90 days of cultivation temperament goddess

Chapter 20 Polite words and deeds are direct and effective proof of identity (3)
Raise your hand - this is a way of greeting when you are far away from the other party or passing by in a hurry, and it is also a common polite manner.Due to limited conditions, the greeter cannot talk to the other party or stop and salute. In this case, it is most appropriate to raise your hand to say hello.This way can not only show that you recognize the other party, but also express your respect in a short time and a long distance.

Rise - This is a polite manner used in more formal situations.In a more formal meeting, when elders or venerables arrive or leave, those present should stand up to show respect.If the elders and venerables are visiting, those present should stand up to show respect, and then sit down after the visitors are seated; if the elders and venerables are leaving, they should not sit down until they leave.When standing up, stand up first, then stand up on your legs, keep your body dignified, let your hands hang down to your sides naturally, keep your head upright, and look straight at your eyes.

Hugging - is a polite gesture that conveys close affection.It is widely used abroad, especially in European and American countries.In our country, it is usually used in foreign affairs activities, such as sending and receiving, and occasionally used in special occasions where it is difficult to express strong feelings in words, such as reunion after a long absence, misunderstanding, etc., but it is not easy to use between the opposite sex of the same generation.Etiquette in hugging movements should keep the whole body dignified and elegant, with the left arm up and the right arm down, lightly hugging each other's waist and chest, and the face and head once on the left and right, some even more gently Pat the other person on the shoulder to show more affection.

Make a phone call - it is best to develop the habit of holding the microphone with the left hand. When the right hand is free, you can write down what the other party said or important matters at any time; It helps to improve the tone of voice, concentrate, and show your elegant charm.When talking on the phone, if you encounter impolite people, you should stabilize your emotions and treat each other with courtesy.

The specific implementation of elegant manners in the practice process should be flexible and changeable according to the time and place, and when necessary, you should follow the Romans, and you should not stick to a certain set of etiquette.

Don't ignore your sign language, show the beauty of the details

Zhang Ailing said that all the charm of life comes from its details.We can also say that the most charming elegance of a woman comes from those seemingly most inadvertent details.

These are some links that are often overlooked by women, and few women know that it also has a standard and elegant posture.But it is in this kind of place that others ignore, if you pay attention to it, you can highlight your unique style and beauty taste.

The most common detailed gesture is sign language, or hand gestures.Gestures usually refer to the movements of human hands and arms. It is a special communication method formed and developed by human beings in the long evolutionary process, and it has a wide range of applications in interpersonal communication.In addition to fully enhancing people's language expressiveness and appeal, gestures can also convey a lot of information when there is a language barrier.Therefore, it is very important for every woman to understand various gestures and use sign language appropriately.

Regrettably, not everyone can use gestures properly. In daily life, due to various reasons, some people's gestures are very indecent, and some people are self-defeating because they don't understand the meaning of gestures, causing Unnecessary misunderstanding.Therefore, when we use gestures, we must pay attention to the following details.

Three principles of using sign language

(1) Generous and decent.Gestures are a special way of expressing one’s feelings. Just as inappropriate speech can be offensive, if you don’t pay attention to your identity or the content of your conversation when using gestures, blindly imitating others or being artificial and twitchy, it will not only hinder the effective communication between the two parties. Communication will also leave the impression of lack of quality and lack of education to others.

(2) Be accurate.Because gestures are a silent language, and because they are all-encompassing, even the slightest change can change the meaning of a gesture.Therefore, when using gestures, try to be as accurate as possible, and try to avoid using overly complicated gestures, so as not to cause communication barriers or cause misunderstandings by others.

(3) Do as the Romans do.In different countries, due to different historical traditions and cultural backgrounds, gestures have different meanings, or even opposite meanings.For example, the well-known "O" gesture means "OK" in the English-speaking world, with meanings such as "happy", "admired" and "smooth"; but in the French-speaking world, it means "zero" or "no"; in Japan, Southeast Asia In some countries, it means "money"; in Brazil, it means "anus".Just imagine what it would be like to use the "O" sign when you're about to compliment a Brazilian.Therefore, when facing different groups of people, we should use gestures to avoid unnecessary troubles, so as to form good relationships and win network resources to the greatest extent.

Keep your hands graceful

(1) Hand placement.When it's time to put your hands on the table, it's more elegant to put your fingertips together than to just leave your hands open.Before placing items on the table, touch the surface with your little finger to prevent loud noises; when you put the cup on the small saucer, use your little finger to support it first.

(2) Pass items.When handing something to the other person, pass the item to the other person with both hands.If it is a document or a book, pay attention to pointing the easy-to-read direction towards the other party, avoid directly stuffing it to the other party, and at the same time gently draw a small arc upward, which is the most elegant way.When passing sharp objects such as scissors and screwdrivers, you should hold the sharp end and pass the handle to others.When receiving items, do not use one hand, but must receive them with both hands. Even if it is a small item, one hand should be placed under the other hand to catch it.

(3) When opening and closing the door.When opening or closing the door, don't just use one hand to pull the doorknob; the other hand should also gently hold the door, and open the door slowly, trying not to make a loud noise, so that it will look elegant.

(4) When holding an umbrella.When holding an umbrella, it is best not to carry the umbrella handle on your shoulders. It will look very elegant if you hold the umbrella upright. Clamping the armpits and pulling the elbows together can reduce fatigue and look pleasing to the eye. The other hand can be gently placed on the handle of the umbrella.

(5) When indicating the direction.When pointing out places or directions to others, use the palm of your hand to point upwards instead of your fingers. This is a very polite behavior, and it will also appear graceful.

Know the etiquette of using gestures

Gestures should be few but not many.Redundant gestures will leave a feeling of posturing and lack of self-restraint.Use gestures only in conjunction with facial expressions and other parts of the body to reflect respect and politeness to others.At any time, the gestures made by an elegant woman should not be too large or rapid, and it is better to be light and clear.When making gestures, be careful not to point your palms down and point your fingers at people.

Gestures to avoid.In social activities, some gestures can be offensive and seriously affect the image of women.

(1) Avoid scratching your scalp in public, picking your ears, picking your nose, biting your nails, and scribbling on the table with your fingers.

(2) Avoid covering your head with your hands.Many people like to hold one or both hands behind their heads. The original intention of this posture may be to relax, but if you do this in front of others, especially when serving others, it will give people a feeling of being arrogant.

(3) Avoid fiddling with your fingers.Repeatedly fiddling with one's fingers, either flexing the joints, clacking, clenching the fist, or moving the fingers around, often gives a feeling of boredom that is unacceptable.

(4) Avoid putting hands in pockets.Putting one or both hands in a pocket is usually not allowed at work.This kind of performance will make people feel that you are not doing your best at work and taking a break from your busy schedule.

From this, it is not difficult to see that every culture has its own gesture language, which contains a variety of human emotions.Although it is not as practical as spoken language, it can play an irreplaceable role in interpersonal communication, and it is something that every educated woman should understand.

Say goodbye to the dreaded Erlang

In the movie "Basic Instinct", Sharon Stone crossed his legs, and the police were confused by her. It seems that the crossed legs are still very lethal.In talk shows, many hosts or guests cross their legs.In the office, as soon as many relatives sit down, they will immediately assume the Erlang posture.

Erlang legs are very popular, it is a habit developed by many people consciously or unconsciously, and crossing Erlang legs makes people feel very comfortable, especially when they are nervous.However, Erlang legs are not highly regarded. One is that it is not beautiful, and the other is that this sitting method is actually very harmful to the body.Ms. Wang works at a desk, and she has a habit of crossing her legs while working.Recently, Ms. Wang always felt discomfort in her waist, which later developed into pain. She went to many hospitals for examination and consultation, but found no abnormalities.The doctor prescribed some oral and external medicines for Ms. Wang's low back pain, and asked her to rest at home for a period of time. Ms. Wang was leisurely watching TV with her legs crossed at home, and she happened to be free.

However, after recuperating for a period of time, her condition did not improve, so she had to go to the hospital for a specialist clinic.The expert inquired carefully about Ms. Wang's work and living conditions, and told her that the long-term unexplained low back pain was caused by crossing her legs!
Low back pain is the most common ailment among sedentary office workers.Because they like to cross their legs to work when they go to work.As everyone knows, crossing one's legs can easily cause uneven pressure distribution between the lumbar spine and thoracic spine, which can cause unexplained low back pain. Medical examinations can easily ignore these details.

In addition to causing problems such as back pain, Erlang legs can cause many injuries to women.Let us take stock of what terrible consequences the terrible "erlang-leg sitting" will bring to your temperament and body.

Hazard [-]: Seriously affect the shape of the legs

Those who love beauty should pay attention, this sitting posture will directly lead to ugly legs. If you find that your legs are inexplicably different from before, maybe Erlang legs are the culprit for the change.

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