Be good like water: life management lessons from Park Geun-hye to women

Chapter 16 Thank You for Solitude: 18 Years of Recluse Wasn’t Misery (3)
earn respect with an apology

For most people, apologizing is a very difficult thing, especially for politicians, apologizing sometimes means admitting defeat, and even ruining one's own political life.But unlike most politicians, Park Geun-hye conquered South Korea with an apology.

In her early years, Park Geun-hye always regarded her father as an idol, and she loved her father deeply.In her opinion, it was under the leadership of her father that South Korea developed from a backward agricultural country to an economically powerful country, which doubled the national income by more than ten times and ended the poor life of the people.Although in the eyes of outsiders, his father is a majestic president, but he is a gentle and good father at home. His love and education for Park Geun-hye has always been warmly preserved in Park Geun-hye's heart.

But no one is perfect, even her beloved father must have made mistakes of one kind or another.Park Geun-hye re-examined her father's political career during that period of seclusion. She said: "I have always cherished the sweat and tears that my father and that generation paid for the industrialization of this country, and also for the democratization of the country. People who worked hard gave very high evaluation... Therefore, from the perspective of democratization, there are indeed many shortcomings, and there are indeed people who were victims in the process of democratization. I always feel very sorry for those people, their sacrifices are priceless to have the Republic of Korea today..."

As the "daughter of a great dictator", Park Geun-hye's political life has been affected by many negative effects.But on the one hand, she affirmed her father's outstanding achievements in promoting economic development; on the other hand, she also won the understanding and forgiveness of voters through a sincere apology. "I deeply apologize to all individuals who have been harmed by the government's abuse of power, as well as to the families of the victims."

Former South Korean President Kim Dae-jung was imprisoned several times during Park Chung-hee's administration. Park Geun-hye went to the hospital to visit him on the hospital bed many times, and held Kim Dae-jung's hand tightly to express apology. is happy."

Shakespeare said in the play "King Lear": "To make excuses for failure will only make the wound deeper." If Park Geun-hye refuses to apologize in order to protect her father and her so-called face, not only is she likely to win If she doesn't run for office, perhaps she still bears the reputation of "the daughter of the great dictator".Apologize for mistakes, even those closest to us should have a fair and objective evaluation of them, so that we will not ruin our future because of some past mistakes.An apology can warm people's hearts; an apology can win friends; an apology can make the road ahead wider and wider; an apology can win us more support and respect.

At the end of 2003, Toyota Motor Corporation of Japan put out two advertisements in Chinese media, one of which was an advertisement for the Overbearing brand: an Overbearing car parked in front of two stone lions, and one stone lion raised its right paw as a salute. Another stone lion bows its head down, with high-rise buildings in the background, and the advertising slogan with the picture is "Overbearing, you have to respect"; the other is an advertisement for Toyota Land Cruiser: the brand car is pulling a car on a snow-capped mountain plateau with a steel cable. The big green truck was shot in Hoh Xil.

Chinese netizens commented on Sina Auto Channel and other websites, pointing out that the stone lion is a totem of China, which means China, and the green truck represents China's military vehicles. Therefore, these two advertisements of Toyota insulted the feelings of Chinese people and hurt the Chinese people. Chinese people's self-esteem, and produced many radical remarks.

After the crisis broke out, Japan’s Toyota Motor Corporation and FAW Toyota Motor Sales Company urgently met with more than 10 media, saying that “these two advertisements are purely product advertisements with no other intention” and formally apologized to Chinese consumers through the press .Toshio Furuya, the general manager of FAW Toyota who has served Toyota for 27 years, kept bowing and apologizing at the apology meeting: "This is completely caused by our poor work, I am very sorry." Toyota also expressed its subjective and no fault in a timely manner Sex, "I didn't mean it, but since there was such an ambiguity of understanding, I have to apologize" "In order to prevent similar incidents from happening, the company is taking corresponding measures to resolutely prevent similar incidents from happening, hoping to get consumers in the shortest possible time. understanding and trust".

At the same time, Toyota immediately stopped publishing the two advertisements, and submitted a written explanation to the industrial and commercial management department, actively seeking ways to solve the problem on a larger scale.The "Auto Friends" magazine, which published the "Toyota Overbearing" advertisement, took the lead in publishing an apology letter to readers on the Internet.

Toyota's sincere apology and proactive rescue measures finally won the understanding of Chinese consumers, so that Toyota's sales in the Chinese market were not affected. This fully demonstrates that an apology plays an irreplaceable role in resolving the crisis.But in daily life, many people are unwilling to apologize, and they bite the bullet and refuse to admit their mistakes when they are right in front of them.They find all high-sounding reasons to justify their mistakes, and they are afraid that they will lose face and lose their prestige because of apologizing.They are eloquent, shirk their responsibilities, try to get away with it, and confuse the public.As everyone knows, when everyone recognizes your mistakes, but you are still trying to argue and are unwilling to apologize, your ugliness has already discredited you.

Dare to apologize is a person who dares to bear the consequences of wrong actions, and it is a manifestation of self-confidence and bravery.Have the courage to admit that you have made a mistake. Only such humility and sincerity can win the respect of others.In the face of achievements, we strive to be the first to gain praise, and whether we can be brave in the face of mistakes is a test of a person's moral character.Dare to apologize is the choice of a wise man. Facing mistakes calmly, treating oneself correctly, and rationally viewing other people's evaluation of oneself, this is the quality that a person with good character must possess.

If a person wants to be successful, he must have the courage to apologize.Admitting mistakes is the same as affirming achievements. It is a summary of what we have done. Dare to face mistakes and apologize sincerely, so that we can deeply reflect and reflect on the reasons for mistakes, and learn valuable lessons from them. To avoid the same mistakes in the future, only in this way can we gain growth from twists and turns.

Success and failure always go hand in hand. A person who desires success should not be afraid of failure, let alone feel timid about making mistakes.If you make a mistake, you have to admit it. It’s no big deal. We will resolutely not do things that “should save face and suffer.”Dare to apologize, not only can resolve conflicts and hatred between people, but also a necessary moral sentiment for a person.

self-salvation in despair

The successive death of her parents is a scar that can never be healed for Park Geun-hye, but this scar inspires Park Geun-hye to live stronger, because only in this way can she be worthy of her parents, and only in this way can she fulfill her father's last wish.She achieved a great self-salvation in despair, she healed herself, and faced a new life with a healthier mind and body.

After the death of her father, Park Geun-hye seemed to be hollowed out. The sadness of the loss of her relatives, the suffering of life at the bottom, and the betrayal of those around her seemed to push her to the edge of a cliff.But Park Geun-hye has always believed that "everything will change in the time of silence".No matter what has happened, as long as you live in the right way, one day all nightmares will pass.Because of all kinds of blows, Park Geun-hye's physical condition has problems, so she started to practice yoga and Qigong, and insisted on reading and writing every day.As the mentality returned to calm, the body gradually improved, and the mood seemed to be much better.

During this period, Park Geun-hye also studied philosophy and Buddhist scriptures. She always liked a sentence from Osho Rajneesh: "Since life is short, there are countless joys such as stars, moons, flowers, men, women, rivers and mountains. But you still continue to fight and live this life foolishly? You come and go empty-handed, and when you realize this, everything will naturally become clear.” Through her own continuous efforts, Park Geun-hye Not only her health problem has been solved, but her heart has also been sublimated, allowing her to know how to continue her life.Indeed, the world is so cruel sometimes, and no one can share her pain and comfort her soul when she is in despair.She can only work hard to redeem herself and heal herself until one day she can stand up again. How can the rebirth of the phoenix nirvana make people unmoved?

A veteran of the Gulf War had a similar experience to Park Geun-hye. He injured his knee due to parachuting more than ten years ago and became disabled. The doctor said that he would no longer be able to walk on his legs. At first he also accepted this reality. Began to gain weight slowly in decadence.One day he saw a poster promoting yoga in a magazine and decided to start practicing it every day.But because of his disability and huge weight, he practiced yoga with more hardship and effort than others.But as the practice continued, not only did his weight continue to drop, he was even able to walk independently without crutches.

When life is in crisis, we should turn to ourselves for help.On the journey of life, we often fall into the swamp of trouble. Our first reaction is often to look forward to someone with good intentions to help us, but when no one comes to help in the end, we feel hopeless.In fact, we don't have to wait in despair at all, because the one who can really save us is actually ourselves.

For an ordinary woman, the biggest blow in life is the accident of marriage.For the breakdown of feelings, many women regard it as a disaster.Some of them were crying and making noise, hysterical, and full of resentment that made them almost crazy;No one can save them except themselves.The breakup of the relationship is just another ups and downs in life. In the face of the blow, they can completely wipe away their tears and move on.You can go to physical exercise to make yourself have a beautiful body; you can learn calligraphy and painting to cultivate your sentiments; Rediscover the meaning of life during the journey; of course, you can also muster up the courage to find your own happiness again, because only by saying goodbye to the wrong person can you have a chance to find the person who really suits you.

We are fully capable of helping ourselves, and of self-salvation in despair.It's just that many people take the setbacks in front of them too seriously, and always feel that their abilities cannot be settled, so they can only wait for others to help.In fact, if a person wants to change his destiny, the key is to rely on himself, to believe in his own ability and belief, only you can save yourself!
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