Be good like water: life management lessons from Park Geun-hye to women

Chapter 3 The Greatest Kindness is Like Water: Using Flexibility to Interpret True Strength (2)
In life, many women easily lose confidence in themselves or become confused about the future due to setbacks.If you really believe that the current state is not what you want, then don't force it, you might as well take a vacation for your body and mind, take a "gap year", walk around, look at different scenery, maybe you will You will find what you really want. "Gap year" is a concept that has only become popular in recent years, but the practice of finding yourself through travel has always existed.When Park Geun-hye was away from the political arena, she put on casual jeans and sneakers and visited famous mountains and rivers and cultural relics in South Korea.The travel relieved the stuffiness in her heart, and regained her enthusiasm for life and hope for the future.

If there is no accumulation of small currents, there will be no rivers and seas
I believe many people are familiar with this passage in "Xunzi Encouraging Learning": "If you don't accumulate small steps, you can't reach a thousand miles; if you don't accumulate small currents, you can't form a river." The reason is very simple. Any great cause cannot be achieved overnight. , but by the accumulation of little things bit by bit, without struggling step by step, it is impossible to achieve success.

Whether you are a genius or an ordinary person, there is no shortcut to success. You must be down-to-earth, work hard and struggle bit by bit.To achieve the ultimate goal, we must continue to work hard every day in our lives, and the accumulation of what we do every day determines our future success or failure.Whether in history or around us, those who have achieved certain achievements are often good at self-management.They are very planned in their daily life and don't waste a lot of time on pleasure.In their view, only by living every day well can we create a better tomorrow.Park Geun-hye is a person who knows how to cherish time.

When she was in school, Park Geun-hye cherished her time very much. When her classmates were resting and playing, she continued to study hard in the classroom.Such hard work brought her excellent grades, and she successfully entered the ideal university after graduation.During her tenure as the "First Lady", she has a deep understanding of the preciousness of time. Her work is very heavy, and there are endless things to do every day. She can't wait for time to stop.During this period, Park Geun-hye usually only sleeps 5 hours a day, and she has to get up in the early morning to get ready for work, and she doesn't even have time to see a doctor.This good habit of cherishing time has gained Park Geun-hye a lot, not only accumulating a lot of political experience, but also laying the foundation for her future political career.

Regarding cherishing time, Park Geun-hye has a very deep understanding: "Life is really beautiful! The 1 minute that has just passed immediately belongs to the past, and the 1 minute that is coming will also become the present. You can't catch it, you can't hide it." Time that can’t be hidden, I think the best thing we can do is to make full use of time. Although we can’t grasp the passing time, living correctly in this world is our best life!”

Many times, an inconspicuous detail in life will have a great impact on our life, and some insignificant things will also affect our destiny over the years.So no matter how lofty your ideals are, you should start with the little things around you and cultivate your own good living habits. When doing the right things in the right way becomes a habit of behavior, then the other side of the ideal will also be achieved. It is no longer far away from you.

Park Geun-hye's parents knew this truth well, so they had strict requirements on Park Geun-hye when she was very young.When she was still in elementary school, she developed the habit of keeping a diary under the guidance of her mother.She conducts self-reflection in her diary every day, writing down what she did well and what she did not do well that day, and thinking about what she did not do well and where she needs to improve.In addition, Park Geun-hye also recorded her bad habits in the diary, and if any one has been changed, it will be crossed out with a red pen.This method helped Park Geun-hye get rid of many bad habits and gained a sense of accomplishment.Park Geun-hye persisted in the habit of keeping a diary. In those later difficult days, Park Geun-hye insisted on keeping a diary, not only expressing her emotions in the diary, but also recording her own feelings and gains.Persisting in keeping a diary not only helped Park Geun-hye through the most painful period in her life, but also gave her a strong spiritual strength, allowing her to walk firmly on the road of life.Park Geun-hye also insisted on transcribing sentences and taking notes while reading. These notes enabled her to improve her self-cultivation and connotation, and became the compass of her life.

In addition, Park Geun-hye insists on learning Chinese, watching Chinese teaching programs every day, and listening to recordings for practice. She knows that continuous practice is the only way to learn a language well.Perseverance is the only way to achieve success. Even a seemingly small effort, as long as you persist, it will accumulate as capital for success.This is the power of "drops of water penetrate rocks". No matter how small a drop of water is, as long as it drips uninterruptedly on the rock, one day the rock will be broken down unconsciously.

Don't underestimate any small thing, the accumulation of small things will also generate incredible energy.Park Geun-hye attaches great importance to small things, for example, she is very concerned about vulnerable groups, and can actually propose countermeasures from specific small things.When dealing with "small" issues related to people's livelihood, Park Geun-hye will not formulate policies blindly, but first understand these people, and only after understanding their specific difficulties, can she propose practical and useful policies.For example, when dealing with infant care policies, Park Geun-hye proposed childcare measures that would allow women to go to work without worrying about the needs of working women; when addressing the issue of vacations for dual-career couples, Park Geun-hye proposed a policy that dual-career couples can entrust their children within a certain period of time. .It can be seen that details are very important.Small things accumulate together, like small rivers coming together, and will eventually become a magnificent ocean.

The reason why Park Geun-hye can achieve today's achievements is of course related to her background, but it is more than that.There are many graduates of famous universities in the Korean political arena, and there are also many descendants of famous families, not to mention the lack of talented people.Can Park Geun-hye gain a place in the political arena just by relying on her background?Of course not.The reason why she can achieve brilliant success is due to her own hard work, the accumulation of bits and pieces every day, and her continuous improvement of ability and self-cultivation.As Park Geun-hye wrote in the book: "Just like a small stream eventually formed a big river, at the beginning, a small stream opened up a waterway, and then the stream has been following this waterway. Mountain roads are also , One person first created a path, and later people have been walking along this waterway." This is the power of the stream.

Water drops through stone: There is no "impossible" in life

As the leader of the country, Park Geun-hye has to overcome obstacles and difficulties, but at the same time she has to face various misunderstandings and slanders.But in Park Geun-hye’s view, the leader of a country must turn all kinds of “impossible” things into “possibility” through indomitable will and perseverance. This kind of life is more meaningful.

For many in South Korea, the prospect of a woman leading the country is a fantasy.However, nothing is impossible. Park Geun-hye is the first female president of South Korea to break through this traditional fate.

People are always willing to be bound by all kinds of "impossibles", and they dare not take a step beyond the threshold, either because they are timid about challenges in life, or because they have no confidence in their abilities, or due to failures. Let yourself be disheartened.In the past, the so-called ideals and beliefs have long been thrown out of the sky, and only mediocrity and helplessness are left in life.

Life cannot be smooth sailing. When we are hit repeatedly or continue to work hard and still cannot get rewards, we might as well give ourselves a little more faith. Just like Park Geun-hye, we will accept everything and find a way to overcome it.In her view, the mission entrusted to her by God is to create new hope amidst despair.

In 1979, Park Geun-hye's father, Park Chung-hee, was shot and killed accidentally. After that, a movement to criticize Park Chung-hee was launched across the country.What makes Park Geun-hye even more heartbroken is that even her father's cronies fought back and deliberately kept a distance from her.After that, she lived through a painful period of loneliness and grief, and disappeared for 18 years.

Women are always good at labeling themselves as weak, and they are used to choosing to shrink back and escape in the face of various blows, but the cruelty of reality often cannot make us turn a blind eye or stay out of it.That being the case, no matter how weak a woman is, she should become strong in the baptism of life, sublimate her heart bit by bit, and make herself the real master of life.As Park Geun-hye wrote in her diary, "Pain is an attribute of human beings, and it can prove that people are still alive."

During those unbearable years, Park Geun-hye still paid close attention to the national economy and people's livelihood, and accompanied by literature and philosophy, she sought inner peace and spiritual detachment.Although she did not want to return to politics, her previous beliefs made her unable to bear to see her beloved country gradually decline. In the 20s, when South Korea’s political situation was in chaos, Park Geun-hye resolutely returned to the public eye. Step by step, through her unremitting efforts, she finally realized the dream of "serving the people" and interpreted the truth that there is no "impossibility" in life with her own practical actions.

In 1993, she served as the chairman of the Korea Cultural Foundation. In 1994, she served as a member of the Korean Writers Association. In 1997, she joined the Grand National Party of Korea. In 1998, she won the mid-term elections in North Gyeongsang Province and Daegu and was elected to the National Assembly.Due to her special status and political status, Park Geun-hye visited Pyongyang as a civilian in 2002 and was received by North Korean leader Kim Jong-il. She visited China twice in May 2005 and November 5.

On May 2006, 5, Park Geun-hye was violently attacked during the campaign and finished her campaign speech with pain. In June 20, Park Geun-hye announced her candidacy for the president of South Korea.In the presidential election at the end of 2007, Park Geun-hye sincerely said to her supporters: "I have no parents, no husband, no children, and the country is the only object I hope to serve." "Some countries in Southeast Asia have already had female prime ministers." , female president, why not South Korea?" Her sincere words and little actions over the years finally moved the majority of South Korean voters, and finally succeeded in being elected as South Korea's first female president.

If there is any secret to Park Geun-hye's success, it is actually that she did not forget her hope and belief in despair, and used little efforts to realize her ideals and goals.Ban Gu, a famous historian in the Eastern Han Dynasty, once said: "One qian a day, ten qian a day. A rope saws a piece of wood, and a drop of water pierces a stone." The power of a drop of water is insignificant, but it can penetrate a stone.This seemingly unbelievable thing has become a reality due to the support of perseverance.Success depends on this spirit of dripping water through rocks.

In Taiwan, China, there is a girl who had to sit in a wheelchair forever because of illness at the age of 4, but she made up her mind to live the same life as "ordinary people".Relying on her courage and belief, she changed her life little by little.She first adapted to sitting in a wheelchair and taking various means of transportation. At the age of 20, she took more than 1 Taiwan dollars earned from part-time jobs and traveled freely to Hong Kong with her classmates with a travel guide.Later, she also experienced diving, "set foot" in more than a dozen countries in a wheelchair, and turned her global dream into reality with little effort.She said: "Although my body has inconveniences that ordinary people can't feel, none of these can stop me from exploring the world, and they can't stop my adventures in the world in a wheelchair."

Compared with men, women's strength is so insignificant; compared to setbacks, women's will is so vulnerable.However, no matter how small the steps are, it is also a kind of progress, and no matter how weak the strength is, it is also a kind of effort. As long as you don’t actively surrender in the face of difficulties, as long as you don’t mourn the spring and autumn, lament and despair in the face of blows, no matter how strong the stubborn stone is, it will be pierced.As long as we work hard in the same direction drop by drop, day after day, year after year, and persevere, we will be able to knock on the door of success!
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