Eloquence Psychological Manipulation: Improving Language Ability and Improving the Quality of Life

Chapter 28 Psychological Manipulation of Love: Sweet Talk, Expressed with "Heart" (2)
Of course, as a woman, you must also pay attention to your own words and deeds. Pretentiousness, deepness, whine, chatter, vulgar speech, and mean speech are all very criticized by men.Therefore, both men and women should pay attention to their speech, because it reflects your upbringing and who you are.People are beautiful because they are cute. Whether your words are cute or not determines your popularity, whether you can win the other person's favor and whether your relationship is smooth or not.So get rid of those annoying talking habits of yours now, even if you're not in a relationship yet, getting rid of them can make you more personable and popular.

5. Don't impress your heart on a date
Whether the impression of the date and parting can stir up waves in the other party's heart is enough to affect the outcome of the entire date. Success or failure depends largely on the performance at the last moment.

The "goodbye" that most men say when they are dating and saying goodbye is mostly taken for granted, and it really does not reflect the tenderness and affection between lovers.How can we reflect the reluctance when we are separated?Here are some great ways to say goodbye.

1. Tell how you feel.When saying goodbye, tell the other party how you feel during the date, and praise the other party appropriately, which will make the other party have endless aftertaste.

Standing in the evening breeze, standing under the hazy moonlight, you can say to her: "It was an unforgettable night." Even if the other party does not suffer from insomnia tonight, she will spend most of the night thinking about your words and your words. A scene from a date.Complimenting the other party during the conversation will easily be regarded as a compliment by the other party.But the praise when saying goodbye has an extraordinary effect.

2. Take the way of lingering sound.At the right time, you can tell her: "I really don't want to go back here." This is hundreds of times stronger than your cliché "goodbye" with a smile.After hearing such words, I believe that any woman will feel grateful, and maybe she will hug you affectionately for a while.

Or after saying goodbye, when the other party has walked a few steps away, you suddenly run up to give her a kiss, and tell her softly: "Have a good dream." She will definitely be flattered and love you even more.

3. Silent language.Quarreling is also a very common thing in love, and it will be fine once you apologize to each other, but self-esteem and reserve make it difficult for girls to do this.Well, when a date is about to end in unpleasant fashion.The girl might as well walk over, hold his shoulder with one hand, and draw three words "I'm sorry" earnestly on his back with the other hand, all misunderstandings can be passed, and such silent words are worth a thousand words.

Love is beautiful and romantic in everyone's mind, and dating is the most brilliant splendor of this romantic feast. Whether you can keep this splendor in the heart of the other party and win her heart depends on the words you say after dating. to realise.Say goodbye cleverly after a date, that kind of warmth and thoughtfulness will make the lover reluctant to part, never forget, and have endless aftertaste.

A good date can be transformed into a sweet memory and a beautiful marriage, and the words after the date play the role of a key link, linking two hearts that might have been hesitant.Because no one can predict how the relationship between the two will progress.But everyone has inexplicable expectations for a good result in their minds.Dating is to fulfill this expectation, and effective words make this expectation change from uncertainty to certainty.When the other party receives a positive signal of hope for further development from you, his (her) thoughts will also unconsciously move in the same direction, and the original hesitant mind will also become firm.In this way, love will naturally blossom and bear fruit easily.

6. Nicknames shorten the distance between each other
The appellation expresses the communicator's unique feelings for each other, and it is even more charming among lovers.Salutation can make people feel the distance between the two parties in the conversation.Close friends and friends who have a good impression of each other will affectionately call each other by nicknames or nicknames.

Most young people nowadays like to give their colleagues or friends nicknames that are easy to call. Therefore, for different degrees of nicknames, men often do not realize how much difference they represent.For men, nicknames are just a tool for them to address them.And once these are used between the opposite sex, there will be subtle changes.Therefore, once a boy's address to a girl suddenly becomes affectionate, it implies a different meaning.In love, as the relationship between the two deepens day by day, the titles between lovers also change.Nicknames, nicknames or nicknames that are only known between two people can not only create a special emotional atmosphere, but also reflect the intimacy, warmth, harmony, intimate and deep feelings between lovers.

From acquaintance to acquaintance to love, there is a law of development between a man and a woman. This law is not only reflected in the hints of eye-catching glances and sweet whispers, but also in the change of address.The other party who is in love hopes to hear a title different from other people from the loved one, which in a sense shows that he is different in the other party's mind, and only he can use or have such a title.Although this unique title between lovers seems simple, it is a manifestation of psychological possessiveness, and it also makes the love relationship between each other natural and intimate.As the transmitter of feelings between lovers, intimate terms make the relationship between each other sweeter, and also virtually shorten the psychological distance between the two parties.Subtle changes in addressing between lovers reflect changes in the intensity of love.

If you have been dating your girlfriend for a long time and she has not changed your name, it means that there is still a psychological distance between her and you, and it may even be that she has no intention of entrusting her life to you.Even if she calls you by your name very affectionately at first, if she doesn't go any further, it's a sign that your relationship is going nowhere.As the relationship between the two continues to heat up, take the opportunity to change what you call her, especially the nickname that the two of you created together, which will help further deepen your relationship.

Nicknames contain too much tenderness, which shows that the psychological distance between lovers is constantly shortening.It has a variety of poses and a high degree of concealment, and is generally only used in private, such as "sweetheart", "dear", and "baby". These nicknames have almost become patents between lovers.However, you must grasp the fire when using nicknames. If you use them too early, it may be difficult for the other party to accept, especially if the other party is a steady, introverted, shy girl. Using nicknames too early may make her feel that you are too human. Being frivolous will create resistance to you psychologically, and may even scare the other party away.Therefore, when using a nickname, only by grasping the other party's careful thinking and the degree of language can the love proceed smoothly.

7. Implicit words, clear love
Love is a poem, if it is poured out completely, it will have no artistic conception and taste the same; if it is implicit and hazy, the artistic conception will be far away and refreshing.The beauty of love requires the beauty of the way of love: the volcanic eruption is concealed under the calm surface; rich connotations are hidden under the simple appearance.

Both men and women in the love stage long for each other's comfort, but not just saying "I love you" can make everything go well.During this period, when expressing love to the other party, whether it is communicating face-to-face, passing messages or writing letters, you must be natural and sincere, and use appropriate language.If you are very direct, you will often cause the other party to misunderstand, and even be afraid and dodge in a hurry.Such examples abound in life.

A boy just met his girlfriend twice before writing a love letter with more than [-] words.At the beginning, it said: "My dearest..." The whole letter was run through with "My heart, baby...", and my girlfriend blushed after reading it.The message of such passionate words to girls is: that boy is frivolous and not serious, so the relationship ends.

At the beginning of a relationship, frivolous language often causes the other party to misunderstand and give people a sense of superficiality.Although today's society has become very open, the traditional aesthetic habits of most Chinese people have not changed, that is, half-covered and half-exposed is the most precious.If the two parties love each other and have a good heart, then a loving look in the eyes and a clever and decent word are enough. The three words "I love you" cannot be said casually, but should be said when it is a matter of course.

If your sweetheart has a high cultural quality and comprehension ability, the expression that is not obvious can better reflect the mystery and romance of love, full of fun.

People in love, especially women, are mostly very sensitive, and they always treat their feelings cautiously and on thin ice. Of course, she hopes that her love can be sweet, but she also hopes that her love can last long and bear fruit.When your relationship has not reached a certain level, too hot and strong expressions will "scald" the other party.

Therefore, even if you are already madly in love and have made up your mind not to marry if you are not a lover, you should also take into account the other party's feelings and psychological changes, so as not to go too far and scare the other party away.Using implicit language to express clear love can not only avoid the other party from being intimidated, but also achieve better results.

Don't underestimate the power of subtlety, the same thing can't be done straightforwardly, but subtlety can easily complete the task.Learn to use your language in a relaxed and moderate way in love, and you will find that maintaining love is not as difficult as you imagined.

8. Bickering can increase the enthusiasm of a relationship
Bickering is different from quarreling. Bickering between lovers is often not to solve any substantive problems or make any crucial decisions, but to stimulate the collision of each other's hearts through the collision of language shells, so as to achieve a heart-to-heart relationship. We know each other and communicate with each other.

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