Men need to understand, women need to love
Chapter 3 She is my woman
Chapter 3 She is my woman
There is a girlfriend who is eager to have a spare tire man, but is unwilling to pay the price of her body. After repeated defeats, she laments why men are so vulgar these days.The relationship between the two started romantically, and after several times of spiritual exchanges, if the man finds that his hints and expresses that he wants to develop further are useless, he will disappear faster than a meteor. "Don't they need a friend of the opposite sex who can enjoy each other spiritually?" The woman's question is ridiculous to the man.Because in their view, spiritual pleasure begins with the attraction of the body. What's more, even if there is a pure spiritual man who has overcome the body, what he longs for must be the friendship of Shao Meiqi and Luo Jialiang, not being taken advantage of by you. Today You need to borrow a car, you need to borrow your contacts tomorrow, and you need to borrow someone’s house the day after tomorrow.
There are occasional miracles in the world, but the probability of miracles happening between men and women is far less than that happening at lottery sales points.
When Han Han supported the little singer Jin Sha, he said a famous saying: She is my woman.This is a confession that is ambiguous on the surface but naked on the inside.If a man wants to have a strong desire to help a woman, he must have secretly thought "she is my woman" in his heart. A purely spiritual relationship can never inspire such a sense of responsibility in a man.Men are willing to help you love you wholeheartedly, either when they want to go to bed or after they are very satisfied.
And for some unscrupulous people, even after going to bed, he continues to be an ambiguous route, rather than acting as a spare tire.Nowadays, in the name of the huge pressure of survival, men are becoming less and less like men. The word "responsibility" is like a scourge to them. Run away, anyway, men and women are already equal, when you go to bed, I enjoy it, and you enjoy it too, neither owes anything.
It can be seen from this that in the matter of cultivating men with spare tires, not only is it unrealistic to be a white wolf with empty gloves, but it is also unknown whether you can get a wolf if you give up your children.
Bai Xianyong's "Forever Yin Xueyan" is a role model for women who want a spare man.After careful study, it is ultimately disappointing. Even if you have a face like her that can withstand the baptism of time, how can you cultivate the nerves that see through everything and are tougher than tendons.Those are all stunners who "do not seduce others, but are bound to be seduced by others". They came to this world to dominate the men's circle.
Don't blame men for being too cunning, it's just that we can't see clearly, why don't we just live an innocent and ordinary life honestly.
Big Gray Wolf is a Feast for the Imagination
Ever since "Pleasant Goat and Big Big Wolf" became popular, more than one friend around me gritted her teeth and said, when I quarreled with my boyfriend or looked back on past emotional hurts, I would marry someone like Big Big Wolf.Gradually, "Marry Big Big Wolf" has become a popular slogan, which is said to reflect the new standard of mate selection for white-collar women.
The biggest characteristics of Mr. Big Big Wolf are that one is the extreme failure of his career, and the other is that he obeys his wife's orders, and he will not fight back when he is beaten or scolded.Most of the women who want to marry Big Big Wolf are interested in his second characteristic, because nowadays such a man is not scarce, but very scarce.As for career, female white-collar workers feel that they are also very capable and don't have to rely on men. As long as men are obedient and take care of their families, the heroines will take care of hunting and lathering sheep.
But why did the red wolf beat the gray wolf?It's not because he can't catch sheep. Poor son is more than two years old, and he doesn't even know what mutton tastes like.Is Red Wolf happy after beating Big Big Wolf?If you can understand wolf language, she will tell you: unhappy.
If you can't resist slapping a man in the face with a pan, there must be a reason for it, and the reason is not that you are naturally sadistic, but that he drives you crazy.People always take it for granted to beautify the qualities that people around them don't have, but ignore that if he has such qualities, it will definitely be accompanied by another flaw.
Big Big Wolf's fatal blemish is his poor career, so he naturally has a guilty obedience to his wife Red Wolf.Looking at it from another perspective, if Mr. Big Big Wolf can catch the little fat sheep every day, and still can't fight back, even the children will think it's too fake.Because the professional ability is super bad, so I choose to obey.However, can obedience offset the imbalance in family relations brought about by men's career inaction?Obviously not.In today's world, it is not easy for anyone to make money. Even if you are a female white-collar worker with a good income, you may encounter a cold wave in the workplace due to external or personal reasons. Even if you smear honey on your lips every day, you can't get rid of the suspicion of "irresponsibility".
Marrying Big Big Wolf is just a brilliant dream in the cracks of real life.When you find a man who is suspected of being a big gray wolf among men with mediocre careers, he might become the emperor as soon as he catches a little fat sheep.From this point of view, the risk of finding Big Big Wolf obviously outweighs the benefit.You can say that if this is the case, then there should be men who are successful in their careers but are willing to be big gray wolves.Look, the greedy tail is finally exposed.The so-called "marry Big Big Wolf" is full of illusions in the bones - I want a man, he'd better be better than Big Big Wolf in career, and "lower" than Big Big Wolf in life.
There should be such a perfect man, but there must be very few, and a woman who can keep a man in this "ideal" state must have extraordinary charm and means.
"If you want to marry, marry Big Big Wolf" is good in theory, but it is difficult to operate, not only because it is difficult to distinguish between real and fake Big Big Wolf, but also because Big Big Wolf can't see any more benefits than stimulating women's potential to become shrews.A woman who is determined to be gentle with Big Big Wolf will become more and more tough in her future life without exception, because the essence of love is an activity of conquering and being conquered.
Fang Husband, Han Qinglang
The Korean war not only gave birth to an entertainment method called "questioning", but also changed the greeting between girlfriends from "have you been on a blind date" to "have you stood in line".The world is made up of men and women, and any relationship between men and women may eventually become a matter of position. At the same time, many serious issues may also be lightly implemented as a relationship between men and women.
Some female fans who worked hard in the war against the Korean side suddenly found that the real reason why they couldn’t let Xiao Han go was that he had a handsome face that hadn’t been beaten, while those who supported the old side started from “Say me I will fight to the end with the wife who speaks bad words, and I saw a "shaft man" who is all over the country.Netease took advantage of the trend and launched a "Who do you want to marry" survey.
Xiao Han and Lao Fang indeed represent two completely different types of men.One is a literary youth and opinion leader who did not graduate from high school; One acts on intuition, while the other is rational... If there is anything in common between the two, it is that they are both fathers.
Xiao Han doesn't like to mention becoming a father very much, even if he is in a hurry, he will take his daughter out for a gamble.According to his car friend, he was very depressed about getting married and having a daughter, and he didn't know what God made a mistake to make him a father so early.This can't be blamed on him, many literary men are like this, when they are in love, the wildfire burns endlessly, and when it comes to marriage, they see nothing but prosperity.It is difficult for them to accept that they will eventually grow from hot-blooded youths to breadwinners.
The man in science and technology has no worries in this regard at all. For example, Lao Fang is very calm, and occasionally talks about parenting on Weibo with fatherly love.In their view, what should be done at each stage of life is clear at a glance, just like flowers in spring and fruits in autumn. It is a natural law, and there is no need for people to compete with the law.
Looking back on young master Han's time, what a sight it was. The 1700 million author's remuneration and endorsement fees were pocketed, and in less than two years, there was only 150 yuan left in the bank card.According to Mr. Lu Jinbo, his quasi-broker, four or five of his female friends each had a bank card, and he paid for all of them.When Han was in Beijing, he had a girlfriend who was a college student. After graduation, the girl earned two to three thousand yuan a month, but drove a BMW to work.If facing such a man, there is anyone who does not want to have a relationship with him, then I say you are out of your mind.
One of Han Shao's girlfriends, after going to the United States to marry and have children, still misses him.now it's right.Some men just want to make you never forget.He squanders all the romance of human beings in love, not only you fall in love with him, even he falls in love with himself in love.After getting married, not only do you miss him in the past, but he also misses himself.The difference between you and him is that you can only miss, but he can try his best to overcome your obstacle and find his past self.
Marriage and love have different requirements for men.When you are in love, you like the person who spends money for you, likes the person who has a wide range of contacts, likes the cool person, likes the free element, he makes you face, makes you smell the smell of a soldier, and makes you feel vigorous Even the flood of male hormones.After you got married, you started to hate him for playing games with his friends every day, hating him rushing to pay for dinner with friends, hating him not being able to speak three words to you a day, hating his endless kindness to all the beauties in the world.
Science students like Fang Zhouzi are just the opposite.He strictly abides by the social creed of "whoever invites pays the bill", so that for a long time, "former friends" like Luo Yonghao have always been willing to derogate him for not paying for meals.He doesn't have many friends, but he has made countless enemies because his emotional intelligence is not that high or he doesn't bother to improve his emotional intelligence.He is rich in scientific knowledge, and transforms this knowledge into productivity, not only avoiding family members being deceived, but also protecting children from quack doctors through scientific parenting——"Babies have never been to the hospital except for vaccinations since they were born ", this is a major contribution to the family in today's wind of relying on pseudoscience to make money.
What is a particularly obvious advantage in love is likely to become a particularly obvious disadvantage in marriage.On the contrary, when you are in love, you are a little more ordinary, but after you get married, it is easy to slowly discover the advantages in him.When we are in love, we always hope that everyone thinks he is good. After we get married, we realize that a person who can please everyone will definitely ignore the person next to him, because human energy is limited.
All men in the world have love, it just depends on what age you are and what you need a man to do for you.
The Sadness of "There Is No Good Man in the World"
She sat across from me, and the first sentence she spoke was "Why are men so obscene".
If we have no choice but to love a man, but feel that all men in the world are so wretched, is there anything more tragic than this in the world?
There seem to be more and more women like this.They are usually independent, capable, and socially competent, surrounded by countless sisters.On the surface he is very open, but deep down he yearns for a man who "doesn't smoke, doesn't drink, doesn't care, doesn't exist".Because of her frequent visits to social occasions, she has an unforgettable feeling for men's wretchedness. What breaks her down the most is that those men who are family-friendly in the eyes of everyone will also have an affair with a certain lady in the drinking party, and even hold her hand while drinking. .
"If your female friend is like this, do you think she's obscene?" I asked.
"No, I know she's joking," she replied.
Herein lies the problem.We are always at ease with the same sex, thinking that she is just kidding, even if unfortunately there is an accident, we think it is an accident, she still loves her family.Male hair stylists can be used by women to YY collectively, and they are only cute when they are explicit. If we are unfortunate enough to hear or see a man commenting on a hotel waitress, we will feel that this man is really disgusting, and whoever marries him will be unlucky.
Women seem to be born with a sense of moral superiority, thinking that their bottom line must be higher than that of men.However, no matter how philandering a man is, what he needs is the cooperation of a woman. If a woman's moral bottom line is really that high, who would they turn to for philandering?Of course, you could say that those girls were being seduced and it was the men who took the initiative.
The truth is the truth, but we also need to know that such a pattern is just because since ancient times, from the animal world to the man world, sex and love affairs have been initiated by males. This is the necessity of biological evolution and cannot be caused by it. This kind of inevitability, it must be that men's psychology is more dirty.
Mr. Russell said: The real ethical principle is to treat everyone equally.
We do ourselves little good by women's moral discrimination against men.The reason is simple, except for a very small number of women who can get pleasure from loving women, most women, no matter how much you despise men, no matter how idealistic you are, no matter how spiritually clean you are, they are bound to look for a suitable man. A large part of life is consumed on the road.
"No matter how mediocre I am, I always feel that love for you is beautiful!" Mr. Wang Xiaobo's love words have touched generations of women.More women like his essays, especially the love letter to his wife.According to the "wretched" standard commonly used by women today, his novels are actually quite wretched, with so straightforward sex, so desire, so much relish, so ridicule, he also talked about eating, drinking, having sex and being in a daze, All belong to the category of natural human rights...
Man is an animal, whether you forgive it or indulge it, he is there, and today's men are not much more wretched than those in the past.The reason why we see more and more wretched men is because women in the past, when they were not married, had no chance to see the hormones flying on the man's wine table. The child fell to the ground.I envy ancient women.To the less intelligent, knowing too much is a tragedy.
Just as a mother must promptly control her destruction of her child in the name of love, a woman looking for love must also promptly adjust her partial perception of men.If you allow the good woman in your eyes to flirt with others at the wine table, and flirt with the hair stylist when you are doing your hair, you should also allow the good man in your eyes to please the opposite sex in social situations, and you will see them wearing little clothes on the street There is a physiological impulse when a girl's crush.Men with normal physical needs are actually quite "wretched". If you can't be the only one in his eyes, it can only be blamed that you are not the only woman in the world.
Women who have cleanliness and unrealistic demands on men will not improve the overall moral level of the male group, because when they finally cannot resist the pressure of society and years, they rush to find a man to live a normal life, the bottom line will crash instantly.In her eyes, men are very obscene and there is no good thing. Then, it is not surprising that this man in her family does any obscene things, and they can all be forgiven.From this perspective, cleanliness women are almost a disaster. They were the ones who picked on men at first, and they were the ones who indulged men in the end.
In order to avoid becoming a catastrophic cleanliness woman, it is necessary for us to make rational judgments on the things we see, maintain a proper understanding and understanding of the opposite sex, and make a timely response to our own little thoughts of wanting to find a safe because of lack of security. Expose and criticize, don't vent all your grievances on men because you don't have the courage to bear the changes in life, thinking that all unhappy women in the world are caused by men.
Men are most afraid of women taking too seriously
When Zhou Xingchi and Karen Mok were dating, they always found some of the ugliest roles for her to play, and put exaggerated buck teeth on her, and painted a very ugly red face. A certain film critic analyzed that Xingye has masculinity and Sadistic tendencies.I think Master Xing is very normal, but the film critics are quite puzzled.
When we were young, we experienced the baptism of a certain kind of story: a boy was keen to tease a certain girl, secretly put a caterpillar in her schoolbag, and scared her to the point of rain, everyone thought he hated her to death, But soon, the shocking news came - the two actually "got together".
If a man always has nothing to do with you, if you eat a Pizza Hut, he will mock you for loving sesame seed cakes, and if you wear a red dress, he will mock you as a cardinal.Don't belittle yourself because of this, thinking that your image in the eyes of others must be unbearable, but you must be solidly prepared to meet the luck of the peach blossoms.
Women tend to adore the men they like, while men scorn the women they like.The cause may be traced back to ancient times.Women are in charge of picking fruit, so naturally they will admire the big ones and keep them for themselves.Men are responsible for hunting, and they usually hope that the old, weak, sick and disabled will appear in front of them. Not only does the probability of success be higher, but it is also easy to show their strength and omnipotence.
Women use the method of "blooming flowers in the dust" to attract men's attention, while men make themselves heroes and save beauty by first burying you in sandstorms.Also once they meet, they will praise the girl who looks like Li Jiaxin, and she will be obedient to her, wishing that her arms grow like pea vines to catch the stars for her. In the secrets of picking up girls, this is a very low-end martial arts with a low success rate Not to mention, once it fails, it will cause endless harm——I am afraid it is such a man who summed up "men are not bad and women don't love" with blood and tears.
In the eyes of men, ridicule is not only a means, but also a sentiment.When girlfriends meet, they often ask for warmth, while when brothers meet, they usually sarcasm each other and fight wits to further sublimate their relationship.
Women seldom pay attention to the metaphors of men's ridicule, but at least when their feelings are strong, they can tolerate the other party's pleasure, and actively cooperate with them to play this romantic game of "men are strong, women are gentle" pretending to be ignorant .One of my girlfriends told me repeatedly in emails that when she went to watch a movie in a movie theater in the United States, she couldn’t respond when others laughed, so she was “ruthlessly” ridiculed by her boyfriend, and she has been old since then. Honestly stay at home and watch DVDs with your boyfriend.If you don’t take it seriously and don’t extend it, it’s a very warm scene after all, being satirized by a person of the opposite sex who knows you very well, hitting the pain point but without malice, and at least it can prove that your relationship is extraordinary.What's more, gagging with the opposite sex in a very relaxed state can often inspire a man's most powerful wisdom. Don't you see, even a very dull man on weekdays can often make witty remarks when chatting with female netizens, and the spark of wisdom shines brighter than Laser lights are faster.
It's a pity that often the deeper the emotional relationship develops, the rarer this kind of tacit Yinggeyan dance-style rhetoric, because the party who was ridiculed by the sarcasm finally rose up and became more serious.
If you vote for what men are most afraid of, I am afraid that women are too serious to rank second, and they dare not rank first.Why do women get more serious as the years go by?This is really a puzzling problem.If the reasons are reluctant to say, it is mostly because of the growing lack of self-confidence.For example, if a woman with a pear-shaped body is in love, her boyfriend laughs at her upper body and lower body as if God accidentally squeezed them out of place.In the same way, after three to five years or seven or eight years, she will respond furiously without showing any weakness: You are not as fat as a bucket yourself, so go find a young and beautiful one if you have the ability.
To treat the sarcasm of your lover as sweetness requires a bit of Karen Mok-style self-destructive image courage, and this kind of courage must be based on the self-confidence that "no matter how destroyed it is, there is still an image".
The man intended to flirt, but was robbed by the woman, and gradually felt more and more that he had nothing to say to the woman.There are too many women who complain that men have nothing to say to them. In fact, it's not that men don't want to talk to her, but that she always wants to talk to men seriously, which frightens men.From a man's point of view, there are not many serious things to say with a woman who is too familiar, not to mention that they don't even have a tacit understanding when joking.Taking a step back, even if there is a serious sentence, it should be mixed with ten jokes, so as to prevent women's curiosity from getting to the bottom of it.
Men say too many serious things in the office, but only want to joke when they go home; women say too many jokes when they go shopping, and only want to talk seriously when they go home.This is about the biggest difference between men and women.
So, when trying on a new piece of clothing, if he says, why are you dressed like a potato, you must laugh it off, and think of yourself as a cute little potato in your heart, instead of keeping a straight face and talking to him. He discusses what is like a potato, obviously you don't love me anymore and so on.If it's not serious and cute enough, he doesn't mind if you really look like a potato.
The man who is different is not in the play
A reader wrote to me saying that he was with his boyfriend and didn't feel like a relationship at all.The other party is not only unromantic, even when she is sick, she would rather go out to karaoke with her friends than stay with her.She lost her temper, and he said: I'm not a doctor, what's the use of being by your side?Every time she asked him if he loved him, he always said yes.However, she did not feel this kind of love at all.He was unwilling to satisfy her vanity, and refused to accommodate her in the slightest.
This is a man who doesn't understand love.Just after reading this letter, I couldn't help but think the same way.However, another voice in my heart said: Wait a minute, love is human nature, and there is no man in the world who doesn't know how to love.So, I was reminded of another story from the "Steve Jobs Biography" by Walter Isaacson.
Jobs and folk singer Joan ?When Baez was in love, Joan?Baez had always found him to be an indescribable man, as he seemed terrified of being romantic, and all the gifts he gave her were pilfered from the office, from Macs to Margaret roses.One night, Jobs told Bates about a red dress he saw in an upscale equestrian supply store.He then drove Baze to the store, urging Baze to buy the dress because it "fits her so well."But, Joan?Baez found that Jobs didn't intend to pay the bill, so he had to blushed and said to the Silicon Valley elite: Of course I think it suits me, but it's really too expensive.Jobs said nothing more. He picked out some shirts for himself and bought them.
If a guy talks to you all night about a red dress, don't you think he wants to buy it and give it to you?Of course, all women think so.Not buying it or letting yourself buy it is not unromantic, but too weird.Why so strange? "I used to think I loved her, but in fact I just liked her very much." Jobs himself gave the answer.
Tolstoy's "happy families are alike, but unhappy families are each unhappy in its own way" is a universal truth that can be applied to all aspects of life - beautiful women are alike, but ugly women are ugly in their own way ;Good men are similar, but bad men have their own best features; love is similar, but not loving each has its own performance.
Whether it is apples, pears or apple pears that fall from the tree, they can all be explained by Newton's law of universal gravitation; similarly, no matter whether the man is Jobs or Qiao Feng, they cannot escape the basic law of love.You must know that love comes from human instincts, and human instincts are similar, so when everyone interprets happiness, they will give roughly similar answers.Correspondingly, those things that make us unhappy and feel bad are brought by people for various purposes, which are beneficial to one party, but not necessarily win-win for all.
Love is the simplest thing, it must be full of vitality, it must be colorful and splendid.When a man falls in love with a woman, is there anything else worth considering besides trying to please her and finding ways to satisfy her pettiness?No.If there is, it is not called love. As Jobs said, it is "very fond" at best.
Unfortunately, people would rather guess accidents than believe in laws, because accidents bring hope, and laws bring truth.We always think that we have met a different person. He loves deeply, so he never speaks of love; he loves clumsily, so he doesn’t understand romance; Pretending to be mysterious.
But, have you ever actually met someone who likes to swim in a jacket?If there is no ulterior secret in his mind or body, wouldn't it be an instinct to take off his clothes and embrace the warm water of the pool?
In a TV interview, the host asked Fang Zhouzi, a pen maniac who is "fearful when people see people, but blown tires in cars", "Did you ever admit your mistakes?" Fang replied: "I confessed to my wife." Look, so oily A man who does not take in salt is also a common man in love.
Love is the most vulgar thing in the world. All the people who are trapped in it are walking in the footsteps of their predecessors. The only difference is that the love words between Wang Xiaobo and Li Yinhe are left on the letterhead, while your love letters are stored in the mobile phone.As the clouds flow and the water flow, it will happen when conditions are ripe, without exception.
Therefore, if your love does not repeat the stories of the predecessors, and yours seems to be independent and behaves strangely, then there must be someone who has not yet entered the drama.
"If You Are the One" Psychology Class
Some people say that Jiangsu Satellite TV's large-scale dating program "If You Are the One" is not a reality show, but a TV series, with scripts, lines, excuses and hype. If this is true, I deeply admire the program director's attainments in love psychology.
There are some intriguing laws on the stage of "If You Are the One": the male guest who blew himself up to have a deep relationship with his mother must die an ugly death; the female guest who shows extreme hatred for marriage must be the one "out" ; With a bitter look on his face, senior male bachelors who keep saying that they are "performing on stage" for the purpose of marriage often return empty-handed; the gold-worshiping female guests who open their mouths and shut up are not wealthy and do not marry, finally meet a male guest with a bit of a wealthy family, and feel happy She turned on the lights until the end, and when the power was reversed, she was the first to turn off the boys on stage.
If love is a psychological contest, a blind date is undoubtedly a naked psychological warfare.For the confused leftover women who often encounter unkind people or the quasi-leftover women who are struggling in tasteless love, the success rate of "If You Are the One" is not important. In the contest, the reason why they were defeated by siege.
Apart from appearance reasons, all the star female guests of "If You Are the One" who are sought after by male guests on and off the stage are all "stinky girls" who don't treat men as human beings.Mano, who claims to have double-digit love times, has become the dream lover of many men who are brave enough to accept challenges since he said "I would rather cry in a BMW car than laugh on the back of a bicycle"; he claims to have never been in love Ma Yimi, who has lived in the past, has rejected countless good men. The only reason is that "a man is like a child in an orphanage. The first time you see him, you will think he is your child. I don't feel that way about you." There are countless boys who want to be "orphanage children", and they are bitterly looking forward to their mother's adoption.When Xie Jia, a student-like neutral girl, became aggressive, and Xu He, a doctoral girl who could cook good food, stopped lighting up every male guest. In the end, they began to explode in popularity.And the Xinjiang girl who dressed herself as a sexy belly dancer never attacked any male guests, and often said sweetly to them: "If you choose me, I will smile at you when you are in a bad mood", "I I think my profession is a good match for you"... She is really not ugly, and her figure is not ugly, but so far, no male guest has chosen her as the girl who is in love.She is too sweet, too good, too eager to date, too concerned with each other's feelings, too unchallenging, if I were a man, I would think this is a girl that every man can date if he wants to.
In the movie "Journey to America", the black comedian Eddie?The African prince played by Murphy met the beautiful bride who was told by the matchmaker on the wedding night. He asked, what do you like, and she replied, I like everything you like.He told her to bark like a dog and hop on one leg, and she did all of them.In front of this extremely obedient and virtuous girl, he felt dizzy and dizzy, and his eyes went dark—life was boundless and dull, lacking challenges, so he decided to become a commoner, escape marriage and go to the United States to find an American girl who did not regard himself as a human being.
Both "If You Are the One" and "A Journey to America" tell us the same truth: Those heartthrobs surrounded by men all have a common characteristic, or charm, that is, they are indifferent to men.We often need to use this weapon to maintain our charm or win back the man who is indifferent to us.
Hurting a friend is fiercer than a tiger
Met a group of people on the train.Five men and two women, the men all looked over thirty, the women much younger.Apparently, a group of friends came out to play.They drank hard liquor, played poker, and cracked some nasty jokes when a man with his arms around a young girl answered the phone.He motioned everyone to be quiet, and proceeded to demonstrate, with considerable skill, the top ten lies to lie about your wife.
However, there was a man among them, with a fair face and taciturnity, he stood out from the crowd, and because of the comparison with the dirty men around him, it was easier to leave a good impression on others.After drinking for three rounds, a man began to complain that his wife was too strict, and he was so angry that he wanted to divorce his wife countless times.The man said with a bitter face that it was not difficult to get a divorce, but he just didn't want to give her the money.The man who looked gentle and clean suddenly said, "You are so stupid. Look at me, the marriage is divorced, and the money is not lost." Others laughed.The doubts in my heart were resolved with a bang—he was really just born with the appearance of a good man.
Men only choose to be friends with people who are similar to themselves, even though they always like to claim that I can be friends with different people.In order to pursue the opposite sex, a man will hide the wolf’s tail without a teacher, and dote on her in every way and obey her. However, whether he just wants to conquer women or really respect women, all he needs to do is to attend a friend’s party with him , the result is immediately clear.If his friends treat you as nothing, just drinking and chatting, or even making some dirty jokes, one day, you will find that gentleness and respect for women are just electricity in him, and the more gorgeous the better. short-lived.
Compared with women, men are much more socialized, which determines that there are fewer maverick men than maverick women.A man who didn't return home at night, but the next day, he fell asleep like a hero when he got home. He didn't feel that he was wrong, nor did he feel that he should explain to his wife.Where does his confidence come from?From the buddy he hangs out with at night.In his opinion, each of them has a wife with a good temper and low IQ.No one thinks that being with the family is an important thing, and everyone is competing on who can subdue his wife better: no need to call for instructions when you don’t come home at night, and there is a bowl of hot soy milk in your mouth when you come home in the morning.
Women become stupid when they fall in love, but men are just the opposite. This is determined by the history of human evolution.When a male animal conquers a female animal as a world, if it does not mobilize its extraordinary IQ, it may not be unprecedented, but it will definitely be unprecedented.Men are very clear about what women need, and they are more aware of their own flaws, so when they are in love, they will be extra careful to distinguish themselves from those unpleasant buddies.A buddy is like a mirror to him. It must be easier for a person to whitewash his shortcomings in front of the mirror than to grope in the dark.
Some people always say that love is very complicated. Indeed, there is a vast sea of people. Why is it him and not another person?This is a complex proposition involving biology, psychology, and philosophy.But judging whether a man can bring you happiness can be quite simple, as long as you can let go of those fantasies that kill people.If a man's friends are the type you admire, caring for the family, respecting women, and gentle, even if he is not as good as them, he will get better and better.If all the friends around him seem to have traveled from Shuibo Liangshan, they regard brothers as brothers and wives as clothes, and want to kill them at every turn, even if he is not as bad as them for the time being, don't worry, you have a chance to see one Getting worse man.This simple rule is not based on his performance. He can fake it to you, but his friends will not fake it to you.
I know that there must be many women who are not convinced when I say this, because they feel that they can influence him, and even keep him out of his "unhealthy" circle of friends.I don't deny that this change exists, but don't forget that most of the changes in love will be returned to their original form because the passion changes from strong to weak, and the change of passion from strong to weak is necessary.This logic is somewhat cruel, but not complicated.
It's my fault that I can't meet a good man
Back then, Ni Zhen was a well-known bad boy, and Li Yapeng was a playboy with solid evidence. Now both of them have become super good men who are hard to find in the underground and hard to find in the sky.When we lament that good men are as hard to find as aliens, the most failed life experience is to find that the bad man we let go has suddenly turned into a good man in the hands of another woman.
Why are good men met by others?Because you are on the opposite side, you don't know.
Whether a woman can meet a good man is not a matter of luck, but a matter of ability.
First of all, you must have the ability to distinguish right from wrong, and calmly look at the shadows behind the moon and the stars in the dark.
A calm and dedicated man is often a piece of wood; a man who spouts lotus flowers is never satisfied with a woman's vanity; a man with a strong ambition is often very possessive, and they rarely care about women's feelings; A man who is a treasure is often a "life card" that does not seek to make progress... In a man, one advantage is often accompanied by a disadvantage. If you can't face up to this point, a good man will always pass you by.
Secondly, you must have the ability to wake up at all times, and don't let your greed go.
Women's requirements for a good man are often contradictory, or in other words, as the years go by, the advantages of a good man gradually become disadvantages.In fact, the so-called advantages and disadvantages are originally the pros and cons of one thing.Even today when there are no good men, there are many advantages in men: handsome, rich, kind, romantic, caring for the family, loyal, etc., but these advantages can never be concentrated in a certain man.Therefore, women always need to clearly answer such a question: what is the most important character of a good man in my mind?Only by finding out the key points can the target be locked.When you have worked hard to find a man who can satisfy the key points, you should never worry about his inability to satisfy others.The problem with most women is that often when a man satisfies her focus, her focus shifts.
Every woman is saying that she is not demanding.Indeed, a requirement like "going home for dinner every night" seems reasonable and mediocre, but if you want to impose such a requirement on an entrepreneurial model or professional elite, you can't do it by killing him.In other words, if what you value most is a man who eats with you every day, you have to resolutely give up those "tall, handsome and rich". Do you have the courage to do so?If you can't, don't say that you are not greedy.
Finally, women must understand that most men are qualified products.Whether a qualified product can be upgraded to an excellent product depends on whether the woman who is with him always beats him or encourages him frequently.
Men also used to have a set of "good woman" standards.That is to go out of the hall and into the kitchen, to look like a lady outside, and to look like a slut in bed.However, they soon discovered that even if there was such a top-notch woman, they were not something they could climb up to.So some men choose ladies, although they are a bit wooden, but fortunately they are down-to-earth, while some men choose sluts, because they know that they are a slut, and women who are too safe make him feel uninterested.However, they are all willing to say: I chose a good woman.
For marriage, women always want more than men, just like for career, men always want more than women.Only by controlling the ever-expanding desires can women be invincible in their relationships.
Both the king and the servant are good men, but they are completely different standards and systems.If in the end, the woman who chooses the king thinks about the good of the servant, and the woman who chooses the servant longs for the glory of the king, and jumps back and forth between the two sets of standards, she will be tired and fruitless.
A good man is a multiple-choice question, no one can satisfy all your dreams, otherwise, it wouldn't be a dream anymore.
(End of this chapter)
There is a girlfriend who is eager to have a spare tire man, but is unwilling to pay the price of her body. After repeated defeats, she laments why men are so vulgar these days.The relationship between the two started romantically, and after several times of spiritual exchanges, if the man finds that his hints and expresses that he wants to develop further are useless, he will disappear faster than a meteor. "Don't they need a friend of the opposite sex who can enjoy each other spiritually?" The woman's question is ridiculous to the man.Because in their view, spiritual pleasure begins with the attraction of the body. What's more, even if there is a pure spiritual man who has overcome the body, what he longs for must be the friendship of Shao Meiqi and Luo Jialiang, not being taken advantage of by you. Today You need to borrow a car, you need to borrow your contacts tomorrow, and you need to borrow someone’s house the day after tomorrow.
There are occasional miracles in the world, but the probability of miracles happening between men and women is far less than that happening at lottery sales points.
When Han Han supported the little singer Jin Sha, he said a famous saying: She is my woman.This is a confession that is ambiguous on the surface but naked on the inside.If a man wants to have a strong desire to help a woman, he must have secretly thought "she is my woman" in his heart. A purely spiritual relationship can never inspire such a sense of responsibility in a man.Men are willing to help you love you wholeheartedly, either when they want to go to bed or after they are very satisfied.
And for some unscrupulous people, even after going to bed, he continues to be an ambiguous route, rather than acting as a spare tire.Nowadays, in the name of the huge pressure of survival, men are becoming less and less like men. The word "responsibility" is like a scourge to them. Run away, anyway, men and women are already equal, when you go to bed, I enjoy it, and you enjoy it too, neither owes anything.
It can be seen from this that in the matter of cultivating men with spare tires, not only is it unrealistic to be a white wolf with empty gloves, but it is also unknown whether you can get a wolf if you give up your children.
Bai Xianyong's "Forever Yin Xueyan" is a role model for women who want a spare man.After careful study, it is ultimately disappointing. Even if you have a face like her that can withstand the baptism of time, how can you cultivate the nerves that see through everything and are tougher than tendons.Those are all stunners who "do not seduce others, but are bound to be seduced by others". They came to this world to dominate the men's circle.
Don't blame men for being too cunning, it's just that we can't see clearly, why don't we just live an innocent and ordinary life honestly.
Big Gray Wolf is a Feast for the Imagination
Ever since "Pleasant Goat and Big Big Wolf" became popular, more than one friend around me gritted her teeth and said, when I quarreled with my boyfriend or looked back on past emotional hurts, I would marry someone like Big Big Wolf.Gradually, "Marry Big Big Wolf" has become a popular slogan, which is said to reflect the new standard of mate selection for white-collar women.
The biggest characteristics of Mr. Big Big Wolf are that one is the extreme failure of his career, and the other is that he obeys his wife's orders, and he will not fight back when he is beaten or scolded.Most of the women who want to marry Big Big Wolf are interested in his second characteristic, because nowadays such a man is not scarce, but very scarce.As for career, female white-collar workers feel that they are also very capable and don't have to rely on men. As long as men are obedient and take care of their families, the heroines will take care of hunting and lathering sheep.
But why did the red wolf beat the gray wolf?It's not because he can't catch sheep. Poor son is more than two years old, and he doesn't even know what mutton tastes like.Is Red Wolf happy after beating Big Big Wolf?If you can understand wolf language, she will tell you: unhappy.
If you can't resist slapping a man in the face with a pan, there must be a reason for it, and the reason is not that you are naturally sadistic, but that he drives you crazy.People always take it for granted to beautify the qualities that people around them don't have, but ignore that if he has such qualities, it will definitely be accompanied by another flaw.
Big Big Wolf's fatal blemish is his poor career, so he naturally has a guilty obedience to his wife Red Wolf.Looking at it from another perspective, if Mr. Big Big Wolf can catch the little fat sheep every day, and still can't fight back, even the children will think it's too fake.Because the professional ability is super bad, so I choose to obey.However, can obedience offset the imbalance in family relations brought about by men's career inaction?Obviously not.In today's world, it is not easy for anyone to make money. Even if you are a female white-collar worker with a good income, you may encounter a cold wave in the workplace due to external or personal reasons. Even if you smear honey on your lips every day, you can't get rid of the suspicion of "irresponsibility".
Marrying Big Big Wolf is just a brilliant dream in the cracks of real life.When you find a man who is suspected of being a big gray wolf among men with mediocre careers, he might become the emperor as soon as he catches a little fat sheep.From this point of view, the risk of finding Big Big Wolf obviously outweighs the benefit.You can say that if this is the case, then there should be men who are successful in their careers but are willing to be big gray wolves.Look, the greedy tail is finally exposed.The so-called "marry Big Big Wolf" is full of illusions in the bones - I want a man, he'd better be better than Big Big Wolf in career, and "lower" than Big Big Wolf in life.
There should be such a perfect man, but there must be very few, and a woman who can keep a man in this "ideal" state must have extraordinary charm and means.
"If you want to marry, marry Big Big Wolf" is good in theory, but it is difficult to operate, not only because it is difficult to distinguish between real and fake Big Big Wolf, but also because Big Big Wolf can't see any more benefits than stimulating women's potential to become shrews.A woman who is determined to be gentle with Big Big Wolf will become more and more tough in her future life without exception, because the essence of love is an activity of conquering and being conquered.
Fang Husband, Han Qinglang
The Korean war not only gave birth to an entertainment method called "questioning", but also changed the greeting between girlfriends from "have you been on a blind date" to "have you stood in line".The world is made up of men and women, and any relationship between men and women may eventually become a matter of position. At the same time, many serious issues may also be lightly implemented as a relationship between men and women.
Some female fans who worked hard in the war against the Korean side suddenly found that the real reason why they couldn’t let Xiao Han go was that he had a handsome face that hadn’t been beaten, while those who supported the old side started from “Say me I will fight to the end with the wife who speaks bad words, and I saw a "shaft man" who is all over the country.Netease took advantage of the trend and launched a "Who do you want to marry" survey.
Xiao Han and Lao Fang indeed represent two completely different types of men.One is a literary youth and opinion leader who did not graduate from high school; One acts on intuition, while the other is rational... If there is anything in common between the two, it is that they are both fathers.
Xiao Han doesn't like to mention becoming a father very much, even if he is in a hurry, he will take his daughter out for a gamble.According to his car friend, he was very depressed about getting married and having a daughter, and he didn't know what God made a mistake to make him a father so early.This can't be blamed on him, many literary men are like this, when they are in love, the wildfire burns endlessly, and when it comes to marriage, they see nothing but prosperity.It is difficult for them to accept that they will eventually grow from hot-blooded youths to breadwinners.
The man in science and technology has no worries in this regard at all. For example, Lao Fang is very calm, and occasionally talks about parenting on Weibo with fatherly love.In their view, what should be done at each stage of life is clear at a glance, just like flowers in spring and fruits in autumn. It is a natural law, and there is no need for people to compete with the law.
Looking back on young master Han's time, what a sight it was. The 1700 million author's remuneration and endorsement fees were pocketed, and in less than two years, there was only 150 yuan left in the bank card.According to Mr. Lu Jinbo, his quasi-broker, four or five of his female friends each had a bank card, and he paid for all of them.When Han was in Beijing, he had a girlfriend who was a college student. After graduation, the girl earned two to three thousand yuan a month, but drove a BMW to work.If facing such a man, there is anyone who does not want to have a relationship with him, then I say you are out of your mind.
One of Han Shao's girlfriends, after going to the United States to marry and have children, still misses him.now it's right.Some men just want to make you never forget.He squanders all the romance of human beings in love, not only you fall in love with him, even he falls in love with himself in love.After getting married, not only do you miss him in the past, but he also misses himself.The difference between you and him is that you can only miss, but he can try his best to overcome your obstacle and find his past self.
Marriage and love have different requirements for men.When you are in love, you like the person who spends money for you, likes the person who has a wide range of contacts, likes the cool person, likes the free element, he makes you face, makes you smell the smell of a soldier, and makes you feel vigorous Even the flood of male hormones.After you got married, you started to hate him for playing games with his friends every day, hating him rushing to pay for dinner with friends, hating him not being able to speak three words to you a day, hating his endless kindness to all the beauties in the world.
Science students like Fang Zhouzi are just the opposite.He strictly abides by the social creed of "whoever invites pays the bill", so that for a long time, "former friends" like Luo Yonghao have always been willing to derogate him for not paying for meals.He doesn't have many friends, but he has made countless enemies because his emotional intelligence is not that high or he doesn't bother to improve his emotional intelligence.He is rich in scientific knowledge, and transforms this knowledge into productivity, not only avoiding family members being deceived, but also protecting children from quack doctors through scientific parenting——"Babies have never been to the hospital except for vaccinations since they were born ", this is a major contribution to the family in today's wind of relying on pseudoscience to make money.
What is a particularly obvious advantage in love is likely to become a particularly obvious disadvantage in marriage.On the contrary, when you are in love, you are a little more ordinary, but after you get married, it is easy to slowly discover the advantages in him.When we are in love, we always hope that everyone thinks he is good. After we get married, we realize that a person who can please everyone will definitely ignore the person next to him, because human energy is limited.
All men in the world have love, it just depends on what age you are and what you need a man to do for you.
The Sadness of "There Is No Good Man in the World"
She sat across from me, and the first sentence she spoke was "Why are men so obscene".
If we have no choice but to love a man, but feel that all men in the world are so wretched, is there anything more tragic than this in the world?
There seem to be more and more women like this.They are usually independent, capable, and socially competent, surrounded by countless sisters.On the surface he is very open, but deep down he yearns for a man who "doesn't smoke, doesn't drink, doesn't care, doesn't exist".Because of her frequent visits to social occasions, she has an unforgettable feeling for men's wretchedness. What breaks her down the most is that those men who are family-friendly in the eyes of everyone will also have an affair with a certain lady in the drinking party, and even hold her hand while drinking. .
"If your female friend is like this, do you think she's obscene?" I asked.
"No, I know she's joking," she replied.
Herein lies the problem.We are always at ease with the same sex, thinking that she is just kidding, even if unfortunately there is an accident, we think it is an accident, she still loves her family.Male hair stylists can be used by women to YY collectively, and they are only cute when they are explicit. If we are unfortunate enough to hear or see a man commenting on a hotel waitress, we will feel that this man is really disgusting, and whoever marries him will be unlucky.
Women seem to be born with a sense of moral superiority, thinking that their bottom line must be higher than that of men.However, no matter how philandering a man is, what he needs is the cooperation of a woman. If a woman's moral bottom line is really that high, who would they turn to for philandering?Of course, you could say that those girls were being seduced and it was the men who took the initiative.
The truth is the truth, but we also need to know that such a pattern is just because since ancient times, from the animal world to the man world, sex and love affairs have been initiated by males. This is the necessity of biological evolution and cannot be caused by it. This kind of inevitability, it must be that men's psychology is more dirty.
Mr. Russell said: The real ethical principle is to treat everyone equally.
We do ourselves little good by women's moral discrimination against men.The reason is simple, except for a very small number of women who can get pleasure from loving women, most women, no matter how much you despise men, no matter how idealistic you are, no matter how spiritually clean you are, they are bound to look for a suitable man. A large part of life is consumed on the road.
"No matter how mediocre I am, I always feel that love for you is beautiful!" Mr. Wang Xiaobo's love words have touched generations of women.More women like his essays, especially the love letter to his wife.According to the "wretched" standard commonly used by women today, his novels are actually quite wretched, with so straightforward sex, so desire, so much relish, so ridicule, he also talked about eating, drinking, having sex and being in a daze, All belong to the category of natural human rights...
Man is an animal, whether you forgive it or indulge it, he is there, and today's men are not much more wretched than those in the past.The reason why we see more and more wretched men is because women in the past, when they were not married, had no chance to see the hormones flying on the man's wine table. The child fell to the ground.I envy ancient women.To the less intelligent, knowing too much is a tragedy.
Just as a mother must promptly control her destruction of her child in the name of love, a woman looking for love must also promptly adjust her partial perception of men.If you allow the good woman in your eyes to flirt with others at the wine table, and flirt with the hair stylist when you are doing your hair, you should also allow the good man in your eyes to please the opposite sex in social situations, and you will see them wearing little clothes on the street There is a physiological impulse when a girl's crush.Men with normal physical needs are actually quite "wretched". If you can't be the only one in his eyes, it can only be blamed that you are not the only woman in the world.
Women who have cleanliness and unrealistic demands on men will not improve the overall moral level of the male group, because when they finally cannot resist the pressure of society and years, they rush to find a man to live a normal life, the bottom line will crash instantly.In her eyes, men are very obscene and there is no good thing. Then, it is not surprising that this man in her family does any obscene things, and they can all be forgiven.From this perspective, cleanliness women are almost a disaster. They were the ones who picked on men at first, and they were the ones who indulged men in the end.
In order to avoid becoming a catastrophic cleanliness woman, it is necessary for us to make rational judgments on the things we see, maintain a proper understanding and understanding of the opposite sex, and make a timely response to our own little thoughts of wanting to find a safe because of lack of security. Expose and criticize, don't vent all your grievances on men because you don't have the courage to bear the changes in life, thinking that all unhappy women in the world are caused by men.
Men are most afraid of women taking too seriously
When Zhou Xingchi and Karen Mok were dating, they always found some of the ugliest roles for her to play, and put exaggerated buck teeth on her, and painted a very ugly red face. A certain film critic analyzed that Xingye has masculinity and Sadistic tendencies.I think Master Xing is very normal, but the film critics are quite puzzled.
When we were young, we experienced the baptism of a certain kind of story: a boy was keen to tease a certain girl, secretly put a caterpillar in her schoolbag, and scared her to the point of rain, everyone thought he hated her to death, But soon, the shocking news came - the two actually "got together".
If a man always has nothing to do with you, if you eat a Pizza Hut, he will mock you for loving sesame seed cakes, and if you wear a red dress, he will mock you as a cardinal.Don't belittle yourself because of this, thinking that your image in the eyes of others must be unbearable, but you must be solidly prepared to meet the luck of the peach blossoms.
Women tend to adore the men they like, while men scorn the women they like.The cause may be traced back to ancient times.Women are in charge of picking fruit, so naturally they will admire the big ones and keep them for themselves.Men are responsible for hunting, and they usually hope that the old, weak, sick and disabled will appear in front of them. Not only does the probability of success be higher, but it is also easy to show their strength and omnipotence.
Women use the method of "blooming flowers in the dust" to attract men's attention, while men make themselves heroes and save beauty by first burying you in sandstorms.Also once they meet, they will praise the girl who looks like Li Jiaxin, and she will be obedient to her, wishing that her arms grow like pea vines to catch the stars for her. In the secrets of picking up girls, this is a very low-end martial arts with a low success rate Not to mention, once it fails, it will cause endless harm——I am afraid it is such a man who summed up "men are not bad and women don't love" with blood and tears.
In the eyes of men, ridicule is not only a means, but also a sentiment.When girlfriends meet, they often ask for warmth, while when brothers meet, they usually sarcasm each other and fight wits to further sublimate their relationship.
Women seldom pay attention to the metaphors of men's ridicule, but at least when their feelings are strong, they can tolerate the other party's pleasure, and actively cooperate with them to play this romantic game of "men are strong, women are gentle" pretending to be ignorant .One of my girlfriends told me repeatedly in emails that when she went to watch a movie in a movie theater in the United States, she couldn’t respond when others laughed, so she was “ruthlessly” ridiculed by her boyfriend, and she has been old since then. Honestly stay at home and watch DVDs with your boyfriend.If you don’t take it seriously and don’t extend it, it’s a very warm scene after all, being satirized by a person of the opposite sex who knows you very well, hitting the pain point but without malice, and at least it can prove that your relationship is extraordinary.What's more, gagging with the opposite sex in a very relaxed state can often inspire a man's most powerful wisdom. Don't you see, even a very dull man on weekdays can often make witty remarks when chatting with female netizens, and the spark of wisdom shines brighter than Laser lights are faster.
It's a pity that often the deeper the emotional relationship develops, the rarer this kind of tacit Yinggeyan dance-style rhetoric, because the party who was ridiculed by the sarcasm finally rose up and became more serious.
If you vote for what men are most afraid of, I am afraid that women are too serious to rank second, and they dare not rank first.Why do women get more serious as the years go by?This is really a puzzling problem.If the reasons are reluctant to say, it is mostly because of the growing lack of self-confidence.For example, if a woman with a pear-shaped body is in love, her boyfriend laughs at her upper body and lower body as if God accidentally squeezed them out of place.In the same way, after three to five years or seven or eight years, she will respond furiously without showing any weakness: You are not as fat as a bucket yourself, so go find a young and beautiful one if you have the ability.
To treat the sarcasm of your lover as sweetness requires a bit of Karen Mok-style self-destructive image courage, and this kind of courage must be based on the self-confidence that "no matter how destroyed it is, there is still an image".
The man intended to flirt, but was robbed by the woman, and gradually felt more and more that he had nothing to say to the woman.There are too many women who complain that men have nothing to say to them. In fact, it's not that men don't want to talk to her, but that she always wants to talk to men seriously, which frightens men.From a man's point of view, there are not many serious things to say with a woman who is too familiar, not to mention that they don't even have a tacit understanding when joking.Taking a step back, even if there is a serious sentence, it should be mixed with ten jokes, so as to prevent women's curiosity from getting to the bottom of it.
Men say too many serious things in the office, but only want to joke when they go home; women say too many jokes when they go shopping, and only want to talk seriously when they go home.This is about the biggest difference between men and women.
So, when trying on a new piece of clothing, if he says, why are you dressed like a potato, you must laugh it off, and think of yourself as a cute little potato in your heart, instead of keeping a straight face and talking to him. He discusses what is like a potato, obviously you don't love me anymore and so on.If it's not serious and cute enough, he doesn't mind if you really look like a potato.
The man who is different is not in the play
A reader wrote to me saying that he was with his boyfriend and didn't feel like a relationship at all.The other party is not only unromantic, even when she is sick, she would rather go out to karaoke with her friends than stay with her.She lost her temper, and he said: I'm not a doctor, what's the use of being by your side?Every time she asked him if he loved him, he always said yes.However, she did not feel this kind of love at all.He was unwilling to satisfy her vanity, and refused to accommodate her in the slightest.
This is a man who doesn't understand love.Just after reading this letter, I couldn't help but think the same way.However, another voice in my heart said: Wait a minute, love is human nature, and there is no man in the world who doesn't know how to love.So, I was reminded of another story from the "Steve Jobs Biography" by Walter Isaacson.
Jobs and folk singer Joan ?When Baez was in love, Joan?Baez had always found him to be an indescribable man, as he seemed terrified of being romantic, and all the gifts he gave her were pilfered from the office, from Macs to Margaret roses.One night, Jobs told Bates about a red dress he saw in an upscale equestrian supply store.He then drove Baze to the store, urging Baze to buy the dress because it "fits her so well."But, Joan?Baez found that Jobs didn't intend to pay the bill, so he had to blushed and said to the Silicon Valley elite: Of course I think it suits me, but it's really too expensive.Jobs said nothing more. He picked out some shirts for himself and bought them.
If a guy talks to you all night about a red dress, don't you think he wants to buy it and give it to you?Of course, all women think so.Not buying it or letting yourself buy it is not unromantic, but too weird.Why so strange? "I used to think I loved her, but in fact I just liked her very much." Jobs himself gave the answer.
Tolstoy's "happy families are alike, but unhappy families are each unhappy in its own way" is a universal truth that can be applied to all aspects of life - beautiful women are alike, but ugly women are ugly in their own way ;Good men are similar, but bad men have their own best features; love is similar, but not loving each has its own performance.
Whether it is apples, pears or apple pears that fall from the tree, they can all be explained by Newton's law of universal gravitation; similarly, no matter whether the man is Jobs or Qiao Feng, they cannot escape the basic law of love.You must know that love comes from human instincts, and human instincts are similar, so when everyone interprets happiness, they will give roughly similar answers.Correspondingly, those things that make us unhappy and feel bad are brought by people for various purposes, which are beneficial to one party, but not necessarily win-win for all.
Love is the simplest thing, it must be full of vitality, it must be colorful and splendid.When a man falls in love with a woman, is there anything else worth considering besides trying to please her and finding ways to satisfy her pettiness?No.If there is, it is not called love. As Jobs said, it is "very fond" at best.
Unfortunately, people would rather guess accidents than believe in laws, because accidents bring hope, and laws bring truth.We always think that we have met a different person. He loves deeply, so he never speaks of love; he loves clumsily, so he doesn’t understand romance; Pretending to be mysterious.
But, have you ever actually met someone who likes to swim in a jacket?If there is no ulterior secret in his mind or body, wouldn't it be an instinct to take off his clothes and embrace the warm water of the pool?
In a TV interview, the host asked Fang Zhouzi, a pen maniac who is "fearful when people see people, but blown tires in cars", "Did you ever admit your mistakes?" Fang replied: "I confessed to my wife." Look, so oily A man who does not take in salt is also a common man in love.
Love is the most vulgar thing in the world. All the people who are trapped in it are walking in the footsteps of their predecessors. The only difference is that the love words between Wang Xiaobo and Li Yinhe are left on the letterhead, while your love letters are stored in the mobile phone.As the clouds flow and the water flow, it will happen when conditions are ripe, without exception.
Therefore, if your love does not repeat the stories of the predecessors, and yours seems to be independent and behaves strangely, then there must be someone who has not yet entered the drama.
"If You Are the One" Psychology Class
Some people say that Jiangsu Satellite TV's large-scale dating program "If You Are the One" is not a reality show, but a TV series, with scripts, lines, excuses and hype. If this is true, I deeply admire the program director's attainments in love psychology.
There are some intriguing laws on the stage of "If You Are the One": the male guest who blew himself up to have a deep relationship with his mother must die an ugly death; the female guest who shows extreme hatred for marriage must be the one "out" ; With a bitter look on his face, senior male bachelors who keep saying that they are "performing on stage" for the purpose of marriage often return empty-handed; the gold-worshiping female guests who open their mouths and shut up are not wealthy and do not marry, finally meet a male guest with a bit of a wealthy family, and feel happy She turned on the lights until the end, and when the power was reversed, she was the first to turn off the boys on stage.
If love is a psychological contest, a blind date is undoubtedly a naked psychological warfare.For the confused leftover women who often encounter unkind people or the quasi-leftover women who are struggling in tasteless love, the success rate of "If You Are the One" is not important. In the contest, the reason why they were defeated by siege.
Apart from appearance reasons, all the star female guests of "If You Are the One" who are sought after by male guests on and off the stage are all "stinky girls" who don't treat men as human beings.Mano, who claims to have double-digit love times, has become the dream lover of many men who are brave enough to accept challenges since he said "I would rather cry in a BMW car than laugh on the back of a bicycle"; he claims to have never been in love Ma Yimi, who has lived in the past, has rejected countless good men. The only reason is that "a man is like a child in an orphanage. The first time you see him, you will think he is your child. I don't feel that way about you." There are countless boys who want to be "orphanage children", and they are bitterly looking forward to their mother's adoption.When Xie Jia, a student-like neutral girl, became aggressive, and Xu He, a doctoral girl who could cook good food, stopped lighting up every male guest. In the end, they began to explode in popularity.And the Xinjiang girl who dressed herself as a sexy belly dancer never attacked any male guests, and often said sweetly to them: "If you choose me, I will smile at you when you are in a bad mood", "I I think my profession is a good match for you"... She is really not ugly, and her figure is not ugly, but so far, no male guest has chosen her as the girl who is in love.She is too sweet, too good, too eager to date, too concerned with each other's feelings, too unchallenging, if I were a man, I would think this is a girl that every man can date if he wants to.
In the movie "Journey to America", the black comedian Eddie?The African prince played by Murphy met the beautiful bride who was told by the matchmaker on the wedding night. He asked, what do you like, and she replied, I like everything you like.He told her to bark like a dog and hop on one leg, and she did all of them.In front of this extremely obedient and virtuous girl, he felt dizzy and dizzy, and his eyes went dark—life was boundless and dull, lacking challenges, so he decided to become a commoner, escape marriage and go to the United States to find an American girl who did not regard himself as a human being.
Both "If You Are the One" and "A Journey to America" tell us the same truth: Those heartthrobs surrounded by men all have a common characteristic, or charm, that is, they are indifferent to men.We often need to use this weapon to maintain our charm or win back the man who is indifferent to us.
Hurting a friend is fiercer than a tiger
Met a group of people on the train.Five men and two women, the men all looked over thirty, the women much younger.Apparently, a group of friends came out to play.They drank hard liquor, played poker, and cracked some nasty jokes when a man with his arms around a young girl answered the phone.He motioned everyone to be quiet, and proceeded to demonstrate, with considerable skill, the top ten lies to lie about your wife.
However, there was a man among them, with a fair face and taciturnity, he stood out from the crowd, and because of the comparison with the dirty men around him, it was easier to leave a good impression on others.After drinking for three rounds, a man began to complain that his wife was too strict, and he was so angry that he wanted to divorce his wife countless times.The man said with a bitter face that it was not difficult to get a divorce, but he just didn't want to give her the money.The man who looked gentle and clean suddenly said, "You are so stupid. Look at me, the marriage is divorced, and the money is not lost." Others laughed.The doubts in my heart were resolved with a bang—he was really just born with the appearance of a good man.
Men only choose to be friends with people who are similar to themselves, even though they always like to claim that I can be friends with different people.In order to pursue the opposite sex, a man will hide the wolf’s tail without a teacher, and dote on her in every way and obey her. However, whether he just wants to conquer women or really respect women, all he needs to do is to attend a friend’s party with him , the result is immediately clear.If his friends treat you as nothing, just drinking and chatting, or even making some dirty jokes, one day, you will find that gentleness and respect for women are just electricity in him, and the more gorgeous the better. short-lived.
Compared with women, men are much more socialized, which determines that there are fewer maverick men than maverick women.A man who didn't return home at night, but the next day, he fell asleep like a hero when he got home. He didn't feel that he was wrong, nor did he feel that he should explain to his wife.Where does his confidence come from?From the buddy he hangs out with at night.In his opinion, each of them has a wife with a good temper and low IQ.No one thinks that being with the family is an important thing, and everyone is competing on who can subdue his wife better: no need to call for instructions when you don’t come home at night, and there is a bowl of hot soy milk in your mouth when you come home in the morning.
Women become stupid when they fall in love, but men are just the opposite. This is determined by the history of human evolution.When a male animal conquers a female animal as a world, if it does not mobilize its extraordinary IQ, it may not be unprecedented, but it will definitely be unprecedented.Men are very clear about what women need, and they are more aware of their own flaws, so when they are in love, they will be extra careful to distinguish themselves from those unpleasant buddies.A buddy is like a mirror to him. It must be easier for a person to whitewash his shortcomings in front of the mirror than to grope in the dark.
Some people always say that love is very complicated. Indeed, there is a vast sea of people. Why is it him and not another person?This is a complex proposition involving biology, psychology, and philosophy.But judging whether a man can bring you happiness can be quite simple, as long as you can let go of those fantasies that kill people.If a man's friends are the type you admire, caring for the family, respecting women, and gentle, even if he is not as good as them, he will get better and better.If all the friends around him seem to have traveled from Shuibo Liangshan, they regard brothers as brothers and wives as clothes, and want to kill them at every turn, even if he is not as bad as them for the time being, don't worry, you have a chance to see one Getting worse man.This simple rule is not based on his performance. He can fake it to you, but his friends will not fake it to you.
I know that there must be many women who are not convinced when I say this, because they feel that they can influence him, and even keep him out of his "unhealthy" circle of friends.I don't deny that this change exists, but don't forget that most of the changes in love will be returned to their original form because the passion changes from strong to weak, and the change of passion from strong to weak is necessary.This logic is somewhat cruel, but not complicated.
It's my fault that I can't meet a good man
Back then, Ni Zhen was a well-known bad boy, and Li Yapeng was a playboy with solid evidence. Now both of them have become super good men who are hard to find in the underground and hard to find in the sky.When we lament that good men are as hard to find as aliens, the most failed life experience is to find that the bad man we let go has suddenly turned into a good man in the hands of another woman.
Why are good men met by others?Because you are on the opposite side, you don't know.
Whether a woman can meet a good man is not a matter of luck, but a matter of ability.
First of all, you must have the ability to distinguish right from wrong, and calmly look at the shadows behind the moon and the stars in the dark.
A calm and dedicated man is often a piece of wood; a man who spouts lotus flowers is never satisfied with a woman's vanity; a man with a strong ambition is often very possessive, and they rarely care about women's feelings; A man who is a treasure is often a "life card" that does not seek to make progress... In a man, one advantage is often accompanied by a disadvantage. If you can't face up to this point, a good man will always pass you by.
Secondly, you must have the ability to wake up at all times, and don't let your greed go.
Women's requirements for a good man are often contradictory, or in other words, as the years go by, the advantages of a good man gradually become disadvantages.In fact, the so-called advantages and disadvantages are originally the pros and cons of one thing.Even today when there are no good men, there are many advantages in men: handsome, rich, kind, romantic, caring for the family, loyal, etc., but these advantages can never be concentrated in a certain man.Therefore, women always need to clearly answer such a question: what is the most important character of a good man in my mind?Only by finding out the key points can the target be locked.When you have worked hard to find a man who can satisfy the key points, you should never worry about his inability to satisfy others.The problem with most women is that often when a man satisfies her focus, her focus shifts.
Every woman is saying that she is not demanding.Indeed, a requirement like "going home for dinner every night" seems reasonable and mediocre, but if you want to impose such a requirement on an entrepreneurial model or professional elite, you can't do it by killing him.In other words, if what you value most is a man who eats with you every day, you have to resolutely give up those "tall, handsome and rich". Do you have the courage to do so?If you can't, don't say that you are not greedy.
Finally, women must understand that most men are qualified products.Whether a qualified product can be upgraded to an excellent product depends on whether the woman who is with him always beats him or encourages him frequently.
Men also used to have a set of "good woman" standards.That is to go out of the hall and into the kitchen, to look like a lady outside, and to look like a slut in bed.However, they soon discovered that even if there was such a top-notch woman, they were not something they could climb up to.So some men choose ladies, although they are a bit wooden, but fortunately they are down-to-earth, while some men choose sluts, because they know that they are a slut, and women who are too safe make him feel uninterested.However, they are all willing to say: I chose a good woman.
For marriage, women always want more than men, just like for career, men always want more than women.Only by controlling the ever-expanding desires can women be invincible in their relationships.
Both the king and the servant are good men, but they are completely different standards and systems.If in the end, the woman who chooses the king thinks about the good of the servant, and the woman who chooses the servant longs for the glory of the king, and jumps back and forth between the two sets of standards, she will be tired and fruitless.
A good man is a multiple-choice question, no one can satisfy all your dreams, otherwise, it wouldn't be a dream anymore.
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