a person is the easiest to be eliminated.Therefore, if you want to be irreplaceable, you must be able to complete the work you are doing independently.

Song Peng graduated from a mechanical major, and his main research direction is mechanical design.Not long after he started working, the construction company received a lucrative job, but the time was tight and manpower was short.At this time, Song Peng, who had not been working for a long time, received a blueprint design task for one of the projects. However, he was an assistant, and the main person in charge was an engineer who had worked in the company for many years.However, things changed suddenly. After they worked for 2 days, the person in charge suffered from acute appendicitis and was hospitalized.In fact, at this time, Song Peng already knew the project well, and he was very confident in doing it well.So, he volunteered to assure his boss that he could complete the work independently.Although the boss had a good impression of this young man who had just graduated from school, because the company learned about Song Peng from the school when recruiting, and thought he was a talent that could be cultivated, so he asked the person in charge of this project to conduct an interview with Song Peng. However, he is a novice after all, and the boss still has doubts about whether he can complete this job independently.But a problem just happened, so the task could only be delegated to him.

After Song Peng got the assignment, he went all out to complete the work. For a week, he almost forgot to eat or sleep.Hard work paid off, he completed the work on schedule, and the drawings were recognized by the customer.Because of this incident, Song Peng's weight in the mind of the boss has increased—Song Peng not only has the ability, but also can independently undertake work in times of crisis, which is exactly the talent the company needs.After several more investigations, the boss did not hesitate to let Song Peng be the team leader of one of the working groups in the design department.Facts have proved that the boss's decision is correct.Song Peng's performance really lived up to expectations, his position was promoted again and again, and he became an irreplaceable excellent employee of the company.

Song Peng said: "I didn't want to be led by others to work at the beginning. It is more beneficial for me to be able to undertake tasks independently, and I can better use my talents."

In fact, everyone is the same. When you can take on the responsibility of work, it means that you are an irreplaceable person.Independence plays a very important role in getting the best out of yourself.Because you have the ability, you must also have room to display it. If you are influenced and restrained by others, or if you rely on others, you will easily lose your own characteristics.If you are influenced by others and do things according to other people's ideas, you will not be able to exert your own abilities.

The workplace is full of crises. If you are a little behind, you will leave many opportunities to others. For many people, it may be easy to get a position, but the way to gain more recognition for yourself is to be able to undertake tasks independently. This applies to many occasion, and is the most effective way for employees to be recognized.

Yao Qian is the technical backbone of an Internet company. He is very proficient in software development and has 3 years of experience in the same industry. When electronic magazines and Internet TV became popular, the company decided to expand its business scope and start an Internet radio station.Yao Qian has been paying attention to Internet TV for a long time. He is more concerned about football games. He has watched some football games that are not rebroadcasted or not rebroadcasted by domestic TV stations through some online videos. He is very familiar with the technical problems of video transmission.Yao Qian's concern is not only the development trend of the Internet industry, but also coincides with the company's plan. Therefore, at the beginning of the company's preparation for the establishment of a new department, Yao Qian was absorbed into the new department as the technical director.The new expansion is very important to the company, so Yao Qian's status in the company has risen sharply, and he has become an indispensable and important person around the boss.

At work, only by making yourself indispensable can you truly control your own destiny in the workplace, and winning a high salary is naturally a matter of course.

Li Kaifu, who is admired and learned by many people, believes that success lies in making others unable to leave you.In Li Kaifu's view, being able to always play a braking role in a group shaped like a precision instrument is the greatest manifestation of success.In fact, this is exactly the reason why Kai-fu Lee jumped from Microsoft to Google under the pressure of various public opinions.For him, for a large and mature enterprise like Microsoft, although his own ability in a large platform is constantly improving, his personal energy is getting weaker and weaker compared with the ever-expanding Microsoft company.When your importance in the company becomes weaker and weaker, you are in danger of being replaced by others at any time. It is based on this consideration that Kai-fu Lee decisively chooses to change jobs.

Li Kaifu believes that many people measure their career success by how big a team they can manage. However, if you lead a mature team with 1000 people, your energy is dispensable. In fact, it is far worse than in a team with only 50 people An integral part of the team.Therefore, when everyone chooses a job, don't ask about the reputation and scale of the new unit, and what positions they can hold in the new unit, but consider how the new unit will be different because of the "I".And this is one of the ways you get a high salary.

There are many outstanding people in society, and it is impossible to truly be irreplaceable.However, this concept has a percentage, because the company must pay the cost to replace an employee. When you can take on the heavy responsibility of the work and complete it well, the irreplaceable percentage will increase. Considering the cost, the company It will not be easy to replace people.

Earn the trust of your boss

Anyone who wants to make a difference and achieve outstanding results in his own work scope must be highly valued by his superiors. One of the most basic prerequisites for being highly regarded by the superiors is to gain the trust of the superiors.

1. The elements of trust

We often see the following situation.

Someone asked: "This sentence is really good, who said it?"

The person who asked the question originally thought that sentence was very reasonable, but was changed by the following sentence: "Xiao Wang said it."

At this time, the diamond also becomes a stone.But if Director Li said it, someone would definitely exclaim: "Our Director is really amazing!"

It can be seen from the above that the same sentence, but because of the different identities of the speakers, the weight in the minds of the listeners is quite different.

Another reason for this difference is the issue of trust.As the director, he has been with his subordinates for a long time, has a certain prestige, and has a certain work performance. What he says is easy to be convinced, but Xiao Wang is just a young man who has just joined the work. Everyone does not know him well, and the weight of what he says is also You can imagine.

Even a knowledgeable or shrewd and capable person, without everyone's trust in him, it is very difficult to succeed, and it is difficult to be reused by the boss.Trust can be divided into two types: one is trust in their conduct in the world; the other is trust in their ability to work.The former refers to trust in personality, and some bosses value this most; the latter refers to trust in professional ability.

Of these two kinds of trust, the most ideal is to have both, that is, to trust both your character and your ability.But in real life, the two are hardly consistent.Some subordinates have good character but poor working ability; some subordinates have strong working ability but poor character; and some subordinates have poor character and ability.What kind of person do bosses tend to trust?Generally speaking, a more orthodox boss who is not very capable in his own right will first value character for his subordinates. As for work ability, as long as he does not often make major mistakes and can handle ordinary work, he will be satisfied.For a boss with strong pioneering ability and strong ability to control subordinates, he often values ​​ability. As long as you can do things, have strong creativity and pioneering, and can open up the work situation, he likes it.

2. Speak up
There is a salesman in his 20s who has a deep understanding of how to get along with his boss: "When getting along with your boss, some things need to be discussed."

It turned out that his boss was only two years older than him, and the relationship between the two was very casual. They even often played cards together, and they had a good friendship with each other. He thought that the boss trusted him.

However, once when the year-end bonus was distributed, he found that it was not as much as he had imagined, and even less than some colleagues who performed worse than him, so he was puzzled and thought: "They are all good buddies, why not give out the rewards?" Treat me like this?” For this reason, one day after get off work, he went to his boss’s house and told his boss that his work was not commensurate with the bonus he paid.Surprisingly, his boss didn't know much about his work, and he didn't even remember some things he had told him.

"Since that conversation, my boss has changed his view of me, and the bonus this time is not bad. To be honest, sometimes, it's better to talk about things." He said with deep feeling.

Usually, if you don’t talk about what you should say, and you don’t fight for what you should fight for, your ability to work will be underestimated, and you will eventually find that you are not as trustworthy as you imagined. This kind of situation is not uncommon.

Therefore, don't think that you must be trusted just because you are very close to your boss.This is a very naive idea, and the above situation is a lesson.

However, if your boss says to you, "It's all up to you", "I entrust it to you, do it well", "I have confidence in you", what do you think?
It is very important to know what kind of person the boss is who says this.

If the boss can't trust his subordinates, he usually won't bluntly say what he said earlier.And if he is a scheming boss, then not only will he not express his true opinion of you, nor will he show it in his attitude, but he will pretend to trust you, then he will say what he said earlier.

If you believe these words to the core, and one day you see that they are false, you will be hit hard.

In order to verify the truth of what your boss said, you might as well ask your boss questions to see if he accepts your opinion.Maybe the boss's smiling face suddenly turns dark, or he stops saying "It's all up to you" and says something like "I can't trust what you say."In this regard, there is no need to blame the boss with "so this person is like this", but you should work harder to enrich yourself so as to gradually increase the boss's trust in you.

There are also many bosses who often say such things to encourage their subordinates.If the boss says to his subordinates: "Will you know how to do it? I don't worry." It may make the weak subordinates not only lose their enthusiasm for work, but also wipe away their little self-confidence. I hope to produce this kind of result, so I say "I trust you" and "do a good job" to motivate subordinates.While there's no need to feel inferior, there's no need to be complacent when your boss says something like "I trust you."I would rather think that I am not trusted by my boss, and work harder to gain real trust.

3. Can speak and do at work
In real life, we can often see this kind of situation. Many people work hard and work hard, but they are not good at expressing themselves in words.

In this way, although they worked very dutifully, to be honest, they also made great achievements.But for a boss who manages many subordinates, their actual achievements are easily forgotten. What's worse, the boss may think "I don't know what they are thinking, they are really incomprehensible people."As a result, not only will you be at a disadvantage, but your boss will also feel embarrassed.

The pace of life in modern society is accelerating. Everyone's work and life are tense and busy. No one has much spare time to inquire and understand what others have done, are doing and are going to do.Therefore, if you want others to understand you, you must seize the right moment and express your thoughts and wishes actively.

Of course, if a person often talks about doing this and that, but once he is specifically asked to do something, he hesitates. The typical "talking but not doing" will not be trusted by the boss.

If you want to gain trust, you must keep your promises. Most people who like to evade will lose the trust of their bosses.In order to gain the trust of your boss, you must abide by the following principles: think about problems from the standpoint of the other party, truly keep your promises, match words with deeds, communicate with each other frequently, and think about each other.

4. Don't go unknown
We can often see this situation. When the boss calls a subordinate, he has disappeared.Generally speaking, when the boss summons his subordinates, there must be something, and it is probably an important thing.

For example, a certain agency is holding a meeting attended by superior leaders, and a bureau chief attending the meeting calls his subordinate Xiao Li from outside the meeting room, but Xiao Li is not there.Xiao Niu, who was in the same office as Xiao Li, asked the bureau chief if someone else could come. A certain bureau chief said, "No, there are some information that must be explained by him. Where did he go?"

Under such circumstances, the bureau chief must be restless. One thing he needs to explain may not be able to explain clearly, and the other is that in front of so many participants, especially the superiors, let people know that even his subordinates' whereabouts are unknown. If you can't grasp it, you can't face it.The bureau chief may never have any affection for Xiao Li again.

Of course, this does not require every subordinate to sit in his own seat all the time, but you must at least do the following: First, when you leave the office, tell your roommates where you are going.Second, if you know in advance that the agency is going to hold a meeting of the central cadres, and you also know the topic of the meeting, you should anticipate whether it will involve your scope of work.If yes, then you'd better not walk away that day.

How to get along with colleagues

1. Colleagues are easily separated from each other

For whatever reason, people tend to be wary of their colleagues. The commandment of "only talk about one-third of what you meet, and don't throw your whole heart away" can be vividly expressed in the relationship with colleagues.Everyone puts on a mask to treat their colleagues, and everyone doesn't have to treat their colleagues with sincerity, so that colleagues often talk in stereotypes and lies, but there are few straightforward and truthful words.

People tend to put on a false face in front of their colleagues, cover up their various weaknesses, and cover up what is true about them.

2. Pay attention to protect yourself
One of the differences between blue-collar workers and white-collar workers is that blue-collar workers have little upward mobility and few opportunities for promotion.Therefore, blue-collar workers are playing formal tactics, collective bargaining.White-collar workers, on the other hand, have a lot of opportunities to work hard individually, and getting promoted is the result of fighting alone.Therefore, not only do white-collar workers lack the camaraderie of blue-collar workers, but they often suspect each other and cheat each other.This kind of environment is like a guerrilla army that goes deep into the enemy's rear and fights alone.

Many white-collar workers striving for the top pay attention to defeating their opponents, but are not good at protecting themselves. This is not desirable.On the one hand, it is necessary to compete friendlyly, and on the other hand, it is necessary to protect yourself in the competition with others. When you are alone and weak, you must clamp your tail tightly. Don't show that you want to climb up, otherwise you will become a target of public criticism.As the saying goes: "If you don't recruit others, you are mediocre." But in a small circle, recruiting others is a fool.When actively doing things, it is best to adopt a detached attitude of "only asking about hard work, not about harvest".

3. Don't take the blame for others
In a company or an administrative unit, whether it is good or bad to do things is often determined subjectively by the superior.If the superiors are strong-willed, the subordinates will have to work hard; if the superiors are self-righteous, the subordinates will obey their promises, but some superiors just hand in their homework to their superiors, muddling along.

In such an environment, the most important thing is to avoid accidents and keep everything as usual, so as not to arouse the wrath of the boss.But if there is a mistake, the boss will arrest someone as a scapegoat in order to explain to his boss. In this situation, the common saying is called "blame the blame".

The way not to take the blame is actually very simple.The easiest way is not to take risks, not to be sloppy, to have a basis for everything, to write in black and white, and to have a good reason to explain even if you are wrong.

In addition, the right and wrong of a matter, the magnitude of the mistake, whether it should be pursued, and how to punish it are all decided by the superiors.It is at the whim of the superior to make a big deal into a small one or make a big deal out of a molehill.Therefore, in this case, if you have a good relationship with your boss, especially if you have a good relationship with your boss, you will be less likely to be convicted.

4. It is best to avoid money exchanges between colleagues
As the saying goes: "If you want to destroy a friendship, just lend the other person money." Problems are bound to happen when money is borrowed and borrowed. "Mr. Wang, can you lend me 1000 yuan? I just don't have any money right now." If you ask someone to borrow money like this three times in a row, even if you are really tight, no one else will dare to lend it to you.The same is true when everyone shares the expenses together. As long as you say "I didn't bring any money today" three times in a row, people will never believe you again.

Most people have a bad habit. It is easy to forget to pay back the money they borrow from others, but they often remember the money they lend to others firmly.Therefore, I would like to emphasize here that when it comes to money, you must pay attention to five points: people who work in the society must bring more money with them; try to avoid lending money to others; Don't forget the money you have; if you don't have enough money around you, don't participate in the sharing of money; develop the habit of planning and using money.

5. Don't criticize your boss in front of your colleagues

After being scolded unreasonably by their boss during the day, some people like to invite a colleague to have a drink at night, and then complain to the colleague.I think that since my colleagues have been drinking with me, they should stand on my side, and use the alcohol to criticize my boss.This kind of thing must be avoided.

No matter how trustworthy a colleague is, when work and friendship are out of balance, friends can become enemies.Criticizing your boss in front of your colleagues is undoubtedly throwing the blame on others, and one day you will suffer without knowing it.

Even if this colleague treats himself with sincerity and will not do anything to betray him, he must be careful that "the walls have ears".

Therefore, when you want to vomit bitterness to your colleagues, you might as well test the tone of the other party first to see if they agree with you.Such dedication is an indispensable condition for gaining a foothold in society.

6. How to deal with the boss’s blame on colleagues
When a colleague is publicly scolded in front of all employees, the hurt he suffers is definitely deeper than being scolded one-on-one.The colleague who was scolded must also be burning with anger, hating why the boss embarrasses himself in front of everyone, and his heart is also the most vulnerable at this time.

At this time, if we rashly give words of sympathy or comfort, what will happen?Not only being scolded in front of everyone, but also being comforted in front of everyone, the feeling of humiliation must be more profound.

In this case, nothing is appropriate to say.Maybe we think it is a good intention, but in the eyes of the other party, it is adding fuel to the fire.

Therefore, the best thing to do is to keep silent.Then, after the work is over, ask the colleague out for a meal or something to change his mood. Not only will this not cause the regret of "relieving anger", but it can also win the trust of the colleague.

7. Find a background
In today's unpredictable society, it is necessary to have someone outside the company or within the company who can support you when necessary.

What kind of person is most suitable to be the backstage boss?
Outside the company, if you have a background boss with extensive social influence, then you don't have to be afraid of being provoked by others.I hope you don't rush to say that you don't have such friends, as long as you are willing to look for it, anyone can find one or two.Let me tell you something.

A certain company has an employee A who is at odds with his boss, and the boss wants to drive him to a remote branch.However, the boss's boss dissuaded him from "not thinking about A easily."The boss asked: "Why?" The boss's boss replied: "A has the backing of B, so we must be cautious."

A was a member of the school football team when he was a student, while B was the captain of the team at the time.Now B is a well-known TV host and often appears in TV shows. When A was watching TV, he once said to his friend: "B took good care of me when I was a student, and he is still a good friend now. If I ask him for help, he will not refuse." This word reached the ears of A's boss. .

In an emergency, it is of course a great thing to have a backstage boss who really stands up to help.And people with a relationship like B and A, if you want to look for it, there will always be one or two.Then brag whenever you get a chance, "I have XX as the backstage!" As a distraction, the effect is even better than you expected.

It is not difficult to make senior female staff like you, as long as you meet them, greet them warmly and proactively.For this alone, they will think that you are "really humble and polite, a rare good young man".

Not to mention: you have to impress the senior female staff.You can't be nice to young and beautiful female employees, otherwise, not to mention all kinds of criticism, if you become the idol of young female employees, you will also attract the jealousy of your boss and treat you as an object of exclusion.

Everyone has their own aura, but how to better guide one's aura is a deep knowledge.Why do leaders have their unique charm?This kind of charm is called charismatic (with leadership temperament and charm) in English.According to Chinese habits, we would say: Once the leaders stand there, their every move exudes full aura.Because a leader must have the temperament of a leader.But in our opinion, this is a unique aura.Because as leaders, they must be able to hold the scene.Before speaking and doing things, you must calm down the scene first in terms of momentum.And this kind of momentum is the temperament that leaders should possess, and it is also their aura.

Aura = personality charm + temperament + influence.Being near someone with a strong aura can make you forget about your original personality and become completely infected.

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