The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 2 Happiness is Marrying the Right Person, First, Finding the Best Partner (1)
When a woman chooses her partner, she should only choose the right one, not the expensive one

We often say that when you meet the right person, you should cherish and cherish them.When you meet the wrong person, you have to "cut the mess quickly"; if you love him, don't hesitate, but believe in your own feelings. If you feel right, everything will be right.

In this fast-paced modern society, if anyone still thinks that love needs to be slowly understood and slowly cultivated, he will be puzzled; if anyone still opposes love at first sight, then he is conservative and outdated.For today's women, love does not need a reason, what is needed is a feeling of electric shock.

When a woman meets a man who is closely integrated with her own personality, interests, hobbies, and habits, it is like meeting another self-like joy. It is very natural for a woman to enter the "situation" and even enter the wedding hall.

In fact, the length of time a couple has been together is not directly proportional to the maturity of their relationship.A relationship that needs to be worked on for a long time to bear fruit may be exactly the "wrong" relationship.Lovers need a long time to adjust to each other because of the huge disparity in personality and other aspects; it may be that they meet the wrong person, time, space, age, and psychological maturity; the more wrong Love, the longer it takes to manage.Two "wrong" people have been together for a long time, and it will develop into a "habit". A woman will start to get used to having him, getting used to arguing with him, getting used to his voice, and getting used to his temper. Instead of "feelings", it has become a kind of self-deceiving "false affection".

If the long-distance running of love makes the two people lose their passion, trust, and ability to get along with each other, then this kind of "long-distance running" is not worth mentioning.

Therefore, when a woman chooses her partner, it is like buying a lottery ticket. The fight is based on a feeling. trap.

Of course, as the saying goes, there is no best candidate in love. Even if you meet the right person, there will inevitably be large and small conflicts in getting along.It is impossible to have a perfect person waiting for you.

There was a man who wandered all over the world and insisted on finding the most perfect person to marry.Finally, Huangtian paid off, he found it.However, he still failed to get married.Because, the most perfect person told him that she is also looking for the most perfect person in her own mind!

"no one is perfect".Men and women in the world always have various shortcomings, for example: those who are beautiful and handsome may have low education, those with high education may not look as expected; Nothing will happen again.

As the translation master Fu Lei said: "The requirements for a lifelong partner should not be too harsh just like the requirements for life." A happy marriage must come from the correct positioning and prudent choice of each of us.So, don't pick and choose, don't expect the "best candidate", when you meet someone you like, just make the only choice decisively!Although he may not be the best compared with others, he is the most suitable for you. He is the piece of the puzzle that you accidentally lost. With him, your life is complete.

Throughout the ages, people have praised love and regarded it as sacred.But love is actually the most vulgar. It is equivalent to bidding. Everyone has a target in their hearts, but it is inconvenient to disclose it.In order to find the right person in their hearts, some people have passed the age of marriage, but they are reluctant to step into the siege. They are quoted as: "If I get married now, how do I know if there will be another marriage in the future?" A good object appeared?"

It is undeniable that after getting married, there will definitely be better people.There are talents from generation to generation. Because of the progress of the times, the improvement of vision, and the familiarity with each other, they feel that their partners are not advancing but retreating.

But if you are unwilling to get married because you are afraid of regretting it, you have to wait, discover, worry, and give up repeatedly... wasting time in vain and ignoring a terrible fact-the newly discovered partner is getting better and better, and your conditions are getting better. Getting worse and getting older.

There are opportunities at any time in life, but don't throw away your happiness just to wait for the best candidate.Among the bustling crowd, only the one who cares about you the most, accommodates you the most, and loves you the most is the right person.

Whether you are a white swan or an ugly duckling, love yourself first

Some people say that women in love are fools.Indeed, women will lose their minds in front of love, so women must get out of this curse.You know, love yourself first.Only those who love themselves can be loved by others.

In life, we often encounter such things. Every once in a while, a friend will cry to you: "Why? I treat him so well and pay so much for him, but he still wants to leave me in the end?" At this time you Ask the complainer, can you stop being so nice to him?She said: "I can't do it, I love him more than I love myself." Well, we have seen the crux of the problem, how much vitality will her love have for a person who doesn't even love herself ?
A person who does not love himself is not qualified to love others!Because that kind of "love" has no quality, no connotation, no depth!The person you "love" will eventually be suffocated by "love" or run away!

"If there are ten points in love, then you have to control yourself to only give five points. It is safe only if you can advance or retreat." This is Tao Tao's quotation.In the eyes of others, she is a well-behaved and exquisite woman.From time to time, Tao Tao has a good impression of a man she associates with, but once she confirms that the other party is not worthy of carte blanche, she will carefully avoid the "minefield" and let the good impression stay on top of it.A little bit of love, a little bit of love, is a filler for emotional emptiness. When people are particularly lonely, such piecemeal emotional support can also bring her some kind of comfort.

Don't get me wrong, this is not to instigate women not to take feelings seriously, to play with feelings, but just to tell women, whether you are a swan or an ugly duckling, only by loving yourself first can you be qualified to be loved by others.Every woman is a landscape and deserves her own love and sky.Loneliness is also a kind of enjoyment when you can't wait for someone you can love. If you make a cup of coffee for yourself, you will also get mellow warmth.

Of course, letting a woman love herself does not mean that a woman does not need to be rational.While a woman loves herself well, she must also believe that he holds your hand affectionately and says "I love you", but you must also understand that this "I love you" has a shelf life, and the premise is that you must be in Used well before the expiration date.Otherwise, eating expired food will cause diarrhea in mild cases, and it may leave sequelae in the body.

Especially when you are over 25 years old, be careful with those young little brothers, because women are easily moved by the unique madness and persistence of youth.

Because of his daily commute to and from get off work, pure and frank greetings, or running all over the shops in the middle of the night just because you want something to eat, all these actions touched your lonely heart and made you feel the warmth that you have not seen for a long time.Then, slowly start to convince yourself that age is not a problem, there is no gap in thinking, and wealth can bring you closer.

If you don’t want to stare in the mirror unkempt when you’re old, lament in vain to make wedding dresses for others, and watch the man you trained in the past become the gentle and considerate husband of a young woman, then you’d better Don't try this kind of game that has no high safety factor subjectively and objectively.

Unless you are really a "thriller", otherwise, you would rather be an ordinary "marriage fanatic" to be honest.

When you're over 25, don't get entangled with married men.A married rich man, in addition to having the characteristics of a master in love, he can also do both at home and outside. He is an absolute good husband and father at home, and an absolute good lover in front of you.At the same time, it is their housekeeping skill to show courteousness to more than a few beautiful women.

Women need to know not to abuse their feelings.Love is actually a war between two people, which requires not only "wholehearted" devotion, but also "wisdom" participation.Women should understand that "you should be 100% responsible for yourself", trust that "you have the ability to take care of your own happiness and happiness in life" and promise to "not give up the control of your own happiness and happiness in life to others".

In short, as a woman, when you fall in love with a man, don't let the love overflow, first ask: "Do I love myself?"

What kind of man is worthy of a woman's in-depth relationship
Men often feel good about themselves, but most of them don't know why they can't get the approval of their female partners.So, in the eyes of women, what kind of man is worthy of their in-depth association?
1. Know how to respect you

He loves you more than he asks for, and he has his own opinions on himself, but not on you.He respects the various life choices you make and encourages you to develop your expertise.An important criterion for a modern good man is to respect all women, including those who have only met once.

2. He is sincere

Maybe he doesn't necessarily belong to the type of the opposite sex that you like very much, but he chases you very sincerely, and the type you like, no matter how many contacts you have, it is an example of failure.They don't have the good points of your ex, but they don't have the bad points of your ex either, and he has good points that many men don't have.

3. He is caring and considerate to you
You are already familiar with each other. Although there is no heartbeat feeling of love, he does care about you more than anyone else. When you are in trouble, he will always stand by your side and listen to your complaints patiently; he remembers the friend you mentioned Your name; when you are thirsty, he gently passes you fragrant tea...these all silently convey the message that he really likes you.

4. Your family and friends admire him

The elders have experienced countless trials and hardships, and their eyes are naturally more poisonous than yours.You are very critical of him, but he is able to win the appreciation of your friends and family.He knows how to make everyone feel good and how to give people a sense of security.In terms of personality, he is not a very changeable person, and he will not make people feel difficult to grasp and get along with.

5. He makes a lot of requests that are beneficial to you
He asks a lot of you, but they are all reasonable, and these demands are good or bad for you.Such a man really loves you.

6. He is open-minded

When the two argued, he was usually the first to back down.He knows how to express himself, listens patiently to you, admits you are wrong if you are right, and forgives you when you are wrong.If you have something to say, you can talk well, and you won't pull your face down at every turn, giving you a violent expression on your face, and you won't lose your temper or get angry over a little thing, and abuse yourself or others.

7. He likes small animals
Usually such people have a heart.You can tell a lot about his behavior from the way he treats his pets.A man who loves animals will also take good care of his family and partner.And a man who kicks and beats stray cats and dogs on the road has a violent nature.

8. He has his own hobbies and the habit of exercising
A man who has some kind of sports hobby is easier to find an outlet for his emotions, and he will not torture you for nothing. When you are with a man with passion in your heart, your life will be full of fun.A person who can find his hobbies in life will definitely give people a sense of vitality.

9. He has no regrets about his relationship

The definition of single-mindedness is not that he can only love one person in his life, but that he will be single-minded when he loves someone.If he has had an unforgettable emotional experience and has paid for it sincerely, then at least it can prove that he is an affectionate and committed man, a man who is willing to share part of the responsibility for the broken relationship.

10. Willingness to listen to your distress
It is safe to confide in him.He can communicate openly and honestly with you, he knows how to listen, and knows when to talk and when to shut up.You won't be afraid to express it to him, and you can feel safe when you share your feelings and thoughts with him.The foundation of good communication is trust.In front of him, you are 100% confident that you will not be ridiculed or hurt for expressing your deepest thoughts.This is called a sense of security.

11. Will not ignore you because of friends
He has a normal social circle, good friends who trust each other and value them, but he will not put you on the sidelines for friends.He can think and act independently, not just friends.Moreover, he can clearly grasp the boundary between a girlfriend and a friend of the opposite sex without you needing to tell him.

Catching the signs that a man likes you
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