90 days of cultivation temperament goddess

Chapter 25 The feelings of a little woman, a gentle woman makes a man's heart beat (1)
Everything in the world is divided into yin and yang. If you are a man, you should stand upright, "strengthen the mountain and surpass the world"; if you are a woman, you should be gentle and reserved, tender like water, graceful, dignified, virtuous and elegant.

A man uses his strength as his charm, a woman uses her charm as her strength.

If you are a woman, you should have the beauty, fragrance and tenderness of a woman.

If you are a woman, you should be a woman who makes the world warmer and more beautiful because of her.

A gentle woman is an attractive woman.

If you are a woman, you should have the tenderness and fragrance of a woman

When writing this topic, a soft and beautiful feeling began to spread from my heart.

Remember a story:
There is a woman named Sophia. When her husband Nate was working in customs, he was often scolded by his superiors.One day, the boss yelled, "You are useless! You don't have to come to work tomorrow." Nate was extremely frustrated and disappointed in himself. When he was about to commit suicide by jumping into the river, his wife Sophia found him. Sophia said happily: "Honey! Your unemployment is the good news I've been looking forward to for a long time! Now you can eliminate all distractions and concentrate on your favorite writing."

Nate said worriedly: "Without work, there is no income. How do we live?"

Sophia pulled her husband home, opened a drawer, and took out a box full of money. Sophia said: "Honey! I knew you were a writer, but you just didn't have the time and opportunity. As long as you have time to concentrate on writing, you will become the greatest writer in the world sooner or later. Because I intuitively know that you need I have time to write, and I saved half of the living expenses you gave me to maintain my family every week. Now, we still have enough money for a year's expenses, so you can write with peace of mind! Dear! I believe you will be able to It worked. I love you Nate." What a heartwarming statement!What a heartening encouragement!What a great, respectable, lovely and intelligent wife!
This unemployed husband, this useless man in the eyes of the world, devoted himself to writing, and finally climbed to the peak of the literary world and wrote the world-famous masterpiece "The Scarlet Letter".But Sophia's achievements are even more brilliant. It is her tenderness and wisdom that lead her impoverished husband Nate to the road of literature, and make him the literary master Hawthorne who is admired and highly anticipated by the world.I think that without Sophia's tenderness and consideration, without her vision to see the essence through the phenomenon, there will be a lack of a literary masterpiece in the literary treasure house of the world, and human beings will also miss a literary giant.

As a woman, you don't have to be pretty, you don't have to be young, but you must have the tenderness and fragrance that a woman should have.

Gentleness is the most important word in women's dictionaries

Gentleness is always the most important word in women's dictionaries.No matter how good or perfect a woman is, she needs to use tenderness as the medium of transmission in order to show her temperament and charm to the people around her, otherwise, her beauty will become superficial, short-lived and even shocking.A gentle woman can always moisten things quietly, is not easily angry, can tolerate things, and is kind and considerate to others, thus fully displaying the feminine beauty that God bestows on women and men need most.

In daily life, it is also women, and gentle women are more likely to obtain happiness in life than ordinary women.In ordinary days, a woman with a gentle personality will live happily.Her every word and deed, every frown and smile, every gesture and gesture all show the tenderness of a woman.In complex and difficult work, a gentle woman will get a lot of new ideas by working in a calm and step-by-step manner, which is more efficient and easier to achieve career success.Their gentleness and demureness, their elegant interests and lofty aspirations are a fresh and timeless landscape.

Gentleness is the longest gospel in the women's world

Gentleness brings true love to women: women in love, their tenderness is like mist and flowers, with haze, romance, tenderness, and warmth. This kind of tenderness is like a catalyst, urging the flowers and fruits of love to come soon Bloom ripe.Gentleness brings the greatest happiness to women: the gentleness of a wife is like a ray of sunshine in spring, like a bright moon in an autumn night, adding warmth and clarity to life.Gentleness brings a human friendship to women: the gentleness of a friend is a gift of wisdom, which will produce upward resilience in adversity, and reveal the freedom and elegance of success when you are proud.Gentleness brings women the purest and truest family affection: the gentleness between family members is the bond that strengthens family affection.Gentleness brings a kind of demeanor to women: learning to use gentleness when getting along with others will create a harmonious and complete...

Gentle as the wind, it can blow away people's troubles and sorrows; gentle as rain, it can nourish the thirst and floating dust in your heart; gentle like a rainbow, it can reflect the bright future of those who give up on themselves; A tough and rough person will lower his proud head on this sharp sword.

Discover the tenderness in you
For women, with tenderness, there is a unique beauty, a self-esteem personality, and a kind of wisdom in life.My dear, if you want to reap success in your career faster, reap sweet love, enjoy a happy marriage, and have an elegant temperament, then from now on, you should discover or maintain your unique qualities as a woman. Gentle traits of:
(1) Reasonable.Gentle women understand things and don't mess around. They know how to be humble, considerate to others, think of others in everything, and will never embarrass others.

(2) Compassionate.We should show due sympathy for the weak, the disadvantaged, the elderly, children and the sick, and provide them with convenience and help as much as possible.

(3) Bear hardships and stand hard work.This is the traditional virtue of oriental women, and modern women should carry it forward.

(4) Kindness.He has good wishes for people and things, and likes to care for and help others.

(5) Warm and meticulous.In fact, what really moves people is not how amazing a woman has made, but the timely care and consideration.

(6) Soft personality.Absolutely don't jump into a rage or lose your temper when something goes wrong, it is the highest state of a woman to overcome just now with softness.At this level, even "hundreds of steelmaking" can be turned into "flexible fingers".

(7) Not weak.Meekness does not equal weakness.Gentleness is a woman's virtue, while weakness is a shortcoming to be overcome.

A girl who makes a man's heart beat will never be a Hedong Lion
I have seen a survey before, on the list of what kind of women men like, and the winner is the girl next door with a gentle and friendly temperament.Most men said that although sexy beauties and iceberg beauties are eye-catching, there is always a sense of depression that cannot be relaxed when getting along with such women.And the girl next door who gives people a gentle impression is like warm water, seemingly plain, but has an irresistible charm.

Susu, who works in an advertising agency, did not know what the word "moderate" meant when she was young.In Susu's world, she has always been domineering, arguing with her boyfriend is commonplace, and when she gets angry, she will reach out and slap each other a few times.This is especially true for people who are not familiar with them, and they often show cold faces to others.When communicating with colleagues at work, it is often very unpleasant.

Susu always thinks, these colleagues are really annoying, they always make trouble for her, but she never thinks whether the problem is her own.She doesn't think there's anything wrong with being like this. Didn't Huang Xiaohu sing in all of her songs: "It's not that easy to fall in love, everyone has his own temper." Falling in love is so difficult, let alone getting along with colleagues?
Susu feels that a bad temper is a sign of herself, it is her personality.Seeing that the people around her are afraid to compete with her, Susu is still very proud, thinking that it is because everyone is afraid of her and dare not provoke her.Until one time Susu accidentally saw the chat records between her boyfriend and other people, and found that her boyfriend was complaining to the other party about Susu's bad temper, she didn't know how to understand him at all, and often played with her temper; We broke up, but I was afraid that she would not be able to bear it if I mentioned it to her, so I just endured it all the time.

At this time, Susu realized that the people around her tolerated her not because they were afraid of her, but because they did not want to see her in the same way, nor did they want to tell the truth to make her sad.

In fact, there are not many girls who have the same idea as Susu. Most of these girls are in good condition, and their parents are very spoiled, so they are often more willful.However, everyone is equal, and no one is born to look at someone's face.When others maintain good self-cultivation, don't think it's a sign of weakness.

Only when we learn to treat others gently, can we face the world gently.A woman who can face the world gently must be a person with a strong heart and good luck wherever she goes.

The hosts of two radio stations are both hosting an emotional column.

The host of Channel A has a very spicy style. She often scolds the listeners who call the hotline on the show. She is very strong and subjective when helping people analyze emotional problems. Many listeners will be scolded and cry by her.

The host of station B took the warm route.She doesn't talk much, and spends most of her time listening, and when the other party pauses, she speaks softly to help analyze the problem.The point of view is very objective, and occasionally a few words of comfort are said, but it is just right and warm.

At first, the style of the host of Channel A was very popular, and it also caused a wave of fluctuations in this city. Many people were talking about her, thinking that her style was very fresh and exciting.But after a long time, the novelty passed, and no one around talked about the spicy host of channel A. Instead, when he was frustrated, he would think of calling the host of channel B.

Slowly, the program on Channel A was discontinued, and the host lost his job; while the program on Channel B became popular, the host's value skyrocketed.

No one naturally likes that when they tell their troubles, the other party always yells at them forcefully. Once or twice, they may feel that "loyal words are harsh and good for action", but after a few times, they will definitely lose the desire to talk.Therefore, the Hedong Lion Roar will not work in any field and any scene.No matter in the field of love or in the workplace, if you want to be sought after and praised by others, you have to bid farewell to the Hedong lion and transform into a smiling goddess.

In many circles of friends, there is such a smiling goddess. When everyone talks, she often smiles back and listens carefully to what the other party says.She seems to understand all your sufferings, no matter how bad you describe to her, she seems to understand and tolerate you from the bottom of her heart.

The Smiling Goddess is destined to be a person with a story, who has experienced emotional trauma and frustration in life.She may have a better family background, but she is not a greenhouse flower; she may have experienced suffering in the world, but she can still maintain a positive and beautiful heart after experiencing suffering.

The Smiling Goddess is not materialistic, she knows what she wants very well, most of them have some artistic temperament, and can take care of life and take care of people around them well.

The Smiling Goddess is a bosom sister in the circle of friends, her gentleness is her aura, and her smile is her symbol.Perhaps among a group of fashionable and high-profile beauties, the smiling goddess is not the most conspicuous one. She is like a glass of mellow red wine, which needs to be savored slowly, but this kind of beauty is the most lasting.

I have always taken the smiling goddess as an example, and I regard this type of woman as a model for life.I admire their demeanor, they are always gentle in front of others, and leave their loneliness to themselves.

If you also want to cultivate into a smiling goddess, just look for their characteristics carefully.Of course, practicing is not a day or two. Being able to maintain a good attitude at any time and always listen gently is actually very difficult to do.However, as long as you work hard towards your goal, one day you can become a smiling goddess who is loved by everyone.

A woman who doesn't like to cook is like dried grapes
In Bi Shumin's "Women I Like", there is a passage that touched my heart: I like women who can cook, which is a craft handed down from ancient times.Museum drawings depicting the lives of apes all show women with hides tied around their waists, breasts drooping, poking a campfire and preparing food.Soup doesn't have to be delicious, but it has to be hot; cakes don't have to be soft, but they have to be round.Whether you think about it from the perspective of loving yourself or loving others, "food" is a big thing.A woman who doesn't like to cook is like a dried raisin, which has lost its roundness.

I have always believed that women must learn two things: one is to dress up, and the other is to cook.I like beautiful clothes, beautiful cosmetics, and I really like food.

I have always said: If I were a man, I would never marry a woman who could not cook.the reason is simple:
First of all, a woman who loves to cook, like a woman who loves flowers, must be a woman who loves life.A woman doesn't even think about cooking. I don't dare to expect her to have much enthusiasm for life, and it's even more difficult to imagine what kind of skills she can live.

Secondly, I think the most beautiful part of a woman is her motherly side, and cooking dishes for parents, husband, children, and herself in the kitchen is the most true embodiment of motherhood.Every time I go back to my mother's house, my mother always cooks herself and cooks dishes for me carefully.Looking at her busy figure and contented face, I thought, maybe this is the nature of a woman. If you love someone and a family, you will willingly pay for it, no matter how hard it is.This is the greatness of maternal love and the virtue of a woman.

Again, a woman who can cook is more feminine.Although cooking is not the monopoly of women, there are thousands of years of traditional concepts passed down, and most women still have to take care of the family in addition to completing normal work.In fact, in today's society, men still hope that women can do housework and cook in their bones. The ideal woman in men's minds is "to be able to go to the hall and go to the kitchen".Women should be gentle, kind and virtuous in their bones. The gentleness of being a wife and mother has never left a woman.Put on a beautiful apron, tie up strands of long hair, walk into the kitchen, prepare delicious food, and share it with the one you love. Isn’t it another charm of a woman!

Finally, women who can cook are happier.If a woman can't cook, the family happiness rate is low. A man still likes a woman who can take care of his daily life and diet. A man will also regard his wife's ability to cook delicious meals as a kind of pride and pride. In front of friends , He will show off these to his friends from time to time, and the man will like and care for her from the bottom of his heart.

Let's share a happy moment of "Smart Cook" together:

Outside the window, snowflakes are dancing and the north wind is howling.

Indoors, it is warm as spring, the air conditioner is set at 24°C, and the heater is set to high temperature.The food on the table is steaming hot. The hot pot is stewed lotus root with cured hooves, which is fragrant; the braised crucian carp is sprinkled with chopped green onion; the fried glass is crisp, green and tender; the appetizer is pickled pepper and ginger; Soup, lily soup, walnut soup, arrowroot soup, take what you need.

The child and her father pushed the door in and said, "It smells so good!"You can smell it from outside!

The child said: Mom is in the kitchen, spring is in the kitchen!

The child's father said: Your mother is in the kitchen, and there is a sun in her stomach!
Next, a beautiful night began at the dinner table. The child and husband looked at her with adoring and grateful eyes, while eating delicious food contentedly. Seeing all this, the woman was a little suffocated by happiness. Happiness is never experienced when in love.For the first time, she discovered that a woman's happiness index is directly linked to cooking!
In today's society, there are indeed some women, especially young girls, who express disdain for cooking. They will say: "The kitchen is too greasy. I never go in anyway. If I am asked to cook every day, it will not be annoying to death." Ah! It's only women who have no skills and no work who cook." There was pride and pride in his words and expressions.But you know what?There are too many great women who are much better than you are "smart cooks", and whether they can cook is also one of the requirements for many rich and handsome mates!
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