The Complete Collection of Ice Books

Chapter 4 God's Bone (3)
(5) Watch for changes.Changes in eyes, gaze, and eyes all reflect changes in inner emotions.For example, blinking the eyelids too fast indicates activity and thinking, while blinking too slowly indicates contempt and disgust; pupils suddenly dilate and shine, expressing surprise and joy, and suddenly narrowing and dullness indicate sadness and loss of interest; repeated eyeball movements indicate thoughts.

When we understand these principles, it will be much easier to communicate and communicate with people.Eyes will surely become a magic weapon for us to know others and observe others in the market.Once we know this secret, we can do better in terms of business management, and we can avoid detours in future careers.At the same time, we not only peek into a person's psychology through his eyes, but also an effective channel to peek into the other person's psychology.When communicating with people, we should observe whether the other party's line of sight is focused, pay attention to the movement frequency of the other party's line of sight, and pay attention to the angle of the other side's line of sight.

facial recognition
Original text
A body of bones, with almost the face.His family also discusses the shape and bones, and the literati first look at the bones of the gods.Straight to the point, this is number one.

注释
① Xingke: body shape.Wang Xizhi, a great calligrapher of the Jin Dynasty, wrote in the "Lanting Collection Preface": "Maybe because of the entrustment, let the waves go out of shape."

Translation
A person's bones are rich and handsome, mainly concentrated on one of his faces.For various personnel such as scholars, farmers, businessmen, etc., we must not only look at their inner mental state, but also examine their body posture.As readers who mainly focus on literature, it mainly depends on their mental state and whether their bones are handsome or not.Spirit and bones are like two gates, and fate is like various treasures hidden deep inside. Looking at people's spirit and bones is equivalent to opening two gates.After the door is opened, it is natural to discover the treasures inside and measure the temperament of the person.The two gates—God and Bone—are the first key to observe people.

Interpretation
The physical appearance of a person is formed by the internal and external connections of bone and flesh. The connection of bone and bone, the connection of flesh and flesh, and the enveloping and enclosing of bone and flesh form the external appearance of a person.Since the bones play a role of framework and support, the quality of the "bone" phase becomes the primary factor for the beauty and ugliness of a person's physical appearance.The brain is the central nervous system of the human being, and is the command system of the human being. The quality of the bones in the head becomes the "head" of the quality of the overall bones.

Looking at the physiognomy (appearance) is not as good as looking at the bones, which has always been the purpose of ancient Chinese bone physiology.Ancient phrenologists believed that the human body above the shoulders and neck is collectively referred to as the "head", and all sensory organs are concentrated in this place, occupying a very important position in the human body.These traditional folk cultures, which are mixed with essence and dross, have always been a major indicator of human appearance in the long years of lack of empirical science.Based on this theory, there is a saying in "Bingjian": "A body of bones is all about the face." In fact, even today, although phrenology has been faded, many people know people and learn from others, but they are unconsciously influenced by it. about.

"Bone" is also an important way for Zeng Guofan to see and know people. "Bone" can be used as a place to know people. Zeng Guofan believes that "it is more like a face". How "bone" conveys "god" is difficult to observe, so it often has the color of mysticism.In fact, this is not mysterious. As long as you are willing to work hard and experience it in practice, you will always realize the beauty of it.

To see an ordinary person clearly, one must first look at his body, and to look at the "face of a literati", one must first observe his "sacred bone".Therefore, this book "straight to the point" takes the issue of "sacred bone" as the first article.Zeng Guofan highly admired scholars, and deliberately distinguished "literati" from other personnel, such as workers, farmers, soldiers, and merchants, and clearly stated that "his family also discusses the body and bones, while literati first look at the bones of the gods."

Literati, in ancient feudal society, mainly refers to Confucian scholars, who have a rich inner world, study hard, love to think, are more intelligent, delicate, and sharp than others, and are more complicated, mysterious, and weird, so they are shabby, sloppy, and weak. A variety of changing and complex phenomena are deeply influenced by Confucianism, Taoism, Buddhism and other cultures in terms of thought and behavior.For them, "God" is particularly important.

As for how different the "bone" of literati is from ordinary people, it is a concept that can be understood but not explained in words. Therefore, compared with "god", "bone" has a sense of inscrutable and profound mystery. The handsomeness of the "bone" is inseparable from the "god", and the ancient cultural people despise physical labor and stay away from physical labor, so there are not many opportunities for the bones to be exercised. Compared with other people, the "bone" of the literati More or less hard to say, but it should be different from ordinary people.Therefore, looking at the "divine bones" of literati again, we should pay attention to the external "god" and the hidden "bone" of literati.

Those who are proficient in physiognomy in ancient times said that reading can change a person's bones.No one has proved this yet, but one thing is certain: reading can change a person.Liu Xiang said: "Books are like medicine. Reading them well can cure fools." He said that some people are stupid, but they become wise because of reading.The famous British philosopher Bacon also said: "Reading history makes people wise, reading poetry makes people smart, mathematics makes people thoughtful, science makes people profound, ethics makes people solemn, and logic and rhetoric makes people eloquent: whoever has learned , all form a character.” Su Shi once wrote in a poem: “There is poetry and calligraphy in the abdomen.” I am afraid that the “God” of the literati is different. Here, this “God” is similar to today’s "Temperament" in psychology.

It is said that after reading the book, one will form a qigong state.After reading to a certain extent, a temperament different from that of human beings will appear on the face, as if if there is light, this is a manifestation of God.Reading for a scholar is equivalent to long-term "practice", and will naturally develop a different temperament from others.

Ancient phrenology believed that the head and face of a person concentrated the "bone phase" of a person.Zeng Guofan also inherited this point of view and said a very incisive saying: "Those who have a deep taste in books have a pure face." It means that people who have a deep reading experience have a naturally pure and moist face.This sentence is not something that ordinary people can say. You have to observe many people, understand many things, and especially have a thorough understanding of the relationship between things before you can say it.

"Natural beauty" is something that cannot be pretended for a scholar. Only when the fire is ready can one have this experience. Deliberate pursuit or haste will only be counterproductive.If a scholar wants to achieve the state of "self-improvement", he must have hard work in reading, and he must have sincere and general understanding in reading.

If you have a deep understanding of reading, you will naturally have a high degree of concentration. This kind of person's spirit and body have been continuously accumulated, and the essence has not been slackened in the slightest. It is becoming fuller, richer and more perfect day by day. Over time, it has developed in his heart. The awe-inspiring aura acts on his body, making his life rational and orderly.Such a person has surpassed fame and fame, and has left behind all the mundane things in the world.The only thing that attracts his attention is the realm reflected in the book, which constitutes the repelling force against foreign objects, so that he can guard his inner world and build his own "spiritual homeland". When a person appears in front of people, his face will be quiet and peaceful.

Utilize the world
According to the "Manuscripts of Qing History: The Biography of Zeng Guofan", Zeng Guofan must first conduct a visual inspection when selecting officials and generals.Examine the "divine bones" of the other person's face, and at the same time pay attention to the other person's conversation and deeds. Combine the two to judge the character's character, virtue, good luck and fortune.

Such a thing was recorded in "Short Records of Knowledge":

Zeng Guofan is good at knowing people and predicting life.When he was governor of Liangjiang, Chen Lanbin and Liu Xihong were rich in literature, wrote thousands of words, were good at talking about world affairs, and carried important names.Someone recommended them to Zeng Guofan's shogunate. After the interview, Zeng Guofan said to others: "Liu Sheng's face is full of injustice, and he may not guarantee the end of the order. Chen Sheng is more serious. An official can reach the third or fourth rank, but he will not make great achievements. "

Soon, Liu Xihong, as deputy envoy, accompanied Guo Songtao on a mission to the West. The two disagreed and often made jokes.Liu wrote to the Qing government, saying that Guo Songtao took his concubines abroad and had close contacts with foreigners, which was "a real insult to the country".Guo Songtao also wrote to say that Liu had stolen a foreigner's watch.At that time, Li Hongzhang was in power, so he naturally preferred Guo Songtao, who was also from the Zengmen, to withdraw Liu, and there will be no deputy envoys in the future.Liu resented this very much, and Shang Shu listed Li Hongzhang's ten crimes that could be killed.At that time, the Qing government relied heavily on Li Hongzhang to handle diplomacy, but he stayed in the middle school and did not speak out. Liu was so angry that he often spoke unruly words, and his fellow villagers respected him at a respectful distance.Liu set up a banquet to entertain guests, but no one attended the banquet, and soon died of depression.

After Chen Lanbin was recommended by Xu Zhenyi, he entered Zeng Guofan's shogunate and traveled abroad.He is a man who refuses to go up and down with the vulgar, but he is ambitious but not courageous, so he has no great insight in the end.

Seeing Zeng Guofan pre-determining the two, it was like a fortune-telling.However, the essence of its balance is not limited to this.In the military order, it is said that a certain person can be a battalion officer; a certain person can be a commander-in-chief;All verified one by one.

In fact, Zeng Guofan did not judge people by their appearance. For example, Luo Zenan was "not good-looking and short-sighted", and Luo Bingzhang was "like an old Confucian in the village, incompetent."Another example is Tazibu, because he started his official career very early, wore straw sandals, and practiced seriously every day, and was appreciated by Zeng Guofan. Later, he recommended him with all his strength, and said: "Taqibu will be ineffective in fighting in the future, and the minister will be willing to commit the same crime." So. It is said that Zeng Guofan is good at identifying and selecting talents, mainly because he can observe people in a subtle way, and he has accumulated experience for a long time, so he can know people well.His method of observing people is "mainly based on integrity without bureaucracy, more orderly and less boastful." What he despises most are people who speak loudly.

Zeng Guofan "knows heroes with discerning eyes", and stored files of many characters in his pocket. When he needed them, he could calmly assign them to positions according to their talents, and he was competent one by one.Later, during the war with the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom, Zeng Guofan's shogunate was full of talents, and it was the same for a while.This cannot but be said to be due to the benefits of observing and recruiting talents when serving as a Beijing official.

Business utilization
Mr. Li is the manager of the personnel department of a certain company. He once saw photos of four managers in a magazine. At that time, his colleagues asked him to guess what jobs they were engaged in. He basically guessed right: one was engaged in tobacco industry, one is engaged in the cultural industry, and the other two are engaged in the electronics industry.Mr. Li does not know how to look at acquaintances like a fortune-teller, but according to modern psychology and physiology, a person's appearance is closely related to his growth environment and long-term mentality. The mentality and psychological characteristics are constantly shaping a person's appearance. .It can be seen from this case that the influence of each position on each person's temperament is different.

Therefore, when recruiting, companies can use psychology, personality knowledge, etc. to comprehensively analyze job seekers, and then combine their various conditions to allow them to work in the most suitable positions.This can reflect the scientific nature of the recruitment interview.

Ancient phrenology believed that the head and face of a person concentrated the bones of the whole body, and there is a similar situation in modern society.It is often said that "a person needs a face, but a tree needs its bark", which to a large extent also reflects the importance people attach to their faces.The face of a person is closely related to the psychology of a person. The face is a person's "facade". A person's face can reflect a person's character, temperament, etc. By observing a person's facial features, it is indeed possible to reflect its many aspects of information.

When you see a person's face for the first time, which part do you look at first?Eyes, nose, or eyebrows?Just look at your face first.Although a person's face shape has a lot to do with heredity, the innate face shape will also change greatly depending on the acquired life status, social environment, and personal experience.Psychologists have found through a large number of statistical data studies that the face shape of an adult can reflect some personality of a person to a certain extent.

Psychologist Paul Ekman divides face shapes into the following nine types in "Psychologist's Physiognomy: The Code of Deciphering Emotions", each of which represents a personality trait.

1. Square face

There are two types of square faces.One is a square face with a fairly defined profile and a wide jaw.This kind of person's face is square and big, with sharp edges and shapes, giving people the impression of a manly man.They are bold in doing things, like to take risks and make troubles, are rash and reckless in everything, do not think carefully, easily offend people, and belong to the brave and foolhardy type.This kind of person always adopts a single-line and straight-line mode of thinking and doing things, lacking coordination and room for detours.Their judgments are often superficial and superficial, and they cannot see hidden worries.In terms of dealing with interpersonal relationships, this kind of person can be said to be a typical example of a clear distinction between likes and hates, with joy and anger engraved on the face.They tend to only get close to people they like, and always put on a "stinky face" for people they hate.In addition, such people have well-developed motor cells, and few sports can stump them.

The other is a square face with sharp outlines and regular features.The difference between this type and the previous type is mainly in the lower jaw, which has a softer jaw line.This kind of person advocates the mean in everything, and does not destroy the traditional order in the process of doing things, and is extremely flexible.They are capable and far-sighted. They are typical leaders with the ability to cope with changes and turn things around.This kind of person is smart, full of wit and strategy, generous and prudent, sincere and prestigious.They have their own set of principles in life and have a high degree of stability.They will try their best to complete the work assigned by their superiors.They have a way of taking into account both practical and theoretical aspects, and their life process is both vigorous and well-balanced.

2. Round face

This type of face has thick and round muscles. People with this type of face have a gentle and smooth personality just like the face shape. They are easy to get along with, kind to others, and have strong social skills.Because people with this face shape are always optimistic and feel at ease with everything, they are always kind, funny, and amiable.However, he is a bit stubborn in sticking to his point of view, even a bit willful, and a bit of self-sacrificing individualism.If a man has such a face shape, then he is a bit unreliable when it comes to money.

The most important thing to pay attention to when making friends with this kind of person is to become a loyal listener of the other party, especially when the other party is a woman, if you want to make a good impression on her, you must not interrupt when the other party is talking, otherwise you will All previous efforts were wasted.

3. Oval face
An oval face, also known as an egg-shaped face, is characterized by a rounded jaw and a clear and wide forehead. If it is a woman, it must be a beautiful woman.

People with this face shape are very adaptable. Even if they are working women, women can take care of their family and work well, and do both.Moreover, people with this face shape are full of rationality and are rationalists. Even in chaotic situations, they will not panic like others, and can calmly tell others what to do.Their emotions rarely fluctuate and are a trustworthy person.However, their feelings are more delicate, and they will keep a small matter in their hearts for a long time.

For money, they often divide public and private very clearly, and take this as their creed.Therefore, when interacting with others, you are absolutely not allowed to act hastily. If you insist on not listening to advice and acting rashly, it will attract the disgust of the other party.This kind of person works hard, is active in thinking, has good creativity, and has strong self-esteem, and is not easily influenced by others. The disadvantage is that he lacks endurance and often gives up halfway.

4. Square face
This face shape is square, with a wide chin and well-developed cheekbones are the main features of this face shape.It is a common face shape for athletes.

This kind of person shows a positive attitude towards everything, has a strong will, and can quickly cheer up even when encountering great difficulties.They are extroverted, full of action, have a strong sense of justice, do not like to accommodate, and will never wrong themselves, so they lack a certain degree of flexibility; they must stick to what has been decided to the end, are extremely persistent, and are prone to conflicts with others, but they are very loyal , if someone asks for it, I can help.Perhaps it is due to personality reasons, the popularity of such people is often not very good.

5. Slender face
The face is long, the chin is square, and the nose and mouth are small. This kind of person is more thoughtful about trivial matters, has a certain enthusiasm for research, and is good at communicating with people. If he has a skill, it will be his best. Profession.He is humble, thoughtful, and polite to people. At first glance, he seems reasonable, but it is actually difficult to express his own mind clearly, so he will cause some troubles when interacting with people.They have great imagination in the pursuit of ideals.

The biggest shortcoming of this type of person is that although there are many ideas, the day of realization is far away.

6. Home Plate Face
Home plate is a term used in baseball to describe a face that has a strong line from cheekbones to jawline and a strong, masculine physique.

This kind of person is considerate and sympathetic to others, but rarely reveals his feelings, so he feels easy to get along with, and is therefore liked by most people.However, this kind of personality is sometimes misunderstood by others, making it impossible to confess to the opposite sex you like, and even afraid to touch the hands of friends of the opposite sex.

7. Mixed face
This type of face is characterized by people with angular or distorted faces as a whole, a small forehead, and wide cheekbones.

Stubbornness and unwillingness to admit defeat are their main characteristics, accompanied by nervousness and vanity, but they are not useless, they are very interested in any aspect, and no matter what they do, they are beyond the average level, so they are often confused. I don't know his main business and main direction of attack.Their most suitable occupations are: politicians, movie stars or secretaries.If this kind of person can meet like-minded people, they will get along well with each other, but as long as there is a little dissatisfaction, they will completely deny the other party.

8. Triangular face
Their faces are fat, their necks are relatively thick, and their entire faces are often flushed with blood.

(End of this chapter)