Be good like water: life management lessons from Park Geun-hye to women

Chapter 23 Good at Thinking: The World Gives Me the Most Beautiful Perspective (1)
Self-examination makes you no longer ordinary

For the mistakes made by her father in the process of democratization of the country, Park Geun-hye dared to stand up and apologize to the public. This is a kind of introspection.Introspection is to let yourself let go of your burdens and get on the road better.

The education in adolescence cultivated Park Geun-hye's character of being diligent in self-examination.When she was still living in Xindangdong, her mother would let her play to her heart's content in the morning, and at night she would be asked to write a diary and rethink what happened in the day.Therefore, Park Geun-hye has developed the habit of keeping a diary since elementary school. Every day, she will use words to record what happened that day, which includes both her good performance and some things she didn't do well.For those things that are not done well, she must reflect, such as what is the reason for not doing well, how to improve, what are the specific steps, and so on.This kind of reflection helps her get rid of some bad habits. Although it takes some time, this process can give her a sense of accomplishment.

The ancients said: "Three reflections on myself a day." Introspection is not only a kind of life attitude, but also a kind of wisdom in life.The famous American philosopher Nozick once said: "A life without reflection is an incomplete life." In the process of growing up, people will always make various mistakes, and it is inevitable that they will encounter one kind or another. dilemma.At this time, we should not continue to rush forward blindly, but should stop and reflect on ourselves calmly, whether there are any omissions, whether the approach is inappropriate, or to re-do it for the next step planning.This can prevent mistakes from happening again, and can also help us get out of the predicament and regain the light.

When many women have disputes with others, they always accuse others emotionally, or cry and look aggrieved, which is often a manifestation of a lack of self-examination.As the saying goes, "One hand can't be clapped".For the occurrence of a disharmonious situation, both parties must be responsible.If we can calm ourselves down at this time, think more about what is wrong with us, take more responsibility for others, and treat the current situation with an inclusive and considerate attitude, our lives will inevitably be more harmonious.In the process of introspection, we will also gain something, our minds will become more open, and our vision will be more long-term.

The day Park Geun-hye led the party members to move out of the office building was the beginning of Park Geun-hye's determination to get rid of corruption. She also designated this day as "Yom Kippur Day".She went to the Hall of Bliss in Caoxi Temple and paid 108 prayers sincerely. The abbot of the temple, Zhihong, who visited with her, dissuaded her and said: "People who do great things should not hurt their bodies, as long as they are sincere, the number is not important. However, Park Geun-hye believed that she performed the 108 salutes with a sense of apology and repentance, and hoped that the Grand National Party would be reborn cleanly in the future. At night, she went to Yongle Church to participate in the reflection prayer.

We may not all repent through religious beliefs, but Park Geun-hye's spirit of self-reflection is worth learning. "There is no pure gold, no one is perfect", everyone has problems worthy of reflection.Through introspection, we can have an objective and fair evaluation of ourselves, be able to face ourselves calmly, and calmly examine our current situation, and only then can we take a more solid, stable, and longer-term path in the future.Park Geun-hye's introspection is a kind of confession to the public as a party representative for the problems that have arisen in the party.And our self-reflection is a process of self-learning and self-growth after getting rid of distracting thoughts.

The famous French philosopher Rousseau once passed on his disgraceful theft to a maid when he was a teenager, causing the girl to suffer innocent injustice.After his success, Rousseau was always anxious and always felt painful about this incident.He said: "When I was so troubled that I couldn't sleep, I saw this poor girl come to condemn my crime, as if it was committed yesterday." Rousseau said to himself in his famous book "Confessions" Serious and profound criticism was made.He dared to make such a scandal public, showing his magnanimous mind and extraordinary personality.

In the era of rapid development, to be able to grasp the pulse of the times accurately and timely, so that we can always adapt to the constant changes in society, we must do self-reflection all the time.Only in this way can we always maintain a clear mind, a rational attitude and the ability to distinguish right from wrong.Give ourselves a little more reminder from time to time, so that we can avoid bumping into walls and getting into trouble; it can help us resist temptation and insist on doing what we should do; it can also reduce the friction between people and make our life full of joy. More harmony and harmony.

Life requires the boldness to swallow mountains and rivers, but also the deep and rich accumulation and precipitation.We need enough time to introspect in order to make ourselves more perfect and better.Looking forward is our vision and hope for a better future, and looking back can be sublimated between success and failure of taste.Don't underestimate the power of introspection, it can help us create extraordinary achievements.

"History of Chinese Philosophy" is the lighthouse of my life
When Park Geun-hye was almost desperate, it was traditional Chinese culture that helped her out of the predicament. "History of Chinese Philosophy" is a great work that established the history system of modern Chinese philosophy, comprehensively introducing the essence of the thoughts of Chinese sages over the past 5000 years.It is such a masterpiece that has become a guiding light for Park Geun-hye, she said: "During the most difficult period of my life, it was the Chinese scholar Feng Youlan's "History of Chinese Philosophy" that made me regain my inner peace and see the lighthouse of life. "

"History of Chinese Philosophy" is a masterpiece of Mr. Feng Youlan who spreads Chinese philosophical thoughts in an easy-to-understand and simple-to-understand style of writing, and has produced far-reaching influence both at home and abroad.It was this book that became the introductory textbook for Park Geun-hye to understand Chinese philosophy and culture. She studied it with great concentration, recorded it carefully, and with the spirit of hard self-study, she overcame language barriers and the characteristics of lack of clarity and hints in various schools of thought. In 8 years, I read through a 60-word masterpiece.

In Park Geun-hye's diary, the profound influence of Chinese philosophy on her can be seen everywhere: "The best way of self-cultivation is not to be pretentious, but to let nature take its course. This is Taoism's inaction and innocence." Sitting in a secret room is like walking in the same line, and controlling an inch of heart is like six horses, which can be avoided." "Reading Chinese philosophy is difficult in the hint, and the second is also in the hint."She even used Chinese Confucianism to analyze her father's assassination incident: "'If you treat yourself generously and blame others lightly, you will be far from resentful.' The urgency of the responsibility, the deep resentment, and the stabbing of the father are probably due to this." "China "History of Philosophy" made her understand that the so-called life is not a struggle with others, but a struggle with herself.In order to be victorious in this struggle, the most important thing is to have a firm heart and control your emotions and desires.I understand the ordinary but precious truth: money, reputation and power are like ashes that disappear in an instant, and only an upright life is the most valuable.

Park Geun-hye believes that "History of Chinese Philosophy" helped her get out of the predicament because it contained the wisdom that allowed her to become righteous and overcome this chaotic world.Since then, every word and deed of Park Geun-hye has been deeply influenced by the wisdom of Chinese philosophy.Even after becoming president, she still lives a simple life, doesn't pay much attention to basic necessities of life, strictly abides by the Taoist theory of health preservation, and maintains a waist of no more than 26 inches all year round.She usually doesn't speak much and speaks slowly, and she always looks amiable, but she also upholds the style of life that "the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water".She believes in the doctrine of the mean, and advocates the idea of ​​​​ruling by doing nothing.After her brother was detained for drug use, she calmly commented: "'Reverse Taoism', anything that goes to one extreme, will go to the other extreme. He can save himself."

It can be said that the wisdom of Chinese philosophy has had a profound impact on Park Geun-hye. It not only helped her get out of the predicament, but also made her wait for a turning point in her destiny, becoming the most influential president in Korean history.Why did a Chinese philosophical masterpiece become a life guide for a South Korean president?Because it includes Chinese philosophical thoughts including Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism, it advocates self-cultivation, makes people wholeheartedly good, and treats everything that happens around them with an attitude of life that is not surprised by favor or humiliation, and peaceful and happy.Under the guidance of this thought, everyone should have an upright and selfless heart, and strive for the common prosperity and harmony of our lives.

Such wise thoughts are not very popular in today's China. Some people behave recklessly, indulge in lust, destroy social and public order for their own self-interest, and treat personal moral cultivation as nothing, which has caused many disharmonious situations in today's Chinese society. factor.In particular, most women always feel that learning traditional Chinese culture is conservative and old-fashioned, not fashionable enough, and philosophy is even more obscure, so studying philosophy is what some old pedants should do.

Zhou Guoping, a famous Chinese scholar, believes that philosophy is to make you have a good attitude.We usually live specific days and do specific things, and philosophy allows us to jump out of this "specificity" and examine the panorama of life, so that we can figure out what is important and what is not important in life.When we return to the "concrete", we can grasp the important ones and let go of the unimportant ones.

In addition to cultivating a good attitude, philosophy can also teach people how to think, and always maintain a life attitude of exploring the truth of everything.It can cultivate our ability to think independently, look at the people and things around us from a unique perspective, guide us to reflect on life, and guide us to find the point of convergence between life and soul.Philosophy enables people to jump out of the narrow limitations of experience and gain broad wisdom.

Park Geun-hye's experience tells us: Philosophy is not boring, women should learn a little philosophy, it must be of great benefit.

Words can record the past and tell the future
Park Geun-hye has always been accompanied by words in her life. She not only loves to read, but also likes to record her mental journey with words.From her words, we can see pain and hope, as well as faith and strength.The text records the bits and pieces that happened to her, and at the same time tells us her vision for the future life, and her heroism and ambition to lead the Republic of Korea to prosperity again.

During the period when Park Geun-hye was far away from the Blue House, she took her first step as a literati and published "Ao Shi Can Be Born in an Ordinary Family" which gathered her daily life and thoughts, and then released a collection of essays "After all, it is a hand, after all It's a point", and became a member of the Literati Association.She reads a variety of books in different fields, and copies down good sentences to accumulate her self-cultivation. Sometimes she also talks about her views and understanding of life and the real world. These written words are still the compass of her life. .

The reason why Park Geun-hye was able to draw strength from words was due to her mother's teachings to her when she was a teenager, which made her develop the habit of writing a diary every day, and this habit has been maintained to this day.These mental journeys recorded in words show Park Geun-hye's tenderness and tenderness, and also give us a deeper understanding of her true state of mind and feelings.

November 1989, 11: "What I envy is an ordinary life. Even if I live an ordinary life, there are still luck and misfortune, but I still envy the ordinary life. Seeing those ordinary people living ordinary lives on TV I feel very comfortable in my heart during the day. No matter how great the achievements are, it is difficult to grasp the psychological balance, and no matter how outstanding the achievements are, it is difficult to have an ordinary life. It seems that this is my destiny. .”

October 1990, 10: "In a sense, life is a play. Just as actors play their roles with superb acting skills on the stage, we also play various roles on the stage of life. There are Some people play the role of villain, some people play the role of scapegoat. Our life is the process of playing this role seriously."

July 1991, 7: "As an ordinary person, my biggest goal and wish is to cultivate the purest and most shining soul and make it soak into the depths of my heart. If I don't have this soul, even if I dominate the world Even the emperor is not worthy of envy. If I were asked to choose between a beautiful heart and prosperity, I would choose the former without hesitation."

May 1992, 5: "The tranquility I enjoy now is also produced by the positive energy brought about by long-term thinking in the past. Although changes in the surrounding environment are also one of the root causes. What is the most powerful thing in this world? This world What is the most vulnerable? What is both ugly and beautiful in this world? It is the human heart and my own heart."

From these words, we deeply feel the process of Park Geun-hye's inner growth and character maturity. She has finally transformed from a delicate and gentle girl into a powerful politician full of wisdom and calmness.In the baptism of life, using words to record life is not just a hobby, it should be an important part of each of us.When we are confused and frustrated, a piece of writing may inject new power into our lives, and a pen may inspire us to have new desires for tomorrow's life.

Many women have left a body early in their lives. They can't remember how they walked from the years, and they don't know where they should go.Repeating the same life every day, seemingly endless, I am afraid that only her children are the only belief that supports her to live.As for hopes and dreams, they have already disappeared from her dictionary.So we need a power that gives us the opportunity to reorganize the current state of life, make a complete summary of the past, and make a new outlook on the future, and the value of words is precisely reflected in this.

Some people say that a woman who likes words is lonely. If she thinks about the feasting, singing and dancing, her thoughts will never flow like water.On a quiet rainy night, a solitary lamp, a square of plain paper, the pen rustling on the paper, and the rain pattering outside the window; women who like words are simple and clear, their sorrow, their joy, their love, their love so that everything about them is in the text.They like rain, like wind, like snow, like the moon, like the quiet poetry, like to put themselves in the story, with those lingering words or joy or sorrow; women who like words are delicate and sensual, they They will be full of tears because of the withering of a flower, the falling of a leaf, the end of a small life, and a sad song. They will also be moved by your care, a look in your eyes, a smile or even an inadvertent turn around. endlessly.

The power of words does not lie in gorgeous rhetoric, not in incisive rhetoric, but in the ability of words to pierce people's hearts, like a piercing pain, like a bone-piercing severe cold.It can wake people up and purify their souls.In life, maybe everyone's pursuit is different.Wine, sex, wealth, sensuality, but these are things outside the body after all, and they are not brought with them when they are born, and they are not taken away after death.Immortals, only words.Even if we can't become writers, at least we can enrich our spirit through words, why not do it?

In short, through words, we can cultivate our conscience and provide great spiritual power for our lives.Whenever we feel lost in our current life, we might as well, like Park Geun-hye, read the words we have written in the past. Maybe we can find some comfort from them, or we can find solutions to the current problems and be overcome by them. Life wisdom and philosophy of life that we ignore.Of course, don't forget to write down what you have encountered and felt today with a pen. It is possible that these humble words will point out the direction for your future life.

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