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Chapter 37 What Men Don't Want You to Know (6)

6. His bait may not only give you a fish to eat

Many girls don't know how to deal with "suspected cheating" incidents in love, and they are often "spiritual cheating".It's not that he doesn't love you, but too much interference and too much love.No way, who made him excellent?
Many men are eloquent, and they are shamelessly more thorough than men who are vague.

"Yes! She just likes me, but I only regard her as my sister!"

"So many girls like me, doesn't that mean your boyfriend is attractive? Shouldn't you be happy?"

When you want to probe into his heart further, he suddenly changes the subject, or keeps silent.

We often feel that we can't see through this kind of man. He is positive and optimistic, but he always has reservations.He seemed to enjoy the attention of the girls around him, but he "couldn't bear" to reject it completely.They even asked their girlfriends to help them resist the "Peach Blossom" accident.

This kind of man is often only "spiritually cheating", and can't find any real evidence of betrayal, false or true, true or false, but it seems that he has a deep love for you, but he does not give affirmative promise.

So the girl is entangled between hope and disappointment, entangled, and love is born.

In fact, are these women really brazen enough to "hook" your boyfriend?Moreover, can you be sure that he is really just your "boyfriend"?

But when the girl gets tired and wants to let go, the man will turn back and attack until your heart softens.You make excuses for yourself in your heart, he loves you, but he is just too kind and doesn't know how to reject others.

This kind of "suspected" man who loves you deeply, but who puts bait everywhere to hook up with other mermaids is really a poppy of love.The difference with being ambiguous is that he has a real relationship with you.But it also belongs to the gray area of ​​love.

I have an interesting case here.In the middle of their relationship, Xiaoru found herself kicked from the "main room" to the "spare tire No. [-]" position. How did she deal with it afterwards?

Xiaoru, 27 years old, met her boyfriend in high school and fell in love during college.Both of them live in City A, and their family background is good. Xiao Ru and her boyfriend Xiao A have two or three houses.Such a childhood sweetheart, and a well-matched relationship, logically speaking, there should be no problem, right?
The problem lies with Little A.It is undeniable that Xiao A is a relatively good man.After graduation, he quickly gained a foothold in the company and was in charge of an important software development project. It can be said that he is young and promising with a bright future.Of course, Xiaoru's qualifications are also good. To be an editor of a well-known fashion magazine, she must be good-looking and talented.The two families are also close to each other, so they were very satisfied with this marriage.They discussed, work for two or three years first, and then get married after laying a solid foundation.

Because Xiao Ru is a girl with a relatively independent personality. When she was in college, although Xiao A and her were studying in two places, they kept in touch intermittently, but Xiao Ru never thought much about it.She believes that students should focus on their studies.

We can see that a girl like Xiaoru is confident and independent, and she either doesn't believe in people or believes in them at all. She belongs to a girl who is more open-minded in her heart.

But Xiao A is different, although this man is quite strong and capable in starting his career.But in terms of emotion, he belongs to a man with a delicate mind and a little melancholy in his heart.He is afraid of being alone and hopes that someone will always be by his side.

Such a subtle contrast will lead to a fork in the road of love in the future, which no one thought at the time.

In fact, there are "infatuated" chasers in college student A. After graduation, they all return to work in city A where they are in their hometown.That girl chased her all the way to City A.

This incident made Xiaoru very angry, but Xiao A explained that he really just pitied her, and had no meaning for her at all.Xiao Ru thought to herself that the relationship of so many years is not just let go.So I believed Little A's words.

Soon, Xiao A, who was like a fish in water in the company, appeared many "admirers".And he is just "not good at" keeping a proper distance emotionally.

Girls like Xiaoru are more confident, because they don't doubt men casually.Although she was distressed, she still chose to believe in Xiao A.She felt he could handle these things.

During this period, Xiaoru was busy with the two issues of manuscripts, and she was so busy that she didn't contact Xiao A for half a month.When Xiaoru regained her breath, she found that there was something wrong with Xiao A.

At this time, because of various reasons such as frequent business trips and bad moods, Xiao A began to treat Xiao Ru indifferently.At first, Xiao A couldn't find Xiao Ru, and now Xiao Ru can't find Xiao A either.Many times Xiao A came to have a meal with her in a hurry, and she was still caring and considerate.But come and go like the wind, after a while, he will reappear.

The phone is often not answered, and occasionally I call to say I am busy.Xiao Ru gradually felt that something was wrong, she paid close attention to the changes in his space signature, and found that the abbreviation L appeared more frequently.Xiaoru felt that he had another woman.

Later, Xiaoru wandered around Xiao A's space for a long time, and broke into the space of the woman named Linda.She found some photos of Xiao A and Linda going to Yunnan and Hainan.

This blow was huge, but fortunately Xiao Ru was strong and calm, so she went directly to Xiao A and asked what was going on.

Little A smiled and said, "She, a client, plans to study in the United States recently, and she has a boyfriend."

Many men will answer women like this.

"She has a boyfriend."

"She already has a husband."

This is the "half sentence" concept of love.Girls please remember that just because she has a man doesn't mean other men won't chase her.This is a completely different matter in the mind of a man.

The ancient Empress Xiao was robbed by seven men.Concubine Dong E, whom Emperor Shunzhi loved most and became a monk for, was snatched from one of his generals.Yang Guifei was originally the concubine of Tang Minghuang's son Shouwang.It can be seen that a famous flower has an owner, and has never been an "obstacle" for a man.

A woman who is "closed to the outside world", although she is clean and self-sufficient, in the eyes of men, it may mean that no one cares about her.A woman who surpasses the "rules", knows how to leave a gap at the "critical point", engages in a little ambiguity, and plays a little trick, but can make many men fascinated and become a hot commodity in the men's market.

It is precisely because of such a little "irregularity" that the man's "brutal nature" is so violent that he has to take it over and take possession of it.

It's not that you are not good enough, but that you are so good that you have surpassed the "reading limit" of men.They are sensory animals, and they can only grasp your good from the "market value" superficially.

Looking at the above case, Xiao Ru doesn't quite trust Xiao A, but she also reserves her opinion.On the one hand, she is 27 years old, which is the age to get married. On the other hand, the two of them have known each other since they were in their teens, and they have a good relationship foundation. It is a pity to give up.Xiaoru is another girl who loves first.

At this time, Xiaoru has several high-quality men working hard secretly, hoping to pursue her.Seeing how hard she has been in love, her family and friends also advised her to "select the best".But Xiao Ru still wanted to give Xiao A a chance.

Xiao Ru went to ask Xiao A about the wedding date, and Xiao A said that he wanted to concentrate on his career before the age of 30, and if Xiao Ru still loved him at the age of 30, they would get married.

Xiao A can afford it, but Xiao Ru may not be able to afford it.What's more, the "female client" Linda called from time to time, Xiao A's whereabouts became more and more suspicious, and she avoided Xiao Ru when answering the phone.At the same time, Xiaoru found that there were many girls' photos in Xiao A's folder.She completely doubted this man's character.

Once, Xiao Ru called Xiao A suddenly, and Xiao A said, "Who is there, I am with my girlfriend." Xiao Ru was stunned, am I not his girlfriend?

Afterwards, Xiao Ru decided to break up with Xiao A. Since Xiao A made a clear statement, it showed that Xiao Ru was no longer his "girlfriend".

At this time, Xiao A came back and explained, sometimes he said that he was in a bad mood and always felt cold all over his body, and he used bitter tricks to win mercy, and sometimes he said that the woman was cheating him and using him.But after all, it's basically not the point.

Pay attention to the characteristics of this type of "stamp collector". First, when they repent, they often resort to bitter tricks in exchange for sympathy.Second, they didn't talk about the process of interacting with a certain woman in detail, but only said that they were cheated by her and took advantage of their feelings, which was completely from the perspective of "victims".Third, never mention your commitment to your future.

After talking about it, I didn't talk about your relationship in the end, just talking about how pitiful he is.

In this way, once the girl accepts him, she will find that he has "recovered" again, and continues to be mysterious and unpredictable.

Why?Because he is in the "spare tire process".

He needs to repeatedly pick out the "best match" for him.This type of man is often a combination of arrogance and inferiority complex, a kind of morbid pride, different from pure playboy carnal men, this type is "spiritual cheating" men, but they are undoubtedly the most harmful.Because if it goes on for a long time, it will cause great mental harm to serious girls.

In the next section, we will see how to deal with such "spiritual cheating men" who confuse the concept of love.

In short, women must remember that when a man uses the concept of "half a sentence" of love to you, and is assisted by delicate and considerate means of action, he is not a good man who is not good at words. "Cunning hunters who leave room."

You might not be the only one to get his "affectionate" bait!
(End of this chapter)