90 days of cultivation temperament goddess

Chapter 24 Communicate gently and show your infinite charm (3)
Two different perfumes should not be mixed together, the mixed fragrance will make each original fragrance lose its pure taste, and it may smell very unpleasant.Do not mix it with cosmetics of different fragrance series, such as using perfume and strong aromatic cosmetics at the same time, such as hair styling products, body wash, skin care products, antiperspirants, etc., which are likely to conflict with the fragrance, which is counterproductive.

Don't let the smell put you off
As a woman, I am most afraid of others saying that I have a strange smell on my body, which is more embarrassing than saying that her clothes don't match.Odor is "fatal" for women.Therefore, I would like to remind all beauty-loving ladies that it is very necessary to maintain a fresh body odor no matter how busy you are and how difficult the conditions are.

Odor usually comes from two aspects: the body odor emitted by oneself and the "odd smell" formed by different cosmetics.It is not good for either of these two aspects to have problems.

Get rid of your own bad smell

Sweat and foot odor are the most important sources of unpleasant body odour.The key to eliminating these two kinds of odors is cleaning, frequent bathing, and frequent changing of clothes and socks.Foot odor may also be caused by a physical disease and needs to be treated with medication.

Bad breath is another kind of unpleasant body odor. This unpleasant smell not only embarrasses oneself, but also often makes others feel disgusted, which greatly reduces one's own image.

There are two sources of bad breath: one is caused by bad habits. Some women have the habit of smoking and drinking. If you do not pay attention to oral hygiene, you will have bad breath; , As long as you pay attention to cleaning, you can eliminate bad breath.

Bad breath is also pathological, such as gingivitis, periodontitis, chronic rhinitis, sinusitis, bronchitis, lung infection, indigestion, gastritis, constipation, diabetes, liver and kidney diseases, and even tumors can cause bad breath.In this case, it is recommended to find experienced Chinese medicine for treatment, and adjust the diet, avoid spicy food, greasy food, alcohol, seafood, fishy meat and hair, keep the stool smooth, and keep the mood comfortable Wait.

Body odor is a more personal physical problem. No woman with body odor wants others to find out about her body.If there is no surgical treatment, then you must pay attention to frequent bathing; use antiperspirant or deodorant at the same time, and eat less spicy and irritating food; try not to get too close to people when talking to reduce the generation of odor and distribute.

Don't let different cosmetics form "weird fragrance"

Love of beauty is a woman's nature, and many women do not hesitate to regard themselves as "laboratories" of various cosmetics for the sake of beauty.As everyone knows, mixing different brands of cosmetics will make you smell weird.In particular, if you use perfume at the same time as you use strong-smelling aromatic cosmetics, such as styling hair products, body washes, skin care products, antiperspirants, etc., it is easy to make the fragrance conflict and become tacky.Therefore, it is best to use the same brand and the same fragrance when choosing cosmetics.Don't let these subsections get in the way of your charisma.

Timely response to women's physiological body odor

Female physiological odor is a difficult to talk about, but it has a very serious impact on etiquette.This kind of problem occurs, in addition to cleaning problems, there are also pathological reasons.To improve this situation, the best way is to improve your own hygiene first.

1. Change frequently, take a bath frequently

When the amount of menstrual blood is large, the frequency of changing sanitary napkins should increase accordingly.More importantly, during menstruation, you must take a bath frequently. If you haven't bathed for more than two days, the smell is unavoidable.Of course, it may not be the smell of menstrual blood, but it may be his own body odor.

2. Inhibit odor, choose the right sanitary products
In addition, many women usually pack themselves airtightly for a few days because they are afraid of leakage. In fact, doing so is like adding fuel to the fire, which will only increase the penetration of sweat and the smell of sweat.Therefore, wear cotton underwear during menstruation, and change sanitary napkins as often as possible, not exceeding 4 hours each time, so as to reduce the contact between skin and wet sanitary napkins.

3. Clean and remove odor in time

Females in the puberty and childbearing stages have stronger hormone secretion and more vigorous sebaceous gland secretion. In addition to acne, the lower body is also more likely to have oil secretion, so it feels greasy. At this time, it is necessary to wash the area frequently.Wash the lower body with warm water at least once a day, and clean the lower body with water or a wet towel twice a day, and the situation will be effectively improved.

In addition, the selection of appropriate sanitary napkins and the correct use of sanitary napkins are also very critical.When the amount of menstrual blood is large, the frequency of changing sanitary napkins should increase accordingly.

Get along naturally with the opposite sex

There are many people in the world, with different personalities, and thousands of kinds of people, but everyone is just one person, an ordinary mortal, with flesh and blood and feelings.Therefore, in order to get along harmoniously, we must first treat people with sincerity and equality.

As a woman, when you are in a group of men, you don’t have to think about your gender and identity, and imagine everyone as the same gender. You must not think that you are a woman or something, and let everyone restrain or be afraid. What happens when you talk to each other.From the standpoint of a friend, speaking sincerely and rationally can also easily get along with the opposite sex.

Although I don't know much about men, I know that men have a lovely thing - men will maintain their image in the heart of the woman they care about, and this image often depends on this woman.How does Glamor Woman do this?

initiative
Why take the initiative?Because getting along with the opposite sex is not only a practical problem that everyone must face, but also an important way for college students to improve themselves and grow healthily.For example, in terms of intelligence, there are differences in the types of intelligence of boys and girls.Boys and girls often study together and influence each other, so they can learn from each other's strengths and improve their intellectual activity level and learning efficiency.Emotionally, the difference between men and women is even greater.Properly getting along with the opposite sex is conducive to enriching one's emotions and experience of life, deeply understanding the emotional characteristics of the opposite sex, and laying the necessary foundation for future work and married life.What's more, if you only interact within the scope of the same sex, your psychological development will often be narrow and single.Therefore, everyone should take the initiative to communicate and interact with the opposite sex.

frank
When getting along with the opposite sex, you often feel unnatural, and even slurred and flustered.The reason is mainly due to the pressure of traditional concepts and the mystery of the opposite sex, that is, an extreme "awareness of the opposite sex" is at work.The so-called "heterosexual awareness" refers to paying too much attention to gender and sexual issues when interacting with the opposite sex, and feeling embarrassed or timid when interacting with the opposite sex.It is a barrier for self-isolation, which must be eliminated psychologically, throw away all thoughts and confusion, and show a natural and frank attitude.It should be noted that heterosexual interactions are not always "paving the way" for love, and there can be non-love intimate interactions and pure friendship between opposite sexes.Therefore, when conducting social interactions, we should start from the subjective and objective needs, just like dealing with the same sex, say what should be said, do what should be done, express what should be confessed, and communicate what should be exchanged.

courtesy
Communicating calmly does not mean that you can let go of your words and deeds, you must be polite.Moreover, heterosexual relationships require more politeness and propriety than same-sex relationships.If you show intimacy to anyone regardless of the occasion, regardless of who you are, if you are outspoken and like to talk, it may cause misunderstandings by the other party or others, causing them to have wrong associations, and both parties will feel embarrassed, which will affect normal communication.At the same time, be careful not to involve personal privacy at will.If you know each other very well and are close friends, you can talk about some "secrets" of the other party if necessary, but it is best for the other party to take the initiative to talk about it first.If you don't have these conditions, you must control yourself and don't be rash and presumptuous.Also, take care to maintain proper etiquette.For example, when entering and exiting the gate, if a man opens the door for you, you should say thank you; when studying a problem or talking together, you should neither be too cautious, but also behave appropriately.

reason
Love is exclusive and private in nature, while friendship is intimate and open.When interacting with the opposite sex, the boundaries of friendship and love should not be confused.In other words, there is a "degree" problem in heterosexual communication.Moreover, limiting the scope of one's communication to the world of two people too early can easily have a negative impact on the perfection and development of one's intelligence, emotion, and personality.We should regard intercourse with the opposite sex as an ordinary thing in daily life, instead of making this intercourse too mysterious and special; in intercourse, we must grasp ourselves rationally, abide by social morality and correct behavioral norms, and maintain a healthy attitude. Motivation, friendly attitude and dignified behavior interact with each other, and do not do anything to hurt the other party, so as to win the respect and friendship of the other party.

When we decide to take a person of the opposite sex as our friend, we have to tell the other person or let the other person know what kind of image he will exist in your mind, so that those men who want to take you as a friend, in order not to Do your best to maintain this image without a friend like you.Occasionally, you can send a text message or call to greet, and occasionally everyone gathers together to chat; when a friend is unhappy, make a moderate joke, adjust the mood, and let the friend temporarily forget the unhappiness; when the friend is frustrated, give comfort and encouragement; When friends encounter troubles, they offer ideas and help to think of ideas; when friends have happy events, they say congratulations and blessings.How happy it is to get along with friends of the opposite sex so purely!

All kinds of parties, elegant style becomes the focus of attention
With the improvement of people's living standards and frequent business contacts, various parties have become occasions that fashion and business people often face.If you don't know the rules of the party, no matter how well-dressed and beautiful you are, it will be in vain.Today, we will follow the rhythm of the party and design a "overlord route" for you that is not rude.Going this route guarantees you the most elegant look for a high society party.

photo etiquette
Anyone who has attended a party has had this experience: as soon as you enter the venue, someone invites you to take a photo in front of the dazzling theme background wall.So the first lesson in party etiquette is learning how to pose for the camera.

Of course, this is also a very difficult and extremely clumsy project.Inexperienced people are often at a loss when it comes to taking pictures. In addition, there are often celebrities and business celebrities around, which will cause a lot of psychological pressure on you.

Vulgar poses are the most taboo, and the scariest thing is accidentally posing in a childish "V" shape (gesturing with fingers and shouting "Yeah").Therefore, the party photo action of the "basic model" should not be too large.Because the movement is too big, the whole person looks unattractive and unfashionable.

Elegant sitting
At a party, women are most afraid of wearing a dress that wrinkles terribly after sitting down and standing up.Therefore, in order to avoid such an indecent situation, when you sit down, you should gently close the hem behind the dress with your hands in time to make it completely flat.After taking a seat, put your hands together, which looks like a lady.If you are wearing a cheongsam, your buttocks must stay in one place after sitting down, and you must not move back and forth from time to time.

Unlike women's sitting posture, men should not put their hands together after sitting down, as this will make them look less generous and lack masculinity.In addition, the legs should not be close together, and the feet should be slightly separated, but the legs and feet should not be spread as much as possible, otherwise it will appear vulgar and arrogant.

greeting etiquette

When you go to a party, you often meet your friends or old friends, how do you greet them?At this time, you have encountered the third social etiquette-greeting.

When the person you know is far away, you must not greet each other loudly, and you should walk slowly to the other person.At this time, you should not pat the other party's shoulder or pull the other party heavily with your hands, let alone yell and surprise.Generally speaking, familiar girlfriends can gently hug each other, and male friends can shake hands.

ARTISTRY DRINKING

When attending a party, there will always be some champagne, whiskey, juice and other drinks on site. What etiquette should you pay attention to at this time?

When you really want to drink, but the waiter (waiter) is far away from you, you must not call him loudly. You must wait for the waiter to come to your door, or walk up to him tactfully.Generally speaking, the route taken by the waiter at the party has been specially trained, and there will never be any corners that are overlooked, so don't worry, wait for the waiter to ask: "Miss/Sir, do you want a glass of champagne/whiskey?" Get it!
The gesture of holding champagne is also a detail of party etiquette. The correct way is not to hold the glass wall with the whole palm, but to gently pinch the handle with your fingers. taste.

chat etiquette
The party is not only a show, but also a relaxed and leisure place.Therefore, at the party, it is best to focus on the content of life in the chat.For example: "What have you been up to recently?" "What kind of sports?" If you really need to talk about some heavy or in-depth topics, it is recommended that you choose another time after the party, rather than spoil the fun of the party.

There is another big taboo in party chat, that is dialect.We often see such a scene: in a party, when two fellow countrymen are chatting in dialect, other people can't intervene at all.Just imagine, at a party, a language you don't understand is ringing in your ears, whether you will have a feeling of being disrespected.Moreover, if the topic of party speech and privacy is used, it will seriously violate the taboo of international etiquette.

So in social situations, how to have in-depth conversations with fellow villagers and connect with them?Or stick to it until after the party is over so you can go it alone.As we all know, social occasions are the best stage to expand interpersonal relationships. On such a stage, everyone should act as a magnet, doing everything possible to attract others, and at the same time open-minded to be attracted.

eating etiquette
In addition to some drinks, there will be some exquisite snacks at the party.First of all, you should realize that the food at the party is not to fill you up, but to fill your stomach before drinking, so you don't get drunk immediately, so remember not to be greedy.

When the waiter walks up to you with a variety of snacks, decide which one you choose before you start. Don’t pick and choose, it will be ridiculous.

Coping with embarrassment
A party is a lively social occasion, and some embarrassing things are often encountered.One of the most embarrassing things you often encounter is that a stranger with a familiar face comes to greet you. When you try your best but can't remember who he is, the embarrassing situation happens.

In the face of the above embarrassing situations, you should first keep calm and never show that you don’t know the other person. You can ask him about his health, and at the same time use some skillful communication methods to help yourself recover your memory.You can say: "The last time I saw you, your hair style wasn't like this!" When you throw non-questioning sentences to the other party, the other party may report himself and say, "Yes, you said the last time Are you at the ×× party?" You can also introduce your friend to this stranger with a familiar face, and by taking advantage of the opportunity for both parties to introduce themselves, you will automatically know who he is.

Of course, party etiquette cannot be explained in a few words, and we need to study it in private and save it for later use.Whether you are an ordinary white-collar worker or a business leader, you must find ways to avoid making yourself ugly and clumsy in public. If you are not careful, you will lose everything. It is really not worthwhile.

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