90 days of cultivation temperament goddess

Chapter 4 The beauty of a woman's temperament can last forever (3)
These remarks may seem innocuous and off topic, but I actually want to highlight one point: how important it is to feel confident.Many women think that as long as they pay attention to dressing themselves all the time, they will have temperament and charm. This kind of thinking is really wrong.In fact, if you don't have the self-confidence in your bones to support your aura, you can't be an elegant woman.

There is such a story related to women's self-confidence:
Two men travel by sea and pass by a small island.

The tribal chief has two daughters, the eldest daughter is extremely beautiful, and the younger daughter looks ordinary.

A man said to his friend, "I will stay and marry the chief's daughter."

So he took a chance and said to the chief: "I would like to propose marriage with ten cows."

"Well, young man," said the Chief, "my eldest daughter is so beautiful, and she is worth ten cows indeed."

The man replied: "But it is your youngest daughter that I want to marry."

The chief said in amazement: "But my youngest daughter is mediocre. She is not worth that much. Three cows are enough."

The man said, "I'm going to exchange 10 cows for her."

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The man remained on the island while his friend traveled on.

Years later, a friend came back from a trip and passed by the island to visit him.

When he saw his friend's very beautiful wife, he asked, "Have you married another woman?"

The man said: "What you see is the woman I insisted on marrying!"

The friend asked the woman, "Excuse me, I don't remember you being so beautiful a few years ago, what changed you?"

The beautiful woman said, "I just found out one day that I was worth ten cows!"

This story is from the book The Secret by Rhonda Byrne.The power of self-confidence is so magical and great.

Every successful beautiful woman has a secret in her heart: the power of self-confidence.

You believe that you can be beautiful, and your body, your smile, your expression will literally change.

You believe you can get rich, and your actions will literally lead you to the pinnacle of wealth.

All of this is natural and logical.

Your beliefs and your will will make things around you develop in the direction you want.The so-called wishes come true, not wishing out of thin air.

Yu Dan also told a similar story when he talked about his experience in "The Analects of Confucius" in the lecture hall of a hundred schools of thought:

There was an ugly girl in a small town who felt inferior because of poverty. On Christmas when she was 18 years old, her mother gave her 20 dollars. She mustered up the courage to walk into a jewelry store. When the image with a light green head flower appeared in the mirror, she couldn't believe that the beautiful girl was herself.She bought it without hesitation for $16.When she went out of the store, she accidentally bumped into an old gentleman, but she was so excited that she didn't notice what the old gentleman said to her.

When she was walking on the streets of the small town, everyone cast surprised and envious eyes on her.What's even happier is that the boy she's been secretly in love with invites her to be his dance partner at the Christmas party!She was so excited that she decided to use the remaining four dollars to buy something at the jewelry store.When she returned to the jewelry store again, the old gentleman who was hit by her before smiled and said to her: "My child, I knew you would come back again. When you bumped into me just now, your hair fell off." I've been waiting for you to pick it up."

Is it really a head flower that makes up for the lack of this girl's appearance?In fact, what makes up for the lack is her self-confidence.Self-confidence, although not the innate vitality of each of us, is the most miraculous and great force that can change the destiny of individuals.A person can renew his whole life because of self-confidence.I remember a psychologist who said: "Everyone is born with low self-esteem." In his view, life is a process of constantly surpassing low self-esteem and constantly improving oneself.It is a difficult and long-term thing to overcome inferiority complex and establish self-confidence, but sometimes it is also a momentary thing.You think you are beautiful, then you are beautiful, you think you are worth 10 cows, then you are worth 10 cows!
Confidence comes from a person's inner calmness and calmness. For ordinary people, this sentence may be a bit profound.In other words, a person's self-confidence comes from the recognition of oneself and the affirmation of one's own value.Just like the little girl in the story, she affirmed her beauty because of a head flower, and because of her beauty, she found that she is not a dispensable person in this world, not a person inferior to others, she can be her The dance partner of the boy you have a crush on, and possibly the most beautiful girl in town.So, when you feel low self-esteem, please think about your strengths, you have characteristics that others can't match, this is where your self-confidence lies.

In life, find your own position, and do your best in this position, and self-confidence will return to your heart because of your uniqueness.

However, please never be proud of those superficial, material, and external things. You should only be proud of the truth, goodness and beauty that belong to your heart. Besides, pride is never self-confidence.

Accepting one's own appearance is originally a kind of wisdom

No matter what, you must accept your own appearance, whether it is handsome, popular or ugly, your own is unique and something to be proud of.

In high school, she was the ugliest in our class, but now, she is the youngest and most beautiful among the female classmates who stayed in their hometown to develop.Really, every class reunion, she is the object of the male students vying to please, and the object of the envy of the female students.However, a long time ago, she was not like this at all.

Really, at that time, she was not tall, her skin was not good, her family was poor, and her body was not very healthy.However, she accepts her looks, does not compete for favor or falls in love early, and studies hard.Like a pretty girl, she likes to be liked by others, so she works hard to be the best of herself.

She is diligent and kind. She always fetches water in the dormitory, but she never complains or speaks ill of others.All the girls in the dorm like her.

Like pretty girls, she loves to dress herself up and wear nice clothes, and she also makes clothes by herself.

She is a good student who keeps her own life. Her ideal is to be a middle school Chinese teacher. For her own ideals, when other beautiful girls are upset about love letters or chasing boys, she is quietly in her own small world. To learn her knowledge, sometimes it is homework, sometimes it is literature, and sometimes it is meditation.

Her college time was spent in a teacher training college in Yantai.She likes the sea, it is her dream land, her major and school are ideal.

She likes Xi Murong's and Wang Guozhen's poems. She often stands by the sea and reads poems to the waves. She doesn't receive many roses, but her heart is always full of flowers; there are not many boys chasing her, but she is not lonely. She loves to listen to music, and every time at the party, she will be the most popular with Lin Yilian's songs.She was short, but she didn't always wear high heels, only at prom.She often meditates alone under the wisteria on the campus, writing some poetic and picturesque words.

Later, it was such an ordinary girl who attracted the most handsome boys in the school to chase her all the way.But she politely rejected him, because she was a self-aware and clear-headed girl, she knew that it was impossible for this boy from a good family to go back to a small county with her to develop, she didn't want a love that ended without a cause, she couldn't afford to be hurt.

After graduation, she returned to our county to become a Chinese teacher as she wished, found a dutiful and reliable husband, and gave birth to a well-behaved daughter.She loves her job, loves her family, and is a good teacher, wife, and mother quietly, and treats every relative and friend well, neither humble nor overbearing, without surprise or disturbance, but only seeks a good life in this world.

She is in good health, her career is going well, her family is happy, and her popularity is excellent. When those beautiful girls are entangled in various unsatisfactory lives, she is the only one who lives calmly and comfortably.Every time I go back to my hometown to visit relatives, I find her more beautiful every time.She is like a late-blooming rose that is getting more and more fragrant, and the fragrance is getting stronger and stronger, enough to make a man fascinated.A late blooming rose always has a reason for its late blooming. "Supreme goodness is like water, benefiting all things without fighting for it." I think she is like that colorless water, unknown to the public, but its power is destructive.This power pushed her into the door of beauty and happiness.

These years, I have been pondering the mystery of her reverse growth. Now, I am thinking that a woman who can accept her own appearance safely and happily is a kind of wisdom and a kind of temperament.

In the entertainment circle, there is no shortage of such goddesses who have evolved from "ugly ducklings" to "beautiful swans" because they are content with their own appearance.

She has small eyes, a snub nose, thick lips, and small freckles.She has a height of 1.7 meters eight and an age of 20 years.Some people say she is stunningly beautiful, while others say she is "extremely ugly".She was the biggest upset of the 2000 World's Next Top Model.Her name is Lu Yan.

At first, in order to get rid of the habit of walking with a hunchback, Lu Yan went to a model training company to practice her steps.Later, I gradually became interested.The agent took Lv Yan to Beijing. By chance, the famous Chinese image designers Li Dongtian and Feng Hai found that although she was not beautiful, she was very distinctive, so they took a group of photos for her, and her fate changed from then on.Although Lu Yan does not have charming beauty, she has the ability to make people unforgettable.Her unique temperament and charm of an oriental woman are very frightening.

In the western modeling industry, there is also such a humble woman who has become a goddess. Her name is Kate Moss. The supermodels of the 20s and 90s must be amazingly beautiful and fascinating.At that time, some people even took a photo of supermodel Linda's perfect proportions to the cosmetic surgery hospital and asked for plastic surgery based on this standard.Kate Moss appeared in such an era, and the situation at that time can be imagined: when she first entered the fashion industry, she was simply a laughing stock, with the then smashing models Cindy Crawford, Claudia Shee Compared to Foer, Kate Moss is a clown.But she didn't feel embarrassed, she accepted everything about herself frankly.

Confident women always have good luck.Just in 1993, Kate Moss quickly became famous with her unique eyes - childlike innocence but full of confusion, as well as her neither humble nor overbearing personality.Since then, Kate Moss has become the most eye-catching star on the T-stage with her replicas and other "ugly girls" with different characteristics.

You should be inspired by these real cases of ugly women who are invincible.A woman who competes with her own appearance will definitely suffer in life. She can't even lift her head in front of the mirror, and she is even more timid when going out, and she will not have a temperament.On the contrary, a girl who shakes hands with her appearance and shows her own characteristics is also a kind of resource.After all, being beautiful is only a possible advantage, and living beautifully is the real skill!
If your own "hardware" has many unsatisfactory problems, you may as well configure and "upgrade" excellent "software" as calmly as these ugly women, and look for the beauty of unique personality. You must know that femininity comes from It comes out bit by bit.

You have to learn to wear the right clothes, choose the right makeup and hairstyle, show elegant details, show your wisdom, pay attention to manners, keep up with the modern trend in the beauty you are constantly creating, and sway nature on the premise of fully grasping yourself Only in this way can we maximize our strengths and avoid weaknesses.

Of course, at any given time, people look a little more at those pretty girls.A beautiful appearance has an advantage in career and interpersonal communication. This is also human nature. The boss looks at her pleasingly, and colleagues and friends also feel proud of her when interacting with her.You don't have to worry about the "beauty effect" that happens by chance around you. Accepting the bias of people's hearts calmly will make you more generous and have an extra temperament.

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