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Chapter 17 You suffer, you deserve a better life (4)
They are probably the three types of people in our lives.

一
Let's call him A.He looks a little handsome, but he doesn't have the cunning of that look.In high school, he fell in love with a girl in his class.It was a key middle school, everyone was studying hard, the examination room was full of gunpowder, love was naturally not allowed.Once in that high-pressure campus, there was a boy who jumped from the sixth floor of the teaching building and fixed the last moment of his life forever at the moment of flying.

At that time, the relationship between A and the girl was buried underground, and many people did not know that the two of them were in a relationship until the college entrance examination was admitted to university.

They are not in the same university, but they are still dating.It's just that the university has given them a wider space.They often go to each other's schools to play. Like all ordinary lovers, their lives are simple and warm.The one love lasted for four years. When they graduated from university, most of the boys were still moving between different girls, tasting the joys, sorrows, sorrows and joys of youth, and he got married with his son.

Without anyone noticing, she became pregnant, and the spring rain came silently.Everyone ridiculed, saying that he is really dedicated, and he is always thinking about creating the next generation for the motherland.

He didn't say anything, just smiled.Later, he and the girl returned to the county town, held a stereotyped wedding, hired a wedding company, and went through the scenes of a Western-style wedding.Under the witness of relatives and friends, welcome the arrival of the baby.His family bought him a house in the county town.He works in a TV station in the county seat, earning a salary of more than 3000 yuan a month. The income is not high, and the young couple live a stable and happy life.

I have a house, a job, and walk from my small home to my parents’ home every night. The big family takes their children out for a walk, and their parents also take their dogs out for a walk.Walking by the moat, the water in the moat is not so clear, but it is also very pleasant.

When it was late, they went home separately.Speaking of which, he lived a fairly happy life, but many people who work in big cities don't particularly appreciate such a mediocre life. They feel that staying in such a small town seems to repeat the simple life thousands of times, and just live. It's over.But he didn't think it was bad, and he didn't comment on what his friends said, just smiled.Occasionally he would also say, I am the kind of person who has no ideals. It is so simple to live with one family. Some eat, some wear, some live, and I will buy a car after two years. Most of my relatives and friends What's so bad about living an ordinary life in this county?Toss so much, but can you really get so much?After six or seventy years, won't we be the same, meeting in the face of death?Take nothing away.

two

M is A's high school classmate. M also has a friend L.Both of them are girls, and they are both teenagers from this county.

M is a girl who has been outstanding since she was a child.She learns to dance and is good at speeches. She also won the speech award in the city.Standing on the podium, she was extremely happy and proud.Such an appreciation is a great honor to all children of that age.

That good feeling has always been with her:
When she was winning prizes for writing essays;
When she was rated as the best student in the class;
When she was boasted by her parents and teachers...

She and A are completely opposite lives.She has always felt that there are still many variables in her life.As long as you work hard, there are countless possibilities waiting for you.

When she came to Beijing alone with her luggage, the girl who had been excellent and used to it was suddenly submerged in the traffic, like duckweed floating on the water, feeling helpless and powerless.There are too many people who are better than themselves in this big city.

Many of them are better than themselves and work harder than themselves.The kind of people who walk in the international center and speak fluent English, even if they don’t go abroad, it’s like living an international life. M's self-confidence since childhood was instantly shattered.Although the previous pride is not worth mentioning here, she still believes that among these outstanding people, she can also create a better life.

She does marketing planning and has to follow some projects every cycle.During the period when she first entered the industry, she seldom left work before 10 o'clock in the evening.Every time after get off work, the night is quiet, although the city is still prosperous, the neon lights proclaim the status of the world-class city here.She took a taxi home alone, and a girl can only look particularly lonely when she is like that.But she is still struggling.

Later, she became a project manager, and then a department manager, with a monthly income of more than [-] yuan.She still works very hard.She often goes in and out of salons with some outstanding people, and when she is free, she will treat herself and watch a play secretly.When watching a drama, she will relax a little.

She met a boy who came here from out of town looking for her dream just like her.They fell in love and lived a hard and happy life.

three

During the Chinese New Year, M returned to the county seat.Everyone gathers together and chats about each other's life, work, and love... L asked M, did you have a hard time in Beijing?When she said this, she was nestled on the sofa, infinitely lazy.He tilted his head and leaned against his husband.The eyes blinked slightly, and the long eyelashes seemed to exude the taste of infinite happiness.

M smiled and said, it's okay, hard work, hard work must be rewarded.

L said that in a place like Beijing, consumption is everywhere, so don't treat yourself too badly, and don't live frugally everywhere.

M seems to hear not only happiness from her words, but also full of "hostility", and feels that your life is not as good as mine.It is true that L is living a good life. She and her husband both work in the city and are close to home. They often drive home to enjoy the love of their parents.Her and her husband's family conditions are not bad.The salary is the icing on the cake for them.

The combined salary of the two of them is quite a lot, and they can be regarded as the upper middle class in the city.

L always feels that it is not an option to work hard outside like M.Only like yourself is a real enjoyment of life.

M said, in fact, it is not as difficult as you imagined in Beijing.Although you have to spend everywhere, the combined income of yourself and your boyfriend is quite considerable.In the past few years, I have done well, worked as a small manager, met many excellent friends, and saw many worlds that the county town or even the city had no chance to see.If you don't venture out by yourself, you will never know what the world is like.

This world is like that, seeing you live better than me, my whole body is not good, but seeing you have a bad life, I am happy all over.Therefore, when many people talk about their ideals and income, they are comparing, comparing and showing off their lives.

M does not want to participate in such social activities too much.Every Chinese New Year holiday, I will fall into the comparison of comparing each other and showing off, and I am too tired.Although I am not a high-end person, I can choose to yearn for a better life.

four

To some extent, A and M have a great deal of similarity.And L is an exception.

Ideals are a driving force.We appreciate those who strive for their ideals, such as M, who bravely go out and pursue their own vision and the possibility of broadening life.But we should also affirm those who seem to have no ideals.In fact, no ideal is their ideal. For example, A, his life seems to have no ideal, but it is not a great ideal.Live a peaceful life.That kind of beauty, like Datong, is a state that is difficult to achieve.

It seems that A is too ordinary, and you will never find it if you are submerged in the crowd.And M is too noisy, trying to fight against life.They are all people with their own ideas.On the contrary, it is L, who lives a prosperous life and is considered a middle class, but she uses her own life to measure other people's ideals and denies others' pursuit and desire for life.

The world is not binary, either one or the other, except that a good life is a bad life.Having no ideals like A, having ideals like M, and denying other people's ideals like L are all aspects of this world.Regardless of whether we pursue it or not, it is our own pursuit, but none of us is qualified to use our own weights and measures to measure and deny the lives of others.

When one day, you arrive at the place you want to go without thinking about your own safety, but you are surprised to find that everything you have gone through before is just the only way to get here, and you can't shape who you are today without a single step.The world is confused and disturbed, but you know where you should work.

(End of this chapter)