Be good like water: life management lessons from Park Geun-hye to women

Chapter 8 Believe in yourself: "Women are not just supporting actors" (1)
Not go with the flow
In the eyes of many Koreans, Park Geun-hye is a woman who dares to break the tradition and has unique charm.She is in a high position, but she is unwilling to follow the trend, and she is unwilling to give up her own views and ways of dealing with things in order to win the satisfaction of the majority.With her unique thinking and actions, she conquered the whole of Korea.

"A leader should dare to take a difficult road, and must have his own opinions. Even if he is insulted, he should not forget the path he chose." Park Geun-hye never forgot her father's teachings. She chose a path that others did not take. Although the road we have traveled is full of unknown dangers, as long as we persevere, we will be able to reach the end of the road.It is precisely because of this choice that she has become so extraordinary.

Everyone in the world is a unique individual. The key to distinguishing us from others and embodying different values ​​in ourselves is that each of us has different responsibilities and missions.We should find our own way of life without fear of any resistance, instead of following others forever and following the trend.

In the former Korean political arena, many people have always had such a deep-rooted idea: "Politics is to take care of your own people", "Politics is to make your own faction bigger, and political democracy is just a show after another."Everyone is happy to accept this idea, regardless of gender, background, or political affiliation, and everyone in politics is fighting desperately for the interests of their party.But in this way, how can we talk about democratic political reform in South Korea?Who will protect the interests of ordinary people?With her keen political vision and the conscience that a politician should have, Park Geun-hye resolutely decided to give up the right of public recommendation.Although her decision attracted opposition and slander from most people, and even her comrades were extremely dissatisfied with this approach, she still felt that if party representatives had a huge influence in deciding candidates every election, then the party would be It is no longer a democratic party, but a personal private party represented by the party.This is not the political ideal she pursues, and she will never change her belief no matter how many people oppose it.

Why do most people not have the courage of Park Geun-hye, but are willing to follow the trend?The key is that we care too much about what other people think, but we can’t treat ourselves correctly, so that we dare not express our true thoughts on many issues, and dare not show that we are different from others, for fear of this different approach Will be isolated and excluded by others.Therefore, it seems that the safest way is to restrain one's personality and show the appearance that meets the expectations of most people.Although such an approach can bring you temporary recognition from others, but the true desire in your heart will never be realized again.

In fact, we don't have to worry so much. What's the point of bravely doing what we think is right?Giving up your pursuit and persistence because of the expectations of others is a manifestation of your lack of responsibility for yourself.Stick to what you want to do, be brave enough to be the kind of person you want to be, even if the road is full of thorns, this kind of life is the real success.

Park Geun-hye's road to political reform was not smooth sailing, and the reform policy she adhered to also encountered many unexpected difficulties and problems.For example, some incompetent people were nominated through bribery, and various election scandals emerged one after another.However, everything in life will encounter some difficulties at first, but Park Geun-hye firmly believes that the direction she chooses is correct, as long as the direction is correct, there will be hope.As for those temporary obstacles, what are they?Just get rid of them.

Reluctant to follow the crowd, but chose a different path from others, Park Geun-hye is doomed to suffer more pain and loneliness than others, suffer more ridicule and insult, but what she gets is the realization of her political ideals, yes Ordinary people's true recognition and praise for her.This shows once again that as long as you walk on your own path, those blows and ups and downs will also become the driving force for you to move forward.

In the entire Chinese music scene, Shang Wenjie has always been a "heterogeneous" in the eyes of many people.This female singer, who has a bachelor's degree in French from Fudan University, always wears strange clothes and sings songs that others don't understand.Shang Wenjie didn't care about all kinds of doubting voices. She insisted that she didn't want to follow the crowd and was always willing to be a person who pursued music. "Since I entered this industry, I hope to be a person with musical value. At the beginning, as a pure interpreter of other people's works, I didn't feel my own value. I always pursued myself. I hope to make some different music for everyone." Shang Wenjie believes that compared with foreign audiences, domestic audiences can hear a relatively single style of music, which is a kind of sadness. "As a musician, you should not follow the trend. As long as I continue to create, I will still use my instinct to write songs. I am not a professional writer, and I don't have more flexible skills. I will not write songs in other ways. , my music is not even under the control of reason, but completely owns the imprint of myself."

A woman with a mature mind cannot follow the trend first. If you don't have the confidence to insist on yourself, then how can you expect others to believe you?You do what others say, and you echo what others express. Such people often do not achieve great achievements.Go pursue your own dreams, why bother to care about other people's opinions, even if you fail, you are accumulating strength for your next success.

How a person views himself determines his attitude towards life.Even if we can't become a successful woman like Park Geun-hye, at least we can infect those around us with a positive attitude towards life, because only those who dare to show themselves and insist on themselves will be liked by most people.

Don't look at yourself with a lack of confidence
Park Geun-hye once said at the Institute of Women’s Politics: “We women have a natural ability to manage housework and are better at managing crises. They will also do a good job in managing the country’s livelihood and managing national crises.” Such words show that It shows her strong inner self-confidence, and this kind of self-confidence makes many men who look strong on the outside fall in the dust.

Seiji Ozawa is a world-renowned symphony conductor.In the final of a world outstanding conductor competition, he conducted a performance according to the score given by the jury, and keenly discovered dissonant sounds.At first, he thought the band had made a mistake, so he stopped and played again, but it was still wrong.He thought there was something wrong with the score.At this time, the present composer and the authority of the jury insisted that there was absolutely no problem with the score, and that he was wrong.Facing a large number of music masters and authorities, he thought twice, and finally said firmly and loudly: "No, there must be a mistake in the music score!" As soon as the words fell, the judges on the jury table immediately stood up and applauded warmly. Congratulations to him for winning the competition.

It turned out that this was a "trap" carefully designed by the judges to test whether the conductor could stick to his correct proposition when he found an error in the score and was "denied" by an authority.Although the first two conductors who participated in the finals also found mistakes, they were finally eliminated because they echoed the opinions of the authorities.However, Seiji Ozawa won the crown of the World Conductor Competition because of his confidence.

Self-confidence is our objective affirmation and recognition of our own abilities. No matter what life situation a person is in, no matter what career field he is in, if he wants to achieve results, he must first fully believe in himself.

When Park Geun-hye was young, she visited a foreign country and had to speak at an important ceremony.She made full preparations, read various materials related to the ceremony, and specially prepared solemn attire.She was also a little nervous at first, but with her mother's encouragement, she regained her confidence. After all, what she represents is not her own, but the entire nation of South Korea.Confident and elegant, she received a warm welcome from the local area, and her well-prepared congratulatory speech won warm applause from all the people present.After the speech, the reporters gathered around and asked her various questions.This did not embarrass Park Geun-hye at all. She responded calmly and easily, and answered their questions one by one in fluent English.Her visit left a deep impression on the media from all over the world at that time. The composure and self-confidence she showed throughout the event also indicated that she would be able to make a big difference in the future.

Self-confidence requires firm ideals and goals.Park Geun-hye strived to be the king of kids and game champions in the community since she was a child, and it was precisely because of this imprint on her young heart that she always insisted on her pursuit when she grew up, and she would never give up under any circumstances. Shake it and make it the pillar of your own spirit and the strength of your soul.Once you have a goal to pursue, you must have firm confidence and courage in realizing this ideal. You must believe in your ability and courage. Park Geun-hye has done exactly this.

Not long after Park Geun-hye joined the Grand National Party, she decided to run for vice president of the Grand National Party.Everyone knows that the Grand National Party itself has set up a vice president position reserved exclusively for women, and she can be automatically promoted to vice president without running for election.But this position is only a virtual position, and there is no actual specific work, so Park Geun-hye gave up such favors boldly, but decided to run for the election by herself, becoming a veritable vice president of the Grand National Party.At that time, many people in the party advised her not to take such risks. Once she failed to run for the election, it would be a devastating blow to her who had just returned to politics.For such doubts, Park Geun-hye did not take it seriously. With a triumphant and confident smile, and a natural and relaxed posture, she finally won the favor of most people in the party.

The reason why Park Geun-hye decided to run for the election was precisely because of her self-confidence. She believed in her own ability, not only to win the election, but also to give full play to her due ability in a position that suits her, instead of just being in a nominal position Lost time.The famous American female writer Helen Keller once said, "Confidence is the master of destiny."

Self-confidence is an important character in life, an art and demeanor of self-affirmation.Only by believing in yourself can you understand and evaluate yourself objectively and correctly, and you can accurately grasp and control your own life.Confidence can make a woman show her charm, enjoy the fun of life in peace, and keep a clear and quiet mind in the noise; self-confidence can make a woman full of courage, even if she fumbles hard in the dark, she will not feel timid. Jing still believes in the hope and light of tomorrow; self-confidence can make a woman strong, treat everything around her with a calm and generous attitude, and prevent herself from falling into the world. Wisdom and kindness will make such a woman invincible.

In reality, many women do not have self-confidence. They think that they are not beautiful enough, not rich enough, not married to a rich husband, and not having a decent job.Therefore, they feel that they don't have the capital of self-confidence, so that they don't have the courage to stick to their dreams, and they will give up lightly in the face of any setbacks and blows.In fact, women don’t have to feel sorry for themselves. Beautiful appearance, luxurious clothing or rich family property are just external decorations. The one who can really support you is actually yourself.As long as you believe that you can live a wonderful life, you have the opportunity to become powerful.As long as you have enough self-confidence and are more persistent in life, any setbacks and ups and downs will not be able to crush you, because the inner strength is the real strength.

The world is changing, no matter what happens, you have to remember and believe in yourself.A woman is a beautiful movement, play your beautiful life with confidence!

Don't be opinionated, express your own opinion

Park Geun-hye is an independent person. She has independent thinking, dares to express her own views, and dares to express her true inner thoughts.Many of her thoughts and decisions are difficult for those around her to understand.But even so, she still insisted on her claim without hesitation, this is Park Geun-hye.

In 2002, Park Geun-hye suddenly received an invitation letter from relevant North Korean authorities, asking her to visit North Korea.Almost everyone believed that Park Geun-hye would not accept such an invitation, and even the North Korean side believed that their invitation would not succeed.What is unexpected is that Park Geun-hye accepted North Korea's invitation.For a time, various voices of opposition and questioning were heard, including her former colleagues and close family members.They couldn't understand, with such deep hatred, how could she "gladly" accept the enemy's invitation?
However, Park Geun-hye always insisted on her proposition, and wrote a confirmation letter accepting the invitation according to the North Korean side's request.She calmly and firmly revealed her heart to everyone: "It is indeed difficult to make this decision, but now I think it is necessary to transcend the painful memories of the past. Because I have experienced such pain, I hope to be able to resolve it." Open the relationship of North-South dialogue."

Park Geun-hye's words can't help but move people, how can such a heart not be admired?What is even more valuable is that she dared to express her views and insist on her own ideas in the face of doubts and oppositions. This must be the temperament that a leader should have.Later, her trip to North Korea received very good results, which temporarily eased the relationship between the North and the South. Those voices of opposition finally subsided, but the praise of Park Geun-hye remained in everyone's heart.

The famous poet Xi Murong once said: "A person's life should be lived for himself, and don't care too much about what others think." Only a person with his own opinions can control his own life, recognize his own direction, and be on the road he chooses. Go on without hesitation.

A boy's family all make a living from painting, and he very much hopes that he can take painting as his lifelong career like his family members.The boy practiced painting every day, and he would show it to his father every time he finished drawing, and his father curled his lips and said, "Oh, this is too stiff." So the boy revised it according to his father's opinion.Then he showed it to his mother, who said, "Honey, no one likes to look at things that are drifting." The boy took his mother's advice again.Later, his brother saw his painting, and he said, "God, what is this? Is it a piece of wood?" The boy quickly revised it according to his brother's opinion.Finally, my sister said, "My God, this is a piece of paper stained with dye."

In this way, the boy spent all his time and energy trying to please others, and he failed to become a painter in the end.He wanted to please everyone, but he didn't have his own thinking and judgment.

Many people are always worried about other people's objections or attracting doubts when they say and do things, so they give up their original ideas, which is a manifestation of lack of independent opinion.In fact, everyone has their own standards for how to behave in the world. As long as we have a clear stand and clear goals, there is no need to force us to be consistent with others.As long as we think it is correct, we should stick to our own ideas and have the courage to express our opinions. It doesn’t matter if others object or don’t understand for a while. It subsides.

Many women in life always habitually think that they are weak, and only those who depend on others will feel safe.They are shy, timid, lack of assertiveness, and indecisive in making decisions.They always underestimate their abilities and are always afraid of taking risks. As long as others oppose them, they will voluntarily give up their ideas.However, the true inner feelings can't deceive us. Does it really make us feel at ease by following others?Can wronging yourself to change your mind really make you feel better?The result of this can only be to keep the pain to yourself and ruin the chance of success.

(End of this chapter)