Super self-control: not being a slave to habit

Chapter 32 Appendix (1)

An Analysis of Four Causes of Lack of Self-Control
lack of adequate energy supply

The lack of self-control means to some extent that the willpower energy is insufficient.If you think of willpower as an hourglass, if you are under too much pressure and don’t take a good rest and exercise, the sand in the hourglass will continue to flow out. If you don’t replenish it, there will be nothing to leak later.Behind willpower is an energy crisis.In other words, as long as we can continuously replenish the sand (energy) in the willpower hourglass, we can train willpower and continuously improve the limit of self-control.

Consciousness appears sluggish in many who lack ambition.They seem calm and calm, but that doesn't mean they have good self-control.Such people are lazy, lazy, and slow to move because they lack energy.They really don't get out of control, that's because they have very little power to control.They have no temper, so they will not be disturbed by it.They are safe because their strength is weak.The normal man should be strong in heart, energetic, and powerful, and these forces, vigor, thoughts, and bodily movements are all under his proper control.

Here are a few ways to replenish your willpower energy over the long term:
Maintain peace of mind: peace of mind will not lose self-control.If a person is restless, his behavior will be chaotic as well.At this time, the intellect cannot enter the conscious mind from the subconscious mind.For these two consciousnesses to work in harmony, the mind must be at peace.

If your mind is often wandering, then learn to read those literary works that have the power to calm the mind.The next time you feel your calm state turns to relaxation, say to yourself, "Calm down," and keep it that way, and you'll never lose control.

Only a peaceful state of mind can bring about effective self-control.So be peaceful in your thoughts, peaceful in your actions, until your whole world is at peace.Once you have achieved this state, there is no timidity, worry, fear or stubbornness.

Keep your mind active: Intelligence begins to decline as we age, largely due to changes in the connections between brain cells.But keeping the brain active seems to increase the activity of brain cells, potentially building brain cell reserves and connections, and even generating new brain cells, the study found.Keeping your mind active doesn't mean changing your life drastically, it just starts with small, everyday things.

Maintain adequate sleep: Sleep is the main way to eliminate physical fatigue, restore energy, enhance immunity, and restore the body.Due to the function of the gastrointestinal tract and its related organs during sleep, the energy substances of the human body are synthesized and produced for use during activities.In addition, due to the decrease of body temperature, heart rate, blood pressure, respiration and some endocrine, the basal metabolic rate is reduced, so that physical strength can be restored.

Those who lack sleep are prone to irritability, agitation or listlessness, lack of concentration, and memory loss.Those who get enough sleep are full of energy, quick thinking, and high efficiency.This is because the oxygen consumption of the brain is greatly reduced during sleep, which is beneficial to the energy storage of brain cells.Therefore, sleep is beneficial to protect the brain and improve mental power.In addition, sleep can also enhance the body's ability to produce antibodies and speed up the self-healing of various tissues and organs.

Keep a loving heart: as long as your heart is full of love, you are gaining energy, but without love in your heart, you are losing energy.Love is great because it is sincere, selfless, and broad.With such a mind, your world must be full of sunshine.

Self-control expert hot comment
If a person's mental and physical vitality is not enough, he has to work hard to cultivate it. If he can't let his energy obey his orders, he must learn to do so.A man who appears to have great power will be of little use unless his will controls it.

Can't be the master of my own brain
People who are easily irritable, or who get angry at the slightest resistance, rarely realize that if the flames of anger are allowed to spread unchecked, the nerve cells will be burned and short-circuited, which will damage the sensitive mechanism of the brain.Before long, they will be uncontrollable, like a powder keg, ready to explode at any time.When bad emotions prevail, your own nervous system will be torn apart, reason will be stifled, wisdom will not be activated, and you will lose normal thinking and correct judgment.At that time, it will be difficult for you to become your own "master", on the contrary, you can only accept it.

Realize that you are the master of your brain and can control yourself.This awareness alone contributes to self-control.There is a story about an old woman who went to take a picture.

In front of the camera, the old woman has a serious, stern, dignified expression.It was that look that kept the neighborhood kids away from her.

The photographer said: "Give me some light."

She tries to do what the photographer says, but still looks lifeless.

"Extend your expression," the photographer said lightly.

"Young man, do you think I can just laugh when I'm joking? Then, you don't have the slightest understanding of human nature. These things need some foreign objects to inspire people."

"Oh, no, that's not the case. It has to be something you do from your heart. Try again, okay." The photographer replied in a flat tone.

There is an air of confidence in the photographer's tone and demeanor.She tried again, this time much better than the last time.

"Okay, nice! You look 10 years younger."The photographer can't help but marvel after capturing the fleeting glory on her haggard face.

She came home with a strange mood.It was the first compliment she had received since her husband left, and it was a good feeling.When I got back to the hut, I said to myself in the mirror: "There may be some magic in this, but I still want to see the developed photos."

After the photo was developed, she seemed to have gained a second youth in the photo, and her face had a long-lost brilliance in her youth.She stared at the picture for a long time, and then said in a clear and firm voice, "If I can do it once, I can do it again."

She walked to the small mirror on the dressing table and said calmly, "Catherine, smile." A ray of glory flashed on the old face again.

"Smile brighter!" she said confidently, and a calm and charming smile flashed on her face.

Neighbors quickly noticed a change in her.They all asked her privately, "How did you suddenly look a few years younger, and how did you do it?"

"It all starts from the heart. There is a feeling of joy in the heart, and it is enough to feel comfortable."

If people cannot become masters of their own emotions, cannot become experts in their own human machines, and cannot keep their bodies and minds in an optimal state, then it will be difficult for people to feel truly happy and successful.

The absolute precision of a watch not only depends on the meticulous workmanship of each screw, pointer and axle, but more importantly, each part must interact and run smoothly.

Self-control is to the body what time is to a clock.The harmonious relationship between the various parts of the body is an optimal state.Any discomfort at all will cause the body to become out of balance.Self-control is not just determined by well-developed muscles, deep lung capacity or strong liver function.Self-control in the true sense is the harmonious and orderly operation of various organs of the body.Let us be skilled workers of the "human machine", let it operate smoothly and orderly, and let strength and happiness fill the whole body!

Self-control expert hot comment
Small people who are constantly irritated and blocked by trivial matters only show that they do not have enough ability to control the situation.They cannot deal with the surrounding situation properly and maintain a peaceful state of mind.An irritable character fully exposes bad emotional habits, which also determine that they cannot live comfortably in the present moment.

No new sentiment links activated
In a person's life, new connection networks will be continuously generated, but at the same time, old networks will be damaged or abolished.When the same thing comes up, the same network kicks in.Constant stimulation kicks in old established networks faster, gradually building a habit and instinct.The only way to get rid of this habit and instinct is to replace the old anchor with one that is linked to a stronger emotion.

Milton Erickson is known as the most influential contemporary hypnotherapist and a top master in using hypnosis to quickly deal with psychological problems.He is often famous for his miraculous cures for patients who were considered "hopeless".

One day, an alcoholic veteran came to Erickson's treatment room for hypnotherapy.When veterans come, they always hang all the medals they have won on the battlefield on their chests.After Erickson used some conventional hypnotic abstinence treatments several times, the veteran's alcohol consumption did not seem to decrease, but increased.

Once, the veteran came to receive treatment again, still holding a wine bottle and babbling.Erickson snatched the bottle and threw it to the ground.Then he tore off the medal on the veteran's chest.Throw it hard on the ground.Stepped on it a few times, and then said angrily: "You go! You go back and drink your horse urine! But when you pick up the glass, please wish Erickson a long and healthy life!" Then, Eric Sen left.

(End of this chapter)