Be good like water: life management lessons from Park Geun-hye to women

Chapter 24 Good at Thinking: The World Gives Me the Most Beautiful Perspective (2)
Knowledge makes women full of charm
Women all hope that they are beautiful and elegant, with a distinctive noble temperament.In addition to superb beauty technology, in addition to colorful top fashion, it is more important for women to have a certain amount of knowledge.Knowledge can enhance a woman's character, thought, connotation, quality and taste, and can make a woman exude the charm of wisdom and profoundness from the inside out.Park Geun-hye is such a woman.

Park Geun-hye has loved learning since she was a child. When other children were out to play, she was alone in the room doing homework seriously.It was the good foundation laid during that period that made her determined to become a scholar engaged in scientific research since she was a child, and she had the opportunity to study abroad at a young age.In addition to the knowledge in textbooks, Park Geun-hye also liked Chinese literature when she was young, such as "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms". She also developed a strong interest in history. The truth of the state and the vicissitudes of life.Later, Park Geun-hye mastered English, Spanish, Chinese and French in a short period of time. For a while, she even took on the job of interpreting the president.During her 18 years of living in seclusion, she also dabbled in literature, taught herself philosophy, and achieved certain attainments in religious studies. Even her ability to play the piano has made great progress and improvement.So much so that after she became president, many people always used such words when describing Park Geun-hye: "wise and brave", "elegant and gentle", "flexible like water".

Regrettably, in our real life, many people still uphold the erroneous notion that "a woman is virtuous without talent", thinking that as long as a woman finds a good man to marry herself, her life will be considered complete.As long as you can take care of your family and have children in the future, you will have nothing to regret in life.As for reading and studying, it is of no use at all, and even the women themselves agree with this view.It is for this reason that in the high-end scientific and political circles in the world today, the number of women is far less than that of men. It is not that women are born with a lack of ability, but that they do not pay attention to the learning of their own knowledge and the cultivation of skills.Therefore, when Park Geun-hye appeared in the international political arena, her special charm was unforgettable for a long time.

German Chancellor Angela Merkel, former Ukrainian Prime Minister Yulia Tymoshenko, China's "post-80s beauty president" Dong Siyang, CEO of SOHO China Co., Ltd. Zhang Xin, and Professor Li Fanghua who won the "World Outstanding Female Scientist Achievement Award", these successful women have no doubts. The one exceptions are all women with their own ideas, unique style and profound knowledge.It can be seen that for women, knowledge is the golden key to knock on the door of success.The taste of a woman is not only due to appearance, but also comes from inner self-cultivation.

Knowledge can make a woman have wisdom.Thoughtful women are usually more confident in their knowledge and abilities, and firmly believe that their ideals and aspirations can be realized through their continuous efforts.They are always low-key and calm in their daily life, not ostentatious, not artificial, and when difficulties come, they can also deal with them calmly, without fear in the face of danger.In the process of getting along with others, they can always respect others and will not impose their own outlook on life and world on others. They can always take the initiative to think about others, and they can also get respect from others.

Knowledge can enhance a woman's temperament.Time is a ruthless knife, it will always take away a woman's youth and beauty.But a learned woman can show elegance and tender charm in all stages of life.No matter what kind of occasion, you can relax, be generous, and have an extraordinary conversation.They have their own unique views on issues, and they are loyal to their beliefs. They are proficient in all kinds of piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and they have read poetry and books, exuding a refreshing fragrance all over their bodies.

Knowledge can win applause for women.Knowledgeable women are often talented, good at both character and learning.They are not only good partners who are willing to get along with people around them, but also their good teachers and helpful friends, and spiritual mentors.In the small aspects of life, their extraordinary wisdom can be demonstrated everywhere.Sometimes they radiate the great brilliance of motherhood, sometimes they are innocent like innocent girls, and sometimes they become mature women with outstanding charm, wisdom and firmness.They will win countless praises and applause, and even men have to feel admiration for them.

Knowledge can bring success to women.In today's society, many women live in fear every day. They are always worried that their families and relationships will be broken as their youth passes away.They think that age is the chief culprit that hinders their love life, but in fact it is themselves who really ruin their happiness.Knowledgeable women never live in the shadow of others. They have their own pursuits and ideals. They believe that as long as they do well enough, they don't have to worry about the injustice of life, let alone the infidelity of others.Profound knowledge can bring them success in their careers and make their lives more colorful.They have no time to care about how others behave. This is the mentality and bearing that a winner in life should have.

What are you waiting for?Rather than wasting time on beauty or slimming, it is better to seize all the time to learn, because only knowledge can make you have an extraordinary temperament!
Insight into world affairs, practice human feelings

There is such a couplet in "A Dream of Red Mansions", one of the four famous Chinese novels: "An insight into the world is knowledge, and understanding of human feelings is the article." It is said that if you want to understand the world, you must learn everywhere; If you want to deal with people's sophistication very thoughtfully, there are articles everywhere.Park Geun-hye naturally has a way of dealing with the world. Her gentleness and understanding are often the magic weapon to solve difficult problems.

In the eyes of many people, Park Geun-hye is very good at creating an informal atmosphere for the other party through various methods, especially in the process of getting along with others, she can not only make the other party feel friendly and kind, but also easily coordinate and resolve All kinds of contradictions.

In the office, Park Geun-hye never forces the staff to use honorific titles. No matter in the office or in the corridors of the Congress, when she meets or breaks up with the secretary, she will nod or watch them walk away.When she goes out on business, she always takes a taxi like an ordinary company employee.

Once, a taxi driver directly expressed his dissatisfaction with the Korean political circles to Park Geun-hye: "You keep saying that you want to fight for the country to the death, but what has become of our country now? You just say that Said, in reality, the common people are really dying! What I said can represent the aspirations of our people in the south of the city.”

If you were any other political leader, you might be very displeased with the taxi driver's complaints, but Park Geun-hye doesn't have the slightest bit of displeasure on her face.Not only that, she also expressed her understanding of the complaints of taxi drivers, and sincerely stated that the reason why she was elected as a party representative was to solve the livelihood problems of the people, and she has been working hard for this.

Hearing such a warm and passionate reply, the taxi driver's dissatisfaction naturally eased a lot, and he also naturally developed admiration for the female political leader around him.It was originally an embarrassing situation for both parties, but it was easily resolved by Park Geun-hye, mainly because she was very particular about human relationships when dealing with others.

This is the power of practicing human feelings.Orientals have always put etiquette first, and they have reflected the importance of sophistication in many aspects of dealing with world affairs and interpersonal relationships. Only good people can do good deeds. This is an eternal truth.

No matter how capable, smart, and diligent a person is, if he doesn't know how to be a human being, how to get along with others, and doesn't know how to abide by rules and pay attention to strategies when dealing with others, then his final result is destined to be not very good.

The reason why many people do nothing all their lives and always feel that they are unrecognized and unlucky is because they have not handled their interpersonal relationships well, and have not adopted an appropriate way in dealing with others. Based on the social environment, is there any reason not to be eliminated by the society?

Specific to our life, many young girls nowadays are very inattentive in many aspects of the world, they are always self-centered, do not know how to adapt themselves to the environment, let alone how to get along with others in harmony.Either grab the limelight everywhere, wishing to gather all the praises in one body; or only know how to do their own thing, and never consider other people's feelings.For example, because of their close relationship with their father, some girls often call their father by his first name at home, or even call him "Lao Zhang" and "Lao Wang", but in society or in the company, they don't care about the occasion or who they are with. Calling some old leaders or older colleagues like this will make people very disgusted.

Of course, mastering human feelings is not flattery or flattery, but a skill that must be mastered in the cruel reality of competition.To adapt to the society, you must accept the rules of the game. Human feelings are cold and warm, and the world is hot and cold. Only if you understand these, you will not let yourself fall into a passive position.On the other hand, most of the ways of the world embody the basic moral principles and principles of benevolence, righteousness, propriety, wisdom, trustworthiness, gentleness, courtesy and humility. No matter how great a person wants to achieve, if he cannot even meet these minimum moral standards , so what qualifications do you have to talk about other things?
Good habits are the catalyst for your success

Park Geun-hye has many good habits since she was a child, such as introspection and diary writing.Even after she entered politics and had to do a lot of things every day, she still insisted on writing a diary every day to reflect on what she did in a day and her true feelings at that time.Some people say that you can know nothing, but at least you must have a good habit.It is the inconspicuous good habits that eventually lead to great success in your life.

Park Geun-hye commented on the power of habit in "A Little Life": "There is a famous saying: good habits are more important than anything else. Take weaving as an example. Every warp and weft looks so thin, weak, and beautiful. Not amazing, but once put on the loom, after a dense interweaving process, they form a beautiful and strong cloth. This is quite impressive. In fact, every conscious or unconscious behavior in daily life, every sentence Inadvertent words are all weaving our personality, character, spirit, bearing, etc. As the wheels of the years continue to move forward, these will be reflected in us one by one. In this way, they are fixed bit by bit In us, we grow. It's habit."

She also wrote in "My Heart's Journey": "Nothing is better than a good habit that makes people safe, and nothing is worse than a bad habit that tortures people. Every day, we unconsciously accumulate or precious Or horrible habits, we're all thinking about how we're going to get through the day."

The key factor that can promote our success is often some trivial good habits in life.As the saying goes, "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." When some good habits are formed, such as patience, perseverance, and bravery, it will directly affect the success or failure of our lives.As someone said, the most valuable gains in our entire lives come from kindergarten.Because there we learned to share food with children, not not to take our own things, but to put our own things neatly; pay attention to hygiene, wash hands before meals; rest after lunch; learn to apologize for doing something wrong; Think more, observe carefully, love nature, etc.These good habits developed in childhood will become the essential quality and important character of our life in the days to come.

The famous Chinese gymnast Li Ning turned out to be just an ordinary gymnast.But he has a very good habit in his usual training: insist on training for more than 10 hours a day, and every time he trains, he must break through the difficulty of a movement, otherwise he will not leave the training hall.It is precisely because of this accumulation that he won three gold medals at the Los Angeles Olympics.Mr. Lu Xun, the great master of Chinese literature, had a poor family when he was young. He went to the pawn shop every day to buy medicines before going to class.One day, when Lu Xun was late, the teacher angrily criticized him severely.After hearing this, Lu Xun did not make any excuses for himself, but nodded and returned to his seat silently.The next day, he came to school early and carved the word "Zao" with a knife on the upper right corner of the desk.From then on, Lu Xun cherished time like gold, and developed the good habit of "everything is early, everything is early".And it is this good habit that has always inspired Lu Xun to fight all his life.This shows how important a good habit is to our life.

Many people living in contemporary society often do not pay attention to the development of good habits. They always do whatever they want in life, and even regard it as a kind of "personality".The famous American speaker and writer Ogmandino once said: "The biggest difference between success and failure comes from different habits. Good habits are the key to success, and bad habits are a door that opens to failure." Some Sometimes we always fail to achieve the goals we set for ourselves, and it is often related to not having good habits.

Nowadays, many women spend their free time after returning home from get off work, besides lazily lying on the bed watching TV, playing with mobile phones, calling friends and playing mahjong all night, and sometimes even unwilling to do housework, let alone There will be a good habit of reading and studying.Sometimes I have a whim and plan to cultivate some beneficial hobbies, such as calligraphy and painting, but after I bought the pen and ink, it was thrown aside, and it still remains the same as it was before.After seeing the sisters whom I haven't seen for many years have made outstanding achievements in their careers, or showed a significant improvement in temperament and cultivation, I have to be jealous and secretly regret.But who can blame this?What's more serious is that some of our bad habits may also affect our next generation by "precepts and deeds". If you waste your time with nothing to do every day, how can you expect your children to study hard every day and grow up to be a What about useful talents?
Cultivating good habits is not only related to our own success or failure, but also has a profound impact on our future generations.The formation of good habits is often not achieved overnight, but requires accumulation bit by bit, which is the result of persistence and hard work every day.This requires us to strictly demand ourselves at all times and in everything, starting from every little thing around us: get up on time every day, insist on brushing our teeth in the morning and evening, insist on eating breakfast, greet colleagues when we meet at work, Be fully engaged, have useful hobbies during your breaks, never spend money on shopping, and so on.The formation of habits is the process of repeated repetition of the same behavior. This process also shapes our personality, allowing us to have many good virtues, such as temperance, tolerance, diligence, thrift, tidiness, modesty... Ordinary little things , after a long period of time, it will allow us to reflect good moral qualities in our lives.See the big in the small, embody high quality in small things, and achieve great achievements in good habits.

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