Don't be too personal, don't be too impersonal

Chapter 25 Life can also cultivate temperament (3)
When Shuangjiang entered the company, the employees at work still whispered to him after seeing him, and looked at him like a weirdo. They saw Shuangjiang's long hair, a red gown on his upper body, and a wide sports shirt on his lower body. pants and a pair of green shoes.Shuangjiang was very puzzled, he had already dressed much better, why they still looked like a monster, he entered the general manager's office in doubt.The general manager was taken aback when he saw Shuangjiang, asked Shuangjiang to sit down, and said to him: "Why are you dressed like this? This is work, not abstract art." Shuangjiang scratched his head and said, "Advertising and clothing are both Art!"

In the end, Shuangjiang walked out of the general manager's office resentfully. From then on, the general manager didn't pay much attention to him. After a while, he changed jobs.

Our attire shows our attitude and mental outlook, and to some extent also shows our changes and understanding of work, not personality.Seeing weird outfits as personalities only speaks to our naivety and our indifference to our work.Appropriate attire can be recognized by others. Different occasions and different weathers will definitely have the most suitable attire.Companies with requirements should dress according to the regulations, and those without requirements should choose generous, decent and clean clothes.Don't make a fool of yourself just for the sake of your so-called personality.

Xiao Li and Xiao Wang participated in the recruitment of a real estate company together. Xiao Li was steady and practical, while Xiao Wang was quick-witted and lively.The boss decided that both of them should stay for training at the same time, and make a decision during the training period.In order to win the position they wanted, both of them tried their best. Xiao Wang even went to a famous brand store to buy a tailor-made suit. He went to work the next day radiantly, and naturally won the approval of his boss.Look at Xiao Li again, he is always dressed in clean and well-regulated clothes, Xiao Wang is a little proud of it.After working for a period of time, the boss invited the company's top management and acquaintances to play golf on weekends, and specially called Xiao Wang and Xiao Li.On the weekend, Xiao Wang put on his brand-name suit again, and went out in good spirits.And Xiao Li picked out a clean sportswear and went, which he bought when he was in college.When the appointed time came, the boss and all senior executives had already sat down on the edge of the court. Xiao Li hurriedly poured tea, arranged caddies, checked clubs, and was so busy that he was sweating profusely. The boss jokingly wanted to poach him, and the boss felt that he had more face.Then look at Xiao Wang standing in front of a large group of company executives in sportswear. His suit and leather shoes seem out of place, so weird that he looks like an alien.A client's driver even mistook him for the leader, which made the boss very embarrassed. As a result, Xiao Li was hired.

Their attitudes towards work are understandable, but Xiao Wang's mistake is that he doesn't know what kind of clothes to wear on what occasions. Wearing inappropriate clothes on certain occasions is not a personality but a weirdness.It doesn't require you to match the effects of any big names, but the basic principles still cannot be broken.For example: sportswear should be worn during sports, casual clothes should be worn when shopping and chatting after dinner, and formal clothes should be worn when attending formal events.When you go to a concert, you should dress a little more formally. Wearing sportswear is "weird"; When attending a friend's wedding, you should wear a formal dress or a small dress. Casual clothes or sportswear that are too relaxed will look a little "weird".

When you join work for the first time, don’t dress too individually. Try to be like your colleagues. Dressing too weirdly or outstandingly will easily attract the attention of others and become the target of public criticism.Remember, be careful with everything.Socrates said that the wisest man is the one who knows his ignorance.Then, people who take ignorance as their personality are probably the most stupid people in the world.

Don't regard weird clothing as "personality", otherwise, there will be many unnecessary troubles in our work.

Five, the trend is not used to "catch up"
Keeping up with the trend and fashion has always been the personality patent of young people.At present, fashion China is slowly setting off a wave of fashion trends that belong to the Chinese people. Under the influence of this trend, are you also ready to move?When many popular elements surround you, which of your friends wears very "trendy", which of your friends is very stylish, which of your friends can dance street dance, and is very handsome... All these phenomena attract you all the time. In the trendy atmosphere, so you also buy that kind of "trendy" clothes to wear today, and go to street dance tomorrow, chasing the trend every day.Although very tired, but you never tired of it.Friends only see that your style has been changing and becoming disorganized, but they don't see how fashionable you are.Life is full of popular elements, and popular elements can make your life more fulfilling and happier, but a fulfilling and happy life is by no means piled up by popular elements.A trend is an unstable image, the real trend is not "driven out", and blindly following the trend is not a personality.

The definition of a trend is elusive. It is the embodiment of the current popular elements in a society. When people around us are pursuing a certain trend, their emotions and attitudes are always inducing us to go into fashion and chase the trend. .Nowadays, popular elements in society are changing faster and faster. A child knows what to wear and do to make him fashionable, and an old man also knows what new mobile phones have been released recently.Therefore, it is impossible not to follow the trend and understand the trend.When you go to work, your colleagues are happily talking about the latest trend information, and you who talk about your work, but at this time you are like an old antique who can't get in a word.Over time, they will no longer pull you to shop and chat, and you will be isolated from their own circle invisibly.Therefore, ignoring the changes in the trend will only make you farther and farther away from the people around you, and you will eventually be abandoned by society.Pay attention to the trend, and adapting to the trend can make your life colorful and reflect your personality and hobbies. A popular windbreaker, a big sunglasses, and a pair of cool black boots will undoubtedly make you a bright spot on the street .

I believe that no one wants to be eliminated by society.We are all social beings, and we need to always pay attention to and adapt to social changes.If we completely ignore the changes in social trends, we will be eliminated by society sooner or later.Therefore, we need to understand society and pay attention to changes in trends, which involves an attitude towards new things, that is, whether to follow the trend or not!

Let's assume that the trend can be "followed", then following the trend also requires costs, such costs are not only economic, but also time and energy.Constantly updated electronic products, mobile phones, computers, a small machine costs thousands of dollars, a new luxury car costs hundreds of thousands or even millions, and a piece of fashionable clothing costs hundreds or thousands of dollars. Surprising consumption figures, such a high-cost trend, can you afford it?Maybe you're against the trend and feel the cost is too high, especially if you're new to the workforce.

However, don't worry now, because the trend is not driven out, and the above assumptions do not exist.In the current society, the trend is only the embodiment of various popular elements, and it is a way of expressing the popular culture of the current society.The so-called "trend" is just a phenomenon that collectively appears in the public's life after the social popular culture is recognized by the public, such as the popularity of a certain clothing, the popularity of a food culture, the admiration of an electronic product, and so on.Therefore, the trend is not driven out, but formed naturally under the prevailing social culture.For individuals, blindly catching up with the trend will only be a tiger instead of a dog. The best way to adapt to the trend is to understand the internal culture of the current popular situation, and then choose the external expression that suits you according to the culture, such as the popularity of clothing, The same outfit that might look good on someone else might look ridiculous on you.Therefore, you should learn to see the essence through the surface of things and understand the reasons for the popularity of this kind of clothing. The popularity of clothing must not only be one type, it should be one category, then you can find the style that suits you in this category.Only by finding something suitable for yourself under the premise of trend culture can you truly adapt to the trend and even drive the trend.

We say that the trend is not for catching up. If you can’t adapt to the trend, you should pay attention to the trend, because following the trend can also become a “trend”.It is difficult to adapt to the trend, but it is relatively easy to follow the trend.Now is the information society, there are many ways to pay attention to the trend, and the cost is not big.Paying attention to the trend is to keep pace with the times, otherwise it is likely to lose the common language of communication with others; paying attention to the trend is a process of continuous learning and self-improvement; Constantly adapting to society, always paying attention to social changes, so as not to be eliminated by society.

There is such a person in China's fashion circle, her name is Guo Pei, the first generation of fashion designers in China, and also the earliest designer of haute couture in China.She has cooperated with the Spring Festival Gala for ten consecutive years, making clothes for the host and important actors. In 2008, Guo Pei was invited to make an award-giving dress for the Beijing Olympic Games. In 2009, Song Zuying's instant dressing skills in the Spring Festival Gala surprised the audience.She is also the queen designer of some celebrities, and the "New York Times" praised her as "China's Chanel, with the great dream of a female warrior."She made oriental cheongsams for Danish princes and princesses, designed fashion and crystal shoes for Lady Gaga, and designed wedding dresses for the daughter of an Arab oil tycoon.Her designs have received rave reviews.The clothes she designs always cause great fashion when they enter the market. In 2008, Zhang Ziyi, as Sohu's special correspondent, was invited to attend the torch collection ceremony of the Greek Olympic Games. The white cheongsam she wore with strong Chinese flavor became a highlight in the event. This cheongsam was made by Guo Pei.Since Zhang Ziyi wore it and amazed the audience, Guo Pei, as a designer, was interviewed by major media for a while.In an interview, she explained her design concept. At that time, the design of lace and sequins was more popular in the world. Guo Pei believed that if this technique was used, it would not only fail to show Zhang Ziyi's international status, but also fail to express Chinese characteristics. , and there is no point in simply following international trends.According to Zhang Ziyi's youthful personality, Guo Pei specially tailored this oriental cheongsam for her. Guo Pei led his technicians to hand-embroider dragons, white clouds, cranes and other auspicious patterns in the traditional Chinese sense. It complements the costume of the Greek priestess, so that Zhang Ziyi, who appeared as a reporter, is still the oriental goddess under the lens of many photographers.As a leader in China's fashion industry, Guo Pei knows better than anyone what a trend is and how to follow it.And her international influence just agrees with her trend concept: the trend is not for chasing, but what suits you is the best.

For a middle-aged and elderly person who has never used a computer or a mobile phone, even if he has a higher degree of education, if you give him a new mobile phone now, he may not be able to use it even if he reads the manual, because he can no longer understand it. This is the language for introducing electronic information products in the manual.In fact, this is nothing surprising. The society has higher and higher requirements for people to master electronic information products. It will lag behind the development of society, and I am afraid that for some other electrical appliances with many functions, it will be difficult for you to learn to use them if you have instructions.

Of course, it is impossible to pay attention to the trend and have a deep understanding of the trend as to adapt to the trend, but at least you will not be outdated.When conditions permit, it can lay the foundation for future adaptation to the trend.For example, I don’t have the money to buy a laptop now, but if I can pay attention to it from time to time, I will definitely know when it’s time to buy it.

Trend culture has existed since ancient times. Many examples prove that blindly catching up with trends will lead to social chaos and lose oneself.In the Han Dynasty, because of Zhao Feiyan, men all over the world only loved thin waists, and Dong Shi's imitation was also caused by "following the trend".Therefore, learn to adapt to trends instead of blindly following them.Those who really understand the trend can adapt to the development of society and not be eliminated by society.Remember, the trend is not "catch up", as long as it suits you, it is the best.

[-]. Has its own unique "smell"

When you are walking on the road, sitting on the bus, or smelling a refreshing smell at a concert, will you turn your head and look for the source of that fragrance?Do you think that the person in your eyes is attractive and temperamental no matter how tall, short, fat, thin, beautiful or ugly?If that person was born with heavenly fragrance and national beauty, and the jade tree is facing the wind, wouldn't this trace of fragrance be the icing on the cake?In fact, it is not only the smell in this superficial sense that can attract people's attention.The real "smell" can be temperament, which can make the whole person very tasteful.In this society, there are many charming and temperamental people, but very few people with taste.When you see Shu Qi, you think of sexy; when you see Tony Leung, you think of melancholy; when you see Maggie Cheung, you think of femininity.how about you?Which category do you belong to?
All good things come from continuous cultivation and exercise, and unique temperament is no exception.Charm, temperament, these things not only refer to appearance, but also refer to inner cultivation.Of course, what is inside can be reflected outside, so the most important thing is that we should improve our inner quality.We must first be confident, believe in ourselves, and continue to add self-confidence to ourselves through hard work.We are still very young, and we can continue to enrich ourselves.

You know, our unique "smell" is our unique personality label, which allows us to distinguish ourselves from others and express ourselves.If you lose this personality label, you will become a "too personalityless" crowd.

When cultivating temperament, we can find a teacher for ourselves, which is a good way to cultivate temperament.This "teacher" could be a friend, parent, or idol.However, don't blindly learn to imitate others, causing yourself to get lost in the worship of others. To learn the essence and get rid of the dross, you should learn to "pick the bone in the egg", so that the blue is better than the blue, and cultivate Show your own unique temperament, let alone blindly imitate others, you must first determine your own personality, and determine the object of study according to your own personality, so as not to be an unqualified "copy".

Xiao Min is lively and active by nature, and she was an athlete in high school. However, after entering university, she found that people around her always paid great attention to beautiful and elegant girls, and they were not interested in "sporty" girls like her. .The most obvious example is Yaoyao, who lives in the same dormitory with her. Yaoyao is very beautiful. With suitable clothes, she walks elegantly and gracefully. Every frown and smile gives people a sense of beauty from the heart. She is very popular among boys. .Walking with Yaoyao, Xiao Min always felt that she was not being noticed, so she decided to learn from Xiao Min and be a "lady".

From the day Xiao Min made up her mind, she paid close attention to Yaoyao's every move, including walking, talking, smiling, eating, even washing her face and brushing her teeth, trying her best to imitate every move of Yaoyao.It took less than half a year for the students to discover that Xiao Min, who was lively and active in the past, has changed, and she is almost the same as Yaoyao in every movement and silence.However, the students always felt very awkward, as if Xiao Min was holding something in her heart.

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