Do it and you can beat procrastination

Chapter 13 Don't Be Stubborn!Regret is also a kind of beauty (2)
During the Three Kingdoms period, Zhou Yu, a famous general of Wu State, was a famous capable minister and sage.He has great talent and courage, and the famous battle "Battle of Red Cliff" is his credit.But it was such a man of insight, who was too obsessed with perfection and could not accept the reality that others were more perfect than himself, so Zhuge Liang pissed him off to death, and ended in a tragic end when he died young.It can be seen how sad and ridiculous it is to blindly pursue perfection.

·Do not seek perfection, but do your best

For everyone, time is like a stream that never stops flowing, and there are many things that everyone needs to do.How sad it is when you use your limited life to grieve that the results are not perfect and watch the time go by little by little!
There is no perfection in life, perfection only exists in people's ideal world.The past is gone forever, and the future is also very illusory. Only the present is what you should cherish and grasp.You don't have extra time to be obsessed with chasing perfection, time will not stop, waiting for you to procrastinate blindly.

Time is fleeting, so in order to avoid procrastination, you should have the mentality of not seeking perfection, but striving to do your best.

After graduating from university, Xiaofang became a Chinese teacher as she wished.This was her childhood wish, and it finally came true.After working for a period of time, Xiaofang's joy of dream come true gradually receded and was replaced by some troubles.It turned out that Xiaofang was a person who lacked self-confidence. Every time in class, facing the innocent little faces below, Xiaofang's heart began to tense, and she forgot the lecture content that she had already prepared very well. Get it clean.I originally thought that this situation was caused by being too nervous as a new teacher. After a period of time and getting familiar with it, the nervousness will be relieved.But almost a month has passed in the blink of an eye. After dozens of classes, Xiaofang is still very dissatisfied with herself, and even thinks that she has not improved at all.For this reason, Xiaofang was extremely depressed, and the joy of successfully becoming a teacher was gone. She secretly shed tears several times while there was no one in the office.

Students have not lost faith in her because of this.Whenever Xiaofang forgot the content of the lecture because of nervousness, they would stretch out a pair of chubby little hands and applaud the teacher.Looking at this group of lovely children, Xiaofang's heart was very warm.

In order to avoid this kind of "forgetting words" as much as possible, Xiaofang spent all her time preparing lessons.She firmly believes in the principle that stupid birds fly first, so she strives to make the courseware perfect so as to bring children a series of unique lessons.However, the improvement of ability does not happen overnight.Because Xiaofang was obsessed with lesson preparation, she neglected other teaching links, and the students had no time to correct the composition they submitted last week.

When the students asked: "Teacher, why haven't we sent out the composition we handed in last week?" Xiaofang was speechless.

Looking at the piles of unapproved homework accumulated last week on the desk, Xiaofang was extremely frustrated, "I am already one of the most diligent teachers in the office, why can other teachers finish correcting students' homework in time? , but I can’t finish grading? The students’ homework can reflect the problems they have in the learning process in a timely manner. If it takes a long time to correct them, you can’t find the children’s problems in time. How can this be? What to do?" Xiaofang thought silently.

On this day, Xiaofang walked into the classroom with an extremely depressed mood.Looking at the trusting and loving eyes of the students, Xiaofang felt much more comfortable in her heart.When she picked up the chalk on the desk and turned around to write the topic of today's lecture on the blackboard, she saw these big characters: It doesn't have to be perfect, but you must try your best!

For a while, Xiaofang only felt that her nose was sore and the corners of her eyes were moist... Xiaofang in the story was lucky. Although she had made some misunderstandings before, the children never gave up on her and kept giving her opportunities to grow up and space.The children are constantly encouraged to tell their teachers: don't seek perfection, but try your best.I believe that Xiaofang who understands this truth will one day have peaches and plums all over the world.

Battle procrastination skills: starting from reality and doing what we can
If "desires are hard to fill" is the tragedy of life, then why not "perfect"?In order to avoid adverse consequences caused by excessive pursuit of perfection, people must do the following points on the road of struggle.

1. Always be tolerant
As we all know, the widest thing in the world is the ocean, wider than the ocean is the sky, and wider than the sky is the human mind.

Tolerance is an attitude towards life, others, and yourself, which can not only cultivate people's sentiments, but also bring peace of mind.

If you want to do not seek perfection, but do your best, you must have a tolerant heart.Only by continuously forgiving your own shortcomings and imperfections from the bottom of your heart can you maintain a peaceful state of mind that you only need to do your best to do well, and you will not force yourself to go to extremes, which will eventually lead to bad results.For example, Zhou Yu mentioned in the previous example, if he can be more tolerant to himself and tolerate his own shortcomings, he will probably be more forgiving, and he will not be pissed off.

As the saying goes: "An inch is long, but a ruler is short; no one is perfect, and no gold is pure." There is no perfect person in the world, and there is no perfect thing, so as long as you do your best, you will be fine.

2. Be good at taking advantage of others' strengths

Today is an era of mutual cooperation, and it is impossible for anyone with a powerful and unconstrained style to make a difference in such an era.

Because the background of the times is mutual cooperation, anyone who is eager to succeed should know how to face up to his own shortcomings, appreciate the advantages of others, and make full use of the advantages of others, so as to make himself the ultimate winner.

3. Let the past be the past
Xin Qiji once looked up to the sky and sighed: "Sigh life, unsatisfactory things, nine out of ten!" All living beings, who dare to say that they have no unsatisfactory moments?Maybe you lived a carefree life yesterday, but today you are facing unemployment.Life is like this, there are all kinds of unsatisfactory moments all the time.At this moment, you need to learn to let go of the past, let the past pass, no matter right or wrong, success or failure, as long as you do your best.

Proceed from reality, do what we can, and refuse to "sacrifice" in the persistent pursuit of perfection.

The result is not important, the important thing is that you have tried your best, and the result is the most perfect.

Turn quickly, don't procrastinate in mistakes

Living in this world, it is inevitable for everyone to have shortcomings of one kind or another, and it is inevitable for everyone to have shortcomings.Romain Rolland said: "Before you can defeat external enemies, you must first defeat your own internal enemies; you don't have to be afraid of sinking and falling, as long as you can constantly reflect and learn." Successful people defeat themselves through thorough introspection The enemy in the heart, "cleans" the "dirt and dust" in the depths of one's mind and soul, relieves mental pain, and improves one's spiritual realm.

Introspection is a manifestation of mental activity.It turns the authority into a bystander, and turns himself into an object of examination, observing and judging himself from the standpoint and angle of another person.

· Reflect on yourself every day

The bank closes its doors at 5:[-] p.m. every day to checkout. Through the glass door, it can be seen that they are busier than in the morning.They have to clear up the accounts of the day every day, without delay or sloppy, which is also the principle of business.

Once upon a time there was a man who had to receive many guests or go out to do many things every day.At night, he always blows out the lights and sits alone in the study to reflect on himself:

Who is it that motivates me today?Who is it that increases my wisdom today?Who is it that made me waste my time today?Who is it that makes me want to enjoy myself today?Who is it that got me into trouble today?
This person not only reflects on himself, but also makes others reflect.What he meant was that as a human being, you should keep your accounts clear every day, just like doing business.If you make a profit, keep working hard; if you lose, change your course quickly to avoid a crushing defeat.

·Self-reflection and self-improvement

When Rousseau was a teenager, he passed on his disgraceful theft to a maid, causing the innocent girl to be wronged and wronged. After he succeeded, Rousseau fell into painful memories of this incident.He said: "When I was so distressed that I couldn't sleep, I would see this poor girl come and condemn my crime as if it was committed yesterday."

Rousseau made a serious and profound criticism of himself in his famous book "Confessions".He dared to make this scandal public to the world, showing his open mind and extraordinary personality of thorough introspection.

Whether a person has the ability to reflect is very important to him. 1. Only those who know how to introspect can keep up with the pace of the times. It is impossible for everyone to never make mistakes. Therefore, timely introspection and self-criticism are often the key to correcting one's own mistakes and achieving rapid transformation.In the face of fierce competition and the ever-changing market environment, those companies that are unwilling to reflect on themselves or correct their mistakes in time will surely face decline and extinction.Similarly, in the fast-paced information society, if a person cannot detect his own shortcomings in time and correct his shortcomings as quickly as possible, he will inevitably fall behind in his studies and career.

2. Only those who know how to introspect can continue to grow
If you often ask yourself in introspection: what kind of person are you?What things are most important to you?Can I do everything better by myself?This mental journey will be the best way for you to examine your values, question your thinking, and exercise your judgment as you grow.After the test of this method, you will become stronger, more confident, and your life purpose will be more clear.

3. People who know how to reflect are more likely to gain the trust of others
People who know how to reflect on themselves are more likely to gain the trust of others and win true friends; on the contrary, people who don’t know how to reflect on themselves and admit their mistakes can neither get the understanding of others nor truly integrate themselves into the team.

Employee Xiao Zhang said at the meeting to give advice to the factory manager that he once saw the factory manager smoking at the door of a warehouse where smoking is prohibited.The people present at the meeting said: "The director of the factory doesn't know how to smoke, you misread the person." Unexpectedly, the factory director stood up from his seat and made a self-criticism: "Xiao Zhang misjudged the person, which means that I usually don't contact the masses enough, so some The workers are not familiar with me. In the future, I will go to the workshop more often and contact the workers more, so as to listen to their opinions and understand the situation.”

From the false criticism, the factory manager realized that he was not enough to connect with the masses, and thus found a way to improve his work.Seeing that the factory manager is so modest and strict with himself, the workers respect and trust him even more.

If you have ever lost your way in the face of failure, if you don't know how to get the motivation to move on, I suggest you take some time to cultivate the attitude and courage of introspection, re-understand yourself in introspection, and seek the motivation to move forward in introspection .

Refusing to admit mistakes makes the problem worse

Everyone will make mistakes, make mistakes, and only by serious reflection can we not make the same mistakes again.This principle is extremely simple, but there are still many people who are unwilling to do it.

The reason why many people refuse to admit their mistakes is because they are afraid that others will think less of them, but no matter how you look at it, this kind of thinking is nothing more than self-deception.The mistakes made by a person will always be seen by others, and in the eyes of others, the problem will appear more objective and thorough.In this case, insisting on one's own opinion will only leave a bad impression of being too high-minded and too concerned about face, which will not only damage your own reputation, but also hurt those friends who originally intended to persuade you with good intentions.It is stupid to be unwilling to admit mistakes and improve yourself for the sake of small face problems.

What people should do is to avoid mistakes from happening, instead of trying to cover up mistakes after they happen!Many people may have had this experience: they only made a small mistake at first, but they were unwilling to admit it, so that they had to use various means to cover up and whitewash the mistake.As a result, mistakes were made again and again, and small mistakes turned into catastrophes, leading to an unmanageable ending.Therefore, the practice of refusing to admit mistakes not only cannot really solve the problem, but will make the problem worse!
The Art of Sustainability: Moving on from Past Mistakes

The mistake has become a fact, and no matter how much precious time you spend doing it, it won't help the mistake.Instead of staying in pointless procrastination, why not clear up your mind so that you can make up for the mistakes you made as soon as possible?Stop procrastinating because of past mistakes!Here are a few small ways to get rid of procrastination.

1. Think from another angle
Blindly immersing yourself in mistakes and resulting in the bad habit of procrastination is often due to too single-minded thinking about problems.If you can think about it from a different angle in a timely manner, you will avoid those pointless delays.When you want to procrastinate at work, you might as well think about it from another angle, and you will find that you are so lucky to be able to live in this world and have a job of your own, and you should not worry about some past mistakes. If you make a mistake and affect your mood, you will naturally not procrastinate.

If you have such an understanding now, will you continue to procrastinate in mistakes?It's never too late to change yourself, and you can change yourself very quickly once you realize how ridiculous you are procrastinating because of past mistakes.

2. Recognize the absurdity of negative attitudes

At one point in the cartoon "Snoopy," Charlie Brown's head hangs very low and his shoulders slump.He frowned and said to his friend: "If you want to be angry and frustrated, the most important thing is to maintain this posture." The friend was silent after listening, and he continued, "If you stand up straight, hold your head up , and smile, and you won't be depressed."

In the same way, when you realize how ridiculous your negativity is, you change yourself.To change the habit of procrastination, you need a little relaxation.You can adjust yourself like this, and say to yourself in the mirror: "I don't believe that I am such a person." After speaking, smile happily, and the negative emotions can be relieved a lot.

3. Don’t be a self-abuse fool

Mistakes have been made, you can't sacrifice your life because of this unchangeable fact, can you?Don't be a self-abuse fool, because even sacrificing your life for it won't help.If you make a mistake, you will make a mistake, and it is enough to ensure that you will not make similar mistakes in the future. There is no need to procrastinate because of this, which will lead to more serious adverse consequences.

When mistakes happen, there is only one thing you have to do, and that is to adjust your mentality, learn from experience and lessons, and learn from them;It is a wise choice to regard yesterday's mistakes as stepping stones to tomorrow's success.

In your life, you may make countless mistakes. If the mistakes become a breeding ground for procrastination, then the hard-won life may lose its original value and become a carrier of "support" procrastination.Therefore, in the face of mistakes, you must have the courage to admit and take responsibility without any hesitation, because the mistakes are already facts.

Restrain impulse with reason

Impulsivity refers to a psychological phenomenon in which one acts recklessly without considering the consequences; one's own emotions are difficult to control, and rational control is weak.Impulses can be manifested in behavior or in the subconscious mind.Reason is also called "reasoning", which refers to calm, sober, and practical thinking.

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