To communicate is to speak well

Chapter 6
In the greeting, should pay attention to the following points.

(1) Pay attention to the object.Greetings should vary from person to person, and don't be in the same tune for everyone.

(2) Pay attention to the environment.In different environments, different greetings should be used.

(3) Pay attention to moderation.Greetings should be done in moderation, and too many compliments will give people a sense of hypocrisy and politeness.

In short, proper greetings can comfort the unhappy, care for those who have been reunited after a long absence, and bring joy to neighbors and relatives, thereby communicating feelings, connecting friendships, and promoting interpersonal communication to a harmonious state.

make the other party willing to listen to us
Although some people do not have an advantage in content, their way of speaking can give people a very charming and comfortable feeling.After all, the speaker has his own nature, and each dialogue will have various echoes and reactions due to different speaking skills.So, what are the techniques for getting the other person to listen to us and stepping him into the perfect situation for the conversation?

1. Bright style
In life, most people don't like dark things, even plants need sunlight to grow.Therefore, words that give people a sense of gloom will make people feel doubt, disgust and oppression.Conversely, speaking concisely and clearly is easier for people to accept.

2. Unique sound
Some people's voices will give people a sense of enjoyment, because their (their) voices are really moving.When they (they) talk, they pay great attention to the voice of speaking, and the choice of voice depends entirely on their (their) talent, personality and emotion to be expressed.If possible, you can act as an object yourself, record your own words and listen carefully. You may be surprised to find that there are so many problems in your own speaking.In this way, if you check frequently, your pronunciation skills will continue to improve.

3. Affirmative tone
Everyone has self-esteem, and it's easy to feel damaged by something trivial.In this way, if you don't pay attention to the way you speak during the conversation, he (she) will immediately show a reflexive attitude of rejection.Therefore, if you want the other party to listen to you, you must first listen to what the other party wants to express.The so-called "affirmative tone of speech" does not refer to affirming the content of the other party's speech, but to pay attention to the vulnerable feelings of the other party.

4. Natural intonation
A natural voice is always pleasant, and we should pay attention to it in conversation. Conversation is not a drama. No matter what your tone is, it should be natural and smooth. A contrived voice can only lead to the opposite of what you want.When the person you are talking to is not one person but many people, you should use the following technique: when the voice of the previous person is loud, you should lower your voice when you start speaking, so that it is low, small and steady; When you are young, your opening sentence should be slightly raised, crisp and loud, to attract everyone's attention.

5. Language Standards
Human beings live in today's language environment and have their own standards for the use of language. Once the standards are not met, there will be a sense of incongruity, including tone and wording.In interpersonal relationships, it is indeed necessary to use appropriate language according to the actual situation or who the other party is.If we talk in the same terms as when we talk to colleagues, regardless of how close we are, the other party will not listen to us honestly.

"Great", "Great", "It's terrible" These are exclamations that ordinary girls often say when they speak.Of course, this is also an emotional expression.If there is no cadence in a sentence, it will be flat and will not arouse the interest of the other party; if some interjections can be added, it can enhance the atmosphere of the conversation between each other, but it should be done in moderation, too many interjections will also kill the meaning of the words. Importance so that the other party cannot tell what you mean.

6. Clear thinking
When the previous conversation was in a state of endless debate and no clue, if you stand up and speak, you must try to be short in sentence, decisive in voice, and organized.

When speaking in public, you have to figure out what, how, and to what extent you speak.In addition, it is best not to be caught in the middle, either rush to the front, or talk at the end, so as to make people impressed.

Eight Ways to Make an Opening Impression
If you want to gain the favor of others when you speak, you can start from the following eight aspects.

1. Make more kind suggestions

When a person cares about you, as long as this concern will not hurt you, and the other party also makes some kind suggestions, of course you will gladly accept it and develop a good impression of this person.Then, in turn, if you treat others the same way, others will also have a good impression of you.

The best way to gratify another's self-esteem is to make a well-intentioned suggestion.When the other party is a woman, just saying "your hairstyle is beautiful" is just a simple compliment; if you say "slightly cut short, it will look cuter", the other party will definitely feel that you care about her.If you can continue to show this kind of concern, the other party will definitely be more kind and trusting to you.

2. Occasionally expose yourself to one or two minor flaws

Sometimes frankly exposing shortcomings will quickly gain the trust of the other party and leave an honest and honest impression on the other party.

It's just that exposing your own shortcomings is not unreservedly exposing all your shortcomings. Doing so will make people think you are worthless and lose trust in you.

It only needs one or two shortcomings to be exposed, which can make others associate these two shortcomings with other parts, thus creating the feeling that other parts have no shortcomings.For example: "This person has some minor flaws, but he can't find any faults in other aspects. He is a pretty good person." Ideas like the above can be deeply implanted in the hearts of others.This is by no means cunning, just a communication strategy and need.Because no one will take their own shortcomings and associate with others.

3. Remember what the other person said

Remembering what the other party said, and bringing it up as a topic later is one of the ways to show concern and one of the strategies for speaking.Especially interests, hobbies, dreams, etc. are the most important and interesting things for the other party. Once they are brought up as topics, the other party will definitely feel very happy.During the interview, if you can quote what the examiner has said, it will definitely make the examiner look at you differently and have a deep impression on you.

4. Pay attention to the slight changes of the other party

In life, generally husbands are not good at expressing their concern for their wives.For example, after a wife goes to a beauty parlor to change her hairstyle, she clearly feels that she "looks much younger," but she doesn't express anything, which makes the wife feel dissatisfied and feel that her husband doesn't care about her.

No matter who you are, you crave the attention of others.And for people who care about themselves, they generally have a good impression.Therefore, if you want to gain the favor of the other party, you must first actively express your concern.As long as you find a slight change in the other party's clothing or items used, don't begrudge your words and tell the other party immediately.For example, when a co-worker wears a new tie, you say: "New tie, where did you buy it?" Showing your concern like this will never make anyone feel unhappy.

In addition, when pointing out the changes between the other party and the past, the more subtle and difficult to discover the changes, the more happy the other party will be.This will not only make the other person feel your care, but also your care. In an instant, the relationship between you will be far closer than before.

5. Call the person by name

When Westerners speak, they frequently put each other's name on their lips.For example: "How about a cup of coffee, Mr. Lake?" "What do you think about this, Mr. Lake?" Doing so often creates a sense of intimacy in the other party, as if they have known each other for many years.One of the reasons is that he feels that the other party has recognized himself.

In our society, it is impolite for juniors to call their elders by their names directly.However, it is a very beneficial method for peers to increase mutual intimacy by calling each other's names frequently.

(End of this chapter)