The psychology of the aura that makes your heart strong

Chapter 7 Image is the most beautiful coat of aura, your image is worth millions

Use the halo effect of first impressions

A person's appearance is first perceived by the other's senses.Because in theory, appearance is the most noticeable part of interacting with each other.If others want to know what kind of person you are, the first thing they pay attention to is your appearance, and if we want to leave a good impression on the other party, we must first start with your appearance.

Appearance refers to the appearance of a person, including the appearance, posture, clothing and personal hygiene of a person. It is the embodiment of a person's appearance.

The overall requirements for instruments are simple and natural, neat and generous, solemn and friendly, and give people a good impression.

The basic requirement for instruments is clean and generous.

Cleanliness is not only for yourself, but also respect for the needs of others.Social psychologists believe that in public places, people always like to meet people who are well-dressed and well-groomed, or people whose clothes are slightly better than themselves.This kind of behavior is also common in daily life. No one wants to be with a slovenly, dirty person.

The psychological theory "halo effect" believes that the first impression a person gives to others is often the psychological basis for people to judge him.If you see a person who is neatly dressed, well-fitted, and has a natural expression, you will think that this person is careful and orderly, and then you will think that this person must have a sense of responsibility, and you will definitely have the initial feeling of satisfaction in your heart , and also think that this person will have various abilities.

If a person gives you the first impression of being disheveled and cursing, you will inevitably conclude that he lacks moral values, and even think of other shortcomings of this person.Psychologist Shelley selected 68 volunteers to participate in the experiment at the University of Mossalist. The appearance, eloquence and ability to understand and judge things were not significantly different among these candidates, but their appearance and demeanor were quite different.The experiment asked the 68 people to solicit the opinions of four passers-by who did not know each other, in order to get their support.

As a result, the well-mannered person is more likely to be favored by strangers and make a good impression than the average person.

So, before you start making friends, looking for jobs, etc., please take some time to examine yourself.Is your dress and manner acceptable to the public?No matter how enthusiastic and talkative you are, no matter how good your social skills are, if your dress is too much to test the acceptance of the public, I am afraid that from the very beginning, you will give people a feeling of "difficult to contact and difficult to get along with" , so that you are doomed to failure from the very beginning.So please take some time to examine your appearance.

A dignified demeanor and a civilized manner are the basis for a good impression.Appearance and behavior are very intuitive. As long as you stand in front of the other party and open your mouth, the other party will have some reactions in their minds, such as what kind of personality, how cultivated, what type of person you are standing in front of you, is it necessary Talk to you and wait.However, attaching importance to appearance and appearance cannot be understood as the pursuit of fashion.For example, a male student majoring in mechanical manufacturing in a certain engineering university has long hair, long nails on his little finger, and a gold ring on his middle finger. He applied for a job in a machinery group. Seeing the appearance of that classmate, he politely declined.

A person's appearance can not only reflect his cultural accomplishment, but also reflect his aesthetic taste.Dressing well can not only win the trust of others, leave a good impression on people, but also improve the ability to communicate with people.On the contrary, improper dress and indecent behavior will often lower the status and damage the image.It can be seen that appearance is an art, which not only pays attention to coordination and color, but also pays attention to occasion and identity. At the same time, it is also a manifestation of culture.

Clothing is the most beautiful coat
The function of clothes was originally to cover up the cold, so as not to expose oneself naked to nature.Taking it a step further, people started to pay attention to its aesthetic function.Even uncivilized primitive people know how to sew a few shells on animal skins and hang a string of horn bones around their necks for decoration.In modern society, clothing is the most intuitive reflection of a person's level and status.When you go out every morning, even a passer-by who knows nothing about you can get a good idea of ​​your career, personality, current living conditions and future development potential from your clothing.

Columnist Sun Wei said: "A woman who doesn't pay attention to clothes shows that she is desperate to attract the opposite sex. A man who doesn't spend a lot of money on clothes shows that he is desperate to gain a foothold in society."

When people walk in the world, it is inevitable that they will be weighed and chosen by others.Generally speaking, what kind of people do people tend to choose as their partners, friends or subordinates?Of course, it is best for him to be innocent, honest and talented, but this choice requires a long-term test, which is not suitable for modern people with a fast-paced life.At this time, the first impression becomes the key.People tend to think that products with beautiful packaging and high prices are of high quality. Similarly, if the person in front of you has a good outfit, people will also have a strong interest in his inner strength.

Mr. Tsang Hin-chi, a Hong Kong entrepreneur, once went to a foreign businessman's clothing store with a tie on his back to sell at the beginning of his business.The owner of the clothing store saw that he was dressed plainly and spoke strong Hakka dialect, so he told Zeng Xianzi to leave immediately.Zeng Xianzi had a bad nose and had no choice but to leave displeased.

After Zeng Xianzi returned home, he thought seriously all night.The next morning, wearing a neat suit, he came to the clothing store again, and said respectfully to the boss: "I offended you yesterday, I'm sorry, can I have morning tea today?" The clothing store owner looked at it. This well-dressed, polite young man immediately liked him and readily agreed.The two drank tea and chatted, and the more they talked, the more speculative they became.Since then, the owner of this clothing store and Zeng Xianzi have become good friends, and the two sincerely cooperated to promote the development of Goldlion's business.

To some extent, when a person changes his clothing, he is actually changing his self-image and changing how others see him.

If you dress neatly, you will invisibly improve your status, and others will easily agree to your request if they think you are credible.If you dress sloppily, others will think you are a self-destructive person, and may reject your request straight away.

Dressing appropriately is equivalent to telling everyone, "This is an important person, smart, successful, and reliable. Everyone can respect, admire, and trust him. He respects himself, and we respect him."

On the contrary, a sloppy dressed person gives a bad impression, which is equivalent to telling everyone, "This is a person who does nothing. He is careless, ineffective, unimportant. He is just an ordinary person. He does not deserve special respect. Not being taken seriously".

Behaviorist Michael Argyle conducted an experiment: he appeared in the same place with different clothes.When he appeared as a gentleman in a suit, most of the people who asked him the way or the time were polite, and they were almost all gentlemen; Most of them are homeless, or they come to borrow money or cigarettes.

Birds of a feather flock together.What kind of dress will attract the attention of what kind of people. When you dress badly, successful people who are not familiar with you will not take the initiative to communicate with you, especially when you are developing customers, your performance will be affected by it.

When dealing with people, your appearance and posture are not "silent". To improve your value and weight, starting from clothing is the most effective way to get started.What we need to solve is the question of how far we want to "enhance".Although some people claim not to wear non-top famous brands, and some rich people will fly to Paris twice to order a suit, but this kind of spectrum is not for everyone.This is not a question of affordability or affordability, but that when a person's clothing is seriously inconsistent with his own strength and status, it will not only fail to improve his attractiveness, but will easily be judged as "vain, pompous, It’s a great success”, and there is even the possibility of being regarded as a liar.The packaging, which was originally intended to enhance identity and increase trust, had a negative impact at this time.

The most suitable clothing is one level higher than your real identity, just one level, if the stride is too big, the foundation will inevitably be weak.Newcomers who are new to the workplace can dress themselves up as the backbone of the company; middle-level managers can follow the style of their superiors; small businessmen can dress smartly to show their drive. Be grand and calm, and show your confidence and taste.You have to go up one step at a time, and one day, you will become what you want.

Joe Gillard said: "A person's external image reflects his special connotation. If others don't trust our appearance, you will not be able to sell yourself successfully." Successful dressing does not necessarily guarantee your success, but Unsuccessful wear is guaranteed to set you up for failure.

Let your external charm add points to yourself
You can have the mentality of not judging others by their appearance, but you can't stop others from judging you by their appearance.In the fiercely competitive modern society, why don't we take advantage of all favorable conditions to give ourselves a greater advantage in the competition?And dress appropriately, but also respect for others.

In today's increasingly complex and fast-paced society, people may not have time to seriously and deeply understand a person, and form an impression of a person based on a person's appearance.Therefore, in order to better adapt to reality and leave a good impression on the people we interact with, we should spend a certain amount of energy on our appearance.While it's important to value inner strength, it will also help your career if you have an outer charisma.

The principle of appointing officials in the Tang Dynasty of China is that after the examination, they must meet the four conditions of "body, speech, writing, and judgment" before they can serve as officials in the court.Body refers to physical conditions, speech refers to speech, book refers to writing, and judgment refers to the ability to issue judgments.Just from the fact that "body" is placed at the top of the four elements, it can be seen that appearance is an important condition for the selection of officials in the Tang Dynasty.The selection of our civil servants today also has certain requirements for appearance, which is the same reason.

In the United States, scholars have compared men with beards, goatees, and nose beards with men who shave their beards every day. The survey found that men with beards received "masculine, mature, beautiful, powerful, There are praises such as self-confidence, bravery, and great measure.

During Lincoln's presidential campaign, he received a letter from a young girl living in the American Midwest, which read as follows: "Your speech was indeed touching. However, the atmosphere of your sharp comments was too strong. If It can bring a relaxed atmosphere like a father chatting with his family, and I believe that more people will support him. And I suggest you, you might as well grow a beard, which may improve the serious atmosphere."

From the girl's advice, Lincoln grows a beard.Sure enough, the beard eased a lot of the sharp atmosphere.

According to psychologists' research, external charm does have a great influence on interpersonal relationships.Some charismatic people give people good impressions such as "strong career, reliable work, amiable, visionary, self-confident, strong-willed, cheerful, serious and straightforward, not deep in the city, easy to communicate with".And the public is easy to support the opinions of the charismatic people, and they also have high evaluation of the reports made by the charismatic people.

If a leader has external charm, he will inevitably give people a feeling of kindness and ability, and he will be easily regarded as having good conduct, so he must occupy a favorable position when persuading or negotiating.

If you are handsome or beautiful, you may wish to show your external charm in the work of negotiation or persuasion, and don't let it be like a diamond with its light covered.

We might as well spend a little time studying how to make a good impression on others.What factors are the external charm that others pay attention to?First of all, I will not talk about the appearance, because it is born and cannot be changed the day after tomorrow.Secondly, let’s talk about the aspects that you can control, which mainly include clothing and appearance.

Let's talk about clothing first.As the saying goes: "People rely on clothing, Buddha depends on gold clothing." Even if it is the same person, the feelings given to others due to the relationship between clothing are quite different.Some scholars conducted such an interesting experiment, asking the experimenter to deliberately place a copper plate on a public telephone, and then observe the possible actions of the next person who enters the telephone booth.It was found that neatly dressed men in shirts and ties were more likely to replace the coins than those who were casually dressed.Do experiments with women, the results obtained are the same.Then experimented with the situation of crossing a pedestrian crossing. It was also found that men wearing shirts and ties, although there were cases of running and crossing red lights, were much less than those who were casually dressed.

The above examples show that neatly dressed people are more likely to give others a sense of trust and majesty.Therefore, in addition to following the rules, dressing appropriately is also indispensable if you want to grasp someone's emotions.

Let's talk about grooming.According to the questionnaire survey conducted by psychologists, the main factors that can improve personal charm in terms of appearance are "beautiful hair, clean and tidy teeth, no bad breath, polite coughing, caring eyes, popular hairstyles, Good conduct, attention to cleanliness" and other important items, which are also recognized by most men and women.

Physical attractiveness In addition to physical features, "graceful manners" are also important.For people who wear glasses, whether they are male or female, they are easily regarded as intelligent and hardworking people.Comparing women who wear lipstick with those who don't, the latter are more likely to be seen as "stable, meaningful, and honest".

In addition, neat and dignified appearance also shows respect for others.At least it makes people's eyes comfortable, and it also shows that you value the person you meet.Just like when guests come to the house, you have to tidy up and make the house tidy, otherwise you just don't care about other people's performance.

In short, we should not ignore the external things.A philosopher once said: "We should not only have a beautiful heart, but also a beautiful appearance." Innate conditions cannot be changed, but through acquired efforts, we can always make our dress more decent, which is good for our body. Both career and marriage will have a favorable impact.

Dressing is a proper moderation
The famous philosopher Descartes once said that the most beautiful clothing should be "a kind of proper coordination and moderation".

Inappropriate clothing will arouse people's disgust and leave a bad first impression on people.For example, if a teacher comes to the podium dressed as a cowboy or a dancer girl, he will definitely not be respected by the students. No matter how good the lectures are, no matter how high the level is, it will be difficult to change this situation.In addition, "everyone has the love of beauty".Beautiful and decent clothes often give people a pleasing feeling and make people want to continue to communicate with him. Although the old saying "respect your clothes first and then others" is morally deficient, it is a reality that we cannot change, because it will take some time for the other party to understand your "inner beauty" and reflect it. The clothing of a person's personality is clear at a glance, leaving an intuitive impression on people.

Appropriate attire does not mean wearing expensive clothes. The fact is just the opposite. If you blindly pursue luxury, you will give people a vulgar impression. The key is to be neat and generous, which can reflect the inner quality of people.

Clothing should be harmonious in two aspects: one is that clothing is in harmony with people's body, appearance, age, personality and other factors; the other is that clothing is in harmony with factors such as environment and occupation.

1. Clothing should be appropriate for age and status

A person's clothing is connected with a person's status, identity and self-cultivation.In order to get a good first impression, you must pay attention to the clothes that match your identity and age.Different ages should have different attire.Different identities should also have different attire.If a movie star dresses up a little more, people will think it is more normal, but if a middle school student wears makeup and dresses flirtatiously, it will be considered out of status.Therefore, we usually pay attention to dressing appropriately and try our best to give ourselves extra points for our first impression.

2. Clothing should fit the body
People are divided into tall and short, fat and thin in body shape, and black and white in skin color.Therefore, dressing should vary from person to person, and attention should be paid to making use of strengths and avoiding weaknesses. "Skinny people should not wear black clothes, and fat people should not wear white clothes; women with long feet must wear black shoes, and men with short feet must wear white shoes; checkered clothes cannot be worn by fat people, but they are better than horizontal checkered clothes "Horizontal checks, if a fat person wears them, they will be split on both sides, making them appear horizontal and wider. Fat people should wear vertical stripes, and the vertical ones will make them appear longer, while the horizontal ones will make them appear wider."

3. Clothes should be suitable for the time and climate

What clothes to wear in what season, especially in formal occasions, more attention should be paid.Maybe you bought a new triple thermal shirt, and you can wear it in the cold season without feeling the cold at all.But even then, you have to wear a suit for serious occasions.Otherwise, others will think you are weird.On the contrary, in early winter, no matter how cold you feel, don’t wear a duck down jacket or a cotton coat to meet guests. You would rather wear an extra sweater under your suit.

It is especially important for women to observe the rules of dress for different times of day.A good quality dark suit is enough for men to attend various events, while women's attire needs to be changed with the time of day.When attending daytime events, women can generally wear professional formal attire, but attending a cocktail party from 5 pm to 7 pm requires more decorations, such as a pair of high heels, shiny accessories, and a beautiful silk scarf.If you attend a formal dinner after 7:[-] pm, you should wear traditional Chinese cheongsam or western evening dress.

4. Dress should be appropriate for the occasion
Clothes should be in harmony with the environment and dress appropriately for the occasion, for example, you can't wear denim to a party.No matter how beautiful the clothes are, if you don't consider the occasion, you will be ridiculed.If everyone wears casual clothes, it's not appropriate for you to wear a formal dress.In formal occasions, traditions and customs should be taken into account, and the customs of various countries should be followed.When going to places such as churches or temples, you cannot wear revealing or too short clothing, but you should wear formal attire according to local customs when listening to concerts or watching ballet.Dressing in the world pays attention to the TPO principle, T is time (time), P is place (place), O is content (object).That is to say, we should pay attention to the occasion and distinguish the location when dressing.In terms of time, clothing should be simple and elegant during the day, and gorgeous at night; in terms of location, clothing in the workplace should be standardized, and clothing in non-workplaces can be casual; in terms of content, clothing for festive events should be more cheerful, and clothing for mourning events It should be more solemn, the lower-level clothing should be lighter, and the grand ceremony clothing should be more formal.

When interacting with people for the first time, be sure to avoid some inappropriate attire.

1. Excessively fashionable
It's normal to like fashion clothes. Even if you don't deliberately pursue fashion, fashion will influence you.Some women are almost blindly pursuing fashion. For example, a girl went to a company to apply for a secretary, and painted several bright nail polishes on her nails at the same time, giving people a disgusting sense of oppression.A successful professional woman must have the right judgment on popular choices, and at the same time, remember that in the office, you mainly want to show work ability, not fashion ability.

2. Overexposure

In summer, women must pay attention to their dress, not because the weather is too hot, wear sexy clothes to job interviews or date, even in the office, so your talent and wisdom will be Being covered up will give people the impression of a "vase", and even be considered frivolous.Therefore, no matter how hot the weather is, you should also ensure that you dress decently and generously.

3. Overly formal

Clothes that are too formal often give people a rigid and serious feeling, which can easily make others fear you and leave a bad impression on you.

4. Too cute

There are many cute and pretty styles in the clothing market, but they must be worn according to the occasion and environment.If you go to work on the first day, wearing such clothes will make you feel frivolous, unstable, and unable to take on great responsibilities.

Dress has details, have you noticed?
When it comes to dressing, you must not only be sure about the overall clothing, but also pay attention to the details, because it may be some details that make others see you through at first glance and leave a bad first impression on people.

A salesman once told people in detail about a clothing problem he encountered.Once, when he was discussing business with a director, he reached into his pocket to take out an important document. Suddenly, he found an unsightly opening in the pocket of his coat.Embarrassment and helplessness caused him to fail in this business.Because he realized that the director had also discovered this gap, he was suddenly flustered and completely confused, and could no longer continue the introduction of the product.

In addition to paying attention to factors such as age, body shape, season and occasion when dressing and wearing hats, attention must also be paid to details, otherwise it will destroy the overall aesthetic feeling and the principle of harmony and unity.

1. Be particular about wearing a suit
A suit is a garment that people often wear in social occasions.But some people look elegant and chic when they wear suits, while others always feel wrong when they wear suits.The reason is that they do not know the knowledge of wearing a suit and do not follow the rules.

In a suit, except for a decorative handkerchief on the left chest of the jacket, other external pockets are not suitable for putting things.Wallets, pens, business card holders, etc. are best placed in a briefcase. If it is not convenient to carry a briefcase, you can put these things in the inner side pocket of the jacket.

In formal occasions, a suit is required to wear a tie, but in informal occasions it is not necessary.But at this time, the top button of the shirt should not be fastened, and a high-necked cotton sweater should not be worn inside, so as not to expose the cotton sweater after the collar of the shirt is opened, which is unsightly.It is best not to have a badge on the collar of a suit jacket, and it is better to have less decoration.

Suit jackets should not be too short and should wrap around the hips.The suit skirt should be long to the knee.

2. Don’t mess with your tie

Wearing a suit and tie has the finishing touch on aesthetics.Of course, you have to fight well, and playing randomly will definitely not have this effect.Generally speaking, what should be paid attention to when wearing a tie is: the color and pattern of the tie can be selected according to preferences, but "zebra matching" or "sika deer matching" should be avoided. "Zebra collocation" is striped tie with striped suit or striped shirt, "sika deer collocation" is plaid tie with plaid suit or plaid shirt.

Under normal circumstances, tie clips can be used without tie clips, but it is best to use tie clips to fasten your tie on formal occasions or meals.For example, when eating, if you don't "control" the tie, it may taste the taste of the meal with you.

3. Matters needing attention when wearing stockings

Stockings are an essential part of women's clothing.But many women don't pay attention to the details when wearing stockings, but only consider the matching of jewelry, shoes, hats and handbags.As a result, although the latter is very coordinated, the overall effect is affected by the improper collocation of the former.

The stockings should be higher than the hem of the skirt, and no legs can be exposed whether sitting or standing.Otherwise, it will give people a sense of frivolity and create a sense of mistrust.

Do not wear stockings that have threads or holes.It is common for people to use nail polish to glue the holes in stockings, and then wear them after they are glued.In fact, instead of wearing such stockings, it is better to go barefoot.

4. It is best not to wear sunglasses when meeting for the first time
Some people think that wearing sunglasses is cool, but it is recommended that you take them off when you meet someone for the first time, so that people can see your eyes.Otherwise, the first impression of sunglasses will be negative.

5. Ten small details of wearing a suit

Do not wear white socks when wearing a suit, especially a dark suit, be sure to match socks of the same color.

The trademark on the cuff of the suit must be cut off.

The shirt of the suit must be clean, and there should be no dirty neckline or cuffs.

The cuffs of the shirt should be about 1 cm longer than the cuffs of the suit.

The suit must be ironed and crisp, not wrinkled.

Men in suits should show a gentleman's demeanor, have the attitude of "standing like a pine, sitting like a bell", and don't forget to have an elegant manner in front of women.

Three points and one line: For a well-dressed man, the opening of his shirt collar, belt buckle, and outside front opening of his trousers should be in a line.

If you wear a tie, the tip of the tie should never touch the belt.

Unless you're untying your tie, it's rude to loosen your tie knot anytime, anywhere.

If you're wearing a suit and no tie, you can wear those loafers; if you're wearing a tie, absolutely no.

6. Don’t forget to look in the mirror before going out
Before you go on a date, be sure to check your outfit in the mirror:

Check whether the tie is crooked, the buttons are not buttoned, the shoelaces are tied, and the trousers are not zipped.

Check if the collar is dirty, if the sleeves are dirty, if the shoes are polished.

See if the beard is clean and the hair is combed.

After you have checked all these and found no problems, you can go to the appointment with vigor.

Pay attention to the information you want to express

If the quality of clothing indicates a person's identity, then its color and style convey his personality information, such as whether the person is fashionable or conservative, noble or easy-going, whether he is Rigorous or open.Some familiar public figures have their own unique labels on their clothing.Jay Chou's peaked cap and Yang Erche Namu's hot-colored dress all left a deep impression on people.Even though they were also wearing dark suits, Bai Yansong and Shui Junyi matched them well, while Li Yong wore sequins and lace all over his body. Once he stood in front of the stage, the atmosphere could be either dignified or relaxed, and there was a difference immediately.

What kind of clothing to choose is not just a matter of personal preference, but your opinion and style will be fully reflected in it.

Margaret Thatcher, the first female prime minister in British history, was very particular about her makeup and clothing.In her body, there is no jewelry and elegance of ordinary women, only elegance, simplicity and neatness.Since she was a girl, Margaret has paid great attention to her clothes, but she is not unconventional or grandstanding, but simple, generous, clean and tidy.Since college, she has been employed by Bendis Corporation.Every Friday afternoon, when she goes to participate in political activities, she wears an old-fashioned cap, a black dress, old-fashioned leather shoes, and a handbag under her arm, looking dignified and sophisticated.Although some people laughed at her for dressing conservatively, she had her own unique insights: such a dress can gain the trust of others and establish prestige in political activities.Her clothes are never wrinkled, and it is her usual style to make people feel organized.These all played a crucial role in her later political career.

Although dressing is a personal hobby, it can reflect your habits and personality traits, so it can also reveal some "non-verbal information" about you to others.If you dress very dignified and conservative all the time, others will think you are a stiff and serious person; if you dress fashionable and keep changing with the trend, others will think you are a lively and open person; If you are untidy and unkempt, others will think you are a careless, sloppy person, or a down and out person; if you are always neatly dressed and every piece of clothing is ironed, then others will think you are very careful and particular. people.

People in the literary, art and entertainment circles are free to choose clothing.Their selling point is their own personality, lazy, decadent or novel styles, all of which can be staged beautifully and shock people's attention.And most of us serve a certain company or a certain department of the government. In these workplaces, we are required to use the overall style as the style to show a good public image.If you like to study clothing and have deep insights into how to wear professional style, if you don’t let you enjoy the fun of matching, it’s simply burying your genius.In addition, if you don't have the time or interest to work on your clothes, it's safe to dress conservatively.At the very least, it cannot form a strong contrast with your own identity.

In the 1988 U.S. presidential election, before George Bush made his debut, it was Gary Hart who stole the show.He has worked his way through a series of tense contests to become the Democratic frontrunner.Just when Hart was celebrating his victory, he didn't expect that the reporter's camera lens had been aimed at him.On the sea from North Miami Beach to Bemily, the high-end cruise ship "Mischief" was moving happily. There were four people on board, one of whom was Hart.He looked in high spirits in bright red sweatpants.Once ashore, one of the four, a pretty fraternity fraternity named Donna Rice, snuggled into Hart's arms.Reporters captured the moment, a moment of historic proportions that plummeted Hart's worth.

The Mischief became a harbinger of bad luck for Hart, with a "sweet beginning" ending with a "bitter end." The "Miami Herald" published Hart's "peachy news", which made Hart fall into a tight siege.The public opinion circle made a big fuss about Hart's love of wearing "red pants". They said: "Is a senator wearing fancy red pants fit to sit in the White House?" In the end, Hart suffered a crushing defeat and withdrew from the election in embarrassment.

Hart wore red trousers as a hobby, and he tried to show his energy during the campaign to get the attention of voters and thus win the competition, but in reality, he had strayed into the communication of color misunderstanding.Red symbolizes women and love. People often refer to love dreams as rose-colored dreams, and love turmoil is called "peachy news".Hart's wearing red trousers during this extraordinary period of the election will naturally give people a feeling of not being dignified enough, and it is definitely not in line with the image positioning of the national leader.

Hart's defeat reminds us of a clothing blunder that often occurs in everyday working life: I'm already expensive enough and classy enough, why don't I get the corresponding recognition?The most likely reason for this is that our image positioning of ourselves has deviated.It is inappropriate for a politician to dress too frivolously, but if a preschool teacher has too sharp body, a fitness instructor wraps himself up too tightly, and a professional in advertising design wears mediocre clothes, then they Professionalism and creativity will be questioned.They are different from the characters people expect, their popularity will decline rapidly, and there will not be much room for development.

What kind of dressing style you like is one thing, and what the social environment requires you to wear is another matter. No matter what role you are in, you can't escape this rule.

It goes without saying who Bill Gates is.In daily activities, Bill Gates' T-shirt and sneakers have almost become his signature. He has become the world's richest man if he is casual. There should be no rules to restrain him, right? In June 2004, Bill Gates visited China. When he called on Premier Wen Jiabao of the State Council, he wore a formal suit and tie, showing that he attached great importance to the relationship with the Chinese government.

As long as a person still has ideals in his heart, he cannot escape the big framework of society.

We often say a word - "confidence", which refers to the important role of language in conveying aura.The momentum of language is one of the most powerful weapons to influence others.Sound, as the most basic form of communication between people, is an effective tool to convey momentum.When we communicate with people, more than 50% of what influences others is not what we say, but how we say it.People's language ability is divided into big and small, and the effect of speaking is also very different.If you are good at talking, you will undoubtedly have an extra competitiveness in this arena of life where there are many strong players.

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