The psychology of the aura that makes your heart strong
Chapter 3 Activate the subconscious mind, awaken the inner potential, and detonate the energy of the
Chapter 3 Activate the subconscious mind, awaken the inner potential, and detonate the energy of the aura
The button to awaken the subconscious mind and open the aura
A person's psychological activities include two parts: conscious and subconscious.Consciousness is a clear understanding. For example, learning activities with goals and plans, self-assessment, and self-regulated learning all reflect the characteristics of consciousness.The subconscious mind is an unconscious awareness, for example, of remembering certain vivid episodes naturally.Another example is that if you are proficient in certain skills, you can still operate according to the program even if you don’t pay special attention. Mental activities such as dreaming are all subconscious activities.
Usually, we pay more attention to the role of consciousness, but we don't know anything about the vast ocean of subconscious mind, or don't pay much attention to it. In fact, subconscious mind is like the underwater part of an iceberg, with a larger volume and greater effect.It is said that the power of the subconscious mind is 3 times greater than that of the conscious mind, so to stimulate the potential, one needs to use the subconscious mind, so as to open the source of the aura and detonate the energy of the aura.
What we call self-suggestion is to use our ideas or any desires we want to achieve, to read our goals or desires aloud, and at the same time feel and feel them personally. Experience the scene and inner feelings when it has been achieved, and instill the goal or desire into the subconscious mind.
When the subconscious mind receives the information you suggest, it will start to absorb the relevant energy from the outside world, find out the answers you need, build your confidence, and provide the opportunities and resources you need to help you achieve goal or desire.
Auto-suggestion itself does not help you achieve your goals, it acts as a stimulus.Autosuggestion stimulates the subconscious mind, which helps you achieve your goals or desires.Autosuggestion is just a tool.However, the role and power of this tool are far from being realized, let alone developed.
One thing to note is that the subconscious mind cannot distinguish right from wrong, good from evil, no matter what information or ideas are given to it by the conscious mind, it will just accept it as it is, and any instruction will be fulfilled one by one.Therefore, what the subconscious looks like depends on autosuggestion.
The infinite power exerted by the subconscious through self-suggestion is amazing and incredible. Many so-called miracles or inspirations in this world are produced through self-suggestion.In some religions, there are many miracles that occur through sincere prayers or wishes, which are in fact a process of self-suggestion.And in medicine, many terminally ill patients who cannot be cured are miraculously cured through the process of self-suggestion.In the field of medicine, a similar spiritual healing process has been used to treat patients suffering from specific diseases.
How to consciously use the ability of self-suggestion?First, the arousal of those harmful autosuggestions, which may have disastrous consequences, must be avoided; Neurotics, erring people, and those unconscious victims of self-suggestion bring about spiritual healing, and point the right path to those who are prone to error.
Jung divided a person's personality into "id", "ego" and "superego". The "id" is often dominated by the subconscious, and those who do whatever they want and have no scruples often have the "id" too strong, and the "ego" does not have enough control over reality.To establish a perfect personality, the "self" must coordinate its balance through psychological suggestion, so as to promote the development of the "self" in a favorable direction.
Constructing a "mental image" for one's own success is a positive self-suggestion.
(1) You have to choose a goal: it can be to make yourself slimmer and healthier, or it can be to make yourself more confident and eloquent.
(2) It only takes one or two minutes a day to construct a "mental image", that is, to turn a vague idea into a clear outline, clear details, flesh and blood, and colorful overview.
(3) Draw a sketch of your "mental image" on paper, and collect relevant pictures from magazines and the Internet.
(4) Concentrate on spending 10 minutes every day associating with the "mental image" you constructed, close your eyes, and don't care about the outside world, and only open your eyes when this picture continues to develop.
(5) Try this little experiment for 21 days in a row and see what happens.
By providing the automatic success mechanism with a clear, specific, vividly conceived, and perfectly communicated goal, your inner energy will be continuously activated, you will get more energy, and your personal development will be faster. The speed of the target will also be faster.As the goal becomes clearer, the automatic success mechanism becomes more effective at functioning itself.
Positive psychological hints make the aura stronger
A psychologist once did such an experiment.
He put a hungry dog in a labyrinth of wooden passages.The dog kept jumping upwards in search of food, trying to get out over the board.But every time the dog jumped up, it was punished with an electric shock.At first, driven by hunger, the dogs still jumped up, but less and less frequently.After several times of punishment, the dog completely gave up the hope of getting out, and never jumped up again.
Psychologists call this phenomenon "learned powerlessness."A person's loss of self-confidence has parallels to this experimental process.No one is born lacking in self-confidence.Taking learning as an example, students who are naturally not interested in learning and have no confidence in learning from the beginning do not exist.The "powerlessness" and "helplessness" in learning are caused by the accumulation of setbacks from repeated learning failures.The test results are not ideal for several times in a row, and the self-confidence is eroded again and again, until the enthusiasm for hard work can no longer be ignited in the heart, and the "sense of powerlessness in learning" is formed. The reason for the "sense of powerlessness in learning" is that after suffering setbacks, one does not pay attention to summing up experience and lessons, loses confidence, loses opportunities to get out of adversity again and again, and finally has to give up on oneself completely.
If you first think of the negative result of "I can't do well", your aura will be dimmed, then the enthusiasm and initiative of brain activities will be suppressed, and you will not even have the courage to try it out. Not on exploration and improvement.
A man can never achieve more than his self-confidence can achieve.
It is said that if Napoleon led an army in battle, the combat effectiveness of the same army would be doubled.It turns out that the combat effectiveness of the army is largely based on the soldiers' admiration and confidence in the commander.If Napoleon, when he led his army across the Alps, just sat back and said "this thing is too difficult," then there is no doubt that Napoleon's army would never have crossed that mountain.Napoleon's self-confidence and strength enhanced the combat effectiveness of every soldier he commanded.Therefore, no matter what you do, unwavering self-confidence is the necessary and most important factor to achieve success.
Once, a soldier rushed to deliver a letter to Napoleon.Because the horse was running too fast, it fell suddenly before reaching the destination, and the horse died.After receiving the letter, Napoleon immediately wrote a reply letter to the soldier, and ordered the soldier to ride his own horse and send the reply letter as soon as possible.
The soldier saw the strong horse with extremely gorgeous decorations, so he said to Napoleon: "A gorgeous and strong horse is not worthy of being enjoyed by an inferior soldier like me." Napoleon replied: "There is nothing in the world that French soldiers want." undeserving."
Yes, a humble attitude will make us all think that our status is too low, like this French soldier, that the happiness that others have is not our own, and that we are not worthy of it.This concept of inferiority and inferiority often becomes the main reason for not seeking to make progress and being willing to degenerate.
Russell said: "The root of a great career is to persist in continuous work, to engage in it with all your energy, and not to avoid hardships." When you are unwilling to be a slave of fate but fail to grasp the throat of fate, you must imply to yourself: "Learn Patience, learn to wait, wait for the next restart, wait for the next explosion, wait for the next change.” Patience is undoubtedly painful, it suppresses the joy of human instinct, especially when you are going to do something heartily and heartily. When you are struggling with one thing, especially when you are misunderstood by others, especially when you are under pressure from the outside world, at this time you feel that you are unable to move forward, and your rationality may keep reminding yourself that you cannot If you continue, it's like crawling naked on a road covered with thorns, and your body is covered with blood, but you can't catch the flower that makes you excited and gratified.
When a person has a consciousness of "I must succeed", the energy to achieve success is accumulated in the subconscious, and success can be made possible.Therefore, as long as the subconscious mind is mobilized and subconscious activities are triggered, the energy of consciousness can be transformed into material energy.
Change your subconscious mind, change your aura
The subconscious mind is controlled by the conscious mind.It is only through conscious thinking that the subconscious can form its own negative or positive reactions.It is through conscious rational thought that this automatic response pattern can be changed.
Changing our consciousness and rational thinking can change our psychological suggestion, change our aura, and achieve success.
Everyone's subconscious mind works like a machine, always trying to respond appropriately to your current beliefs and interpretations about the environment, always trying to provide you with the appropriate feelings to achieve the goals you consciously decided to pursue.You influence it in the form of ideas, beliefs, interpretations, opinions, and so on, and it responds only to these influences.
In psychological suggestion, the subconscious mind can serve as a failure mechanism as well as a success mechanism, with equal difficulty.As for whether it becomes a success mechanism or a failure mechanism, it depends on what kind of consciousness you provide for it to process and what kind of goals you set for it.The source of strength for success is to regularly exert a positive influence through rational and conscious thinking.
Qi Wabo, the founder of Bethlehem Steel Company in the United States, was born in the countryside and only received a very short school education. At the age of 15, because his family was very poor, he had to become a groom.However, Qi Wabo did not give up his ideal because of this, he was always looking for opportunities for his own development.
Three years later, Qi Wabo went to work at a construction site managed by the steel magnate Carnegie.When Qi Wabo first stepped into the construction site, he made a plan for his work.This plan shows his distinctive self-management ability.
When others complain about tiredness and low wages at work, and thus feel dissatisfied with work, or chat and gamble while the boss is away during working hours, Qi Wabo is very serious about self-learning architectural knowledge.At this time, many colleagues would ridicule him, but Qi Wabo didn't care, he just said: "I don't work for making money, I work for my ideal and future."
One night, colleagues were sitting and chatting together, only Qi Wabo was hiding in a corner reading a book.At this time, the manager of the company came to inspect the construction site and found that Qi Wabo, a worker, was actually reading a book. He was very curious, so he approached to see what book he was reading, and found Qi Wabo's notes next to him.The manager took the notebook, flipped through a few pages casually, and left without saying anything.
The next day, the manager called Qi Wabo to the office and asked, "Why did you learn those things?"
Qi Wabo replied: "According to my observation, there are not many migrant workers in the company. What is mainly lacking are technical personnel and managers with experience and professional knowledge, right?" The manager was shocked by what he said, but still Nod.
"I don't want to be a worthless person. I hope to be a talent that the company relies on, not a coolie that can be replaced at any time. Only by working hard can I continuously improve my level. Only by getting the salary can I get the company's attention at work and have the opportunity to develop myself."
This conversation made the manager remember him forever - a "coolie" with very strong self-management ability.Soon, he promoted this "coolie" with great pursuits to manager.At that time, Qi Wabo was only 25 years old!An age that doesn't seem to be able to take responsibility yet!
Later, through hard work, Qi Wabo finally established his own large-scale Bethlehem Steel Company, which created amazing benefits for the United States, truly realized his ideals, and achieved the glory of life.
What Qi Wabo has is a rare quality that many people who work hard and work in society lack.Everyone wants to be successful, but many people indulge in fantasy, or empty beliefs without concrete ideas.Qi Wabo hopes to become a "talent that the company relies on", which is a psychological hint given under conscious guidance and a driving force obtained after thinking.
As I said before, the subconscious mind can't focus on thinking about two diametrically opposed thoughts, so an effective way to make your subconscious mind work is to concentrate on thinking about one thing.For example, when you're thinking about your speech contest next week, focus on your affirmation of your eloquence and mental abilities.For example, every night when you go to bed (btw, the best time for self-affirmation is when you are very tired), subconsciously give yourself a healthy cue that on that night, this cue can Deep in your subconscious mind; when you wake up every day, give yourself a hint of abundance and success, this subconscious mind can not only occupy your mind, but also expand into a wider space.
When you are under the influence of negative emotions, you can think more about things about happiness and love.In our subconscious mind, these instilled psychological hints can bring our life to the happiness and love we want.At this time, every cell in the body has accepted those hints about health, which hints that it has integrated with you, and your aura is stable and active.
1. Engage in conscious, rational thought
Continuing with the guided missile metaphor of self-control, we use deliberate, conscious rational thought to select a target, and then use our imagination to deliver the target to the cues in a way that they can be accepted and implemented.
2. Use the natural power of reasoning
There are no complicated ways to aspire to self-improvement and to feel good.Most people can solve most of their problems by using psychological suggestion techniques and other related self-improvement methods, using innate reasoning power, and changing negative beliefs and behaviors without in-depth analysis of past life events.
Eliminate negative cues that ask for trouble
Have you ever noticed how easily you feel hurt or offended when you suffer from tension due to depression, fear, anger, or depression?
So, how can I let my heart no longer be hurt?
Innumerable psychic scars, one upon the other, make psychological suggestion a threatened and extremely fragile thing.When confronted with a situation that it thinks is likely to hurt it in the same way as an event that caused harm in the past, these combinations of scars can produce "survival mode behavior" (i.e., fleeing or fighting, withdrawing or actively fighting, etc.) ).
1. Consciously avoid negative cues
You may have experienced this: You can't socialize better and feel embarrassed at a dinner party because you can't express your thoughts accurately in conversation. This may be because you earn less than other guests and thus Feel inferior, so afraid of being asked about your career or investment status.This is not actually a natural danger, i.e., your body is not threatened, however, this environment can also trigger the same anxiety and depression that you would experience if you encountered a robber in a dark alley.
Once you do encounter a robber, it may be more appropriate for you to meekly take out your wallet, hand it to the robber, and then desperately flee in the opposite direction.And in a social situation, giving up all chances of having a good evening and fleeing to a secluded place, or simply coping and getting up and leaving, is never appropriate, and may even lead to something you just don't want - The host and other guests will look down on you completely because of your performance.If this social situation closely resembles some of those that leave scars on psychological cues, it is likely that such a situation would also lead to the above-mentioned survival response.
2. Overreaction is a negative cue
Xiao Zhong, 15 years old, was at the time of adolescence when he was rebellious and restless.Xiao Zhong's parents are both post office workers with a high school education.Xiao Zhong is lively and cheerful when he is with his classmates, but he is often quiet and emotional when he is with his parents.
Once, Xiao Zhong went out with his mother and met a colleague of his mother on the way.The colleague was about to send his child to a cram school, and the two talked about the child's learning problems.A colleague said: "The child in our family is really stupid. Every exam is at the end. I don't know if he can understand it in class. Alas, he pretends to understand if he doesn't understand." Xiao Zhong's mother also casually said: "Yes, The children in our family are also like this, and their grades have not improved."
After hearing this, Xiao Zhong immediately walked away in anger, even though his mother yelled behind him, he ignored him.
Excessive self-esteem can lead us to overreact.Today, we sometimes feel the pressure of self-doubt, insecurity, and anxiety.We can easily feel offended or hurt when we misinterpret what others have said, and a scar can form.
This simple experience in everyday life is a good example of the fact that our emotional hurt is not so much caused by other people, or what others say or don't say, but rather because of their roots. Our own attitudes and reactions.
3. Don't take everything by number
There are always some people who like to ridicule others when they talk: "Some people are really useless, they can't do any job well..." "Look, he is really ridiculous."If you habitually personalize every little thing, every overheard conversation, or even what you read or hear in the media, then you're revealing a very sensitive, saving-smart psyche.And the "immunity" of this kind of psychological suggestion is the lowest.
Just laugh about such things!People who fanatically pursue worthy and meaningful goals, people who have a lot of important things to do on their schedules, have no time to worry about these trivial things and offensive words and actions.Most of the unintentional, neutral words are just jokes, have no underlying meaning, and finding their subtext (when you're annoyed by them, of course) is a complete waste of time.
Use the following procedure to detect psychological cues of injury:
(1) Think carefully about all your own habitual or repetitive behaviors and life experiences.
(2) Have you been consistently disappointed in your relationships with those closest to you?
(3) Have you ever found that groups of colleagues annoy you?
(4) Are all of your clients "scrooges" or "tough guys"?
And so on, whether you are escaping or attacking, it involves the problem of psychological suggestion injury.
The "Positive Illusion" Boosts Confidence Energy
The world-renowned swimmer Florence Chadwick swam from Catalina Island to the Gulf of California and soaked in the sea for 16 hours. When there was only 1 nautical mile left, she saw the fog in front of her. , the subconscious sent out the signal "when can I swim to the other side", she suddenly felt sleepy and lost confidence.As a result, she was pulled into the dinghy to rest and lost a chance to set a record.Afterwards, Florence Chadwick knew that she was about to reach the other side of success, and it was not the fog that hindered her success, but the doubts in her heart.After the fog blocked her view, she lost confidence in setting a new record and was finally captured by the fog.After more than two months, Florence Chadwick revisited the Gulf of California again. At the end of the swim, she kept saying to herself: "We are getting closer and closer to the other shore!" This time I will definitely break the record" signal, and suddenly I was full of energy.Finally, Florence Chadwick finally achieved her goal.
as the saying goes:
When you need courage, you can overcome your cowardice;
When you need to be diligent, you can overcome your laziness;
When you need to be honest, you can overcome your selfish desires;
When you need to be humble, you can overcome your pride;
When you need tranquility, you can overcome your impetuousness.
Self-suggestion can influence a person's will.The biggest difference between people, between the weak and the strong, between success and failure lies in the difference in willpower.Constantly adding positive self-suggestion can enhance your aura, strengthen your willpower, and overcome your own weaknesses.Self-development, moving towards a successful goal, is actually a process of fighting against the negative elements in self-awareness.
A very young singer got an opportunity to act in an opera.She valued this opportunity very much, but she was always apprehensive.She has always dreamed of being able to perform in an opera, but unfortunately, she has tried three times before and failed.So, the singer became terrified.Although people who heard her sing on other occasions said: "The voice is great!" But every time she said to herself: "When it's my turn to audition, I always sing a mess. I can't get into the show, director They don't like me at all. They must be thinking that it's an embarrassment for such a broken voice."
Her subconscious mind took this negative auto-suggestion and acted on it as if it were an order.So, she lost this opportunity.Although she wailed and regretted infinitely afterwards, it was of no avail.
Thereafter, with the help of a friend, the young singer began to try to use positive self-suggestion to counteract the influence of negative self-suggestion.
She shuts herself in a quiet hut every day. She lies on a soft recliner in the hut, relaxing her whole body, and her body and mind are at peace at this moment.Because a physiologically low level of arousal can make the mind more receptive to autosuggestion.She said to herself slowly: "I have a beautiful singing voice, everyone admits it. My demeanor is elegant and confident, and I am calm."
After that, the singer got another opportunity to perform in an opera.She became less nervous and no longer worried that she could not sing well. She devoted herself to it calmly and confidently, showing her melodious singing voice in front of the director, and finally won the role in the opera.
We will meet many enemies in our life, but no enemy is more difficult to defeat than ourselves.What you can do or what you dream to do, you must work hard to practice, but in the process, there will always be times of weakness, times when you are tempted by desires, times when you want to give up your goals, and even pray in self-destruction When comforting.Overcoming yourself is not an easy task, and it is not an exaggeration to compare it to a career in life that you must constantly strive for.
On the road of pursuing success, we find that some people fail, while others succeed. What is the reason for this?The main reason for this is: the former is defeated by himself, but the latter can defeat himself.
People who are good at using the power of psychological suggestion will deliberately create a "positive illusion" for themselves in order to defeat the negative "I".
In order to encourage a disciple with low self-esteem to defeat a competitor who is not as strong as himself, a certain boxer first had a match with him and let himself "pretend" to be defeated. In this way, the disciple thought that his strength was already very strong, and his confidence Expansive, able to perform at the highest level in the face of any challenge.This is the wonderful power of "positive illusion"!
Control the "self", control your aura
According to Freud's theory, the "id" belongs to the subconscious mind and is dominated by consciousness, which is also restricted by social morality and cannot show its original appearance.Therefore, people's behavior is more on the level of "self".
For the relationship between "id" and "ego", Freud once made an analogy: "id" is a horse, and "ego" is a coachman.The horse is the driving force, and the coachman guides the horse. The "ego" has to control the "self", but the horse may not obey, and the two will be at a stalemate until one party succumbs.In this regard, Freud has a famous saying: "Where the 'id' used to be, the 'ego' should be." ", "superego" and "id"), trying to adjust the conflicting requirements among the three. The "superego" (superego) represents conscience, social norms and self-ideals. It is the high-level leader of personality. It acts according to the principle of perfection, guides the "self" and limits the "id", just like a strict and serious patriarch.
From the above explanations, it is not difficult to see that self-transcendence is a state of striving for goodness and showing maturity and excellence.However, the self-transcendence is based on the natural foundation of the "self". Without the basic condition of the "self", no matter how much you agree with the social morals and codes of conduct, it is difficult for the self-transcendence to be in harmony with the "self". " won the battle.
We must be good at using positive psychological hints to influence the subconscious mind, that is, the "self".To defeat others, you must first conquer yourself, and the first thing to conquer yourself is to realize the control of your "self".
People often complain that there are too many enemies in life, including the gullies encountered in learning, the mountains that are difficult to climb in career, and the hidden traps in life.In the era of competition, many opponents have been added, challenging and attacking you from time to time, just like guns to guns, sharp knives to sharp knives.If you become paralyzed or hesitate for a moment, all previous efforts will be wasted or your future will be ruined.But how did you know that the real enemy is not in front of you or behind you, but yourself.If you want to overcome all kinds of difficulties and hardships, you must first overcome yourself, that is, to realize your potential.Only by exerting your greatest potential can you achieve the transcendence of the "self".
There is a lady named Kath Dailey in the United States. She has a good voice and wants to be a singer. Unfortunately, her mouth is too big and her teeth are too big.When she sang on stage for the first time, she tried to cover her teeth with her upper lip, thinking that it was a very attractive expression, but she didn't know that it left a funny feeling to others.A male audience told her bluntly: "You don't have to hide your teeth. You should open your mouth as much as you want. The audience will definitely like you when they see your true and generous expression. Maybe the teeth you care about will be for you." You bring good luck!"
For a singer to expose his flaws in public, he must first convince himself with reason, and then have the courage to defeat himself.For the advice given by the male audience, Kath Daly was eager to try, but, "Who knows that he didn't mean to make himself look ugly?" In the end, Kath Daley kept convincing herself: Let go completely, don't let go. No more worrying about teething!She opened her mouth as much as she wanted and devoted herself wholeheartedly to it. Sure enough, she got warm applause from the audience.
Sometimes, the fierce conflict between "id" and "ego" is like a war, which makes you feel deeply exhausted physically and mentally.However, to surpass the self is to get rid of the entanglement of negative psychological hints and realize the control of the "self".
From a psychological point of view, to achieve self-transcendence, the most important thing is to control one's subconscious mind, not to do something that one can't do at all.The concept of "id", "ego" and "superego" put forward by Freud is an interactive process of mutual connection and mutual restriction.That is to say, the self-transcendence will always be restricted by the "self", the conflict between the two is constant, and the point of compromise usually falls on the more realistic "self".
When a person cannot achieve self-transcendence due to the restriction of "id", he often suffers from neurasthenia.When the idea of transcending oneself develops to the extreme and cannot be realized, people tend to fall into the abyss of nothingness in reverse, suddenly become indifferent to the things around them, and suffer from what is often called "depression".Therefore, when people set goals for themselves to surpass themselves, they should do what they can to discover those untapped potentials, instead of letting themselves "fish for the moon in the water".From a materialist point of view, no one can really achieve transcendence, because it is impossible for a person to achieve any attempt beyond his own capabilities.Beyond the self is more of a psychological suggestion to explore potential.
Unearth the subconscious mind and discover the maximum energy of the aura
If you admire successful people very much, then when you learn to praise successful people and imply that you will be like them one day, your subconscious mind has already begun to imitate their every move.Once you have the driving force to pursue success in your subconscious mind, your successful subconscious mind can not only help you think of ideas and solve problems, but also provide you with offensive strategies.
However, most of the subconscious energy is dormant, far from being developed.By stimulating the energy of the dormant subconscious mind, you can maximize the energy of your aura.
Autosuggestion can stimulate your subconscious mind, and the subconscious mind can react back to your self-consciousness.In addition to developing potential with the power of suggestion, you can also refer to the following methods.
1. Training and developing the unlimited "savings" and memory functions of the subconscious mind will lay a broader and stronger foundation for your ingenuity
If you want to build high-rise buildings, you must first reserve a variety of building materials, decoration materials, design drawings, construction skills, construction machinery, management and command skills, etc.Similarly, if you want to pursue success, you should keep learning new things and feeding your subconscious mind with new nutrients.If you want your brain to be smarter, more intelligent, and more creative, you must feed your subconscious mind more relevant information.
In order to make your subconscious "saving" function more efficient, you can take some auxiliary means, such as repeated input of important information, repetitive learning, increase memory function, build a visible information base, and classify and save books, newspaper clippings, Notes, modern computer software, etc., in order to assist the subconscious mind to serve your creative thinking and other ingenuity.
2. Train the ability to control the subconscious mind so that it serves your success instead of leading your future to failure
As mentioned above, because the subconscious "does not distinguish between right and wrong", it absorbs all positive and negative, good and bad, and often skips the conscious and directly controls people's behavior, or directly forms people's various states of mind. , so, in a sense, "success" is also subconscious, and "failure" is also subconscious.Therefore, you have to train yourself, and strive to develop and utilize the beneficial, positive, and successful subconsciousness, and strictly control the negative subconsciousness that may lead to failure; Constantly input new and healthy information, so that a positive and successful attitude will dominate and become the most dominant subconscious mind, making it an intuitive habit and "super-sensory" consciousness that dominates your behavior; Take control of your failure mentality and information, don't let it interfere with your normal life, don't let it enter your subconscious mind.
3. The subconscious mind helps you solve the problems encountered in the conscious mind and obtain creative inspiration
The subconscious mind contains information that is perceived or recognized consciously or unconsciously throughout a person's life, and can automatically arrange, combine, and classify them to generate some new beliefs.Therefore, you can give it instructions, turn all kinds of beautiful dreams and difficulties you encounter into clear instructions, transfer them from the conscious to the subconscious mind, and then relax your body and mind, waiting for it to give you the answer.
Brian Tracy, a famous American subconscious expert, proposed the following principles of "stimulation method" to activate the subconscious:
(1) Auditory stimulation method: When you are in panic, fear, or lack of self-confidence, just yell a few times, which can immediately restore your confidence and strength.The power of sound can influence your beliefs to a positive effect for you.
(2) Visual stimulation method: Hang a "dream board" in the room, draw your goals as pictures, cut them out and paste them on the "dream board", and watch them every day.This can always stimulate your subconscious mind to help you achieve your dreams.
(3) Intentional stimulation method: use the subconscious principle of "not distinguishing between true and false" to guide your desired successful scene in the brain, so as to achieve the purpose of replacing the negative thoughts in your subconscious.Through repeated self-suggestion and changing self-image, you can establish the belief that you will win, and make yourself take positive actions, so as to achieve your expected goals.
When you encounter negative information, you can take two ways to control it: one is to suppress it immediately, avoid it, and don't let it "pollute" your brain thoughts.Never mention the negative information you have inadvertently absorbed in the past, forget it, let it sink to the bottom of the subconscious mind.The second is to conduct critical analysis and "turn decay into magic".You have to use successful and positive psychological hints to conduct in-depth analysis and guidance on them, turning harm into benefit, just like turning poisonous grass into fertilizer, turning them into ideologies that are beneficial to success.
Change the target image and increase the energy of the aura
A person's beliefs and goals can be turned into a person's positive self-suggestion, thereby enhancing a person's aura energy.
When we set a goal for ourselves, we also imply that we become active and strive for the goal.Of course, everyone's persistence time is different.
When people ask us whether we want to be successful, we always say yes, but we immediately find a host of reasons why we don't.These "reasons" are not reasons based on current rational thinking at all, but are simply beliefs, beliefs that are susceptible to change.Only by establishing the correct belief can you embark on the road to success.
Our actions and emotions all stem from beliefs.One of the reasons why we are still writing biographies and singing inspirational hymns for successful people today, but we can't get close to the circle of success is that there is a wrong belief that dominates our emotions and behaviors.We have to ask ourselves in order to root out its cause: Is there a task you wish you could have done, a certain avenue of self-expression you wish you had, but you’ve been held back by feeling, “I can’t do it”?If you ask yourself a few more "why", then you can find the answer to the question.
"Why do I believe I can't?" Then ask yourself, "Is this belief based on a solid fact, or an assumption, or a false conclusion?"
For rational thinking to be effective in changing beliefs and behaviors, it must be accompanied by deep emotions and desires.
Picture for yourself the kind of person you want to be, picture the things you want to have, and assume that the moment when these visions will become possible is right in front of you.Arouse a deep desire for these goals, be passionate about them, analyze them carefully, look them back and forth in your mind.Your current negative beliefs are formed through thoughts plus emotions, and if you can generate enough emotions or inner feelings, you will generate new thoughts and ideas that will wipe out the negative beliefs of the past.
Change your goals from negative to positive through psychological suggestion.When you worry, you first picture an undesired consequence or goal vividly in your imagination.You can't help thinking about it (thinking about it), picture it to yourself as a possible scenario.You repeatedly think it could really happen.This constant repetition, this constant rumination of possibilities, can make the end result you fear seem more and more real.Over time, corresponding emotions (such as fear, anxiety, depression) will automatically arise, all of which correspond to the end result that you do not want to see and you are worried about.
Now, if you want to change the target image and your own psychological suggestion, it is also easy to produce "beautiful" emotions from now on.Constantly picture a desired end result for yourself and think about it.Doing so also makes the wonderful possibilities more and more real.Similarly, their corresponding emotions (such as enthusiasm, joy, inspiration and happiness) can also be generated automatically.
Ask yourself the following four questions to identify the root cause of false beliefs and find ways to overcome them:
(1) Is there a reasonable reason for this belief?
(2) Is it wrong for me to stubbornly hold on to this belief?
(3) Would I have drawn the same conclusions about others if I were in similar circumstances?
(4) If there's no plausible reason for me to believe in it, why do I have to act and feel like it's true?
Do not pass these questions off in the absence of your mind, but brood over them, consider them seriously, and ponder them with affection.Do you find that you are deluding yourself, that you are underestimating yourself not because of a "fact" but because of an irrational false belief?
Anyone with a strong aura has a unique personality. What is "personality"?Albert (GW Allport), a famous American personality psychologist, believes that "personality is the dynamic organization of the physical and mental system within an individual that determines a person's unique behavior and thinking." That is to say, this unique behavior and thinking of oneself is different from Others, in normal interactions, can leave a deep impression on people.This not only adds personal charm to us and makes it easier for us to get the chance of success, but also keeps us emotionally stable and harmonious in our interpersonal relationships.
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The button to awaken the subconscious mind and open the aura
A person's psychological activities include two parts: conscious and subconscious.Consciousness is a clear understanding. For example, learning activities with goals and plans, self-assessment, and self-regulated learning all reflect the characteristics of consciousness.The subconscious mind is an unconscious awareness, for example, of remembering certain vivid episodes naturally.Another example is that if you are proficient in certain skills, you can still operate according to the program even if you don’t pay special attention. Mental activities such as dreaming are all subconscious activities.
Usually, we pay more attention to the role of consciousness, but we don't know anything about the vast ocean of subconscious mind, or don't pay much attention to it. In fact, subconscious mind is like the underwater part of an iceberg, with a larger volume and greater effect.It is said that the power of the subconscious mind is 3 times greater than that of the conscious mind, so to stimulate the potential, one needs to use the subconscious mind, so as to open the source of the aura and detonate the energy of the aura.
What we call self-suggestion is to use our ideas or any desires we want to achieve, to read our goals or desires aloud, and at the same time feel and feel them personally. Experience the scene and inner feelings when it has been achieved, and instill the goal or desire into the subconscious mind.
When the subconscious mind receives the information you suggest, it will start to absorb the relevant energy from the outside world, find out the answers you need, build your confidence, and provide the opportunities and resources you need to help you achieve goal or desire.
Auto-suggestion itself does not help you achieve your goals, it acts as a stimulus.Autosuggestion stimulates the subconscious mind, which helps you achieve your goals or desires.Autosuggestion is just a tool.However, the role and power of this tool are far from being realized, let alone developed.
One thing to note is that the subconscious mind cannot distinguish right from wrong, good from evil, no matter what information or ideas are given to it by the conscious mind, it will just accept it as it is, and any instruction will be fulfilled one by one.Therefore, what the subconscious looks like depends on autosuggestion.
The infinite power exerted by the subconscious through self-suggestion is amazing and incredible. Many so-called miracles or inspirations in this world are produced through self-suggestion.In some religions, there are many miracles that occur through sincere prayers or wishes, which are in fact a process of self-suggestion.And in medicine, many terminally ill patients who cannot be cured are miraculously cured through the process of self-suggestion.In the field of medicine, a similar spiritual healing process has been used to treat patients suffering from specific diseases.
How to consciously use the ability of self-suggestion?First, the arousal of those harmful autosuggestions, which may have disastrous consequences, must be avoided; Neurotics, erring people, and those unconscious victims of self-suggestion bring about spiritual healing, and point the right path to those who are prone to error.
Jung divided a person's personality into "id", "ego" and "superego". The "id" is often dominated by the subconscious, and those who do whatever they want and have no scruples often have the "id" too strong, and the "ego" does not have enough control over reality.To establish a perfect personality, the "self" must coordinate its balance through psychological suggestion, so as to promote the development of the "self" in a favorable direction.
Constructing a "mental image" for one's own success is a positive self-suggestion.
(1) You have to choose a goal: it can be to make yourself slimmer and healthier, or it can be to make yourself more confident and eloquent.
(2) It only takes one or two minutes a day to construct a "mental image", that is, to turn a vague idea into a clear outline, clear details, flesh and blood, and colorful overview.
(3) Draw a sketch of your "mental image" on paper, and collect relevant pictures from magazines and the Internet.
(4) Concentrate on spending 10 minutes every day associating with the "mental image" you constructed, close your eyes, and don't care about the outside world, and only open your eyes when this picture continues to develop.
(5) Try this little experiment for 21 days in a row and see what happens.
By providing the automatic success mechanism with a clear, specific, vividly conceived, and perfectly communicated goal, your inner energy will be continuously activated, you will get more energy, and your personal development will be faster. The speed of the target will also be faster.As the goal becomes clearer, the automatic success mechanism becomes more effective at functioning itself.
Positive psychological hints make the aura stronger
A psychologist once did such an experiment.
He put a hungry dog in a labyrinth of wooden passages.The dog kept jumping upwards in search of food, trying to get out over the board.But every time the dog jumped up, it was punished with an electric shock.At first, driven by hunger, the dogs still jumped up, but less and less frequently.After several times of punishment, the dog completely gave up the hope of getting out, and never jumped up again.
Psychologists call this phenomenon "learned powerlessness."A person's loss of self-confidence has parallels to this experimental process.No one is born lacking in self-confidence.Taking learning as an example, students who are naturally not interested in learning and have no confidence in learning from the beginning do not exist.The "powerlessness" and "helplessness" in learning are caused by the accumulation of setbacks from repeated learning failures.The test results are not ideal for several times in a row, and the self-confidence is eroded again and again, until the enthusiasm for hard work can no longer be ignited in the heart, and the "sense of powerlessness in learning" is formed. The reason for the "sense of powerlessness in learning" is that after suffering setbacks, one does not pay attention to summing up experience and lessons, loses confidence, loses opportunities to get out of adversity again and again, and finally has to give up on oneself completely.
If you first think of the negative result of "I can't do well", your aura will be dimmed, then the enthusiasm and initiative of brain activities will be suppressed, and you will not even have the courage to try it out. Not on exploration and improvement.
A man can never achieve more than his self-confidence can achieve.
It is said that if Napoleon led an army in battle, the combat effectiveness of the same army would be doubled.It turns out that the combat effectiveness of the army is largely based on the soldiers' admiration and confidence in the commander.If Napoleon, when he led his army across the Alps, just sat back and said "this thing is too difficult," then there is no doubt that Napoleon's army would never have crossed that mountain.Napoleon's self-confidence and strength enhanced the combat effectiveness of every soldier he commanded.Therefore, no matter what you do, unwavering self-confidence is the necessary and most important factor to achieve success.
Once, a soldier rushed to deliver a letter to Napoleon.Because the horse was running too fast, it fell suddenly before reaching the destination, and the horse died.After receiving the letter, Napoleon immediately wrote a reply letter to the soldier, and ordered the soldier to ride his own horse and send the reply letter as soon as possible.
The soldier saw the strong horse with extremely gorgeous decorations, so he said to Napoleon: "A gorgeous and strong horse is not worthy of being enjoyed by an inferior soldier like me." Napoleon replied: "There is nothing in the world that French soldiers want." undeserving."
Yes, a humble attitude will make us all think that our status is too low, like this French soldier, that the happiness that others have is not our own, and that we are not worthy of it.This concept of inferiority and inferiority often becomes the main reason for not seeking to make progress and being willing to degenerate.
Russell said: "The root of a great career is to persist in continuous work, to engage in it with all your energy, and not to avoid hardships." When you are unwilling to be a slave of fate but fail to grasp the throat of fate, you must imply to yourself: "Learn Patience, learn to wait, wait for the next restart, wait for the next explosion, wait for the next change.” Patience is undoubtedly painful, it suppresses the joy of human instinct, especially when you are going to do something heartily and heartily. When you are struggling with one thing, especially when you are misunderstood by others, especially when you are under pressure from the outside world, at this time you feel that you are unable to move forward, and your rationality may keep reminding yourself that you cannot If you continue, it's like crawling naked on a road covered with thorns, and your body is covered with blood, but you can't catch the flower that makes you excited and gratified.
When a person has a consciousness of "I must succeed", the energy to achieve success is accumulated in the subconscious, and success can be made possible.Therefore, as long as the subconscious mind is mobilized and subconscious activities are triggered, the energy of consciousness can be transformed into material energy.
Change your subconscious mind, change your aura
The subconscious mind is controlled by the conscious mind.It is only through conscious thinking that the subconscious can form its own negative or positive reactions.It is through conscious rational thought that this automatic response pattern can be changed.
Changing our consciousness and rational thinking can change our psychological suggestion, change our aura, and achieve success.
Everyone's subconscious mind works like a machine, always trying to respond appropriately to your current beliefs and interpretations about the environment, always trying to provide you with the appropriate feelings to achieve the goals you consciously decided to pursue.You influence it in the form of ideas, beliefs, interpretations, opinions, and so on, and it responds only to these influences.
In psychological suggestion, the subconscious mind can serve as a failure mechanism as well as a success mechanism, with equal difficulty.As for whether it becomes a success mechanism or a failure mechanism, it depends on what kind of consciousness you provide for it to process and what kind of goals you set for it.The source of strength for success is to regularly exert a positive influence through rational and conscious thinking.
Qi Wabo, the founder of Bethlehem Steel Company in the United States, was born in the countryside and only received a very short school education. At the age of 15, because his family was very poor, he had to become a groom.However, Qi Wabo did not give up his ideal because of this, he was always looking for opportunities for his own development.
Three years later, Qi Wabo went to work at a construction site managed by the steel magnate Carnegie.When Qi Wabo first stepped into the construction site, he made a plan for his work.This plan shows his distinctive self-management ability.
When others complain about tiredness and low wages at work, and thus feel dissatisfied with work, or chat and gamble while the boss is away during working hours, Qi Wabo is very serious about self-learning architectural knowledge.At this time, many colleagues would ridicule him, but Qi Wabo didn't care, he just said: "I don't work for making money, I work for my ideal and future."
One night, colleagues were sitting and chatting together, only Qi Wabo was hiding in a corner reading a book.At this time, the manager of the company came to inspect the construction site and found that Qi Wabo, a worker, was actually reading a book. He was very curious, so he approached to see what book he was reading, and found Qi Wabo's notes next to him.The manager took the notebook, flipped through a few pages casually, and left without saying anything.
The next day, the manager called Qi Wabo to the office and asked, "Why did you learn those things?"
Qi Wabo replied: "According to my observation, there are not many migrant workers in the company. What is mainly lacking are technical personnel and managers with experience and professional knowledge, right?" The manager was shocked by what he said, but still Nod.
"I don't want to be a worthless person. I hope to be a talent that the company relies on, not a coolie that can be replaced at any time. Only by working hard can I continuously improve my level. Only by getting the salary can I get the company's attention at work and have the opportunity to develop myself."
This conversation made the manager remember him forever - a "coolie" with very strong self-management ability.Soon, he promoted this "coolie" with great pursuits to manager.At that time, Qi Wabo was only 25 years old!An age that doesn't seem to be able to take responsibility yet!
Later, through hard work, Qi Wabo finally established his own large-scale Bethlehem Steel Company, which created amazing benefits for the United States, truly realized his ideals, and achieved the glory of life.
What Qi Wabo has is a rare quality that many people who work hard and work in society lack.Everyone wants to be successful, but many people indulge in fantasy, or empty beliefs without concrete ideas.Qi Wabo hopes to become a "talent that the company relies on", which is a psychological hint given under conscious guidance and a driving force obtained after thinking.
As I said before, the subconscious mind can't focus on thinking about two diametrically opposed thoughts, so an effective way to make your subconscious mind work is to concentrate on thinking about one thing.For example, when you're thinking about your speech contest next week, focus on your affirmation of your eloquence and mental abilities.For example, every night when you go to bed (btw, the best time for self-affirmation is when you are very tired), subconsciously give yourself a healthy cue that on that night, this cue can Deep in your subconscious mind; when you wake up every day, give yourself a hint of abundance and success, this subconscious mind can not only occupy your mind, but also expand into a wider space.
When you are under the influence of negative emotions, you can think more about things about happiness and love.In our subconscious mind, these instilled psychological hints can bring our life to the happiness and love we want.At this time, every cell in the body has accepted those hints about health, which hints that it has integrated with you, and your aura is stable and active.
1. Engage in conscious, rational thought
Continuing with the guided missile metaphor of self-control, we use deliberate, conscious rational thought to select a target, and then use our imagination to deliver the target to the cues in a way that they can be accepted and implemented.
2. Use the natural power of reasoning
There are no complicated ways to aspire to self-improvement and to feel good.Most people can solve most of their problems by using psychological suggestion techniques and other related self-improvement methods, using innate reasoning power, and changing negative beliefs and behaviors without in-depth analysis of past life events.
Eliminate negative cues that ask for trouble
Have you ever noticed how easily you feel hurt or offended when you suffer from tension due to depression, fear, anger, or depression?
So, how can I let my heart no longer be hurt?
Innumerable psychic scars, one upon the other, make psychological suggestion a threatened and extremely fragile thing.When confronted with a situation that it thinks is likely to hurt it in the same way as an event that caused harm in the past, these combinations of scars can produce "survival mode behavior" (i.e., fleeing or fighting, withdrawing or actively fighting, etc.) ).
1. Consciously avoid negative cues
You may have experienced this: You can't socialize better and feel embarrassed at a dinner party because you can't express your thoughts accurately in conversation. This may be because you earn less than other guests and thus Feel inferior, so afraid of being asked about your career or investment status.This is not actually a natural danger, i.e., your body is not threatened, however, this environment can also trigger the same anxiety and depression that you would experience if you encountered a robber in a dark alley.
Once you do encounter a robber, it may be more appropriate for you to meekly take out your wallet, hand it to the robber, and then desperately flee in the opposite direction.And in a social situation, giving up all chances of having a good evening and fleeing to a secluded place, or simply coping and getting up and leaving, is never appropriate, and may even lead to something you just don't want - The host and other guests will look down on you completely because of your performance.If this social situation closely resembles some of those that leave scars on psychological cues, it is likely that such a situation would also lead to the above-mentioned survival response.
2. Overreaction is a negative cue
Xiao Zhong, 15 years old, was at the time of adolescence when he was rebellious and restless.Xiao Zhong's parents are both post office workers with a high school education.Xiao Zhong is lively and cheerful when he is with his classmates, but he is often quiet and emotional when he is with his parents.
Once, Xiao Zhong went out with his mother and met a colleague of his mother on the way.The colleague was about to send his child to a cram school, and the two talked about the child's learning problems.A colleague said: "The child in our family is really stupid. Every exam is at the end. I don't know if he can understand it in class. Alas, he pretends to understand if he doesn't understand." Xiao Zhong's mother also casually said: "Yes, The children in our family are also like this, and their grades have not improved."
After hearing this, Xiao Zhong immediately walked away in anger, even though his mother yelled behind him, he ignored him.
Excessive self-esteem can lead us to overreact.Today, we sometimes feel the pressure of self-doubt, insecurity, and anxiety.We can easily feel offended or hurt when we misinterpret what others have said, and a scar can form.
This simple experience in everyday life is a good example of the fact that our emotional hurt is not so much caused by other people, or what others say or don't say, but rather because of their roots. Our own attitudes and reactions.
3. Don't take everything by number
There are always some people who like to ridicule others when they talk: "Some people are really useless, they can't do any job well..." "Look, he is really ridiculous."If you habitually personalize every little thing, every overheard conversation, or even what you read or hear in the media, then you're revealing a very sensitive, saving-smart psyche.And the "immunity" of this kind of psychological suggestion is the lowest.
Just laugh about such things!People who fanatically pursue worthy and meaningful goals, people who have a lot of important things to do on their schedules, have no time to worry about these trivial things and offensive words and actions.Most of the unintentional, neutral words are just jokes, have no underlying meaning, and finding their subtext (when you're annoyed by them, of course) is a complete waste of time.
Use the following procedure to detect psychological cues of injury:
(1) Think carefully about all your own habitual or repetitive behaviors and life experiences.
(2) Have you been consistently disappointed in your relationships with those closest to you?
(3) Have you ever found that groups of colleagues annoy you?
(4) Are all of your clients "scrooges" or "tough guys"?
And so on, whether you are escaping or attacking, it involves the problem of psychological suggestion injury.
The "Positive Illusion" Boosts Confidence Energy
The world-renowned swimmer Florence Chadwick swam from Catalina Island to the Gulf of California and soaked in the sea for 16 hours. When there was only 1 nautical mile left, she saw the fog in front of her. , the subconscious sent out the signal "when can I swim to the other side", she suddenly felt sleepy and lost confidence.As a result, she was pulled into the dinghy to rest and lost a chance to set a record.Afterwards, Florence Chadwick knew that she was about to reach the other side of success, and it was not the fog that hindered her success, but the doubts in her heart.After the fog blocked her view, she lost confidence in setting a new record and was finally captured by the fog.After more than two months, Florence Chadwick revisited the Gulf of California again. At the end of the swim, she kept saying to herself: "We are getting closer and closer to the other shore!" This time I will definitely break the record" signal, and suddenly I was full of energy.Finally, Florence Chadwick finally achieved her goal.
as the saying goes:
When you need courage, you can overcome your cowardice;
When you need to be diligent, you can overcome your laziness;
When you need to be honest, you can overcome your selfish desires;
When you need to be humble, you can overcome your pride;
When you need tranquility, you can overcome your impetuousness.
Self-suggestion can influence a person's will.The biggest difference between people, between the weak and the strong, between success and failure lies in the difference in willpower.Constantly adding positive self-suggestion can enhance your aura, strengthen your willpower, and overcome your own weaknesses.Self-development, moving towards a successful goal, is actually a process of fighting against the negative elements in self-awareness.
A very young singer got an opportunity to act in an opera.She valued this opportunity very much, but she was always apprehensive.She has always dreamed of being able to perform in an opera, but unfortunately, she has tried three times before and failed.So, the singer became terrified.Although people who heard her sing on other occasions said: "The voice is great!" But every time she said to herself: "When it's my turn to audition, I always sing a mess. I can't get into the show, director They don't like me at all. They must be thinking that it's an embarrassment for such a broken voice."
Her subconscious mind took this negative auto-suggestion and acted on it as if it were an order.So, she lost this opportunity.Although she wailed and regretted infinitely afterwards, it was of no avail.
Thereafter, with the help of a friend, the young singer began to try to use positive self-suggestion to counteract the influence of negative self-suggestion.
She shuts herself in a quiet hut every day. She lies on a soft recliner in the hut, relaxing her whole body, and her body and mind are at peace at this moment.Because a physiologically low level of arousal can make the mind more receptive to autosuggestion.She said to herself slowly: "I have a beautiful singing voice, everyone admits it. My demeanor is elegant and confident, and I am calm."
After that, the singer got another opportunity to perform in an opera.She became less nervous and no longer worried that she could not sing well. She devoted herself to it calmly and confidently, showing her melodious singing voice in front of the director, and finally won the role in the opera.
We will meet many enemies in our life, but no enemy is more difficult to defeat than ourselves.What you can do or what you dream to do, you must work hard to practice, but in the process, there will always be times of weakness, times when you are tempted by desires, times when you want to give up your goals, and even pray in self-destruction When comforting.Overcoming yourself is not an easy task, and it is not an exaggeration to compare it to a career in life that you must constantly strive for.
On the road of pursuing success, we find that some people fail, while others succeed. What is the reason for this?The main reason for this is: the former is defeated by himself, but the latter can defeat himself.
People who are good at using the power of psychological suggestion will deliberately create a "positive illusion" for themselves in order to defeat the negative "I".
In order to encourage a disciple with low self-esteem to defeat a competitor who is not as strong as himself, a certain boxer first had a match with him and let himself "pretend" to be defeated. In this way, the disciple thought that his strength was already very strong, and his confidence Expansive, able to perform at the highest level in the face of any challenge.This is the wonderful power of "positive illusion"!
Control the "self", control your aura
According to Freud's theory, the "id" belongs to the subconscious mind and is dominated by consciousness, which is also restricted by social morality and cannot show its original appearance.Therefore, people's behavior is more on the level of "self".
For the relationship between "id" and "ego", Freud once made an analogy: "id" is a horse, and "ego" is a coachman.The horse is the driving force, and the coachman guides the horse. The "ego" has to control the "self", but the horse may not obey, and the two will be at a stalemate until one party succumbs.In this regard, Freud has a famous saying: "Where the 'id' used to be, the 'ego' should be." ", "superego" and "id"), trying to adjust the conflicting requirements among the three. The "superego" (superego) represents conscience, social norms and self-ideals. It is the high-level leader of personality. It acts according to the principle of perfection, guides the "self" and limits the "id", just like a strict and serious patriarch.
From the above explanations, it is not difficult to see that self-transcendence is a state of striving for goodness and showing maturity and excellence.However, the self-transcendence is based on the natural foundation of the "self". Without the basic condition of the "self", no matter how much you agree with the social morals and codes of conduct, it is difficult for the self-transcendence to be in harmony with the "self". " won the battle.
We must be good at using positive psychological hints to influence the subconscious mind, that is, the "self".To defeat others, you must first conquer yourself, and the first thing to conquer yourself is to realize the control of your "self".
People often complain that there are too many enemies in life, including the gullies encountered in learning, the mountains that are difficult to climb in career, and the hidden traps in life.In the era of competition, many opponents have been added, challenging and attacking you from time to time, just like guns to guns, sharp knives to sharp knives.If you become paralyzed or hesitate for a moment, all previous efforts will be wasted or your future will be ruined.But how did you know that the real enemy is not in front of you or behind you, but yourself.If you want to overcome all kinds of difficulties and hardships, you must first overcome yourself, that is, to realize your potential.Only by exerting your greatest potential can you achieve the transcendence of the "self".
There is a lady named Kath Dailey in the United States. She has a good voice and wants to be a singer. Unfortunately, her mouth is too big and her teeth are too big.When she sang on stage for the first time, she tried to cover her teeth with her upper lip, thinking that it was a very attractive expression, but she didn't know that it left a funny feeling to others.A male audience told her bluntly: "You don't have to hide your teeth. You should open your mouth as much as you want. The audience will definitely like you when they see your true and generous expression. Maybe the teeth you care about will be for you." You bring good luck!"
For a singer to expose his flaws in public, he must first convince himself with reason, and then have the courage to defeat himself.For the advice given by the male audience, Kath Daly was eager to try, but, "Who knows that he didn't mean to make himself look ugly?" In the end, Kath Daley kept convincing herself: Let go completely, don't let go. No more worrying about teething!She opened her mouth as much as she wanted and devoted herself wholeheartedly to it. Sure enough, she got warm applause from the audience.
Sometimes, the fierce conflict between "id" and "ego" is like a war, which makes you feel deeply exhausted physically and mentally.However, to surpass the self is to get rid of the entanglement of negative psychological hints and realize the control of the "self".
From a psychological point of view, to achieve self-transcendence, the most important thing is to control one's subconscious mind, not to do something that one can't do at all.The concept of "id", "ego" and "superego" put forward by Freud is an interactive process of mutual connection and mutual restriction.That is to say, the self-transcendence will always be restricted by the "self", the conflict between the two is constant, and the point of compromise usually falls on the more realistic "self".
When a person cannot achieve self-transcendence due to the restriction of "id", he often suffers from neurasthenia.When the idea of transcending oneself develops to the extreme and cannot be realized, people tend to fall into the abyss of nothingness in reverse, suddenly become indifferent to the things around them, and suffer from what is often called "depression".Therefore, when people set goals for themselves to surpass themselves, they should do what they can to discover those untapped potentials, instead of letting themselves "fish for the moon in the water".From a materialist point of view, no one can really achieve transcendence, because it is impossible for a person to achieve any attempt beyond his own capabilities.Beyond the self is more of a psychological suggestion to explore potential.
Unearth the subconscious mind and discover the maximum energy of the aura
If you admire successful people very much, then when you learn to praise successful people and imply that you will be like them one day, your subconscious mind has already begun to imitate their every move.Once you have the driving force to pursue success in your subconscious mind, your successful subconscious mind can not only help you think of ideas and solve problems, but also provide you with offensive strategies.
However, most of the subconscious energy is dormant, far from being developed.By stimulating the energy of the dormant subconscious mind, you can maximize the energy of your aura.
Autosuggestion can stimulate your subconscious mind, and the subconscious mind can react back to your self-consciousness.In addition to developing potential with the power of suggestion, you can also refer to the following methods.
1. Training and developing the unlimited "savings" and memory functions of the subconscious mind will lay a broader and stronger foundation for your ingenuity
If you want to build high-rise buildings, you must first reserve a variety of building materials, decoration materials, design drawings, construction skills, construction machinery, management and command skills, etc.Similarly, if you want to pursue success, you should keep learning new things and feeding your subconscious mind with new nutrients.If you want your brain to be smarter, more intelligent, and more creative, you must feed your subconscious mind more relevant information.
In order to make your subconscious "saving" function more efficient, you can take some auxiliary means, such as repeated input of important information, repetitive learning, increase memory function, build a visible information base, and classify and save books, newspaper clippings, Notes, modern computer software, etc., in order to assist the subconscious mind to serve your creative thinking and other ingenuity.
2. Train the ability to control the subconscious mind so that it serves your success instead of leading your future to failure
As mentioned above, because the subconscious "does not distinguish between right and wrong", it absorbs all positive and negative, good and bad, and often skips the conscious and directly controls people's behavior, or directly forms people's various states of mind. , so, in a sense, "success" is also subconscious, and "failure" is also subconscious.Therefore, you have to train yourself, and strive to develop and utilize the beneficial, positive, and successful subconsciousness, and strictly control the negative subconsciousness that may lead to failure; Constantly input new and healthy information, so that a positive and successful attitude will dominate and become the most dominant subconscious mind, making it an intuitive habit and "super-sensory" consciousness that dominates your behavior; Take control of your failure mentality and information, don't let it interfere with your normal life, don't let it enter your subconscious mind.
3. The subconscious mind helps you solve the problems encountered in the conscious mind and obtain creative inspiration
The subconscious mind contains information that is perceived or recognized consciously or unconsciously throughout a person's life, and can automatically arrange, combine, and classify them to generate some new beliefs.Therefore, you can give it instructions, turn all kinds of beautiful dreams and difficulties you encounter into clear instructions, transfer them from the conscious to the subconscious mind, and then relax your body and mind, waiting for it to give you the answer.
Brian Tracy, a famous American subconscious expert, proposed the following principles of "stimulation method" to activate the subconscious:
(1) Auditory stimulation method: When you are in panic, fear, or lack of self-confidence, just yell a few times, which can immediately restore your confidence and strength.The power of sound can influence your beliefs to a positive effect for you.
(2) Visual stimulation method: Hang a "dream board" in the room, draw your goals as pictures, cut them out and paste them on the "dream board", and watch them every day.This can always stimulate your subconscious mind to help you achieve your dreams.
(3) Intentional stimulation method: use the subconscious principle of "not distinguishing between true and false" to guide your desired successful scene in the brain, so as to achieve the purpose of replacing the negative thoughts in your subconscious.Through repeated self-suggestion and changing self-image, you can establish the belief that you will win, and make yourself take positive actions, so as to achieve your expected goals.
When you encounter negative information, you can take two ways to control it: one is to suppress it immediately, avoid it, and don't let it "pollute" your brain thoughts.Never mention the negative information you have inadvertently absorbed in the past, forget it, let it sink to the bottom of the subconscious mind.The second is to conduct critical analysis and "turn decay into magic".You have to use successful and positive psychological hints to conduct in-depth analysis and guidance on them, turning harm into benefit, just like turning poisonous grass into fertilizer, turning them into ideologies that are beneficial to success.
Change the target image and increase the energy of the aura
A person's beliefs and goals can be turned into a person's positive self-suggestion, thereby enhancing a person's aura energy.
When we set a goal for ourselves, we also imply that we become active and strive for the goal.Of course, everyone's persistence time is different.
When people ask us whether we want to be successful, we always say yes, but we immediately find a host of reasons why we don't.These "reasons" are not reasons based on current rational thinking at all, but are simply beliefs, beliefs that are susceptible to change.Only by establishing the correct belief can you embark on the road to success.
Our actions and emotions all stem from beliefs.One of the reasons why we are still writing biographies and singing inspirational hymns for successful people today, but we can't get close to the circle of success is that there is a wrong belief that dominates our emotions and behaviors.We have to ask ourselves in order to root out its cause: Is there a task you wish you could have done, a certain avenue of self-expression you wish you had, but you’ve been held back by feeling, “I can’t do it”?If you ask yourself a few more "why", then you can find the answer to the question.
"Why do I believe I can't?" Then ask yourself, "Is this belief based on a solid fact, or an assumption, or a false conclusion?"
For rational thinking to be effective in changing beliefs and behaviors, it must be accompanied by deep emotions and desires.
Picture for yourself the kind of person you want to be, picture the things you want to have, and assume that the moment when these visions will become possible is right in front of you.Arouse a deep desire for these goals, be passionate about them, analyze them carefully, look them back and forth in your mind.Your current negative beliefs are formed through thoughts plus emotions, and if you can generate enough emotions or inner feelings, you will generate new thoughts and ideas that will wipe out the negative beliefs of the past.
Change your goals from negative to positive through psychological suggestion.When you worry, you first picture an undesired consequence or goal vividly in your imagination.You can't help thinking about it (thinking about it), picture it to yourself as a possible scenario.You repeatedly think it could really happen.This constant repetition, this constant rumination of possibilities, can make the end result you fear seem more and more real.Over time, corresponding emotions (such as fear, anxiety, depression) will automatically arise, all of which correspond to the end result that you do not want to see and you are worried about.
Now, if you want to change the target image and your own psychological suggestion, it is also easy to produce "beautiful" emotions from now on.Constantly picture a desired end result for yourself and think about it.Doing so also makes the wonderful possibilities more and more real.Similarly, their corresponding emotions (such as enthusiasm, joy, inspiration and happiness) can also be generated automatically.
Ask yourself the following four questions to identify the root cause of false beliefs and find ways to overcome them:
(1) Is there a reasonable reason for this belief?
(2) Is it wrong for me to stubbornly hold on to this belief?
(3) Would I have drawn the same conclusions about others if I were in similar circumstances?
(4) If there's no plausible reason for me to believe in it, why do I have to act and feel like it's true?
Do not pass these questions off in the absence of your mind, but brood over them, consider them seriously, and ponder them with affection.Do you find that you are deluding yourself, that you are underestimating yourself not because of a "fact" but because of an irrational false belief?
Anyone with a strong aura has a unique personality. What is "personality"?Albert (GW Allport), a famous American personality psychologist, believes that "personality is the dynamic organization of the physical and mental system within an individual that determines a person's unique behavior and thinking." That is to say, this unique behavior and thinking of oneself is different from Others, in normal interactions, can leave a deep impression on people.This not only adds personal charm to us and makes it easier for us to get the chance of success, but also keeps us emotionally stable and harmonious in our interpersonal relationships.
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