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Chapter 70 Let Good Relationships Help Exams
Create a pleasant family atmosphere with "understanding"
Some people say that the college entrance examination is not a student's individual battle, but a team battle.During the college entrance examination, your parents, teachers, and classmates are all your partners in the same trench.Their joining will add support and motivation for your college entrance examination war.Therefore, how to get along and communicate with them has become a major problem for college entrance examination students.

After the third year of high school, many parents become more and more nagging.Originally, the students were already very tired from studying at school, and they still had no rest after returning home.For this reason, many students often argue with their parents.

Home is the most beautiful word in the world; father and mother are the two closest people to us in the world.When a family works together and works together for an ideal, everyone seems to have double or even several times their strength.

I remember someone once said: "The college entrance examination is a competition between families, and the joint efforts of families build success." Think about it, this is too true.How much joy and encouragement, how much warmth and strength a warm home has given us!

It can also be said this way: the college entrance examination is a family-to-family competition; the joint efforts of families build success.How much joy and encouragement, how much warmth and strength a warm home has given us.

Therefore, we must communicate well with our parents to create a good family atmosphere.

1. What should students do

(1) When students disagree with their parents, first of all, they should not conflict with their parents, so as to avoid further intensification of conflicts. I am afraid that things will be difficult to deal with.Choose a suitable time, such as when your parents are happy and the atmosphere is relatively relaxed, and put forward your opinions to your parents. Be sure to express your thoughts clearly, such as what you want to do, why you do it, and how you will go about it. Do it to further dispel the doubts of parents.

When you prove to your parents that you are fully capable of doing it, most parents will not object.

(2) If you find it difficult to speak up, you can use other methods, such as telling your relatives, asking them to persuade your parents, writing your thoughts on a note, and putting it in the eye-catching place while your parents are sleeping. place, but he pretended to be indifferent.

(3) For high school seniors, most of the conflicts from family relationships are related to academic performance.At this time, you can also communicate with your parents about your current study status at the dinner table. If you can take the initiative, your parents will have no reason to ask you about your grades; When you feel disgusted, you might as well tell your parents what you think, so that they will pay attention.

(4) In addition, if I can send a birthday gift to my parents on their birthday, even if it is a note stating my feelings, my parents will feel very happy, so it may be easier to communicate. Avoid unnecessary embarrassment.

2. What should parents do?

Educators have made such harsh and merciless criticisms of Chinese parents: many parents suffer from "compulsive care" (that is, parents force their children to provide unwelcome care), not only that, some Parents even impose their unrealized ideals and plans for the future on their children, hoping that their children can help them realize them.The result of this is often that both parents and children fall into a particularly tiring and even painful life state.

In reality, it is impossible for everyone to completely repeat the path walked by the ancestors or elders, but many parents regard the growth of their children not only as the growth of a natural person, but also as the continuation of their own ideals. In the process of children's growth, parents will unconsciously instill their own life philosophy and experience in their children, educate and demand their children with their own growth experience, thinking that this can help children avoid obstacles or detours.

The college entrance examination is a key link in life development. At this time, parents will inevitably intervene more actively and proactively in their children's study and life, and influence their children's will or direction of effort.

During the period when the child is reviewing for the exam, parents should not only create a warm and relaxed atmosphere at home, but also loosen the outside and tighten the inside. Everything must be subject to the central work of the college entrance examination.Facing the college entrance examination, parents should turn their love for their children into unlimited motivation to help their children succeed, and not let the strong family affection become obstacles and pressures for children to review and take exams.

(1) Don't nag

When many parents mention learning, they can't help nagging their children in a caring manner.Especially during the period when the child is reviewing for the exam, parents often repeat in front of the child, "You have to work harder", "You must do well in the exam", etc., as everyone knows, this kind of nagging will not only promote and motivate On the contrary, it is easy for children to have a rebellious psychology and increase their ideological burden.In fact, instead of nagging, parents might as well tell their children jokes to relax their nerves.

(2) Don't hit the child's self-confidence

Faced with the failure of their children in exams, many parents frequently criticize and accuse them.It is wrong to do so. Parents should communicate more with teachers and children to find out the reasons for the failure together and help children get out of the shadow of failure as soon as possible.If you scold blindly, it will only make the child more lack of self-confidence, and even give up on himself.Parents must understand that only when a child has confidence can he give full play to his own level.

(3) Do not demand too much from your children
Many parents like to talk about "at least how many points are required for the test" and "must be admitted to a certain school", and have unrealistic expectations for their children.As everyone knows, doing so not only fails to motivate, but makes children more pessimistic and anxious, causing unnecessary psychological pressure on children.In fact, in the final sprint stage, the child's knowledge level and ability are basically a foregone conclusion, and it is impossible to make a "qualitative leap" in a short period of time. Therefore, for parents, the first task is to correctly understand the child's situation and accept the child. The status quo, not to mention unrealistic demands.You might as well tell your children: "Just do your best!"

(4) Create a relaxed family atmosphere
In order to help their children supervise the battle, some parents deliberately create a pre-examination state of "first-level combat readiness", which will make the children feel depressed, bored, and breathless.It is wise for parents to work and live as usual, and only need to turn down the TV volume at night.At the same time, try to avoid events that have a negative impact on the child's psychology, such as husband and wife quarrels, neighborhood conflicts, etc., and strive to create a warm, relaxed and harmonious family atmosphere.

Facing the teacher, don't be a timid "mouse"

Some students are very afraid of the teacher. They describe the relationship between themselves and the teacher as a "mouse and cat" relationship, lacking the necessary communication with the teacher.

A senior teacher said: "Being a teacher for decades, growing from a young teacher to a teaching backbone, I always feel that there is a love for education and teaching work that supports me, so that in most cases I can I can devote myself to teaching with full energy. When I am on the podium, I am alive and well, and I will completely forget all the unhappiness that has nothing to do with the classroom. Thinking about it carefully, I can't maintain a high enthusiasm for teaching all the time.

"Sometimes, when students contradict unreasonably, the unhappiness in my heart arises spontaneously. I don't even get the minimum respect from the students when I teach so hard; If it can’t resonate with students, the sense of loss will seriously hit the enthusiasm of teachers, so it can be seen that students’ reactions sometimes directly determine teachers’ enthusiasm for teaching.”

Therefore, teaching benefits each other. It should not only be the teacher who mobilizes the enthusiasm of the students. As a student, he should also take the initiative to participate and mobilize the enthusiasm of the teacher in teaching, so that the students themselves will benefit in the end.

Communicating with teachers can produce a benign "resonance", so what should students do?

1. Respect the teacher's labor

Teachers teach students almost all knowledge selflessly and unreservedly. If they hope to get anything in return, they hope to see students become talents and mature.

Students should respect the teacher and greet the teacher politely.There is a saying that teachers and students are like father and son.Listen carefully in class, abide by school discipline, and complete the homework left by the teacher on time with quality and quantity.Some students' homework is sloppy and sloppy, and it takes a lot of effort just for the teacher to identify the handwriting, which adds a lot of extra workload to the teacher.

How can the teacher be happy when this is often the case?Everyone wants others to respect themselves. If you talk to someone and he ignores you, will you like this person?Respecting teachers and respecting teachers' labor is the basic prerequisite for teachers and students to get along well.

2. Ask the teacher more humbly
I often hear students comment "that teacher is not very good", "his level is too low".In fact, when you grow up, you will find how naive such views and ideas are.The teacher has his advantages in age, knowledge, and experience, and his level in a certain class must be higher than that of the students, so he should ask the teacher for advice with an open mind.Studying hard and asking questions not only directly benefit your study, but also increase and deepen your communication with the teacher, which virtually shortens the distance with the teacher.Every teacher likes a student who is willing to use their brains.

3. Learn to help the teacher
If I put forward my suggestions to the teacher on a suitable occasion to help the teacher carry out teaching and manage class affairs better, then I will be given more trust by the teacher.

4. Dare to express yourself
If you are the kind of student who is ignored by the teacher, don't just blame the teacher blindly. You must first find the reason from yourself.If your grades are mediocre and your performance in class is mediocre, then the teacher doesn't like you but doesn't pay attention to you.There are only two extremes that tend to attract the teacher's attention: the best learners and the worst learners, and they will leave a deep impression on the teacher.Did you actively speak in class?Do you like to use your brain?Would you like to ask your teacher questions?If the answer is no, it's no wonder the teacher doesn't pay attention to you.You have direct contact with the teacher to increase opportunities for communication, shorten the distance and close relationship with the teacher, and can also enhance your learning motivation.You can also ask the parents to contact the teacher so that the teacher can get to know you better.

A harmonious relationship with the teacher can not only promote learning, but also learn a lot of principles of life, which will benefit you endlessly throughout your life.Believe that you can do this.

Exchange "apples of thought" with classmates

After the third year of senior high school, many people found that the relationship between classmates gradually became tense, and classmates were silently competing with each other. They had reservations about asking others for advice or solving doubts for others, and there was a lack of necessary communication among classmates. ,cooperate.

The great British writer George Bernard Shaw has a famous saying.He said: "If you have an apple and I have an apple, after the exchange, then you and I still each have an apple. But if you have a thought and I have a thought, and we exchange these thoughts with each other, Then each of us will have two minds."

This famous saying tells us the truth that if several people share their knowledge together, it will promote everyone to learn a little more.Through the exchange, everyone is likely to get one, or even several golden apples.

Two people tend to work miracles.

Confucius once said that "three people walk together, there must be my teacher", "study alone without friends, one is lonely and ignorant".Therefore, if you can often communicate and cooperate with classmates and friends during the learning process, it will be of great help to your study.With the development of society, people are now more and more emphasizing the importance of cooperation. It is impossible for one person to master all the knowledge. Only through cooperation can we communicate with each other.

Specifically, cooperating and communicating with classmates in your studies can help you in the following ways:

(1) Discussing the problems you encounter in your studies with other students can often help you correct some wrong views, and often provide clues to solve your unsolved problems.

(2) Tell other students about your understanding of learning or certain knowledge, which will help you clarify your thinking.

(3) Discussing and encouraging each other among classmates can also enhance your motivation to study, enhance friendship with each other, learn together and improve together. In this sense, your peers are also your teachers.

(4) It can absorb some good learning methods and experiences.There may be many reasons for being bored with certain subjects, but one thing cannot be ignored, that is, you haven't found the trick to learn the subject, and you can't find the feeling of learning, so you are upset and depressed. Homework produces weariness.Get in touch with some students who are eager to learn, especially those who are good at the subject, and you can learn from them, so as to find the tips and feelings of learning the subject, and the situation will naturally improve.

(5) It can also help you realize where the joy of learning lies.Get in touch with students who are better at learning, and you will naturally know the joy of learning the subject from the other party's speech, which will also help you change your attitude towards learning a certain subject.

(6) It can also effectively mobilize one's own enthusiasm for learning.Get in touch with good students more, and the other party's enthusiasm for learning and progress will also infect you. Students with a little backbone will want to catch up with the other party instead of bowing down. This will naturally mobilize their enthusiasm for learning.

Since the communication between classmates has such a great effect, what should we do to make this effect fully play?

(1) Learn to actively communicate with classmates, even if you are an introverted person, you must also learn to communicate with classmates. There is no completely closed person in the world who can achieve lasting and brilliant victories.For example, if you have a problem that you don’t understand, you should take the initiative to ask your classmates. For other people’s requests, you should do your best to help as long as you can.

(2) Pay attention to get in touch with students who are stronger in this course.Under normal circumstances, for middle school students, the subjects that they are not interested in are often the subjects that they are weak in.It is not very meaningful to contact students who are not outstanding in the study of this course. It is best to have more contact with students who are outstanding in the study of this course, so that you can learn more.

(3) Learn to discuss problems with classmates.In the process of communicating with classmates, you should listen to other people's opinions patiently, and you should pay more attention to the differences between other people's thoughts and your own, compare which is better and which is worse, and further improve yourself.

(4) There must be a clear purpose in mutual contact.Many students don't have this awareness yet, so they often communicate for a long time, but they don't gain much.Some students are just for fun, so it doesn't make much sense.Only when you have a clear purpose and know what sutra you want to get, can you get the sutra without the other party knowing it.For example, where are the tricks of learning this class, where is the fun of learning this class, etc.

In the usual study, it is also good for learning to find someone who can help and learn from each other.Just like rowing a boat in a lake, when you row in the middle of the lake, you may not feel any progress after rowing for a long time, and gradually slow down naturally.However, paddling close to the shore of the lake, watching myself move forward, and seeing results, will naturally give me energy.Take it a step further and choose a boat that goes with you to race against each other for even better results.

(End of this chapter)