Mind Control and Distraction: Mind Control Techniques for a Lifetime

Chapter 13 The Philosophy of Winning: Believe in Your Heart That You Will Win (2)
We've all had success in our lives, and it includes many things, including learning to tie your shoelaces for the first time as a toddler, giving your first courageous speech on stage in middle school, meeting your first girl on a date, and playing baseball at school. The game was won and so on.The success might even be fixing your bike or baking a delicious cake.Any achievement, no matter how small, can be counted as a success.Maybe it's not important, and its completion doesn't give you a great sense of accomplishment, but what you need is an experience.That is, you have successfully done what you want to do and achieved your goals successfully. These achievements, large or small, will bring you a sense of satisfaction.

So let's start to carefully recall and relive those successful experiences now.Recreate in your mind the entire picture of success at the time, not just the fact of being successful.To be specific about every detail that contributed to success, such as the weather at the time?Your mood?your attireWhat were other people doing at that time?how do you feeland so on and so forth.The more detailed the picture of the memory, the better.If you can recall exactly the details of the circumstances that led to your success, you can't help but find yourself feeling the same way.Efforts to recall success can prompt you to activate the sense of accomplishment and satisfaction deep in your heart, and you will find that you are full of confidence at this moment, because the past you are recalling is also filled with confidence.

After arousing such a feeling of success, we have to further use it, ranging from cooking to business negotiations.No matter what you set out to do, hold that feeling of success in your head and use it to your advantage.At this moment, you can't help but imagine a set of plans for success.

Worrying isn't completely useless

Carefully portray the idea of ​​"must succeed, will succeed" from the bottom of my heart.Don't push yourself, don't force yourself, and don't try to convince yourself with your conscious mind or consciousness that you want to succeed.Whatever you would do in the mood of worry, you do.Notice that you are only worrying about a positive goal and successful outcome at this time, not a negative goal and failed outcome.Calm down and don't force yourself to believe that you will definitely achieve the success you want. This is tantamount to eating a fat man with one bite.It is obviously impossible for this idea to be completely accepted in a short time.You can try to let yourself accept it slowly.Recall everything you did when you were worrying about the future, and start thinking about the outcome you want in the present.When worrying, don't worry about the results you don't want.You should slowly tell yourself, "It might work this time".Repeat this thought to yourself over and over again, and keep thinking about it and observing it.Next, you think about the likelihood of its success.That's when the voice in your head is, "Well, this might actually happen." This is when you automatically form a self-image that leads and controls your behavior to drive you toward success.If on the contrary, you keep repeating "I will not succeed" and "this thing is really difficult" in your mind, similarly, these self-images will become clearer and clearer, coupled with the fear of failure, nervousness and anxiety are formed in this way.

Have strong faith and courage
In fact, faith and courage are almost the same thing for us, but they correspond to different goals.If you're unhappy every day, why not spend your time doing things that make you happy?Thinking of this, you might as well describe to yourself what your ideal outcome is like, take this outcome as inevitable, and remind yourself that these will happen sooner or later.Tell yourself right now that it's not going to happen, it might happen, it will happen.Always remember to remind yourself that your ideal state is completely achievable.

You can urge yourself to believe that those ideal and beautiful things will happen. Maybe this kind of imagination will not help you very much at present, and the effect will not be very fast, but as long as you believe that such thoughts are reasonable, carefully observe your mental images at the moment, and review them Play it back to yourself over and over again.These imaginations will become more detailed and specific.You will find that every day things are really moving in the direction you want.Examine your mental image at this time, it is confident and brave, then we say that the feeling at this time is "the feeling of victory".

fear doesn't work

In fact, everyone will feel a more or less negative sense of failure before starting a task, which will cause inner panic and anxiety.This is actually formed by people's inner resistance to failure.This is true for everyone, but don't take it as a sign of failure.Since everyone is like this, why others will be successful, that is because it all depends on your attitude, feeling about the current job, how you deal with them.If you don't let go of the feeling of failure and listen to it, cling to it.Then you may fail.Someone asked Bismarck, known as the "Iron-Blooded General", if he would feel scared before the war started.The general said yes, I was afraid, but I never listened to fear.We must understand that the feeling of failure is not a sign from heaven for you.You have to believe that since the task is in front of you, then God wants you to complete it.Your feelings of failure, including panic, anxiety, and lack of confidence, all originate in your own brain, which also reflects your attitude towards the current task from another aspect.In other words, you are underestimating yourself, or exaggerating the difficulty of the task.Or maybe you're reminded of past failures instead of successes.That's what they're all about, they don't predict the future at all, but they reflect the state of your heart.

Knowing this, you will have absolute control over your negative sense of failure. You can either accept it or reject it.You can bow down to it and let it go, or you can put your head up and put these feelings of failure behind you.But it doesn't necessarily mean that as long as you accept the sense of failure, you will fail.If the negative sense of failure cannot be completely eliminated, it is better to turn it into a favorable factor and let it become a signal to inspire more strength and talent in our hearts.We don't give in to our sense of failure, but we never let it go.As long as we face them positively, emotions such as negativity and anxiety can awaken more power in us.We mentioned above that a certain amount of excitement can help us solve problems, but not prevent us from doing things, as long as it is used correctly.In the same way, the same is true for negative failure. It depends entirely on our attitude towards it, that is, you see it as a signal to motivate you, and it will motivate you.Conversely, if you see it as a stumbling block that hinders you, then it will inevitably hinder your progress.It can be seen that responding positively to negative feelings can also prevent failure.Don't worry that's true of every one of us when some of us become instantly dispirited when we hear "you can't do it" from someone else.We will face this kind of evaluation from others more or less in our lives, but as long as we have positive resilience, this kind of evaluation will even strengthen your belief in success and help you.

The power of good will

People's feelings are not controlled by willpower, and of course they cannot be transferred by willpower. It is impossible to retract and release freely like a faucet.But feelings cannot be controlled, but they can be acquired.Willpower cannot directly control feeling, but through psycho-cybernetics training, we can influence it indirectly.Let’s say you feel terrible about something right now, but it’s your job and you have to keep doing it.However, it is not just because of your persistence that you will be full of affection for it.It needs to be dispelled by another feeling.Just like a bunker, we can't bomb it indiscriminately to defeat him, but we can occupy it quietly and subtly.So when you can't do anything about a bad feeling, it's totally useless to attack it head-on and replace it with a positive one.We have said before that sensation is controlled by images.What is acceptable in our surroundings, we trust the feelings that come from it.This kind of mental training method is that as long as we find ourselves feeling uncomfortable, we will divert our attention from this uncomfortable feeling, but in the process of diverting attention, we should not repeatedly remind ourselves that this is just expelling bad feelings , this is completely wrong, and the focus should be completely shifted to positive and healthy feelings.Make an effort to fill your mind with positive and uplifting thoughts.If you really do this, the negative thoughts and bad feelings will naturally disappear completely.At the same time we discover that the positive, good feelings we have now are in perfect harmony with our self-image.If we don't fully focus on the positive thoughts and just think about killing the bad feelings, we may be able to expel some of the negative thoughts in a short period of time, but soon there will be more new negative thoughts One after another.Because your attention is not completely removed from negative thoughts at this time, your mental environment is generally negative.So believe in goodwill and positive power, and let them help you dispel the gloom in your heart.

Treatment options to replace worry

The results of contemporary psychological research tell us that we all worry, because we practice worrying every day, so we are very familiar with it.We seem to be used to taking on unnecessary worries about the past and future, which is the psychological reaction to negative thoughts about the past and future.This kind of negative thinking makes us sad, negative, and more preoccupied with the past and future.It's a veritable vicious circle.The only way to heal this worry is to practice the habit of replacing the unhappy worry image with a happy, positive mental image.Every time you realize that your heart is becoming restless and anxious, you should immediately and consciously transform it.Practice it many times and make it a habit.Your worries will naturally be addressed.Now think back to when we were young, when we were students, we often stood up in class and hesitated and were very nervous because the teacher asked us questions.There is no way to even answer the teacher's questions.But when we answer the same question in another way, for example, in the exercise book, we will answer the question very relaxed and naturally.The same problem, we reacted differently.The reason is that when we face the exercise book, we are more relaxed and confident. We know the problem at hand very well, and we can expect the "successful feeling" after the answer is completed, so we solve the problem perfectly.

Try to imagine how much less wrong we would have done if we had known then to take advantage of this "feeling of success".When the teacher asks questions, imagine the teacher and classmates as ordinary textbooks, and answer the questions with the attitude of a successful person.This "feeling of success" replaces the negative imagery.Problem solved.It is at this time that the negative feeling acts as a tool to remind you to switch your self-image, and as soon as it appears, you will immediately begin to form a "victorious feeling" in your mind to replace it.

make your own choice
Everyone's heart is a huge treasure house, which stores past experiences and feelings.There are successes and failures, joy and pain in these experiences and feelings.Just like recording a life with a video tape, all these experiences are objectively imprinted in your memory.There are beautiful stories and sad stories in these memories, and there are about the same number of two kinds of stories. As for which one you want to remember deeply, it is entirely up to you to choose.

Regarding memory, there is another interesting discovery in the scientific community, that is, memory can actually be changed.We also take the example of the video tape, the memory changes, as if the video tape is overwritten with new material and content.In fact, any image recorded in our mind may change every time we play it back.Because it will be affected by our current mood, temper, habits and current environment, maybe we are not aware of it ourselves.So we can say that the past affects the present, and the present affects the past.In other words, past memories and experiences do not determine our present destiny, nor are we completely divorced from the present.How we recall the past now depends entirely on the present.So the memory may be changed, and the reason for the change is our current self.

the past can change

In many cases, once some special recorded content or memory is "activated" or "played back", they will become more memorable and even have a great impact.I believe that many people have had a similar experience. For example, if your current work uses previous memory content, it is likely that this memory will be consolidated in your mind more deeply.This is the same reason that students review their homework.That being the case, we can once again take advantage of the obvious truth that our lives are always filled with joy and sorrow.But people who live with sadness tend to have magnified memories of past sadness.Why not put that energy of remembering the sad into trying to remember the good memories?
The secret to getting into the right shape
Imagine if one of our friends or relatives passed away, at the funeral we would recall scenes and practices associated with him.Most of these scenes and events make you happy. Even if this person really made you miserable, we will subconsciously stop thinking about those bad memories.This long-sleeping elder usually doesn't talk much and is very serious, but very occasionally he will make you happy, so when he passes away, we will integrate her into everyone's life and regard him as an important part of our life member.In the end, he will be remembered again and again at every family gathering.For another example, you only go to see your grandmother who lives in the country during the holidays, and you rarely even think of her on weekdays.But when she dies, you suddenly realize that she was your grandmother throughout your childhood, recalling details of your walks in the fields, sitting on her lap, and so on.These fond memories can all trigger sad emotions in you.Actually recalling the past, or documenting the past, can help us to believe that these sad emotions are justified.In this way, we believe in what kind of person we are and how we behave in what kind of environment in our self-image.

There are many examples like this, which are very common in our lives.I remember that I once attended a funeral where the deceased had a very violent conflict with her sister because of financial problems, which caused the two sisters to be at odds for many years.At the funeral, the elder sister of the deceased delivered a 20-minute condolence speech very movingly. She recalled in great detail the good years she spent with the deceased and some of the good qualities of the deceased.In the middle, I had to stop several times to relieve my sadness.All those present were in tears.I met this sister again a short time later, and we started chatting in a cafe.At first I asked very cautiously, "Sarah, I heard you used to have a lot of trouble with your sister, but why were you so sad and emotional at her funeral?" He replied, "I don't The kind of person who speaks ill of the dead." Clearly his answer reveals a major mystery about how we create our feelings. "What kind of person am I?" This kind of self-evaluation of self-improvement is unbelievably powerful.It tells us that some thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and outcomes are completely consistent with the self-image, and do not deviate from it.And of course it reveals how you can maintain a sense of victory in the nick of time when the right century arrives.We might as well practice this way: persuasion of negative self-knowledge into positive self-knowledge, "I am the kind of person of __." Play this sentence repeatedly in your mind until you really believe it.At this time, your thoughts and actions will naturally be consistent with it.As for what kind of positive cues you create for yourself, it depends on your needs, for example, efficient, fast, decisive, courageous, innovative, etc., as long as it fits your current job.Your self-image will love fresh fruits and vegetables, not junk food, just like your body.

(End of this chapter)