Women must read: Love depends on robbing, marriage depends on support

Chapter 27

6. Choose love in a high-profile way, if you want to get the best golden apple

Women often appreciate themselves who choose love in a low-key manner, because a low profile creates a noble soul.

A woman who thinks she is smart likes to analyze and compare, and fall in love with the "love risk coefficient table".They are rational enough, but they ignore the simplest formula of love - choose the one you love the most, and choose the best one.

Women like to complicate simple things and set up a bunch of "future combustibles" for their love.

Little do they know that the deepest wisdom is to face one's true heart without fear.

Ask, who do you love and who you are with, so that you will face the uncertainty of the future with less regret.

Only in ultimate love can there be eternal security.

29-year-old Chen Yuanyuan met a man with excellent conditions through a blind date. Zhang Zizhou, 38 years old, opened his own law firm and was well-known in this city.Tens of millions of assets.This person is not tall, but looks very elegant.For Chen Yuanyuan, who was designing for a small company, this was almost a pie in the sky, and it hit her on the head with a click.

Chen Yuanyuan had a bad relationship before, so she fell in love once, and her boyfriend was pried away by her best girlfriend.This matter is clichéd, but whoever puts it on will have to shadow it for a while.Although it was a year ago, Chen Yuanyuan still had doubts about human nature.

So when she met Zhang Zizhou, Chen Yuanyuan felt that God really treated her kindly. It could be said that she took away a trash can and sent a gold mine.

On the other hand, this Zhang Zizhou really hated Chen Yuanyuan, and chased after her passionately.This made her suspicious of Zhang Zizhou.She thinks that this man has such good conditions, and he hasn't married yet, so he is not a liar, right?Didn't he hide his family and come out to pick up girls?Besides, with his worth, he is a diamond king, what kind of woman has he never seen before, so why is he so passionate about an old girl?

Chen Yuanyuan thought about it, no, she couldn't fully communicate.So she kept an eye out and continued the blind date.It should also be said that Chen Yuanyuan is very lucky. This year, two excellent suitors came at once. The other is a boy of the same age as her, a software developer with a monthly salary of over [-].What's rare is that this boy, little A, is very infatuated. Whether Chen Yuanyuan is naked or has a few pimples from time to time, he thinks she is as beautiful as a fairy.

Chen Yuanyuan almost had her own cognitive hallucinations.You must know that this man's compliment is the best "beauty agent" for a woman.More importantly, Chen Yuanyuan felt very relaxed with this boy.She can follow him around the night market in underpants, vest, and slippers, anyway, he has hallucinations on her now.No matter how messed up her appearance was, he thought it was so beautiful.

At this time, she is equivalent to developing two at the same time, constantly deliberating and comparing, hesitating.In terms of inner feelings, she likes Zhang Zizhou, and marrying a prince is every Cinderella's dream.And a girl like her who is obsessed with security is easily attracted by elegant middle-aged men.

However, what she hesitated in her heart was that she was afraid that she would not be able to hold him.Chen Yuanyuan has an advantage, that is, she is very rational, and she is less erotic than ordinary girls.In other words, she has a strong sense of self-defense and will not be easily driven by others.

At this time, Zhang Zizhou began to send jewelry to Chen Yuanyuan, and then told her that he could give her a car.But Zhang Zizhou was very tactful in his speech. He only talked about how good the house was and how good the car was, but he didn't say who owned the authorship.

Here, let me tell you, there are a lot of "little threes", who are really glamorous from the outside world, living in big houses and driving nice cars.However, this is all a bubble, and when she is "laid off", all these assets will have to be recovered.

Chen Yuanyuan is not stupid, she knows the tricks of these people.But she wasn't entirely sure.If she was sincere to her, wouldn't it be a pity to miss it.

So she swings from side to side, and both men are on edge, fighting for her.After all, Zhang Zizhou is a veteran, neither rush nor slow, looming.But the words are more weighty.Little A is good at talking, like foreigners, she likes to praise women.This is very attractive to women.So Chen Yuanyuan became nervous again.

This small A can be regarded as a potential stock, and it can score 70 points if it is long.He has such a sweet mouth and is so good at making girls happy.No, this person may not be easy.Chen Yuanyuan is 29 now, and he is also 29. After 10 years, Chen Yuanyuan is old and young, what about Little A?It was the prime of life.It is very likely that the limelight will surpass Zhang Zizhou.Wouldn't it be worse for Chen Yuanyuan then?It would be better to end up with Zhang Zizhou, at least by then he won't be able to move around anymore.

In fact, a girl is only cute if she is somewhat emotional. She is too rational and tends to waver.

Chen Yuanyuan is not a girl of real power either, if she is, she should make a deal with Zhang Zizhou immediately.At least it is off-the-shelf, and off-the-shelf is much less risky than unknown.But she still pursues something real in her bones, which is a mixture of feelings and security.To put it simply, girls like Chen Yuanyuan are pursuing a plan with the least risk factor in the future.

For these leftover women, they have "future phobia", do not believe in love, do not believe in humanity.So they rationally use various models and various data analysis to minimize the future emotional damage coefficient and put more safety locks on themselves in the future.

So Chen Yuanyuan, who was entangled, came to me and showed me various possibilities.I told her that this thing is not as good as the sky, and no matter how accurate this thing is, it is useless.It is better for the follower to follow his own heart.

First of all, what kind of man do you want?Before meeting them, did you have a template in mind?

Secondly, during this period of dating, you feel their love for you, which one is the most reliable?Or, in the next 10 years, which kind of love will you be more likely to accept?
There is a problem here, and I want to remind the girls.Don't judge the depth of a man's love for you by the enthusiasm when he chases you.Especially at the beginning.In the beginning, men are dominated by lust, and in the middle part, rationality begins to rise.

Chen Yuanyuan told me that by the middle part, both of them had cooled down.Zhang Zizhou is relatively regular, while Xiao A is very quiet for a while, and suddenly very enthusiastic.But generally speaking, Xiao A seems to appreciate her appearance, while Zhang Zizhou often criticizes her.Although Zhang Zizhou also has a sense of presence, he is indeed not as enthusiastic as Xiao A, and seems more rational.

Chen Yuanyuan's choice is more difficult.If I change to a very emotional girl, I will persuade her to give up.Because these two men are difficult to control, and both belong to the luxury of love.To put it simply, they are all old players in the love scene.But Chen Yuanyuan is rational and indifferent, which is her biggest advantage.

So let's go back to the second question, what kind of person are you, emotional or rational, which kind of love are you more likely to accept?
Star Zhang Zizhou is a rational man. This kind of man has a relatively deep city. If you live together, even if he has an ambiguous partner, he will hide it deep and won't let you find out.If it is said that he has no family and is serious about choosing a wife, then I suggest Chen Yuanyuan choose him.Because of Chen Yuanyuan's personality, she fits well with Zhang Zizhou.

Little A is dominated by sensibility, and this man is romantic.Including what Chen Yuanyuan told me, there was a sudden French kiss on the road.This kind of passion is absolutely impossible to last for 10 years, not even a year.And now the reason why little A keeps chasing and grinding is because Chen Yuanyuan is hard to get, which arouses his desire to conquer.Once he got it, he got tired of playing, he would compliment people, be lingering, and be enthusiastic, all of these will go to hell.

What does it look like when an enthusiastic man gets discouraged?Almost like a zombie.At that time, you were just a piece of furniture, a pot of cactus in his eyes.Moreover, this kind of emotionally dominant man has a high chance of becoming a big carrot in the future.He will please girls.

We know that people have a kind of talent, which need not always be wasted.Why do you think vixen always hook up with men?She has this ability, but she can't use it to "skill".The same goes for men, he is very proficient at picking up girls, if you ask him to keep a low profile, it's like a sharp sword in a scabbard, he can't hold back.

That is to say, even if it wasn't because of the hormonal disturbance, he wanted to find a little worship out of technical itch, and the chance of cheating in the next 10 years is relatively high.

A rational man is often a lifer.He will select objects very carefully, and the observation period will be very long. Once it is finalized, the possibility of change is very small.And the temperature of him chasing you (the temperature in the middle stage), assuming it is 70 degrees, it will be about 60 degrees after marriage, and the contrast will not be too great.

Sensual man lives by passion and romance, and lives by creating love fantasies. The enthusiasm may be 90 points, but after marriage, it drops to 60 points, and you can't stand it. The gap is too big.And he could be 20 degrees or even 0 degrees.

The ancients said: "The rigidity is very easy to break, and the deep love will not last long."Why do Chinese people take the mean?Go too far and you'll wear out too quickly.

There is another question, which is about appreciation or nitpicking.Girls are another misunderstanding here, she tends to trust her "hearing" too much.This can't be used as a sign to judge who is more in love at all.

why?

First of all, from the perspective of actual conditions.

For Chen Yuanyuan, Zhang Zizhou is a man with a high starting point, so he must look down on her.Then he raised these opinions in the hope that she could improve so that she could match him better.This kind of pickiness cannot be understood as a kind of disgust.If he really disliked it, then he would have given up on this option a long time ago, so what is he doing so much with her?
In addition, Xiao A is on the same level as her, and looks up to her somewhat.Chen Yuanyuan is indeed pretty, so Xiao A naturally feels quite satisfied.

Secondly, analyze from the different personalities of the two.

Some men are more proud and domineering, and this kind of men may tend to die.The more stubborn and difficult a man is, the more likely he will be responsible for his choices in the future.Some men have a low "threshold" and feel good when they see a girl with a slightly flat head and face. This kind of man is more likely to cheat after marriage because there are no taboos.

I advised Chen Yuanyuan to take a gamble and choose Zhang Zizhou instead of Xiao A.Because in this world, absolutely risk-free things do not exist.But it depends on how willing we are to take that risk.

Chen Yuanyuan said that Zhang Zizhou is what she likes in her heart, and the reason why she can't let go of Xiao A is because Xiao A admires her very much.

But Little A's appreciation can't last long. If she chooses Little A's full fulcrum here, then once Little A's love is gone, will she feel that she has lost money and lost a lot of money?

Many women have several misunderstandings when choosing love:
First, I want to choose a man who really loves me and treats me really well.

First of all, women tend to confuse passion and love, lust and love, emotional good and rational good.

Most loves start at the starting line of "lust".No way, it's human nature.Just like when you see a good handsome guy and you feel like him very much, there is more or less lust mixed in it, which is not calm and irrational.

Just based on the initial contact, do you know what kind of person he is?Do you understand his connotation?Do you know how compatible your lives will be in the future?

You don't know anything and you can like handsome guys.That man is more single-celled than you are.

Also, good sensibility is the initial sacrifice of love, and there are too many people who can do this.And rationality is good, it is discretionary payment, why?We should save it in our future life and give this kind of good bit by bit.

Because this kind of man wants life, so he will be more indifferent.

Second, I'm going to choose the man who currently has less temptation and seems safer.

What is a sense of security?What can satisfy your spiritual and material needs now is a sense of security.No one can tell what will happen in the future. The sense of security has nothing to do with being rich or poor. A man without money is just as obsessed with pornography.This power is much greater than that of rich men.Once you let him flourish and seize the opportunity, you are expected to be kind to you.Now men are not charitable to their own mothers, let alone a woman who has passed away.

So which man to choose?
Choose your favorite man.Don't have any fulcrum, any expectation, any gratitude.Especially don't use an attitude of looking down - I chose you who are relatively poor, but I am noble, so you must treat me well.

The girl who had this idea hurriedly turned to the wall and thought about the past. A woman who becomes a creditor is the most unlovable woman in marriage.Easiest to get kicked out.

After rational planning based on general conditions, we must make a decisive move and choose the best golden apple with a high profile.

Because you have enjoyed its brilliance and you have not treated yourself badly, then no matter what changes you make in the future, your regret will be much lighter.

Women always like to "loan money" in their emotions, as if they put a "noble loan" with a slightly inferior man, and they can get the share dividends that his conscience will discover in the future.But he was afraid to pick the best golden apple, because he felt uneasy about being loaned out.

Let a man be your "creditor", and you will work harder to pay off his indulgence in the future.Such a sense of security is much more cost-effective and more willing for you!
So, make a decisive move and pick the best golden apple.Use it to reward your youth, no matter what happens in the future, we are worth it!At least I didn't treat my heart badly!

(End of this chapter)