Hypnosis: Psychological tricks in life

Chapter 24 Hypnotic Tricks in Life (11)
In our work and life, we will inevitably meet some villains who put you in "little shoes". He may climb up by stepping on your shoulders, or deceive you to achieve his goal, or just I want to exclude you because of jealousy.When smart people deal with villains, they generally don't easily provoke and offend villains. They know that villains cannot be provoked or offended.If you provoke or offend them, your good career will be vulnerable if you are framed by villains.In terms of strength, the villain is not strong.But they are unscrupulous, and they may use any tricks.Even if he wins against the villain, he will still pay the price and make his whole body bloody.The villain can't afford to be offended, so it's better to have something softer than to fight hard, as the saying goes, "If you want to take it first, you must give it first."

In a foreign trade company, Marceau is very upright. Almost everyone, including the leader, has been slandered by villains in the company. Marceau is the only one who is spared in the company because he has a set of methods to deal with villains. .

Once, the boss of the company sent Marceau to a foreign country to negotiate an important cooperation project with foreign businessmen, and told him: "If you want to employ people, the company staff can be selected by you."

Marceau replied: "I don't have too many other needs, I just ask Jeania to walk with me." This request confused the boss.Because Nia's cunning and greed in the company are obvious to all. He not only likes to grab the limelight, but also likes to fight for fame. In short, all the characteristics of a villain are reflected in Nia.

Marceau looked at the puzzled boss with a smile and said: "This negotiation is very important to the company. I need a lot of information and full support from the company. If this matter is done well, it will be a success." Now, Nia had already intervened in this matter, but now it is difficult to guarantee that he will not be jealous, and I am afraid that he will make trouble in the dark. Wouldn't that ruin the big thing? If I put him under my nose, I will use him and share his points Fame can shut his mouth, and besides, he is still very shrewd and capable, and he is not useless..."

After hearing this, the boss understood Marceau's good intentions, and knew that Marceau gave Nia a chance to express himself, and even gave Nia sweetness, so that Nia knew what she should do, so he nodded and praised.

Perhaps you have seen and experienced some unfair things. Many honest people disdain to be with villains, but in the end they fall into the hands of these villains, and even lose their lives.Marceau's ideas and methods of dealing with villains are indeed worthy of reference and learning by people in the workplace.

Just because you give those villains a little bit of softness and sweetness, those moves will naturally become invisible.At the same time, it will also make you feel like a fish in water in the workplace.

Give credit at the right time, don't steal the limelight from your boss.

Don't compete with your boss for credit. If you are wise enough, why not give the credit to your boss in a clever way?If you really have the ability to accomplish one thing, then there are many opportunities for you.If you can overcome your reluctance to give credit and give credit to your boss, it will do you no harm but benefit, you just need to seize the next opportunity to make merit again.

In the Han Dynasty, there was a capable official who pacified the people and quelled the riots after the catastrophe.He encouraged the people to cultivate fields and plant mulberries and rebuild their homes.After several years of governance, the local society was stable and the people lived and worked in peace and contentment. This official was greatly supported by the people and his reputation resounded throughout the government and the public.

The emperor suddenly summoned him to return to court at this time. Before leaving, one of his counselors suddenly came to see him and asked him: "If the emperor asks you how to govern the country, how will you answer?" The official answered frankly. : "I would say appoint talented people so that people can do their best, enforce the law strictly, and clearly reward and punish." If you are famous, if you boast about your achievements, the consequences will be unimaginable." The officials were shocked, and people with "high achievements" often end badly, and there are enough lessons like this.

So when the emperor summoned him, the officials repeatedly declined the rewards, saying only that "it was all due to the mighty influence of the emperor's gods."

As a subordinate, the most taboo is to think that you have made great achievements and forget your boss.Many facts in ancient and modern China and abroad have proved that the time of great achievements is often the day of falling out of favor.Bosses who don’t care about being compared, who value talents, and who are extraordinary and refined are rare after all. In most people’s hearts, there is more or less hidden will-o’-the-wisps of “jealousy”. Once your light is too dazzling, your contribution is too outstanding , when your boss is around you, you will feel that you are bleak, and you will have the association that your status has been shaken by you. They will naturally regard you as a competitor and a serious problem, and you have already faced it without knowing it. With a catastrophe.

In this self-centered society, if someone is willing to graciously give credit to others, the person who receives the courtesy will be greatly surprised, and then feel grateful, and often have the feeling of "I owe this person a favor" Thoughts, this person is even more favorable.

Not taking credit for pride can not only leave a good impression on the mind of the boss, but also can make your personality greater in a deeper sense.Giving up the credit for the hard work and sweat you have earned requires a lot of self-cultivation.However, only this kind of person who is very generous and doesn't care about gains and losses can really impress his boss. He will try to repay this debt of favor one day.Of course, with his help, you will never lack opportunities to make meritorious deeds again.There is just one thing to be aware of. The matter of giving credit should never be publicized as personal capital, otherwise, the rate of return for giving credit will drop to zero, or even backfire, and you will become a complete villain in the eyes of your boss.

Remember never to let your light overshadow your boss.Specifically, don't offend your boss, don't steal the boss's limelight; do things properly, be in place and not offside, always be shorter than your boss, and don't let your boss feel that you are a threat to him under any circumstances.If you can do this, you will naturally be able to protect yourself in the forest of rights full of traps, and then improve yourself and achieve success in your career.

Be flexible and don't ask when the time is inopportune.

When Roosevelt succeeded McKinley as President of the United States, his old friend Philae Chew visited him in Washington.Then Philaiqiu described his meeting with Roosevelt at the president's mansion: "My old friend stood smiling at me, put his hands on my shoulders, and said, 'What do you need?' When he asked me this, Laughing. But I think he's smiling to hide some disgust. Maybe I'm not the only one eager to join a political career, so I also laughed and said I don't need anything. And he was obviously relieved by that , Said: "How is it possible! You are the only talent among this group of people, and the others are either promoted or imprisoned." At that time, I thought that my visit here made him very happy. Although I knew I can get a good job all the time, but I think I'll be on better terms with Roosevelt if I leave without asking for more. So I leave with a copy of the Spanish self-studying dictionary, returned home and began to prepare for diplomatic duties. About a year later, I saw an announcement in the newspaper that a First Minister of the United States would be sent to Havana. This was a very favorable opportunity, and I I have always been quite familiar with Cuba, and I have been studying Spanish, I think that I already know the place very well, the rest is easier, I only need to go to Washington again, and tell my heartfelt hopes and previous studies. Roosevelt will do. Sure enough, my goal has been achieved."

This is the reason why Philaicho was able to serve as the Cuban Minister, and then he was able to start his long and glorious diplomatic career.It was also another way he used to introduce himself.At the beginning, he felt that there was an inexplicable resentment hidden in Roosevelt's heart, so he immediately waited for an opportunity to retire and wait for another opportunity.This is his ingenious strategy for the success of self-recommendation in the future.And he only took a Spanish dictionary back to study by himself, and prepared for diplomatic affairs, which was the basis for his successful appointment as Cuban minister.

Due to the inappropriate timing, leaders show resistance and disgust. Such obstacles are common.However, when encountering such obstacles, far-sighted subordinates must immediately try to avoid them.In many cases, being able to back down a little is the only strategy to get him to his real needs and interests.

Philaiqiu said: "I don't want to do what others want to do, but I often follow other people's methods to accomplish what I want to do." This sentence is the best of our so-called "compromise" tricks. interpreted.

The ultimate purpose of leaders is to induce others to voluntarily submit to them in order to achieve a happy state of cooperation.Of course, occasional antagonisms aroused by both parties may cause unpleasant friction.However, leaders will understand this point. If you insist on protesting as a subordinate, even if you win for a while, the achievements you will get are still very meager.

The best way to gain the approval and support of leaders is to know how to stand in the leader's position and think for the leader.If you also protect the rights and interests of leaders for what you insist on or strive for, of course it will be easy to gain the approval of leaders.

In this world, everything is complementary to each other, so we have to think, if it were me, under what circumstances would I be recognized?Know how to take a step back and get the support of the leaders, so that everything can go smoothly on the track of a virtuous circle.

Use compliments to decline requests from colleagues.

Maybe you will meet a colleague who asks you to help with something. It is completely right to help, but if he asks you for help when he is clearly able to complete it, maybe he looks down on you in his heart and just treats you as a tool.It doesn't do me any good to help myself, and I still feel useless in my heart.

Some people can often clearly judge that others are taking advantage of them, but there is no good reason to reject them.In fact, there is no need for any reason to reject such colleagues, just saying "sorry" is enough.But if you're soft-hearted and can't bear to say no, it's much easier to add a compliment or a helpful suggestion, followed by a rejection in the middle.For example, you can say something like this:

"I'm sorry, Sister Li, I can't help you today."

"Oh, Sister Li, I do see that you are very busy, but I really can't help you, because my own task is far from being completed, maybe Xiao Wang is not too busy, why don't you ask him to help?"

If you feel that you really can't speak, you can first practice how to firmly say no at home.You can record what you have to say first, or practice saying no, so you will be firm and polite when you say no to them.

For example: "Sister Li, I have to remind you that I know that you can only make personal calls during working hours, and this is absolutely forbidden in our company. If you get caught, it will be very troublesome. However, I have a Suggestion, you might as well explain your difficulties to your boss, arrange for you to leave for a few hours to deal with urgent private matters, and promise to make up for the work during this time in the future."

When rejecting such colleagues, you must pay attention to skills. When expressing rejection to them, you must be clever, adopt more appropriate methods, and carefully consider how to meet the requirements of such people in a more responsible manner.Putting the blame back on him is all right, but don't show signs of hostility or sarcasm.

Direct rejection may hurt each other's feelings. If you use the language of praise, gently but firmly reject it, and then compare the advantages and disadvantages, the effect of rejection will still be good.

A wants to participate in the school's essay competition, but he is too lazy to use his brain, so he wants B to write for him.B said: "Hey! We have been classmates for so many years, and no one knows your literary talent. You are a famous pen in our department. Who can compare to you? I'm sorry, I can't insult your reputation, you should write it yourself. .I'm quite competent as your first reader."

If A is messing around, you might as well tell him what's good or bad: "You represent the reputation of the school. If something goes wrong with me as a ghostwriter, can you afford it? Since you are lucky, you don't Seize the opportunity, maybe there will be no chance in the future!"

Using praise can enhance the other party's self-confidence, and perhaps satisfy the other party's vanity. Even if the other party really has problems with their ability, they will be embarrassed to find you again, so as to achieve the purpose of pushing back.

Use the power of colleagues to build a stage for yourself.

In every organization and unit, there are some people with outstanding performance and outstanding abilities, and there are also people who are closely related to the leader. Leaders usually use them to understand the situation of their subordinates.If you have a good relationship with those "key" colleagues in the unit and let him say a few good words for you at critical moments, it may be more effective than trying to express yourself.

Xiao Qi and Zheng Hao work in the Teaching and Research Unit of the Municipal Education Bureau.Zheng Hao has been in the Education Bureau for 7 years. He is very popular with everyone, and he is also highly regarded by the head of the teaching and research section. He discusses everything with him.Xiao Qi has just graduated from school for more than a year, and Zheng Hao is an alumnus, and they are complementary in subject research, and the relationship between the two is also good.

Later, according to the relevant spirit of the State Council, the Municipal Education Bureau also began to streamline its institutions, including the teaching and research unit.One day, Xiao Qi asked Zheng Hao to go out for a drink.During the dinner, Xiao Qi inquired about the truth of the simplification, and asked Zheng Hao for help, Zheng Hao understood.

The head of the teaching and research section discussed personnel deployment with Zheng Hao. When talking about Xiao Qi, he said: "Xiao Qi is not bad, but he is too young. I consider transferring him to another place..." Then he said to Zheng Hao: "You are here Although our teaching and research unit is young, we have rich experience. I would like to hear your opinion on whether my arrangement has any impact on your research topic." At this time, Zheng Hao was researching the "Relationship between Games and Mental Health of Primary School Students". For a topic, the Education Bureau wants to apply to the superior as a scientific research achievement.Zheng Hao said: "The research on the project is progressing smoothly. All the people in our unit have participated, but compared with the part of psychology, they don't really understand much. Xiao Qi just made up for our shortcomings in this aspect. From my own Considering it from a personal perspective, it is best not to arrange it this way, if there are indeed difficulties, can it be postponed for a few months?"

"Let's think about it again." The chief said helplessly.In the end, Xiao Qi stayed.

Through the indirect communication between the "key" colleagues and the leader, it can not only avoid the suspicion of showing merit, but also get better results.

Therefore, in the usual communication, we should pay attention to the communication with colleagues and establish a closer relationship.Some colleagues are unwilling or have no idea of ​​doing this kind of favor.Appropriate reminders are necessary, and it is not necessary to make a clear statement. At the banquet, half-truths and half-truths are used to deal with: "Your brother is a celebrity of so-and-so, and I hope to say a few words in front of the leader."

Good words from colleagues can generally play a role in small matters, but when it comes to major matters, you can't trust them all. Colleagues can play a role in paving the way, and you have to work hard on the specific operation.

Occasionally pick up the shelf to create a sense of distance.

When it comes to bosses and leaders, most people feel that they are "high airs" and "full of official air".Moreover, people are always accustomed to use "high airs" to describe some bosses who are out of touch with the masses and arrogant.However, "shelf" is not just a negative thing, but has its positive and subtle meaning, and has become a very effective method for many people's superiors to manage their subordinates.

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