speak humor, be humorous

Chapter 21 Humor in Interpersonal Communication (2)
The power of humor is unforgettable, and it also gives people friendship and tolerance. Humor can make oneself optimistic and open-minded. Not only that, humor can also lubricate the relationship between people in reality, and surpass the limitations that cannot be surpassed by other methods.

On one bus, a female passenger kept bothering the driver by reminding him where she was going to get off after every short distance.The driver listened patiently until she yelled: "How do I know if I have arrived at the place where I want to get off?" place."

Due to the interference of the female passenger, the driver of the bus may not be able to drive the car well, but the driver can't outright offend the female passenger. into an embarrassing situation.

Robert Stevenson once said: "Generally, people who have mastered the power of humor have a superior personality, can feel their own strength freely, and deal with any difficult situation alone." Facing embarrassing situations in life We might as well use humor to deal with and resolve it.

Humorous greetings can bring the psychological distance closer

Greetings are an important part of people's daily communication.Because acquaintances who meet often cannot always have a lot to say, and there is no extra time to stand on the road and chat endlessly as soon as they meet.Once you meet an acquaintance, if you don't say hello because you think it's troublesome, it's too unreasonable, and it can't buffer the subconscious tension that acquaintances encounter when they meet.

But too general pleasantries often make people feel that life is boring.In order to add fun to life and maintain good interpersonal relationships, we can try to break the routine and inject humor into our greetings.The following is a typical humorous pleasantries story.

It rained for several days in a row. Several colleagues from a certain company met, and one of them said, "Why does it keep raining these days?" An honest colleague replied as usual: "Yes, it has been 6 God." A colleague who likes to work overtime said: "Hey, Lord Dragon also wants to get more bonuses, so he works overtime for days." Another colleague who pays attention to municipal affairs said: "The real estate office forgot to repair the house, so it always leaks .” Another colleague who loves literature is even more humorous: “Shhh! Keep your voice down, don’t disturb the Jade Emperor reading a long tragedy.”

The greetings with humor added are indeed different, lively and funny, and the distance between people is shortened at once.

Many seniors with a sense of humor like to have good-natured jokes with their juniors.So, when you meet elderly neighbors when you just go out, you can chat with them humorously, so that it is easy to build a good relationship with them, and under normal circumstances, they will compliment you on your ability to talk.

On a hot day, Xiao Wang hurried to work in the company while the weather was cool.As soon as she left the house, she saw her neighbor Aunt Liu practicing her waist and legs under the shade of a tree.She walked over to Aunt Liu mysteriously and said: "Auntie, practice so early, don't wear a sweater to be careful of catching cold." All of a sudden, Aunt Liu laughed and scolded: "You ghost girl! I won't let you go to work again." But I’m going to be late, it’s already past 9 o’clock.” Xiao Wang hurriedly checked his watch when he heard it, it was only 8 o’clock.It was only when Aunt Liu smiled triumphantly that she realized that she had been fooled.From then on, every time Aunt Liu saw Xiao Wang, she took the initiative to say hello to Xiao Wang, praised Xiao Wang for being smart and smart, and introduced Xiao Wang to someone.

In many cases, recent major events will also become the topic of people's pleasantries.Because everyone is concerned about major events, people can find a common language in it, and avoid the embarrassment caused by non-speculative conversations.Here's an example of using a big event to create humor in a small talk.

In the past few years, due to the impact of the El Niño phenomenon, the climate was abnormal. When it was approaching summer, people were still wearing thick clothes.The first sentence of many acquaintances after meeting is: "The weather is too abnormal. It's already past April in the lunar calendar, and the weather is still so cold." However, a humorous car driver didn't say that. He saw his colleague Master Li When he said: "Master Li, it's almost the beginning of autumn, and the sweater is on again." When he saw his neighbor, Mr. Zhang, he would deliberately ask humorously: "Mr. Zhang, you have never experienced such a long period of time." It’s winter, so it’s still so cold at this time?” Uncle Zhang is also a humorous person, he said with a smile: “Yeah, maybe God is not in a good mood recently, and he always has a cold face.”

Now that people's living standards have improved, people like to "praise others for being rich" as a topic of greetings, especially in rural areas, where such seemingly vulgar greetings often happen.In fact, amusedly boasting that others are rich in greetings will also have a good humorous effect.

Aunt Li happened to meet Da Liu after lunch, and Da Liu exchanged greetings routinely: "Auntie, have you had lunch yet?" Since Aunt Li is called Da Niang, she is not young, but she is cheerful all day long. It seems to be younger than Da Liu.She replied, "Hey, I haven't eaten yet. You didn't eat something good for lunch, and you didn't invite me to eat it. Look, your mouth is full of oil now!"

Aunt Li humorously praised Da Liu for living a good life. Her false accusations towards Da Liu seemed very affectionate and pleasant, which naturally shortened the distance between her and Da Liu, and successfully shaped her own approachable and amiable personality. Elder image.

Don't underestimate the humor of pleasantries, it can make you bring laughter and happiness to others unconsciously, and shorten the psychological distance between yourself and others.

Straightforward, humorous

There is such a conversation.

Someone once asked Lu Xun at a banquet: "Sir, why is your nose broken?"

Lu Xun replied with a smile, "I hit a wall."

Lu Xun's answer contained both dissatisfaction with the social reality and ridicule of his rough life experience. Such a rich content of social significance combined with the natural physiological characteristics of an ugly factor such as "slumped nose bridge", it is very convenient. An indescribable sense of humor developed.

Paradoxical, or even misleading, explanations of things can express ridicule and produce humor.This method is called "distortion method".Let's look at a few examples of distorted solutions.

A: Why are salted duck eggs salty?

B: Salted duck eggs are born from salted ducks!
A: Why do fish live in water?

B: Because there are cats on the ground.

A: Does your dog have fleas?
B: No, it only gives birth to puppies.

A: Briefly describe the benefits of breastfeeding.

B: Easy to carry.

The humor produced by the above misinterpretations is either due to the "witness" of the humorist or the "strangeness" of the humorist.

Using the distorted solution method, because you can let go of the wings of imagination and explain things as you like, many smart people often use it to solve problems.

A few years ago, a publisher in the United States had a batch of unsalable books that could not be sold for a long time.One day, he suddenly had an idea, so he sent a book to the president and asked for his opinions over and over again.The president, who was busy with government affairs, didn't want to entangle with him, so he replied: "This book is good."

The publisher advertised: "There are books that the president likes for sale." As a result, these books were sold out.

Soon, the publisher had another book that could not be sold, so he sent another one to the president.The President was fooled once and wanted to ridicule him by saying, "This book sucks."

Hearing this, the publisher changed his mind and advertised again: "There are books that the president hates for sale." Many people rushed to buy them out of curiosity, and the books were sold out.

For the third time, the publisher sent a book to the president again, and the president accepted the lesson of the previous two times without any reply.

But the publisher came up with a new phrase: "There are books that make it difficult for the president to draw conclusions. If you want to buy them quickly." This time the books were sold out again.

The final outcome is that the president can't laugh or cry, but the businessman has made a fortune.

Regarding the use of distorted humor, it is necessary to mention that "Devil's Dictionary" written by American Ann Beers is the most famous dictionary of satire, humor and irony in the West. "The classic work of Dacheng.Looking carefully at the explanations of the entries in the "Dictionary of the Devil", it seems unreasonable, but many times it is describing a kind of reality from different angles.

This also reminds us that when looking at the humor concocted by "distorted interpretations", we should not think that it is all crooked and unreasonable, and we should pay attention to hitting the right one!

Laugh at life, lift up your spirits

Use a smile to face the little things that can cause us unhappiness in daily life, and watch the unhappiness disappear.By laughing and sharing, you can put trivial problems in their proper place, so that they seem small in comparison with your whole life; you can also remind others, which helps them to easily ground. For things, you will revive them.

Let's talk about the weather, take the weather as the theme, and tell a joke.

I have found that jokes about the weather lift the spirits of the listeners, especially if the weather is too cold, too hot or too humid.In your own life, try this "stimulant" too!

"Forecasters said fog this morning. My neighbor stepped out the front door this morning and now he's salvaging his body in the fog."

"It was so cold in my office that my desk chair had to be fitted with snow tires."

"If there's another bad winter like this, I'm going to retire. I'm going to strap a snow shovel to the roof and drive south until someone points at the shovel and says, 'What's that thing for? of?' I'll stop."

For a playful explanation of weather that's too wet or too dry, try telling a story like this.

A tourist who first arrived in New Mexico asked a local resident whose skin was bronzed by the sun: "Does it never rain here?"

The resident thought about it, and then asked:
"Do you still remember how in the story of Noah and the Ark it was said that it rained continuously for forty days and nights?"

"Of course I remember." The tourist replied.

"Back then," said the New Mexican, "we only had an inch of rain here."

When you wait, share it with a smile.When you're at the supermarket checkout or in a long queue at the bank, do you wait in line like everyone else, or share your powers of humor with others.

"It's a law of nature, the row I'm not lining up always moves faster!"

"Fast is not necessarily the best. Otherwise, the rabbits would have ruled the world long ago."

When standing in line at the supermarket you can say:
"I bought a flounder, but after waiting in line for so long, now I get a dried flounder."

Take golf as the theme and make your own jokes.Or bowling, fishing, tennis, boating, bridge—any pastime that enlivens your resting life can be the subject of humor.you can say:
"Competition in politics teaches us that it's not just fishers and golfers who twist facts."

A golfer asks his caddy, "What did you think of my round?"

"Not bad," the caddy replied, "but I prefer the golf ball itself."

"My doctor said I can't play," one player said.

The companion said: "Oh, he must have played with you."

Professional golfer Nicholas once asked professional baseball player Olone, "What kind of golfer are you?"

"In baseball, it took me 17 years to hit 3 balls," Olone replied, "but it took me 000 years to hit that many balls in one afternoon on the golf course."

It seems that golf, more than other ball games, can inspire people's power of humor and make interesting thinking.There are plenty of jokes about this, but other sports, other pastimes have humor too.

Being who you are and being honest and open with others can help us admit that we sometimes doubt ourselves or feel insecure about ourselves.Through the power of humor, we are more able to acknowledge this insecurity without taking it too seriously.Then we can remove our doubts, strengthen our self-concept, and secure the foundations of our humanity.

At the same time, we don't have to worry about being too open, because we can be confident that our flaws, background, and circumstances, past or present, whether good or bad, are better than trying to hide them from us in the past.

1 minute of little humor and great wisdom
◎ Wisdom save hometown
The ancient Greek philosopher Anaximenes was born in Lepsax, Central Asia.He has a deep affection for his hometown.Once, he followed Alexander on an expedition to Persia, and when the army occupied Lepsax, he was eager to save his hometown from military disaster.

One day, he paid homage to the king for this purpose.But Alexander already knew his purpose, and before he could speak, he said, "I swear to God, I will never agree to your request."

"My lord, I beseech you to order the destruction of Lepsax!" cried the philosopher.Lepsax was saved by the wisdom of the philosopher.

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