Aura Compilation Manual

Chapter 21 Part4: How to Make an Aura Star (2)
In Los Angeles, a female friend of mine once told me that there was a female colleague in her company. When the two met for the first time, the woman looked ashen, as if she had come to work in the company without washing her face. The field has a smooth and hard feel to it.Sure enough, in their relationship afterwards, the woman was slick and caring, and she tried her best to flatter her boss in front of her boss, betraying her friends for a little convenience, selfish and without long-term vision.My friend and she have always been out of tune, and the two had a lot of verbal conflicts, so they couldn't cooperate well together.In the end, my friend chose to resign voluntarily and switched to another company in order to avoid the influence of this weak aura on him.

Later facts proved that her judgment was correct, and the primacy effect was once again fulfilled!After the woman got married, she rented an old and small house with her husband. After the child was born, life became more difficult, and her performance in the company naturally became more short-sighted.Maybe in another ten years, she will still be the poorest person in their office.Because the seeds of fate had been planted from the very beginning, unless she suddenly woke up and made the greatest determination to change herself!

Attraction from "first sight"

The law at first glance, the most typical cases usually appear between men and women.In the mysterious age of creation, when God brought Eve to Adam, Adam must have been filled with joy and satisfaction, and they couldn't wait to live together in the Garden of Eden.But the "Bible" does not tell us that the two of them fell in love at first sight?What factors moved Adam and Eve so that they immediately thought they should be together?Is it as attractive as the diva Beyoncé's amazing performance at the awards show?She showed off a huge diamond ring worth 500 million US dollars, which immediately caught the audience's attention. Should the first impression have such a shocking effect?

Obviously, the most important thing for the first sight law must be the appearance. There are huge differences in the appearance of men and women, and they send out attractive information and smells to each other, so that both parties can't help but feel: he (she) is what I need people.

Under normal circumstances, the symmetry of the face is considered to be the best indicator of genetic quality, and it is also the characteristic that we are most attractive to the opposite sex.Therefore, people pay special attention to appearance when forming their first impression.Moreover, whether in Eastern or Western culture, men and women with symmetrical faces are usually considered the most attractive, and their initial aura is often surprisingly large.Just like when you suddenly see a stunning beauty or a handsome guy like Beckham on the streets of New York, you will quickly turn your head to her (him), and you will never forget this feeling for a long time, and you will even try to get this Contact information of the person, have a cup of coffee or make a date with her (him).

Many experts have conducted special research on this. Estelle Desfelice, a professor at the School of Biology and Biodiversity at the University of Valencia, believes that when people choose a partner with a symmetrical face in their marriage and love life, they are doing it for themselves. Future children choose good genes.However, another study showed that women with the most symmetrical looks tend to be with the richest people; men with the most symmetrical looks lose the purity of sex, they have more sexual partners, and in relationships The financial resources invested are less, and they are the least loyal to their feelings.Can we say that the law of first sight has completely different criteria for judging men and women?
Men seem to think about practical uses, for women they tend to think about sex, for work, colleagues and bosses, they don't care much about appearance, but about "what can I get from the other party".Therefore, in front of men, if a person has extraordinary leadership and aura of opportunity, this man may be conquered quickly.

The first sight of a woman is far from simple.They care about looks, but they are more suspicious and more thoughtful.What women most want to pursue is a stable life, including material security, so rich men are often their first choice.Even among men of the same sex, a woman doesn't really want poor friends, but someone who can help her enjoy shopping and improve her quality of life.

Mario Luna, a scientist who studies sexual attraction and author of "Sex Code", once said: "Sexual attractiveness and its role answer people's most ambitious goals, the most important of which is the intersection of genes, helping the body to acquire As many high-quality genes as possible. In order to achieve this, men and women choose different paths and adopt different flirting strategies...These differences lead to many misunderstandings and mistakes in the process of finding a partner."

What I need to explain here is that the law of first sight is just a judgment rule for aura, not a rigorous scientific law.People's first impression is not necessarily absolutely correct, and sometimes it is very subjective, which requires us to strengthen training and research in this area.Some people look at your manners first, so people who behave well will inevitably be liked by others; some people look at your clothes, others look at your temperament, and some even look at your back and secretly study your walking posture.In this regard, we need to always pay attention to our own image, strive to speak and behave in a decent manner, without leaving a trace of flaws, and strive to highlight our own advantages.

There is also a new point of view that charm, aura, and a person's most primitive attraction are often uncontrollable, and are determined by our innate genes and long-term living environment.If we meet a very attractive person, we can feel it at once, and use their outstanding characteristics as our criterion for evaluating whether they have aura.And some people, you will feel that there is a problem at first glance, no matter how hard he tries to adjust, you will feel awkward.In fact, this is exactly the bad result caused by a person who lacks targeted training. Temporary adjustments always have little effect. To make yourself a winner of the first-look law, you must start now and make long-term training psychological preparation.

A successful first impression comes from the right positioning
In reality, people's impressions formed based on the information they initially obtained (at first glance) are not easy to change. When this inherent attitude is formed, it will even affect the judgment of new information obtained later.That is to say, after you have identified a certain person as a jerk from the very beginning, for a long period of time, he must be an "unchanging jerk" in your eyes.First impressions are so hard to change, which just proves the urgency of making a good first impression.Don't lose your first chance again, because few people will give you another chance.

The impression we get when we first interact with people determines whether our aura is bright or not.Therefore, you must first pay attention to your appearance and demeanor, do your homework before you go out, and don't run out of the house without looking in the mirror.People are willing to contact and interact with neatly dressed and graceful people, and hate those rude guests who smell of alcohol and are disheveled.Secondly, you should pay attention to your manners. A person with humorous words and elegant manners can often leave an unforgettable impression on people.

When you grasp these two points, at least the law of first glance will not treat you badly.A good first impression will play a subtle role in the formation of our aura. As long as we grasp it accurately and persist for a long time, it is not difficult to change the bad image in the past.

◎Conversation skills

In the United States, many people ask me: "Paul, I understand the importance of conversation, but I really don't know how to start a conversation, especially when I am with strangers, I find the atmosphere awkward. No matter what is discussed, it is difficult. It’s really embarrassing to find the best entry point.” Yes, even in the well-prepared training sessions, they often feel that there are many obstacles, and they are flustered inside before they can say anything.Even those who have rich and interesting thoughts sometimes face this trouble, they lack the skills of conversation, and it is always difficult to achieve the best results.

Take it easy when talking
The reason so many people find it difficult to be good conversationalists is that they are constantly on edge, constantly worried that what they are saying will be superficial, or insincere, and not effective as they should be.Or they are afraid that what they say is of no value to the other party, which may cause the other party's contempt and indifference, or that the way of talking is not suitable for a certain occasion.Obviously, when you are in this kind of distress, you can't be an aura star, but more like an aura clown who doesn't know where to put yourself.

My remedy is this: Whenever a man removes the mental block that prevents him from speaking, and allows his own tongue to move freely, the conversation must be smooth, friendly, and exciting.

Emotional relaxation is the foundation of our successful conversations with others, so don't be on edge all the time, trying desperately to squeeze a few aphorisms and quotes out of your head.It is unrealistic to always hope to finish everything in one sentence, and it is often self-defeating.Only when you relax and no longer fear, will the famous sayings with remarkable effect be produced naturally.

It can be said that even in the most provocative and classic conversations, more than 50% of the content is not only trite, but also meaningless-if these sentences are taken alone.At least in the initial stages of the conversation, we couldn't and couldn't get there.Can you bring a bottle of water to a boil in under a second?That would just cause an explosion.Only after a heating process will the wheels of thought on both sides turn.With a good and relaxed conversation mood as the foreshadowing, the participants will gradually bring the conversation to the topic, and you will have a pleasant conversation.

enrich your conversation

If you just say some polite words, no matter how good the mood is, it will become dull in the end.We may of course start off with witty and meaningless things, and this brief foreshadowing is necessary to create a lighthearted atmosphere, and you need to recognize that and not worry about looking awkward. rigid.That shouldn't be the whole story, though.You always keep the conversation on track, offering surprising wit and interesting things, at least things you both care about.

Let me tell you, at any time, you must not expect the other party to be enthusiastic at the beginning. Good talkers always wait until the other party becomes enthusiastic before trying to elicit some interesting ideas from them.For example, he will first ask: "Excuse me, what is your name? Where are you from? What does your husband do? How long are you going to stay here? Did you come to this city by plane?" interest in conversation.

But who really cares?We are all waiting for the other's true purpose.Conversations that end after pleasantries are pointless and a waste of time.You need to start the real conversation at the right moment, show your style and wisdom, and get what you want out of it.

Make the other person talk about themselves actively

Many topics can be used to stimulate the other party's thinking, such as: "Mr. Hans, where are you from?" "How long do you plan to stay here?" "What do you think of the climate here?" "What unit do you work in?" ?” “Are you interested in the gaming industry here?” “What kind of food do you like? I can invite you to taste it when I have time.” Such topics can easily make others enthusiastic, because they all It is to let the other person talk about themselves.

When the other person takes the initiative to introduce themselves to you, your conversation is half the battle.Your question shows your interest in him, and his answer also shows that he wants you to know him deeply, and he also wants to know more about you.

keep the conversation going

I always think that it is not difficult to become an excellent conversationalist, it does not depend too much on how many interesting things you can think of, conquer each other with exquisite language, or use some legendary words related to you Impressing that person depends on whether you can inspire, induce others to speak, and make the conversation go smoothly.

If you can inspire others to talk and make the whole process pleasant and smooth, you will be honored as an excellent conversationalist.In this process, the other party will strongly feel your extraordinary aura and be overwhelmed by your demeanor.This is an extremely critical ability.Yes, you can make someone talk and keep him going, and all will want to be with you.When we achieve this effect, he will be more interested in you and more receptive to your point of view.

(End of this chapter)