The Psychology of Microexpressions: Psychological Strategies in Relationships

Chapter 9 Deciphering the Code of Daily Behavior—Psychological Strategies in Behavior (1)
In life, we often say: "He behaves strangely today, there must be something wrong with his mind!" It can be seen that a person's behavior can reveal his psychological changes.Therefore, if we want to grasp a person's heart, we must first grasp the "tail" of some actions in his daily life!
Inadvertent small actions can "sell" people's hearts

In many cases, people will subconsciously make some "little movements". Here we are not talking about ADHD, but some normal habitual movements.By observing these small details, we may be able to discover many secrets, even secrets that the action man himself has not discovered!
Everyone, when speaking, will have some inadvertent small movements. These unpolished small movements are the natural expression of a person's personality.In order to let yourself know yourself and the enemy in communication, and take the initiative more powerfully, you might as well use your brain on these small actions of the other party. Perhaps, you will be able to accurately recognize a person's "true face" soon.

talking and laughing
Talking and laughing seem to be connected together. When many people talk, they always like to laugh while talking.People who like to talk in this way are often cheerful, love life, never criticize the people around them, and are full of human touch.Such people are usually more dedicated to feelings, cherish what they have got, see through what they have lost, have good popularity, and like a peaceful life.

break knuckles

This kind of action is more common in men, who snap their knuckles while talking.Such people are usually energetic and very talkative.But they are more stubborn, like to dig into the "horse horns", are more picky about their careers and life, show a strong desire to improve, and look down on mediocre people.Once they decide for themselves, they will try their best to achieve it at all costs.

fiddling with ornaments
This action is more common in women. They seem not to know how to place their hands when they speak, so they keep fiddling with ornaments.Such people are mostly introverted and do not express their feelings easily.From another point of view, even when I have a crush on someone, it is the unrequited love in my heart, and I don't have the courage to say it.However, most of them are serious and down-to-earth, and belong to the gentle type of women.

shrug, spread hands

This kind of action should be regarded as an exaggerated action in the process of talking, and it often means that you don't care.Most of these people are easy-going, enthusiastic, sincere, imaginative, know how to create life, and know how to enjoy life.Their pursuit of life is to live in a harmonious and comfortable environment.

Wipe your mouth, pinch your nose

People who are often used to doing this little trick are often people who have no opinions. When shopping, they often cannot make up their minds about what kind of products they should buy.Most of these people like to play tricks on others, love to make public favors, but lack the courage to "dare to act".

bow often
This kind of people belong to the typical prudent group, they seem to be thinking forever, they hate overly intense and frivolous things, even when they make friends, they will be very cautious.

wrists crossed

Such people are relatively independent, always maintain their own unique views on things, and feel relatively indifferent.They are slightly egotistical and belong to the vulnerable type.

stroking hair
Such people tend to be more emotional and often restless because of some things.

put your hand over your mouth
People of this type are secretive and tend to be sensitive.They usually have duplicity in their mouths, and they are strong in their mouths, but they are weak in their hearts.

hand holding arm
If you observe carefully, you will find that around us, this action still has a certain share of "fans". They are emotional and conservative, and they are not very good at rejecting other people's requests, so that they often suffer losses.

Shake your head
Most of these people are more self-confident and have a wide range of knowledge, so that they are the only ones.In social situations, they are very good at expressing themselves.In addition, they are often praised for their indomitable pursuit of career.

Leg shaking
Such people are more emotional and impulsive, and their legs and feet keep shaking when they speak.Selfishness is also an obvious characteristic of this kind of people. They rarely consider others, and they start from the perspective of self-interest in everything, favoring themselves and favoring others. However, they also have advantages, that is, they are good at thinking. Some points of view are always unexpected.

slap on the head
This is also an action that often occurs in conversation.Many people do this when they suddenly think of something or realize that they have done something wrong.Therefore, this action represents remorse and self-condemnation.This kind of people has a pioneering and enterprising spirit in their careers. Most of them are outspoken, sincere, compassionate, friendly and helpful.But because they are impatient and easily emotional, they often cannot keep secrets.Therefore, make friends with such a person and don't expect him to keep you secret.However, this kind of person has a clear distinction between likes and hates, and at critical moments, for the sake of friends, he is willing to do anything.

Interpret each other's personality from the way they shake hands
Hands are an important part of the human body.A person's gestures often have important meanings, and proper gestures are more important than words.Shaking hands can not only shorten the distance between each other, but also enhance the intimacy between the two parties.Knowing it, you can get people's character and behavior tendencies.

In our country, shaking hands is a kind of etiquette, and people endow this action with rich connotations.Generally speaking, a handshake is a communication that can deepen the understanding and trust between the two parties in the handshake.Shaking hands is a symbol of friendship, conveying respect, congratulations and encouragement from one of the parties.Of course, by shaking hands with some people, you can also feel his indifference, perfunctory, flattery, arrogance and hypocrisy.Therefore, in social occasions, don't underestimate a small handshake, because the way of shaking hands shows a person's personality, and some subconscious movements are the true expression of a person's inner emotions.Now, let us understand different personalities through psychologists' analysis of different handshake methods.

Calm action
When this kind of person shakes hands with you, he will not squeeze vigorously or perfunctorily, but his movements are calm and his eyes are fixed on you.Most of these people are calm, resolute, frank, responsible, thoughtful, good at reasoning, and often put forward constructive opinions.This kind of person is very suitable to be a leader. He will not panic when things happen, and he can always plan strategies to tide over difficulties, so he can gain everyone's trust.In social situations, if you meet this kind of person, you might as well ask him for a business card, maybe he will become your good friend or partner in the future.

use both hands
This kind of person is warm and loyal, kind-hearted, and treats his friends with confidence. He is a trustworthy person.

swing up and down
When shaking hands, he holds your hand tightly, and then keeps shaking it up and down.Most of these people are optimistic, open-minded, full of hope for life, and have an optimistic attitude towards life.They are often the object of admiration because of their positive enthusiasm.

like boxing

When this kind of person shakes someone's hand with his right hand, it's like punching a boxer. The handshake is relaxed, and people feel sincere.However, things often backfire, and many people are not used to this handshake, especially when meeting people for the first time, it gives people a very hypocritical feeling.Most of these people are aggressive and self-important. In fact, in the eyes of others, they are just mediocre.

arms do not want to stretch
The character of this kind of person is very similar to the way he shakes hands with people, and he belongs to the more conservative type.When this kind of person shakes hands with others, it feels like they are extremely reluctant, the arms are unwilling to extend, and the elbow is almost at a right angle, which fully shows the cautious and conservative character of this kind of person.

Can't hold tight
To be honest, this is a taboo in social etiquette, which fully demonstrates the disrespect for the other party.Most of these people are pessimistic and have no special hobbies.If when you shake hands with someone, you find that his fingers are weak and his hands can't be held tightly.He is probably of this type of personality, relatively pessimistic, and seems to be indifferent to everything.

passive catering
When you extend your hand generously and want to shake hands with the other party in a social situation, but you find that hand is still in your pocket, and you hesitate to meet it, causing you to withdraw your hand in embarrassment , at this time, he stretched out his hand inexplicably.Such people often hesitate to do things, are not decisive, and do not have any judgment in dealing with things.

unwilling to let go
It is not uncommon for a person in social situations to hold your hand once he holds your hand and refuse to let go until he has finished speaking.This way of shaking hands conveys two meanings. If it is a man shaking hands with a man, if one of them shows this situation, it means that he has plans for you and hopes to get something from you. Get close to you in this way.If a man behaves this way towards a woman, it means he has a crush on the woman.If it is Ms. and Ms., it means that she is a very talkative person. This kind of person often likes to talk about the right and wrong of others behind their backs.

hastily
This kind of person, shaking hands with people hastily, like a routine, shows that this kind of person is insincere and untrustworthy.

According to the analysis of psychologists, the best way to shake hands in social situations is moderate strength, natural but not artificial.Through your hands, convey your sincerity to the other party, and let him feel this sincerity through your hands.And when shaking hands, it is best to look at each other with both eyes, because this can fully express your friendliness.Through your hands, build a more friendly bridge between each other.

Observing each other's emotional changes in small details

Everyone gets restless at times.When a person has such negative emotions, he will not only express it through language and facial expressions, but also make some unconscious small movements.Through these unconscious little actions, we can also understand a person's psychology.

person who doodles when fidgety

Such people are generous and broad-minded, they are very easy to get along with others, and they don't care about others.In addition, such people have a strong creativity.

man touching chin when upset

Such people are more sophisticated and sophisticated, and they are more tactful in their dealings with others.They are more rational and objective when dealing with problems.

Man Rubbing His Hands While Fidgeting

These people have strong self-confidence, dare to deal with challenges and take risks.When they decide to do something, they will stick to it and will never change their mind and direction of action easily.However, these people also have shortcomings, they can sometimes be very stubborn.

People who like to bite their glasses when they are restless

This type of person doesn't like to be restricted and is the kind of person who does things in his own way.The reason why they have such a move is to hide their bad emotions and not want others to know.When this cover-up doesn't work, their moods get worse and they even throw tantrums.

People who like to gnash their teeth when they are restless
This kind of person is not very broad-minded, likes to act emotionally, and in many cases cannot control his emotions well.In addition, such people are usually moody and not very stable.

People who like to brush their hair or put their index finger on their lips when they are restless are usually cheerful and have a very optimistic attitude towards others.When encountering difficulties and setbacks, they can quickly adjust their mentality and face everything positively and objectively.

The way you shop can reflect a person's attitude towards life
For modern people, shopping has become an essential part of life.But in the way of shopping, different people will choose different ways.We can completely observe a person's attitude towards life from the way he shops.

Shopping is very common for everyone. Living in this world, daily necessities are essential.Why do people shop differently?This is due to different attitudes towards life.We can completely observe a person's attitude towards life from the way he shops.

People shopping while choosing a store discount

Such people are usually more practical, know how to plan carefully, and sometimes even give people a feeling of mercenary.In addition, they are very stubborn. Although they will discuss things with others, they will stick to their opinions in the end.When others make concessions, they are very satisfied with their own advantages.

A person who checks a bill very carefully when shopping

Such people are more regular and planned in doing things, but lack the spirit of innovation and the ability to adapt to changing circumstances.When encountering unexpected things, they often feel at a loss and don't know what to do.In addition, such people are usually forgetful, so they often need others to tell them what to do and when to do it, and the more detailed the better.

People who like to go shopping with their families
These people have very strong family values ​​and are more traditional and conservative.They have a strong sense of responsibility to their family, which is also the focus of their life and work.This kind of people has a very practical attitude towards life, and when purchasing products, economic benefits are also their biggest starting point.

people who spend all day shopping
Such people are usually cheerful, and are often in a happy state.They are also very patient and can always find different excuses to convince themselves.

People who seldom shop by themselves and always ask others to do it for them
Such people are generally busy and have a full work schedule.For them, shopping is a trivial matter, not worth doing.In addition, they are relatively traditional and conservative in terms of how they behave in the world, and they will try their best to make everyone satisfied with themselves.

(End of this chapter)