The Psychology of Microexpressions: Psychological Strategies in Relationships

Chapter 10 Deciphering the Code of Daily Behavior—Psychological Strategies in Behavior (2)
The way you smoke can reflect a person's character
The way you smoke plays a very important role in judging the emotional state of others because these ways are often predictable and stylized.In other words, the act of smoking can convey a lot of subtle information, and even by observing a person's smoking posture, we can peek into their heart.

In life, many people are addicted to cigarettes.Smoking has not only become a means for people to relieve depression and relieve stress, but also a way for people to strike up a conversation with others and be polite in interpersonal communication.According to research by psychologists, smoking can also reflect a person's personality traits, and there are more or less differences between men and women in the way of smoking: men maintain a guarded and conservative posture when smoking, especially wanting to create a person's personality. A mystical impression; a woman smoking with a social undertone, while displaying her figure.Despite these differences, they tend to be the same in other respects.From the point of view of holding cigarettes, there are the following types:
Clamped on the index and middle fingertips

This is the most common way of pinching cigarettes.Such people are usually calm and down-to-earth, and treat others more naturally.However, they lack decisiveness and willpower, and tend to drift with the flow.

between the middle and index fingers

This person has a strong sense of self and is an activist.They are not good at adjusting various interpersonal relationships, so they are often misunderstood and disgusted by others.

Use the thumb, index finger, and middle finger to hold the cigarette

Such people are usually smart and capable in doing things.They feel cooler in temperament.In addition, such people are usually proud and self-centered, which can easily make people unhappy.

From the perspective of smoking, there are the following types:
put the cigarette in the right end of the mouth
Such people usually think quickly and act decisively.They are very bold when they shoot, and they often feel unexpected.

Hold the cigarette to the left of the mouth
This kind of people are usually more urban, and they are very planned when they do things.Before doing something, they will consider various issues in detail.

Hold the cigarette in the center of your mouth and hold it up
This kind of people are usually more vain. Even if they look very down-to-earth, they will inevitably do some things beyond their ability and suffer the consequences.

Hold the cigarette in the center of your mouth and hold it down
This type of person is more rational and very down-to-earth.When they do things, they will not force others to do things that are difficult, and they will perform their tasks step by step and in a planned way.

From the perspective of shaking soot, there are the following:

Frequently shakes ashes into the ashtray
These people are more serious about their work and take their work seriously.However, they often cannot take some things lightly, and sometimes they are too nervous.

Soot takes a long time to shake off

Such people usually have lost confidence in themselves, often feel inferior, and may not be in a good mental state.

From the perspective of extinguishing smoke, there are the following methods:

Put it directly in the ashtray and press it out
This kind of person has clear boundaries in everything he does and will not be emotional.They are usually able to separate work and play, marriage and love very clearly without confusing the distinction between the two.

Hit the cigarette butt and put out the burning part in the ashtray

Such people are usually very cautious.They lack their own opinions, always echo other people's views, and always try to hide behind others' backs.

pour water into an ashtray
Such people tend to go to two extremes, both pursuing perfection and being slovenly.In addition, this kind of person is usually very quiet, but when he acts very quickly, it often surprises people.

I don't care if the cigarette is not extinguished in the ashtray

Such people are usually very self-conscious, like to be self-centered, and lack coordination.In addition, this kind of people like to act like a baby, their likes and dislikes are very obvious, and they are not artificial.

From the point of view of the way of spraying smoke rings, there are the following:
smoke ring upwards

If a person is optimistic, proud, or confident about what he or she sees, he or she will blow smoke rings upwards most of the time.For example, if a mahjong player draws a good hand, he is likely to blow smoke upwards with confidence.

Breathing smoke rings downward

If a person has a pessimistic, secretive or suspicious attitude, then he will blow smoke rings downward most of the time.The action of blowing smoke rings down from the corner of the mouth can further illustrate the extraordinary negative or secretive attitude of the smoker.

Analyzing the Personality of Business People from Business Cards
In social occasions, it is inevitable that the two parties will exchange business cards.A small business card not only records the owner's information, but also reflects his personality.You are smart, you might as well take out your business card holder, carefully check every business card you have received, and then recall the other party's usual style of life, have you got some inspiration?

Meng Lei is a sales manager of a large company. Every time she goes to "negotiate" with a business opponent, she will hand the opponent a business card and say:
"This is my business card, please take care of me." Then the other party will hand her his business card and be polite with her... For a business person like Meng Lei, almost everyone Having your own business card is a symbol of status and a need for communication.The most important thing for them in business "negotiations" is to understand the opponent. Only in this way can they grasp the opponent's weakness, attack forcefully, and let the opponent accept conditions that are beneficial to them.In fact, with this small business card, it becomes a simple matter to know each other. We can completely understand the other party's character and personality from the business card.

person using many titles on business cards

This kind of people write many titles on their business cards, which shows that they have a good face and strong vanity, and they want to use many titles to convince others and prove that they are people of status and status.But they are not the kind of miser, on the contrary, they are very generous, when eating with everyone, they usually rush to pay the bill.

person who doesn't show title on business card

This type of person is usually accomplished and very confident in himself that he can solve any problem.But this kind of people like to live their own way, they don't want to be managed by others, and they don't want to manage others.

Only the name and phone number are printed on the business card

A person only writes his name and phone number on his business card, and there are usually only two situations: the first one, he thinks he is very famous, so he doesn’t need a business card to promote himself, just leave his contact information; The owner either wants to pretend to be mysterious to attract everyone's attention, or is unwilling to reveal his real situation.

In either case, it shows that the owner of the business card lacks a sense of security and does not want to open himself.No matter what they do, they will be very careful, even unreasonable.To deal with them, you must observe them carefully and steal their information quietly, so that you can gain the initiative in the communication.

those who like large fonts

Such people are usually more utilitarian and have a stronger sense of self.They are very willful, but if you have a good relationship with him, they will help people to the end and never refuse.In addition, they are sociable and have excellent eloquence.When encountering conflicts of interest, they will never give in to others, nor will they lose themselves because of others' coaxing and praise.

people using plastic business cards
Such people usually love vanity and are typical neurotic.In the process of interacting with others, they will cover up their narrow-mindedness and give people a very friendly and kind feeling, but the real situation is not the case.In addition, they like to boast and love to show off.They get very jealous when others outperform them.

Person with family situation on business card
This kind of person is mature and stable, has a strong sense of responsibility, and has a desire to get ahead.They take their work very seriously and are willing to pay for it.For them, the more clients and calls they get, the closer they are to success.

A person's ability to judge can be seen from the way he finds a seat

When you're dining out with family, friends or colleagues, you can't avoid finding a seat.Every time, do you take the initiative to find seats for everyone, or do you habitually follow others?Don't underestimate this question, it can reveal a person's judgment ability!

When you go to a restaurant with friends, colleagues and business partners, you usually need to find a seat. At this time, it is the best time to observe a person's decision-making ability and judgment ability.

The person who takes the initiative to find seats for everyone
When this kind of person arrives at the restaurant, he will usually look around, point to a dining table and say to everyone: "Let's sit there." Then he leads everyone to sit down.Such people are usually very judgmental and extremely confident. They will express their ideas directly, but sometimes they can be annoying because of their arbitrariness.

someone who always follows everyone
This kind of person always follows everyone, and waits for others to find a table to sit with everyone.Such people are usually very dependent and always need someone else's care.When doing things, they will not take the initiative to do it, but like to act as a "supporting role" and cooperate with others to do it.

Ask the clerk if there is a seat

Some people don't take the initiative to find a seat when they arrive at the restaurant, but ask the clerk to arrange a seat for themselves.Such people move forward in a rationalized way when doing things, but they sometimes don't consider other people's thoughts and opinions.

people who often find the wrong seat
Some people often find the wrong seat.When he took everyone to sit, the seats were taken by others; sometimes he found that there were not enough seats.Such people usually have poor judgment ability, often make some wrong judgments, and always lead to some small mistakes.

However, such people are willing to cooperate with others, and their honest character is also very popular with everyone.

Signature method: must-know people-knowledge skills

The ancients often said that "writing is like a person", because handwriting is a psychological description of a person, expressing and expressing changes in the author's emotions and moods with lines.The signature is often written by a person, so by looking at a person's signature, one can detect the other person's inner world.

An ancestor once said: "If you have muddled handwriting, it means you have a muddled heart." It is true, "handwriting is like a person", what kind of character you have, you will write what kind of handwriting.Therefore, if we want to see a person clearly, his signature is also an important clue.

a person with a very small name

This type of person usually likes to be introspective, and is the kind of person who doesn't want to be noticed and doesn't like to show his face in public.They are not very confident in themselves, nor are they very proactive when it comes to work.Still, they focus on getting the job done at hand.In addition, this kind of person is not very utilitarian, and is the kind of person who is indifferent to fame and fortune, humble, obedient, and simple.

people with big names

These people like to show off and want to attract everyone's attention.They always make a lot of superficial articles, trying to make everyone remember themselves.They are very self-aware, and they are self-centered in everything they do.In addition, they are purposeful, planned, and relatively quick in their actions, but they can be a little reckless and not very detail-oriented.

A person with a small name
This kind of person is rational and realistic, and is the kind of person who is down-to-earth and takes one step at a time.They focus on practice and are very adaptable to the external environment.In addition, they get along very well with people at work and are very popular.

person whose glyph leans to the right
Such people are usually very aggressive and confident in themselves.They have ideals and ambitions, and are not afraid of difficulties and setbacks.In addition, they are cheerful, generous, friendly, and very social.In the social process, they often take the initiative to move closer to others, so everyone can get along with them happily.In addition, they are dedicated and have a very strong sense of community.

person whose glyph leans to the left
Such people are usually emotionally repressed and very cautious in their lives.They are very observant and an excellent listener.But they are very indifferent to the surrounding environment.In addition, they are highly independent and are the kind of self-reliant people.

people in square font

This type of person is usually the traditional conservative kind.They have good conduct and integrity, and they have a strong sense of responsibility in their work.In life, they are very principled and refuse to bow to authority.At work, they are cautious, down-to-earth, and have strong self-control.

people with round font
Such people are usually gentle and kind, understanding, and very understanding.They are tough and have a very strong adaptability.In social interactions, they follow the "golden mean", are not paranoid, and do not like to have direct conflicts with others.At work, they act cautiously, considerately, and have strong self-restraint.However, they are sometimes not decisive enough, and often hesitate when encountering major events.

rectangle people

Such people usually have a strong aggressiveness and are very confident in themselves.In addition, they have a clear distinction between likes and dislikes, and have an open and innovative spirit.If the rectangular font slant to the right, it means that the person who wrote the instruction manual is broad-minded, optimistic, and likes competition very much.If it leans to the left, it reflects that the writer is more depressed, and is the kind of person who only pays attention to himself and is more autistic.

flat font people
Such people usually have firm self-confidence and tenacious perseverance, and are not easily influenced by others and the external environment.They are organized, planned, and very careful in their actions.But they are sometimes stubborn and love to dig into dead ends.If the flat characters tilt to the right, the writer of the manual has ideals and aspirations, and is the kind of person who is aggressive and innovative.This kind of person loves life, is willing to help others, and is very friendly when getting along with everyone.If the flat characters lean to the left, it reflects that the writer has a rebellious personality and a strong self-motivation.They can endure hardships and stand hard work, and they will persevere in doing things.However, this kind of people are somewhat lofty, and the scope of making friends is very narrow, but they are very sincere to their friends.

(End of this chapter)