Be good like water: life management lessons from Park Geun-hye to women

Chapter 30 Learning Tolerance: The Most Beautiful Gift Age Gives to Women (2)
French scientists Proust and Bessole have debated for as long as 9 years in order to discuss the law of definite ratio.Finally, Proust discovered the law of definite ratio and became the final winner of this great debate.Proust was not complacent and complacent because of this, he poured out his heartfelt gratitude to Betholler, he said: "If it weren't for your difficult quality, it would be difficult for me to study the law of definite ratio in depth." It is declared that Bessole has half the credit for discovering the law of definite ratio.Although Bessole was the loser of the debate, he was not upset about it at all. Instead, he was very happy because he found the truth in the scientific debate.So, he wrote to Proust: "You have discovered the law of definite ratio. Congratulations. The nine-year debate has borne fruit. I salute you, the discoverer of truth!"

Almost everyone who achieves extraordinary achievements will have strong opponents to compete with them.Opponents will not only take away your victories, they will usurp the honor and dignity that is rightfully yours.Therefore, we must use all our wisdom and strength to defeat them.The stronger your opponent is, the more difficult your life-and-death struggle will be, and the more valuable your struggle will be.Regardless of the final result, this process will transform your soul and allow you to realize the true value of life in the contest with your opponent.Opponents can make us stronger, more mature, and better understand the meaning of struggle and progress.Thanks to our opponents, they make us stronger.

Justify the name of the father, forgive others and quell the hatred
Park Geun-hye is a tolerant woman. She forgave others' betrayal and slander, and calmed down the spread of hatred with a broad mind.Tolerance is a virtue that enables people to experience happiness and fulfillment in life.Letting go of hatred is to let go of others and to treat oneself kindly.

After the death of Park Geun-hye's father, South Korea set off a movement to criticize Park Chung-hee, and even those who were once used by her father also participated in it.Facing the indifference and inexplicable accusations of others, Park Geun-hye almost collapsed.

Once, she saw a subordinate she trusted very much in the elevator, so she greeted him politely, but that person pretended not to know her, turned and left.What made Park Geun-hye unbearable the most were the unwarranted accusations and slanders against her father in the society, many of which were fabricated facts, and some malicious people deliberately lied.

In Park Geun-hye's view, although his father made mistakes during his administration, his heart was always looking forward to the prosperity of the Republic of Korea. He should not be insulted like this after his death.Faced with betrayal, slander and injury, a 27-year-old girl felt helpless and hopeless. This was not only a physical pain, but also a mental injury.

She also thought about using her own way to confront these acts of lack of kindness, and to make her own roaring voice to the people of South Korea.However, what can she do when she is alone and weak?More importantly, whenever she feels angry and hopeless, she always thinks of her mother's teachings on self-discipline and humility, and thinks of her mother's advice on staying away from power and always remaining ordinary.So, she always reminded herself to keep a moderate amount of silence and calmness, and no matter what happened, she couldn't let herself behave irrationally.

Gradually, she began to stop hating those who hurt her, because she knew that hatred could not change the status quo, nor could slander change the truth of the matter.Instead of letting anger and hatred torment yourself, let yourself be relieved with a tolerant attitude.What's more, there are so many people who support and encourage her. With their help, books and film and television works to justify her father's name began to be published one after another.All this has satisfied Park Geun-hye.

Shakespeare advised people: "Don't get angry because of your enemies, and burn yourself hotly." Narrow-minded, in fact, is against yourself. If you think about how to take revenge on others all day long, then the one who gets hurt in the end is yourself.Tolerance is a kind of extraordinary tolerance, a kind of broad mind, the tolerance of repaying grievances with kindness and the acceptance of life as it is.There will always be a lot of helplessness in life, so the strong in life will face life with open-mindedness, and often laugh off those hatreds.

In the mid-17th century, there was a famous Italian painter named Medello.Although he loves painting, he tried hard for a long time when he was young but failed to make any progress. He began to imitate or even counterfeit world-famous paintings in a gallery in Venice.

One day, Medello was copying a famous painting called "Water Carrier" in his gallery, which was painted by Spanish painter Diego Velázquez.At this time, a tourist came in and stood behind Medello and watched him paint quietly, Medello didn't care at all.When Medelo painted the princess carrying water in the painting, the tourist said disappointedly: "The bucket of water is very heavy, the woman's body should be tilted more!"

Medellu felt that what the tourist said made sense, so he started to paint again, but the tourist still seemed dissatisfied, frowning and said: "This woman is standing in the house, the color of the water should be darker!"

Medello marveled at the visitor's appreciation.Afterwards, he copied the painting completely according to the tourist's opinion, and it was almost as good as the real one.

"Thank you very much for your guidance, now this painting will definitely sell for a good price!" Medellu said.

"Yes, it won't ruin my reputation too much, and it can bring you high income." The tourist said.

"Your reputation?" Medellu asked puzzledly, "if I may ask, your name is..."

"Diego Velazquez," said the visitor.Medellu was so shocked that he couldn't say a word. He never expected that the author of "The Water Carrier" was standing in front of him!To his surprise, Diego Velázquez turned around and left the gallery after finishing his speech.Medellu asked in surprise: "Aren't you going to sue me?" Diego Velazquez smiled and said: "Life is the soil of art. Although you are just imitating, I still don't want to be sued because of art." Threatening your life!"

Diego's tolerance made Medelo ashamed. Since then, he never imitated other people's paintings, and devoted his energy to real artistic creation, and finally became a great painter.Many years later, Medelo wrote such a passage in his autobiography: "It was Diego who saved me, and his tolerance and generosity saved me! If he chooses to let me be punished by law, then I will not be able to do so in art. Probably never will achieve anything."

A smile, an understanding, and a turn around can turn hostility into friendship and free people from resentment and conflict.Learn to be tolerant, and you will be able to have a mind that embraces all rivers and rivers, and you will be able to see the green mountains, green waters, blue sea and blue sky in your life.But if you never forget those prejudices, suspicions, slander, and insults, then you can only walk into the abyss of endless darkness.

Some people say that a woman who knows how to tolerate must be happy.Tolerance is not only a realm, but also a strategy for living and dealing with the world.Some women yell at people around them and get into a rage because of trivial things, such as their lover forgot to turn off the lights when they went out, or their children accidentally stained their newly bought clothes.The matter has come to this point, even if the throat is broken, it is nothing more than quarreling and bickering, saying something hurtful to each other, and finally broke up, and I am always uncomfortable with anger.No one wants to see such an ending that hurts both sides.As the saying goes, "Take a step back and see the sea and the sky."If some small things in life are not so preoccupied, conflicts and quarrels will be much less.Even if the other party is really wrong, can't it be resolved through a calm conversation?It is really not wise to make lovers become enemies and relatives become enemies.If Park Geun-hye can let herself go in the face of hatred and accept everything that happens around her with a tolerant heart, why can't we let go?
A tolerant woman must have a noble quality, a lofty realm and a rich inner world. They show the world the most beautiful and warm side of life with a calm and quiet attitude.Even if someone hurts them, they can forgive each other tolerantly and release the pain and hatred in their hearts in time.This is the superb art of life and extraordinary wisdom of life, the best interpretation of the great love of human nature, and the most valuable kindness to life.

Women, stop gossiping and complaining all day long, put away unnecessary depression, annoyance and anger, and don't let yourself miss the good things in life in hatred.As someone said, forgiveness is far better than revenge for hurt.

Life is alive, just ask for peace of mind

Park Geun-hye feels that it is important to enjoy the freedom and inner peace that she has finally obtained, but if she has the ability to make the country prosperous and strong, and make the people happy, she will also be very happy.So don't wait until you are old to feel sorry, you should be braver and make some contributions to the country, even if you fail in the end, it is worth it.

During the years when Park Geun-hye served as the representative of the Grand National Party, she faced various challenges almost all the time. In the by-election in April 2005, the situation faced by the Grand National Party was still very severe.Although everyone is not optimistic about the Grand National Party, Park Geun-hye is still determined to win.She carefully scanned the streets and prayed for votes at least five times in each area, and only slept two hours a day.In the end, my lips were broken, and I even almost fainted due to excessive fatigue.Her hands were red and swollen, her wrists were sore, and in the end she couldn't even hold the chopsticks. Later, her hands were bandaged, and her calves had to be smeared with lotion because of cramps.Although she has endured a lot of pain, Park Geun-hye feels that as a party representative, she has the responsibility and obligation to do so.

Among several constituencies, the situation facing Yeongcheon in North Gyeongsang Province is particularly severe.Although Park Geun-hye has made great efforts, the day before the election, the Grand National Party's own poll showed that it was still 5.00% short.Many people in the party proposed to give up Yongchuan, and the staff around her also advised her that since she had no chance of winning, she might as well turn her energy to other areas.But Park Geun-hye is unwilling to give up easily, so the final result is still lost, so there is no regret.

Many people believe that there is only one criterion for evaluating a person's success, that is, whether he can win the final victory.But the world is unpredictable, but we may not be rewarded if we pay.In fact, the process of hard work is more important than the result, because it witnesses your courage and belief, and also shows your persistent pursuit of life ideals.Those who pay too much attention to results often find it difficult to persist until the end, because when the situation seems hopeless, they choose not to persist but to give up.Whether you can succeed in life is often just a matter of thought, and more persistence may make a difference.So there is no need to keep the result in mind. What we have to do is actually very simple, just work hard and work harder.Even if in the end it still fails to fulfill people's wishes, but we have tried our best, so what is there to regret?

The newspaper once reported such a news.A retired aunt is known far and wide for her "warm-heartedness", but her enthusiasm is often misunderstood by others.She volunteers to patrol the community every day. Once she finds someone throwing paper scraps, fruit peels or cigarette butts, she will run forward to dissuade them, and take the initiative to pick up the rubbish on the ground and throw it into the trash can.Those who littered felt that the aunt's behavior hurt their self-esteem, felt that she was nosy, and even suspected that she had other plans and malicious intentions.And my aunt's family also felt that since she had retired, she should enjoy family happiness at home, and the fact that she went out to do this kind of thing made them very embarrassed.The aunt never took these voices of doubt to heart. She felt that it was the responsibility of every resident to maintain the environmental sanitation of the community, and her approach was undoubtedly correct.Therefore, even if everyone didn't understand, she still had a clear conscience and peace of mind.

Many times, what we do and the path we adhere to are often difficult to get everyone's understanding and understanding. Sarcasm, satire, slander, and even persuading us to give up are situations we have to face frequently.These people are only superficial or evaluate right and wrong based on their own subjective feelings. How do they know what the truth we insist on really means? How can they appreciate how much hardship we have paid and how much pain we have endured for our beliefs .Therefore, it is not worth it if our direction is influenced by the opinions of others.As long as you think it is correct, you should stick to it without hesitation, regardless of other people's evaluation.

No matter how hard we try, we will inevitably encounter failure; no matter how well we do, there is no way to stop others from making irresponsible remarks.Instead of being frightened and struggling because of uncertain results, and blushing and angry because of the unobjective evaluation of others, it is better to do your own thing in a down-to-earth and quiet manner.What we pursue with our whole life is not necessarily the fruit of victory, not necessarily the approval of others. All we have to strive to achieve is to be worthy of our own efforts and conscience, which is a natural and detached state of life-laugh at life and feel at ease .

Thank your supporters, because of them you are different
Since the day she stepped into politics, Park Geun-hye has always felt the strength given to her by the support of the people.Many of them have been silently paying attention to and supporting Park Geun-hye for decades, which touched her deeply and made up her mind not to live up to their expectations. At least, she will never be an irresponsible leader .

When Park Geun-hye just came out of her seclusion, her heart was once full of confusion and uncertainty.After all, she's been out of the public eye for so long that she's not sure it's wise to end her quiet life, and that she can really save the country from crisis on her own.At this time, it was the ordinary people who supported her who gave her confidence and courage, and she felt that she had no reason not to go on strong.

The 18-year difference did not make those who supported Park Geun-hye feel unfamiliar. She was recognized by many people when she just attended the election campaign, and greeted her warmly.

In Daegu, the team welcoming Park Geun-hye did not dissipate until late at night, and the streets were still crowded with people.They waved signs such as "Geun-hye, don't cry," or simply called Park Geun-hye's name directly, and some people burst into tears unconsciously when they saw Park Geun-hye.At this time, Park Geun-hye's heart is extremely heavy: it is her responsibility to let every Korean people live a happy and prosperous life.

On the second day after a televised speech, Park Geun-hye went to Pohang's Jukdo market area to support the election. The merchants and business people in the market all grabbed her by the hem of her clothes and refused to let her leave.Some even tearfully said that they saw Park Geun-hye's speech yesterday.In an instant, everyone in the market was crying.Seeing more and more people gathered, people with red eye circles everywhere, excited sobs could be heard everywhere, the whole market seemed to be staged a sad documentary.

Among the gathered crowd, the people shouted one after another: "Come on!" "Please leave the country to you!" "Please come out and save the country's economy!"

(End of this chapter)