Hypnosis: Psychological tricks in life

Chapter 20 Hypnotic Tricks in Life (7)
Rebellious psychology has certain advantages for individuals: it can publicize individuality, break through conventions, and is conducive to change and innovation. To a certain extent, it can show that the person concerned has courage and confidence, and dares to challenge the spirit and attitude of authority.If it can be reasonably stimulated, it will help a person to realize his potential.However, if the rebellious psychology is not used properly, it will cause people to form a narrow mentality and extreme behavior habits, confronting others everywhere, making themselves stubborn and extreme, and unable to objectively and accurately understand the true colors of things. No matter when and where, he always subconsciously runs counter to common sense and makes wrong choices and decisions.

Because the reverse psychology can cause such a psychological result, that is, the more you stop people from doing a certain behavior, the more they want to do it; if you insist on taking a certain action, the result will make the other party take the opposite action.Using this psychological effect, we can set up a small trap to stimulate the other party's rebellious psychology and make it take the initiative to get in, so as to achieve the purpose of changing people's certain behaviors.

In the preface of the book "Interesting Psychology", the Soviet psychologist Siratunov specifically reminded readers not to read the story in the fifth section of Chapter 8 first.Most readers, however, were aroused by their rebellious psychology because they were banned. Not only did they not follow the author's warning, but they adopted a completely opposite attitude. First, they couldn't wait to read the content of Chapter 8.In fact, this is also the original intention of the author. He uses people's rebellious psychology to achieve the purpose of making people pay attention to the content of Chapter 8.If he just said in the preface that the content of Chapter 8 is very exciting and I hope everyone reads it carefully, it will not be of much use.

It can be seen that cleverly using other people's rebellious psychology can effectively change their behavior. We must be good at using this, learn to persuade and persuade people in good faith, and at the same time be wary of others using rebellious psychology to provoke you and make you do things. Make an irrational choice.

People will have their own original desires and ideas in everything they do, and they don't want to be instructed or restricted by others.If you want to change their behavior, it can be achieved by cleverly using reverse psychology.At the same time, we must also be alert to others' malicious use of our rebellious psychology.

It can be seen that no matter men or women, elders or children, they all have some rebellious psychology in their hearts. As long as you are good at grasping that "rebellious bone" and twisting it lightly, even the emperor will inevitably be fooled.

Rebellious psychology is a common psychological state in people's hearts. Making good use of this psychology will bring you the beauty of ruthlessness.

Side-by-side, let the other party understand the implication.

When persuading people with higher status and status than ourselves, we sometimes need to say something that is unacceptable but has to be said. At this time, we can try to use the speaking skills of knocking mountains and shaking tigers, so that the other party can understand the elegance and accept it readily And without embarrassment.

In an accident, Lao Ma, the deputy factory director in charge of production, injured his left finger and was sent to the hospital for treatment. When Lao Ding, the factory director, came to visit the ward, he said that Xiao Wu and Xiao Qi, two young people in the workshop, had relatively strong technical skills but poor organizational discipline. The concept is poor, and I want them to be laid off.Lao Ma didn't express his position at the time, but suddenly held his hands and shouted "Ouch, Ouch".Director Ding hurriedly asked: "Does it hurt?" Lao Ma said: "No, it hurts too much, I might as well saw off my hand." Lao Ding hurriedly said: "Old Ma, are you confused by the pain? , Why do you want to saw off your hand when your finger is injured?" Lao Ma said: "You are very reasonable. Sometimes, when we look at a problem, we often ignore the other because we pay attention to one aspect. Lao Ding , my hand is injured and needs treatment, then Xiao Wu and Xiao Qi..." Lao Ding suddenly heard the "overtones" of Lao Ma, and hurriedly said: "Old Ma, thank you for enlightening me, Xiao Wu and Xiao Qi's I know how to deal with it."

Sometimes, when facing others, especially those with higher status than yourself, when they behave inappropriately, it is not easy for you to point out directly, in order to let them know their mistakes and correct them, this method is very effective.

In a well-known hotel in Guangzhou, a foreign guest quietly "inserted" the exquisite cloisonne chopsticks into his suit underwear pocket after eating the last tea.The waitress walked forward without showing any emotion, holding a small silk box with a pair of cloisonné chopsticks in both hands and said: "I found that when I was eating, my husband loved the cloisonné chopsticks of our country. Thank you very much. Your love for this kind of fine handicraft. In order to express our gratitude, with the approval of the restaurant supervisor, on behalf of the hotel, I will give you this pair of cloisonne chopsticks with the most exquisite patterns and strict disinfection treatment, and follow the hotel's' Preferential price' recorded in your account book, do you think so?" Of course the foreign guest understood the implication of these words, after expressing his thanks, he said that he drank two more glasses of "brandy", his head was a little dizzy, and he took the food by mistake. The chopsticks were inserted into the underwear pocket, and cleverly used this "step", saying: "Since this kind of chopsticks are not easy to use without disinfection, I will 'trade the old for the new'! Hahaha." He took out the chopsticks in the underwear pocket Respectfully put it back on the dining table, took the small box given to him by the waitress, and walked towards the cashier without losing grace.

It would be too easy for the waiter to want the foreign guest to "make a fool of himself", but instead of doing that, she gently hinted at the other party's fault.People who know the art of speaking often let the other party out of the embarrassment in such a quiet way.

Sometimes, when you clearly see someone's mistake, you don't say it directly, but beat around the bush, which is more acceptable to the other party.He'll understand that you're trying to save face, not embarrass him on purpose.

If you make a mistake, you will make a mistake.

When exerting our own hypnotic influence, we will inevitably say the wrong thing. What should we do if we say the wrong thing at a critical moment?Sometimes we can think about the method of making mistakes and making mistakes.

At a certain wedding banquet, there were a lot of guests, vying to bless the couple.A gentleman said excitedly: "After the season of love, we have entered the long journey of marriage. The world of love always needs to be lubricated. You are like a pair of old machines..." In fact, he wanted to say "New Machine", but blurted out the wrong word, which caused an uproar in the audience.A new couple is even more dissatisfied with their words, because they are both divorced and have gone through twists and turns to get married. Naturally, they think that the words just now are sarcasm.When the gentleman realized that he had made a mistake, he immediately calmed down, thought for a while, and added in a calm manner: "The running-in period has passed."The gentleman then said affectionately: "Bride and groom, I wish you will always be bathed in the spring breeze of love." There was thunderous applause in the hall, and the couple were already smiling like peach blossoms.

This guest's right to wrong is amazing.The wrong words were uttered, and the continuation was simply followed along the wrong place, but the context was subtly changed, turning the embarrassing aphasia into an affectionate blessing, and at the same time it revealed the twists and turns of the emotional journey and mutual understanding in the new world.

Sometimes, if some words are wrong, we can deliberately distort the meaning of the original words and give new meanings to the wrong words, so as to achieve the effect of instant hypnosis by means of wrong words.

A middle-aged actress wears a cheongsam made of black satin to a ball, and people rave about her.Only one outspoken girl said: "It's so old to wear this cheongsam!" As soon as she said it, she felt a slip of the tongue, and she calmly added, "Really, there are so many people wearing such a cheongsam on the street. Beautiful!" Sure enough, the following words made the actress very happy.Here, the girl cleverly substitutes the meaning of "older" with the meaning of "older" by the person wearing such a cheongsam, which not only saves the defeat, but also indirectly praises the other party for being fashionable, which can be described as ingenuity and luck.

One summer, Emperor Qianlong suddenly visited the Military Aircraft Department with several entourages.At this time, Ji Xiaolan was shirtless chatting with several staff members of the Military Aircraft Department.The others saw the emperor coming from a long distance, and hurriedly got up to meet him.This Ji Xiaolan was highly myopic, at first he didn't see Qianlong who was walking at the back, and when he understood what was going on, Qianlong was almost there.Ji Xiaolan thought to herself: Wouldn't it offend Long Yan if she just picked up the driver shirtless?Instead of doing nothing, Ji Xiaolan hid under the table while others were not paying attention.

Qianlong felt amused for a while, and wanted to punish Ji Xiaolan, so he motioned for others to keep silent. After a long time, Ji Xiaolan was sweating profusely, and he lowered his voice, shouting: "Hey, is there anyone? The old man is gone." Is it?" Qianlong listened to the truth, straightened his face, and shouted sharply: "Ji Xiaolan, come out." Ji Xiaolan had no choice but to get out from under the table to see him.

Qianlong pretended to be angry and shouted loudly: "Bold Ji Xiaolan, what do you mean by 'old man'? If you don't make it clear today, I will take your head!"

Ji Xiaolan calmed down a lot, wiping his sweat while thinking hard about countermeasures.Suddenly he had an idea, had an idea, and said unhurriedly: "Long live, please calm down, the 'old man' is out of respect for your old man, and has no other intentions. Long live, long live is considered 'old', all people in the world The head is the head. Ziwei is the son of heaven. This is why I call you an 'old man'." After hearing this, Qianlong clapped his hands and laughed: "What an 'old man', Ji Xiaolan, you are indeed a genius. "

Don't discuss the matter as it stands, but go to the end along a line of thought.You should adjust your thinking in time, change your angle, and find another way. Not only can you smooth things over for yourself, but it can also add a bit of elegance to your words and deeds.This depends on your resilience, and this ability is cultivated on a daily basis.Therefore, we must learn to analyze problems from multiple angles, draw inferences from one instance, quote from others, and be able to prove our own point of view and justify ourselves. At that time, it is not wrong to make mistakes.

Leave three points for the words and leave a step for yourself.

When interacting with people, we often talk too much, which leads to no room for maneuver and is in an embarrassing situation. In order to avoid such a situation, we need to pay attention to our words and emotions, and don’t speak too much. Too full, too dead, or too absolute.You must know that the pleasure can only be temporary, and the damage may be the long-term relationship between the two parties and their own reputation.Therefore, when speaking, pay attention to leaving three points behind, don't stop talking, give the other party, and give yourself a step down.

A customer asks to return a coat after purchasing it at a store.She had worn the clothes once and washed them, but she insisted that they were "absolutely unworn" and asked to return them.

The salesperson inspected the coat and found obvious signs of dry cleaning.But when this is stated bluntly to the customer, the customer will never admit it easily, because she has said "absolutely never worn" and has carefully disguised it.So the salesman said, "I'd like to know if someone in your family sent this dress to the dry cleaner by mistake. I remember the same thing happened to me not long ago. I put a dress I just bought Heaped up with other clothes and my husband didn't notice and dumped the new dress in the washer along with a pile of dirty clothes. I think that might happen to you too, because the dress does show The traces that have been washed. If you don’t believe it, you can compare it with other clothes.”

The customer looked at the evidence and knew it was irrefutable, but the salesperson prepared an excuse for her mistake and gave her a step down.So, she followed suit, put away her clothes and left.

If the salesperson exposes the customer's "trick" bluntly, and then rejects the other party's request forcefully, it is tantamount to saying nothing in public, and the result will only be embarrassment and an unhappy breakup.In real life, people generally have the mentality of eating soft but not hard.Especially for a person with a strong personality, if you speak "tough", he may be tougher than you; if you speak "softly", the other party will feel unbearable and have something to say.

Some people will say that if this kind of conflict occurs, I plan to break up with him, so what if I stop talking.Is that true?You know, a temporary breakup does not mean a breakup.

An amicable breakup also sets the stage for a possible later reconciliation.Sometimes breaking up and breaking up between friends is not caused by the complete annihilation of mutual feelings, but by a momentary misunderstanding.If everyone adopts an amicable way of breaking up and doesn't say anything, then one day the misunderstanding is resolved, and it is very likely that they will be reunited and the seeds of friendship will bloom again.There are many examples in this regard.

Some people don't understand this truth, and when they have conflicts with others, they take out their strategies and use them, turning against others, swearing and accusing, and speaking harshly to relieve the hatred in their hearts.It's a pleasure to do so, but they didn't expect that while scolding others, they also exposed their own personality flaws.People will see from such a scene that he is so mean to others, so ruthless, and so turned against others.

Not saying anything when conflicts with others can reflect a person's tolerance and noble character.Under normal circumstances, the size of people's measurements is difficult to show.And when you have conflicts with others that make it hard for you to tolerate, you can see clearly whether you can tolerate others.At this time, only those with noble ideology and character will maintain their rationality, and use a tolerant attitude to avoid hurting each other by not saying anything.An amicable settlement can protect each other from further harm, and it can also be said that this is the sincerity reserved for the other party.

Create mental tension and instantly overwhelm.

No matter how strong and uncontrollable a person is, as long as his spirit falls, his will and ambition will collapse accordingly.This way, you can easily subdue it.If the other party is your subordinate and does not have a sense of obedience, sometimes you can use the method of deterring the other party's spirit.Because this method makes people mentally frightened, anyone will succumb, and it can also have the effect of killing chickens and monkeys.

Wang Bin is the village head of a certain village, and he has a high prestige in the village. He is asked to help resolve all matters in the village.Once, the well-known "evil daughter-in-law" in the village started yelling at her mother-in-law again, but no one dared to meddle in her business.Wang Bin also knew this well, but he didn't have the right opportunity to teach her a lesson.

The evil daughter-in-law was yelling and cursing again arrogantly, and the content of the scolding became more and more unsavory.Wang Bin walked over.This evil daughter-in-law had always had a bad opinion of Wang Bin, thinking that he was meddling too much, and when she saw Wang Bin coming, she screamed even louder.

For this kind of person, she can only be deterred, because any persuasion will not work.So Wang Bin walked over and said something like this: "I heard that your brother-in-law is coming out of prison soon, do you know about this?"

It turned out that the wicked daughter-in-law's brother-in-law was also a tyrant in the village, ruthless and unreasonable.A few years ago, I got into gang fights and was thrown into prison.As soon as the wicked daughter-in-law heard about her brother-in-law, she immediately took back the words she wanted to scold, bowed her head and walked home.From then on, she never dared to show a cold face to her mother-in-law again.

Mental attack is a psychological warfare against human weakness.For people, "consciousness determines matter", and the heart is the master of a person. If the mind is strong, it will be difficult to defeat, and if the size is chaotic, it will be vulnerable.

The competition between people is sometimes not only a competition of wisdom and physical strength, but also a competition of will and emotion. Therefore, modern warfare also pays attention to psychological warfare. If you can psychologically subdue your opponent, victory is just around the corner.And everyone has their own "death spot" of the soul, always has their own emotional softness, but there is no real rock-solid, impeccable psychological defense line, grasping its weakness and lightly blowing, can win without a fight. A subdued soldier.Awaken the fear in the other party's heart, sometimes a word can win a thousand troops.The method of shock and awe is very commonly used now, and it was regarded as the emperor's policy in ancient times.

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