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Chapter 13 All the ex-problems, all hit it off

A girl asked me why her boyfriend couldn’t let go of his ex. He kept photos, WeChat, and phone calls of his ex. They quarreled and broke up endlessly. , what should I do?
I can't help this girl choose, but I can tell her a story.

My friend Yi Xiaokai is a man with a lot of ex-problems.There are so many ex-girlfriends that you can set up two tables of mahjong, and each of them got along with him friendly after breaking up.I can't figure it out: Why do two people who have broken up keep in touch?Why do we still meet?Do you want to rekindle old feelings?

But the fact is that they neither talked about anything special on the phone nor did they do anything special when they met.It’s just that when his ex-girlfriend needed help, he would come forward; when his ex-girlfriend was short of money and acted like a baby to him, he would pay him a few hundred dollars; Home; Xiaokai posted a circle of friends, and the exes also came to support and like it. This kind of relationship is so peaceful that it is incredible to just listen to it.

This one today, that one tomorrow, constant contact, and he never refuses, just like a central air conditioner, warming whoever needs it, there is no bottom line at all, and he seems to enjoy the feeling of being surrounded by a bunch of girls.

Almost every girlfriend of Xiaokai has been defeated by his ex-girlfriend. Persimmon girl is one of Xiaokai's many girlfriends who loves Xiaokai very much. Others can't bear it for half a year, but she just persisted.

Persimmon girl is Xiaokai's favorite type, sweet, well-behaved, gentle, with watery eyes.They were good in January.

Typical event one:

February 2th was the first Valentine's Day they spent together, but the ex-girlfriend accompanied Xiao Kai to buy the Valentine's Day gift, and the girl asked Xiao Kai to buy a scarf for herself by the way, Xiao Kai felt bad I refused, and I didn't have much money, so I bought it.

There was an interaction between Xiaokai's Weibo and his ex-girlfriend's Weibo. Persimmon girl flipped through and saw the photo of the gift posted by her ex-girlfriend. She recognized Xiaokai's pants and shoes in the background at a glance.The girl wrote on Weibo: I have a gift for Valentine's Day, thank you dear!These words were like a provocation. Persimmon girl was taken aback, feeling like the world had collapsed.

Xiao Kai explained like everyone with ex problems: I am just friends with her, and she calls everyone dear, don't think about it.But how could the girl not care, the quarrel inevitably happened.

Persimmon girl said: Why do you let her choose a gift for me?Xiao Kai said: You are all girls, you should understand girls' thoughts.She said: Do you think I am happy that I received the things your ex-girlfriend chose?He wouldn't be happy if he changed his position, but he is stubborn, isn't it just a gift, he pays so much attention to it!

That was the first time they quarreled for their ex. In the subsequent quarrels, Xiao Kai always felt that he was innocent, while the persimmon girl was too stingy and made trouble out of no reason.

Typical event two:
Later, Miss Persimmon found out that Xiao Kai met his ex-girlfriend, and Xiao Kai lied to keep her from going.Although she just sat and drank coffee all afternoon, she didn't do anything deviant, but she didn't mind.This is normal, no one wants their lover to still have trouble with their ex, let alone meet.

Xiao Kai said: I lied to you because I was afraid that you would misunderstand.Persimmon girl said: You are afraid that I will misunderstand, so you should lie to me?

The persimmon girl wanted Xiaokai to break clean with her ex, but he agreed to delete the contact information in person, and then added it after turning around. He didn't think there was anything wrong with this, it was just an old friend.

Typical event three:
One day in July, Xiaokai celebrated his birthday. Just after twelve o’clock, his ex-girlfriend sent birthday wishes. Xiaokai replied, and the two chatted again in the middle of the night. Say good night.

The persimmon girl was short of money on WeChat payment, and saw their chat records when she used Xiaokai's mobile phone to transfer money.

Xiao Kai said: My friend sent me a blessing. To be polite, shouldn’t I thank you too?Persimmon girl said: Thank you, thank you. What do you mean by talking about a few big articles?Xiao Kai said: Just friends, just chat casually.Persimmon girl said: What are you talking about in the middle of the night?Still have to say good night?

It’s not a good habit for a person with male (female) friends to talk about nothing. Sometimes it’s not the lover who is sensitive and fooling around. It’s our own problems. sense of security.

Typical event four:
One weekend, Xiaokai worked overtime, but disappeared again. The persimmon girl called all day but no one answered.

He explained to her that he didn't hear the phone in his bag.I found out later that it was one of the ex-girlfriends who moved, and he went to help others move, and he was busy all day.

Persimmon girl said: Move when you help others move, why are you lying?Xiaokai still said the same thing: I lied to you because I was afraid you might misunderstand.She said: You are really afraid that I will misunderstand you and you will not go!He said: Whatever you think, I'm fine.

That time, they had a cold war for two days, and in the end it was the persimmon girl who saved their relationship.

Typical event five:
It was Christmas Eve, and the festive spirit was in full swing, and we had dinner together.Xiao Kai's ex called again.The ex was broken in love, drinking at the bar, drowsy, and wanted Xiao Kai to come and accompany him.I advised him not to go there, because the persimmon girl would have another fight if she found out.

Xiao Kai said: What if something happens to her if I don't go?In order to get away, he made up random reasons, picked up his ex and took him home, and then turned back to meet us. He was in good spirits.

Persimmon girl followed us from the restaurant to the KTV, she was silent all the way, her face was uglier than anyone else.The persimmon girl, who had never drunk, drank herself a lot of alcohol for the first time, but she didn't have the capacity to drink, and she started crying after a few drinks, and she couldn't persuade her.

She said intermittently that she was not stupid, she knew what Xiaokai was doing.She said that he was always like this, and it was the same during the year they were together. He always called them, chatted with them, and went shopping with them. I cooked dinner at home and waited for him, but he went to accompany them.We are so sad.Xiao Kai is like this, no matter how he ignores his girlfriend, he still feels that she should understand him, otherwise the girl is ignorant.

Look, all the problems with his ex were hit it off. He didn't want to cut off all his thoughts about the other party, nor was he willing to reject the other party, so he found countless reasons to reduce his guilt, but the people around him were rejected. He was bruised and bruised.

For his ex-girlfriend again and again, Xiaokai quarreled with Miss Persimmon, but she backed down again and again, but he still went his own way, and told us that Miss Persimmon was young, ignorant, and always making trouble.

Xiao Kai suddenly couldn't get through to Miss Persimmon, without any warning.He was surprised to find that he really didn't care much about her. He only knew which neighborhood she lived in, but not which building or unit; he never picked her up from get off work, and he didn't even know the exact location of her unit.

For several days in a row, Xiao Kai couldn't find the persimmon girl.

He went to his friend's wedding, and seeing other people's happy couples, he thought of Persimmon Girl.

He stayed in the room, remembering the scene of her making soup for him in the kitchen; remembering the scene of her tidying up the house and cleaning for him; remembering the scene of her delivering midnight snacks to him who was working overtime; Taking care of her all night, she looked more sad than him; she remembered the days when they played computer games, watched movies, and ate hot pot together in the house.He saw that the flowers and plants she raised were wilting without watering for a few days, and he suddenly panicked.

Looking back on those girlfriends, I feel that I am too stupid, the boss is not young, it seems that there is only one good girl who has been kind to him for so many years and has no regrets, but he lost her.

Xiaokai can't find the persimmon girl, and the ex-girlfriends can't find Xiaokai.

Yes, when you really fall in love with someone, the only person you want to contact, the only person you want to care about, and the only person you care about, and all your thoughts are on that person, where there is no time and energy to go Take care of old lovers?
Xiao Kai called Persimmon Girl and sent one message after another on WeChat, saying that he knew he was wrong, he would clean up the past, and asked her to give him another chance.But she didn't reply.

At midnight on the eighth day, girl Persimmon came back.It turned out that she took a ten-day vacation and went abroad for a walk. The idea was very simple. She wanted to try to disappear for a while. I don't know if Xiao Kai will miss her. If he is really unmoved , she can leave him without regret.

She didn't expect Xiaokai to be like this at all, and we never thought about who Xiaokai, who has always been carefree about her feelings, would panic about. Maybe she was completely in his heart from the beginning, and she was directly embedded in his heart, but he couldn't help it. Knowing, he is used to the life of being able to have everything, and the separation of these few days made him realize the importance of her.

Persimmon girl did not subscribe to international calls, and she was shocked to see Xiao Kai's WeChat messages one after another through Wi-Fi. She always thought that she was the one who was not loved, but now she knew that he cared about her.She couldn't wait for the ten-day vacation to end, so she booked a plane ticket and rushed back.When she got off the plane in the early morning, she turned on her mobile phone and saw his text messages one after another. She went straight to his house and threw herself into his arms without even returning home.

Xiao Kai has indeed changed a little bit. He calmly posted a photo of Persimmon girl in Moments, and told his ex-girlfriends euphemistically and clearly, I don’t want my girlfriend to misunderstand. Let’s keep a little distance and keep in touch if we have nothing to do. .

When he loves you enough, he is willing to let go of his ex, ex-ex, ex-ex... No matter how many ex-exes there are, they can no longer torment your life.

On Xiaokai's birthday this year, his ex sent another blessing on the hour. Xiaokai showed the message to Persimmon Girl, and then replied with two simple words in front of her: Thank you.He is really open-minded now.

The relationship between old lovers is so simple and clear, because we loved each other, we don't become enemies, and we don't need to chat and meet to become friends on purpose.For the love of each other, we are willing to have less contact, and occasionally meet lightly.We know who is more important, so we will not do things that misunderstand our lover, let alone quarrel with our lover because of our ex.Of course, the last thing we will do is to give up the relationship with the person we love now for the ex.

The reason why there are so many ex-problems, and TA has been cutting them all the time, is not because he is kind, not because he has a good heart, not because he values ​​friendship, and not because his ex is unilaterally cheap, but because he is willing to continue pestering.

(End of this chapter)