Modern social etiquette and eloquence

Chapter 33 Love etiquette and eloquence between men and women (2)
You can say, "He doesn't know what you've done, what's he thinking?" Then, listen to her complain.

If a woman is feeling resentful because of something, the last thing she wants is for the other person to dismiss it as unimportant and think she's making a big deal out of it.What she needs is to speak out, vent her emotions, and hope that the other party will stand on the same front as her.This is what intimacy is all about, and she wants the other person to be her close ally.A woman wants to share her full self with a man and needs to know that she is loved.

[-]. Humor is the seasoning of love
Humor is the seasoning of love, it will add flavor and color to your words.Use humor to fully demonstrate your wit and demeanor.If you are good at using humor, it will bring endless fun to your love and make your life interesting.

"What do you like most about me?" a girl asked her boyfriend. "Is it my beauty or my body?"

"No, it's your sense of humor," the boyfriend replied.

Man: "Honey, I love you at 120 degrees."

Female: "Oh, then I'm going to marry you."

Male: "Really?"

Female: "In this way, the two of us will melt together!"

A few words not only reflect the sense of humor of the hero and heroine, but also bring them closer to each other.

In fact, humor can bring joy to people's life, and can also resolve all kinds of boredom and sorrow that people encounter in life.Women appreciate a man with a great sense of humor because such a man has wisdom and can help him get through the difficulties of life smoothly.

In love, people usually encounter some embarrassing situations, and many people will lose their minds at this time, embarrassing both parties.Appropriate use of humor will subtly resolve the contradictions between the two parties and show their own demeanor and wisdom.

At a ball, there was a beautiful and generous girl, she was elegant and very eye-catching.After dancing a few songs, she felt tired, so she sat aside to rest.At this time, a boy came up to her and nodded slightly, stretched out his hand, and asked politely: "May I ask you to dance?" He behaved and talked like an ancient prince, and it was hard to refuse.

The girl stood up slowly with a trace of tiredness.When the two stood face to face in the middle of the dance floor, waiting for the music to start, she suddenly discovered that the boy was actually lower than her.Maybe the boy is not shorter than her, but the girl feels that if a boy is as tall as her, he is already very short.

"I'm taller than you!" the girl whispered with a smile on her face.After thinking about it, the boy in front of him was not his boyfriend, but his partner at the ball.Thinking of this, the girl regretted her outspokenness.Her face turned red all of a sudden.

It all happened so fast that the boy was a bit caught off guard.He froze for a moment, the smile on his face hadn't receded yet, and a new smile filled his face again. He said nonchalantly, "Really? Then I accept the challenge." The tone of the last four words was a bit heavy .

The girl was silent, with an apologetic smile on her face. She saw the boy subconsciously straighten his back, and the boy said softly: "Put the articles I have published under my feet, and I will be taller than you. "It turns out that he also has his own pride.

After the dance, they fell in love.

"I like ambitious boys", this is the mantra of ordinary girls.But this sentence seems to be very different from "I like men with successful careers".

In theory, every girl wants her boyfriend to be successful in his career.However, the vast majority of girls will not break up with their boyfriend because of his unsuccessful career.Only when a boyfriend understands the art of humor can he bring joy to a girl and capture her heart.

[-]. Do not forget etiquette in passionate love
Often a woman will treat a man the way she wants to be treated, thinking that this will lead to a higher level of interest in him.When a man cares about her, she will respond more eagerly; when a man treats her with consideration, she will immediately return enthusiastically.A woman doesn't understand that when she accepts a man's attention, it doesn't mean she owes him something.Giving the other party a chance to know her and please her is already equivalent to giving a man what he wants most.And women must remember that they are the most special, such an attitude can make men continue to be interested in you.

When a man likes a woman, he looks forward to pleasing her and is excited by the anticipation.Once he feels completely satisfied, he no longer has the pleasure of chasing.But if you can keep a proper distance, it will not only make him more interested, but also give him the opportunity to continue chasing.Without that interaction, it's very difficult to proceed.

If a woman likes a man, she will be excited because she expects the other party to bring happiness, and as a result, she will give more unreservedly.The man is excited by the feeling that he will win the woman's heart.Her happiness represents his success.Her satisfaction is his happiness.

A common mistake women make when dating is to keep giving.These women don't understand that "acceptance" can make them more attractive.When the man drove to the woman's house to pick her up for an appointment, she was dressed up beautifully, and the man said romantic compliments, which the woman readily accepted.He walked with her to the right side of the car, opened the car door, and let her take a seat. When she sat down, he closed the car door. She thanked her with a smile, and then he walked to the other side of the car, opened the door and took a seat.At this time, what will she do?Would she step over the driver's seat and open the door for him, or let him open it himself?

When this lady doesn't know how to keep a certain distance for a man to show courteousness, she will turn over and open the door for him.Although this may seem considerate, but from the perspective of a man's mentality, it is tantamount to depriving a man of the opportunity to pursue pleasing.This kind of dedication will make the fun he expected come to nothing.

Many single women would argue that it would be selfish not to open the door for him.What they don't realize is that the purpose of dating should be for the man to show he cares, for the woman to accept his offerings and to give herself time to understand how much she likes each other.

If it is necessary for a woman to turn over and open the door for a man, the man does not need to go to the other side of the car with the woman to get on the car.The reason why men do this is to show a gentlemanly demeanor and please women, so women should let him behave and accept his attentions gracefully.When a woman opens the door for a man, it not only defeats the whole purpose of dating, but also confuses the roles played by both parties.If she can sit comfortably in her seat and be grateful for his thoughtfulness, it will make the mutual attraction even stronger.

[-]. Speaking skills when meeting the parents of both parties

When two young men and women in passionate love reach the stage of discussing marriage, they often need to visit their parents.Generally speaking, a good first impression mainly comes from verbal expression.Mastering certain language skills can give parents a good impression and lay the foundation for the success of love.

1. Speaking skills when meeting the woman's parents

Before the man prepares to visit the woman's parents, he can "get" some information about her parents from his girlfriend in advance, such as her parents' temperament, hobbies, etc., and then choose different topics according to different situations.

Some parents do not place high demands on their future son-in-law's appearance and family background, but pay more attention to whether his future son-in-law can achieve success in education and career.Therefore, when they investigate the situation of the man, they always hope that the man can make achievements in his career. If the man is working hard in this area, it can be said:

"A while ago, I went to work during the day and prepared for the exam review at night. I was too busy. I was able to make a special trip to visit you after the exam these two days. You won't be surprised?"

"Our research institute is conducting a major technical research. I signed up. After I graduate, I can join the research team after I obtain a postgraduate diploma. The members of this research team are the most experienced experts and technicians in the research institute. , I think we can learn a lot of useful knowledge and experience from them. Uncle, what do you think?"

Faced with a parent who loves vanity and is tied to a cash cow, they are often not too demanding about whether the future son-in-law has talent, but they are very concerned about whether he has money.For such parents, if you have strong financial strength, you can meet their needs.If you don’t have enough financial foundation, you can buy some greeting gifts when you first visit, and at the same time persuade you in a circumstantial way during the conversation, you can say something like this:
"Please accept a little favor from me, I wonder if you like it?"

"Xiaoxiao is a very good girl. I like her very much. She doesn't pay attention to her boyfriend's character like other girls, but only pays attention to money. I just graduated from college and I am very poor now, but this is temporary. I We will work hard to change this.”

For parents who only have an only daughter but no son, they are generally unwilling to let their daughter belong to someone else's family and expect their daughter to provide for them in the old age. Naturally, they also hope that their future son-in-law will also become their half son, and even more hope You can take care of their daughter in every detail.Facing such parents, you should say to them with sincere and practical words:

"I heard from Xixi that my aunt is not feeling well recently, so I came back with her to see you. When people of your age are not feeling well, it's better to go to the hospital for a good check-up and treatment, and you can't carry it all the time. "

"My mother knows a good doctor. I'll take you there for a good check-up sometime, so you can rest assured."

2. Speaking skills when meeting the man's parents

When the woman wants to visit the man's parents, she must understand in advance: Generally, the man's parents are more concerned about the woman's character.They all hope that their future daughter-in-law will be gentle, kind, diligent and pragmatic, with the virtues of traditional Chinese women.

When meeting for the first time, it is best for the woman to speak less, and a more stable and silent girl is more likely to please the old man.If a woman's silence is interpreted as shyness, that's okay because you're a woman.

Some parents of the man's side are eager to love their son, and they are also eager to ask for a daughter-in-law. Generally, they will not be too picky about the woman, as long as the son likes it.To enter such a family, you have to take care of the overall situation and exchange sincerity for sincerity.When speaking, try to be humorous and lively, for example:

"Uncle and Auntie, when I visited for the first time, you treated me like a daughter, which really touched me. Since I fell in love with Liu Liang, he has talked about how good you are many times. It's really not as good as seeing. No wonder Liu Liang said hello to you, you dote on him too much, be careful not to spoil him!"

"He once said that I am not as nice to him as my aunt. It seems that I am really not as careful as you. Look at you, after eating, you are not willing to let him wash the dishes. Come, let me wash for you!"

In this way, the woman will not disappoint the sincerity of others to you, and the woman will be honored to be a member of the family.

If a girl is dating a guy who is older than her, then when she goes to meet her boyfriend's parents, they may put you off because they don't trust you very much.At this time, the woman must not be frustrated, discouraged and wronged, because this is a normal psychological state of people. Girls can use their words and deeds to make them feel your sincerity and trustworthiness. You should say to them like this:

"Uncle, aunt, hello! I'm going to Hangzhou West Lake after the Chinese New Year. If you need anything, just tell me, you're welcome!"

(End of this chapter)