Pillow Book of Talmud Wisdom

Chapter 6 Don’t Think About Building the Sea—Jews on Accumulation (3)
Dale Carnegie, a famous American adult educator who created a great career, was born in a poor peasant family. He helped the family drive cows, milk cows, do chores, and once mowed grass and picked strawberries for other families. 1 hour Earn 5 cents.The whole family lived in poverty.

If there is any difference between Carnegie's childhood and ordinary peasant children, it is that he was influenced by his mother's cultural atmosphere.His mother was religious and had been a teacher before her marriage.So his mother encouraged him to go to school, hoping that he would be a teacher or a missionary in the future.The poverty of his family prompted Carnegie to study and study with the spirit of hard work in his youth. In 1904, he graduated from high school and was admitted to the State Teachers College in Wallensburg.Every day when he comes home from school, he also helps his parents milk the cows, cut wood, and feed the pigs.At night, he was already very tired, so he studied hard under the kerosene lamp, a bit of the spirit of "hanging the head on the beam, stabbing the buttocks" as advertised in the ancient Chinese saying.In order to earn the necessary tuition and book fees, he often works for others.He refuses to succumb to reality, and always wants to find ways to change his destiny and get ahead.

He found that there were two kinds of people in the school who were most valued: those who were outstanding in eloquence, those who won debates and speech contests; and those who were outstanding in sports, such as players on the baseball team.Knowing that his body was not strong enough and he lacked sports talent, he decided to work hard on eloquence and speech, and strive to win the competition.He spent months practicing speeches, but failed again and again in the competition.Disappointment and discouragement made him miserable and even made him contemplate suicide.However, he refused to admit defeat after all, and continued to work hard. He started to win from the second year.This breakthrough planted the seeds of thought for his future ambitions and career.A master who taught people how to speak and communicate, but failed repeatedly in the speech competition at the beginning. This huge contrast has very important enlightenment for us to deeply understand the ideological connotation of Carnegie courses.

After graduation, Carnegie worked as a salesman and studied acting.The sales job made him earn money and also exercised his eloquence, but this kind of work was not his ideal.In college he dreamed of becoming a writer or speaker and accomplishing great things.He believes that a life that can only make money and make a living but cannot realize the ideal of life is not a meaningful life.Therefore, he decided to read and write during the day and go to night school to teach at night.He really wants to teach public speaking classes, because he realizes that eloquence and presentation are extremely important to a person's success, and he has worked hard and has experience in this area.It was the training and experience in eloquence and speech that swept away his previous cowardice and inferiority complex, gave him the courage and confidence to deal with all kinds of people, and increased his ability to behave in the world.He wants to tell people his personal experience, and he wants to engage in the research and education of eloquence, speech and communication arts.So he persuaded the president of a YMCA in New York to let him borrow a house to hold a practical speech training class for business people in the evening.From then on, he started the career of adult education, which he dedicated his life to.

He was originally a very ordinary person, and he used to have low self-esteem.But he finally awakened later, and changed his destiny by relying on his own struggle.Overcoming many difficulties and not giving up will surely help you move from defeat to hope.Don't let failure take over your world and make you cringe, failure is a good thing, maybe failure is breeding greater success.Don't bow to failure easily, the sun always comes after the storm, believe that there will be a rainbow.

Don't be overwhelmed by temporary setbacks
Both winners and losers have their own "daydreams".Often, however, losers hope for fame and honor, but never really do anything about it, and spend their lives dreaming about it.Winners focus on results.When they are determined to turn their hopes and aspirations into reality, even after a heavy fall, they always have reasons to stand up strong. They are never knocked down by temporary setbacks, but encourage themselves to take action and move towards the goal. Climb bravely.

Successful people are always committed to something year after year in order to find the most reasonable and practical way forward.No matter what the situation is, the successful ones show the courage to start a business and the perseverance to persevere.With a fearless pioneering spirit, they are steadily advancing on a new road, and they are calm and unswerving in the face of difficulties.

An important quality that successful people share is that in the face of failure and setbacks, they still fully believe in their own abilities, not what others may say.Examine the early lives of some well-known figures, and you will find that some of them were painfully blocked and poured cold water by teachers and colleagues, while the focus of opposition was precisely what they later excelled.People asserted that he could never do what he wanted to do, or that he simply did not have the necessary qualifications.But they don't listen to it!Stick to what you believe in.

Woody Allen, winner of the Academy Awards for Best Screenplay, Best Producer, Best Director, and Best Actor, failed English in college.

Malcolm?Forbes, one of the world's largest business publications, the editor-in-chief of "Forbes Magazine", but failed to become the editor of the Princeton University Journal.

Leon Ulis, writer, scholar, and philosopher, failed the English exam in middle school three times.

Livon Yuriman, who was nominated twice as a candidate for the Academy Award for Best Actress, was not selected when she applied for the Academy of Drama because the examiners thought she had no acting talent.

Dr. Richard L. Maney, neuroradiology specialist, failed neuroanatomy as a freshman in medical school…

When ski instructor Peter Seibert first revealed that he would start a new project, everyone thought it was a fantasy.Standing on the top of a mountain in the Grand Canyon of Colorado, Seibert expressed the dream that has accompanied him since he was 12 years old, and began to challenge things that the world thought impossible.Seibert's dream - a snow jump - has now become a reality.

Fresh out of massage school, young Inetti Pisa wanted to practice in the beautiful Monterey area of ​​California.The local massage organization told that there are many masseuses in the area, but not so many patients.So for four months, Pisa spent 4 hours a day going door-to-door to introduce himself and provide door-to-door service.In all, he knocked on 10 doors, talked to 12500 people and invited them to his future clinic.In return for his perseverance and sincerity, he treated 6500 patients in the first month of his practice and set a record income of $233 for the month.

The famous Coca-Cola Company sold only 400 bottles of Coca-Cola in its first year of operation.

Superstar Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team.

Sierra Holdsworth became blind at the age of 10.But she became a famous mountaineer in the world. In 1981, she climbed Rena Snow Peak.

River Johnson, the decathlon champion, was born with a deformed foot.

Dr. Seuss' debut novel "Thinking of What I Saw on Mulberry Street" was rejected by 27 publishers.But he did not give up. Finally, Wen Ge Publishing House, the No. 20 eight publishers, took a fancy to the potential market value of the book, published it soon and achieved sales of 600 million copies.

"Chicken Soup for the Soul" was also rejected by 33 publishers before Hales Communication Company accepted it for publication.All the major publishers in New York said: "The book is really good." into 1700 kinds of characters.

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There were many difficulties, but fortunately, these people were not intimidated by setbacks and failures, nor did they listen to others' good intentions or negative advice.On the contrary, they reconsidered the conclusions drawn by those authorities and denied them. Therefore, they are great men, and history has recorded their names.

About 2000 years ago, the ancient Greek philosopher Socrates once warned us that it is an essential quality of maturity to rethink long-term ways of thinking and ways of life before accepting them.Successful people dare to question those authority icons, those rigid dogmas.Their creative imagination and courage give them the freedom to fearlessly forge new paths and take themselves to the next level.

Always light the lamp of hope in setbacks
In July 1900, a psychiatrist named Lindemann sailed into the rough Atlantic in a small boat alone. He was conducting a psychological experiment that had never been done in history, and the price he was going to pay was own life.

Dr. Lindeman believes that as long as a person has confidence in himself, he can maintain mental and physical health.At that time, the whole of Germany was watching the tragic adventure of crossing the Atlantic in a single boat.There have been more than 100 warriors sailing across the Atlantic in succession, but they all failed and no one survived.Dr. Lindeman believes that these victims were not physically defeated, but mainly died of mental breakdown, terror and despair.In order to verify his point of view, he disregarded the opposition of his relatives and friends and conducted experiments himself.

During the voyage, Dr. Lindemann encountered unimaginable difficulties and was on the verge of death many times. He even had hallucinations in front of his eyes, and his sense of movement was numb. Sometimes he really felt desperate.But as soon as this thought came up, he immediately blamed himself loudly: "Coward, do you want to repeat the same mistakes and die here? No, I will definitely succeed!" The hope of life supported Lindeman, and finally he succeeded.When reviewing his experience of success, he said: "From the bottom of my heart, I believe that I will succeed. This belief is integrated with myself in the midst of difficulties, and it fills every cell around me." If you are not disappointed and full of confidence, your spirit will not collapse, and you may overcome difficulties and survive.

In the Tangshan earthquake that occurred in my country in 1976, many of the dead did not die of hunger, thirst or collapse, but died of despair.It was observed that there were no wounds on their bodies—except for the scratches all over their bodies, they ended their lives by themselves in extreme despair.Another couple survived after being crushed underground for three days.Pain, hunger and thirst almost killed them in the days under the ground.The husband found a kitchen knife and tried to dig a way out, but there was concrete floor all around, and the kitchen knife was useless except to chop off a little dust.But the sound of the kitchen knife chopping on the concrete floor cheered up the wife, and she kept asking her husband, "Is it soon? Is it about to be dug?" The husband also said hopefully, "Soon, soon."

A wise husband uses "hope" to save his wife and himself.

Psychologists have found from a large number of observations that in dangerous situations, it is often those who are optimistic and confident who survive, because they never lose their hope.

For the hope effect, psychologists conducted an extensive survey in which they asked many people to answer a questionnaire titled "What are your hopes?"The results of the questionnaire analysis show that people who have more types of hopes (regardless of size) are often full of self-confidence and pay attention to the joy of life, energetic and energetic.And those who have no obvious or less hope often show indifference, pessimism, and depression.A rich man only filled in one sentence on the test paper: "I have no hope. All my hopes have been fulfilled—except for immortality. Can this be regarded as hope?" depression.A psychologist contacted him, advised him to engage in some specific activities, and listed a staged plan, such as the cultivation of grandchildren, support for a football club, and so on.After guidance and constant "suffering" of various hopes, the rich man has become a different person mentally.

The sense of hope is the fundamental desire for human beings to survive.Some young people who have just entered the society and the road of life end their lives prematurely, most of them are disappointed with life and accumulate into despair.And a person who has hope for life, no matter how difficult the environment is, he will use his ability to contend with the environment and improve his living conditions and status in the process of transforming the environment.

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