Mind Control and Distraction: Mind Control Techniques for a Lifetime

Chapter 32 Release your personality and find the half-acre field you are good at (3)
On November 1998, 11, Minnesota Attorney General Humphrey Humphrey (son of former U.S. Vice President Hubert Humphrey), a seasoned and seasoned politician nicknamed "The Ringleader," and St. Paul Mayor Norman Coleman is surprised to learn that their opponent, Jesse Ventura (nicknamed "The Body"), has beaten them in the gubernatorial race and is about to take over the governor's mansion.The third candidate, who was generally not favored by the public and the media before the election, is known by the majority of voters more for his fiery temper and experience as a professional wrestler, not because of his lofty pursuits And famous.But it was the same candidate, who campaigned with few resources at his disposal, who won 4% of the vote—enough to win a gubernatorial race that had only three candidates in it.What on earth made Jesse Ventura think he was confident he could beat two respected and wily candidates, Democrats and Republicans?
If you've ever been asked, "What makes you think you can succeed?", you probably get some satisfaction from winning when Jesse Ventura was at a disadvantage.We are often asked this question by others, usually by those who have protected us and raised us all along.Their questions are usually motivated by a genuine concern for our well-being, but sometimes they are more concerned with themselves—it doesn't matter which is the case, because the downside of both is the same.

I remember when I was studying, I liked basketball very much, and I applied to join the school basketball team.At that time, apart from my father, there was no one around me who didn’t ask me repeatedly: Why do you want to play basketball? You must know that you are not tall. In fact, you might be good at playing football instead. Why do you think you will be successful, etc.?And my father, thanking his spirit in heaven for protecting me, never expressed such doubts, he just smiled and told me, "Son, do what you want, as long as you make up your mind, everything will work out." This is right My greatest comfort and encouragement, but as for whether he had doubts about me in private, or worried that I might fail and face the cynicism of others, I have no way of knowing, but I am glad that I did not think so at the time, and I am not at all Know.Later, I successfully joined the school basketball team and became a center forward.I think many people have had a similar experience. When you decide to do something you like, someone next to you will ask you why you do it, or give you various obstacles.If you happen to be lucky enough not to be at their mercy, you can succeed no matter how much they doubt you.Your most precious asset is your self-image, which is entirely yours and serves as a constant reminder that you can do anything if you set your mind to it.At the beginning of the decision, maybe you were excited and ready to show your strengths, but you were suspected and criticized by your family and friends, and unfortunately you accepted their domination, so in the end things didn’t work out. , It also increased doubts about myself-thinking that all my determinations are meaningless.

every sound of yours counts

Psychologist Dr. Nathaniel Brandon defined self-esteem as "the reputation we earn for ourselves" in his book "Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" in 1994.

Einstein learned to walk at the age of 4 and could read at the age of 7. When he was studying at school, he was regarded as a "stupid" by his teachers and classmates. When he grew up, he was ridiculed by his colleagues because he knew nothing about mathematics, and later he was regarded as a "visionary". .If there is such a child now, it is likely to be diagnosed as mentally handicapped and ADHD, requiring long-term treatment.But that didn't stop him from being successful.Why did such a person who was regarded as "not smart" or "convicted" change his mind, found his own life, and lived a fulfilling life?Many people have more or less similar experiences, and most of them I believe are not as criticized as Einstein.Their notoriety, everywhere, more than his own, was a very real hindrance to them, even for a long time.The reason for this is that these "bad reputations" have been deeply introduced into the brain and become their evaluations of themselves. Whether they can ignore these evaluations and criticisms directly affects whether he can persevere.Just like when we see a criminal, we often look at his past and see if he has any "convictions". We must know that the proportion of people who have committed crimes is very high, but fortunately it is not 100%.Some people did commit crimes, but they were able to move on from the shadows of the past, and even though they spent time in prison, the prison life did not make him think worse of himself, but it caused him to think badly about himself. Think, come out of it, leave the past behind, and reshape the future.We can't control other people's ideas, and others' criticisms can't cover up the mistakes we made in the past, because we don't understand and even have deeper misunderstandings of our mistakes. If we can't ignore these misunderstandings and opinions, they will deepen our mistakes, and even hinder our future success.So, we have no way out but to prove ourselves through time and actions.But we don't need to accept other people's prejudices at all. We must know that the one who understands us best in this world is ourselves.Their prejudices may not be reasonable and objective.Nothing could be more foolish than holding ourselves back with some wrong ideas.So what we have to do is to live today well and be worthy of today.

There is no standard of good or evil in self-expression

Many disputes start because of some ordinary things, but adopt a "moral" standpoint, thinking that there are only two sides to things, good or evil.But in fact, everything that is happening before our eyes is fundamentally the most objective and ordinary existence.If you're dealing with someone who makes a big fuss, it's actually not a bad thing in the general sense at all, because each of us has different standards, and it's normal to react differently to everything.

People are just used to seeing everything by their own standards.Making a fuss over a molehill has no morals, it's just how everyone reacts to everything.Conversely, if you are judged as "making a big deal out of a molehill" by others, you will feel that you are morally wrong.If such an evaluation occurs several times, the poor young man will conclude to himself, "It seems that I am really wrong." He will have a negative attitude towards any reaction of his own, because this so-called moral" Shame".

If a child is punished and teased for thinking badly about something or showing fear, he will feel that expressing his thoughts is wrong.As a result, he develops a terrible habit of thinking that expressing emotions is wrong.However, we know that, just like the alternation of day and night, anger, fear and joy, and bravery exist objectively, and any expression of emotion should be free. Everyone has "good" and "bad" emotions, but blindly suppressing the so-called "bad" emotions will suppress the "good" emotions.Just like everyone who is in a car accident will cry in grief, emotional feedback is a God-given ability for us.Grief and crying can also be transformed into strength and courage as long as there is reasonable guidance.Just imagine how depressing our world would be if every child expressing their emotions was subject to "moral" criticism.

This act of judging everyone morally is distorted.In this way, we want to express praise and love without fear of being judged.As a result, you will become overly nervous, overly sensitive, and afraid to express yourself freely.It is "wrong" to think that "personality" and one's own views are "wrong", while "no personality" and "follow the crowd" are "correct".In this way, the direct consequence is timidity.The timidity that occurs in any person in any environment is caused by too much self-repression.But my own thoughts do exist, there is no right or wrong, and the world is not inherently good or evil.

disinhibition from the other direction

In this world, there are countless people who cannot achieve success and happiness because they are inhibited. If you are the same, then you need to consciously change this state.Think about why you restrain yourself. It is because you are too serious, too worried, and too concerned when doing things.

Don't always think about it before making a decision, but say it first and then think about it; don't think about the possibility of various results, but do it directly.At this time, most depressed people, especially those who are severely depressed, will say, "If so, why do humans have brains, which are no different from animals. If they don't think about anything, don't care, Don't worry, what is the meaning of our life? This world needs to be restrained, otherwise robbery and murder will not be considered illegal. If someone shows disdain when we express our inner opinions, we will directly One punch passed."
Yes, that's right.The world does need some restraint.What needs to be suppressed for?Yes, maintain balance.Like a balance, neither side can be too heavy.Inhibition and indulgence are the two ends of the scale. The world needs certain restraint, not absolute restraint.It's like a person who has bulimia and whose stomach is about to burst, but says that the human body needs food to replenish energy, and it is impossible to live without food.People need food, but if there is so much food that threatens people's lives, then its original meaning will be lost.It's the same inhibitions in our lives.Some people who stutter due to overinhibition, what is it that puzzles them?Moral pressure, excessive negative feedback, self-criticism, and low self-confidence.If someone tries to remind them to forget these bad thoughts in time, they will still respond with "I can't do anything".They will even cite a series of examples to refute the help of others, proving that they are indeed "worthless". He proves for himself and the other party that all his negative thoughts are well-founded and meaningful.But in the process, he didn't realize that he didn't stutter at all when he gave a long speech. This may sound funny, but it is true.

There is no way out of de-inhibition. Some people say that introverted, melancholy, and irritable people cannot change their stuttering problems.As mentioned above, what this world needs is certain restraint, not absolute restraint. The function of restraint is to maintain balance.People with bulimia are treated to restore their normal appetite, and people with anorexia are treated to increase their appetite; a string that is too tight will snap, and a string that is too loose will not make a sound...and so on.This is not a matter of good or evil. Gluttony and anorexia, looseness and tightness of the strings are all real and objective existences like the sun, and there is no distinction between good and bad.The medicine for treatment is to tighten the strings, loosen them if they are tight, and tighten them if they are loose.That is to say, adjust in the opposite direction.For inhibition, in order to obtain a balanced state, the adjustment plan is to "increase inhibition" or "release inhibition", and we must pay attention to the adjustment method, overcorrecting will make the inhibition go to the other extreme.

Before that, we need to determine whether the adjustment method that needs to be "increased inhibition" or "disinhibition" can be judged by the following criteria: If you are always in trouble because of being too confident; if you are always doing it habitually Do things that ordinary people dare not do; if you often fall into isolated and helpless situations because of impulsiveness and rashness; if you always do things first and then reflect; if you are always unwilling to admit your mistakes; if you always speak loudly, I like to find various reasons for myself... Then you may have too little restraint, what you need to do is to think more about the consequences before doing things, and become more cautious.But most people are not like that.If you are not like this, please read on: If you feel shy around strangers; If you feel overwhelmed by new situations; You are always afraid to let go and fight... If you fit any of the above, it shows that you are inhibiting too much.You tend to be too careful, too careful, and too well-planned in everything you do.I believe this is the case for many people. At this time, the prescription I prescribed is to relieve inhibition in the opposite direction.

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