The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 24 A little plan: Secrets of getting along to keep love fresh after marriage (1)
To keep love fresh after marriage, you must first keep yourself fresh

Although it has been said since ancient times: if you enter the room of Zhilan, you will not smell its fragrance for a long time.It's like facing a plate of delicious food. You will have a strong desire when you taste it for the first time. When you see similar delicacies for the second, third, and fourth time, you may lose your appetite. Even disgusted.No matter how good something is, it will lose its freshness after a long time.

Love is actually like this plate of delicacy. If you face it every day, if it remains the same as before, you will feel boring.But this boring state is not unchangeable. As long as we use the right method, we can keep love fresh. This is not as simple as putting two aspirin in a rose vase. There is knowledge here.

After marriage, there is no woman who does not long for the man she loves to treat herself like she was in love. As long as you pay attention, it is not difficult to find that if you change a new hairstyle, buy a new dress, and put on light makeup... the man will He will notice your changes as soon as he enters the house, he will look at you from head to toe like a work of art, and then say with a smile: This hairstyle is very fashionable, this dress is very beautiful, this makeup is for me Make it!
Appropriately change your own shape to give men's eyeballs more visual effects.A simple change is very important to a man, so he will think that you are managing your love with your heart.

Furthermore, a woman has an outstanding "brand", which is an important condition for her husband to be infatuated with you forever.

No matter how the times change, there is pure love in this world.Although there are many excuses in the society to condone men's fickleness, there will still be such a man in the world-he will always treat you as a treasure in the palm of his hand, and believe that loving someone for a lifetime, lying next to someone to sleep is the best thing in the world. the happiest thing.But the premise is to give him a reason to love deeply and learn to attract your husband like a magnet.

There is no woman who does not desire a man's lifelong love, and no woman does not desire her family to be happy forever.However, time will always get old, and women younger than you will always appear, especially your man is mature and elegant, rich and gentle, it is inevitable that many women will rush over like butterflies.You must have a reason to attract him to love you forever, right?

In the outside world, the vanity of a man is to have a beautiful and temperamental woman.Even if you do what the teasing text message said: you are either beautiful, if you are not beautiful, you have to have temperament, if you don’t have temperament, you have to have talent, if you don’t have talent, you have to have a good personality, if If you have a bad personality, you have to be kind... Anyway, you have to have an outstanding "brand" to make your husband fall in love with you forever.

In a word, if you want to keep love fresh after marriage, you must first keep yourself as fresh as possible.There are really not many women who are naturally beautiful, not to mention those women who are favored by the opposite sex may not be beautiful. Personal characteristics and charm are the key to making him fall in love.If you look a little bad in the mirror, adjust your appearance quickly and meet happiness with full confidence.

Women Should Tell Little White Lies Occasionally

Women should occasionally tell some white "little lies" to win the favor of men.Because white lies are not only a mediator between husband and wife, but also a magical secret to keep love forever young after marriage.White lies are definitely not cheating, but to create a sweet atmosphere of love, in which a husband can't help but spoil his wife.

So, what kind of "little lies" do women have to tell?
Lie 1: "I don't like you because of your money!"

Think about it carefully, women are not idiots, if a man has nothing but love, can he eat bread?Even if the man doesn't have it now, a woman can see the future of this man with her eyes. If he is very capable, she will definitely hold him as a stock that can appreciate in value.

Lie 2: "You think I want to go, but so-and-so dragged me to go."

It doesn't matter who pulls who, the key is to make him believe that he is not too willful!
Lie 3: "You cook delicious food."

When a woman says this, don't just focus on being happy. What she means is: since your cooking is so delicious, you will cook it in the future...

Lie 4: "It's okay, I don't think you're fat."

He will know what to say, just don't want to embarrass him, and he will really pay attention to his figure.

Lie 5: "I'm an old married couple, I don't want any more Valentine's Day gifts."

After all, the woman said, if he really doesn't buy it, he will know how powerful it is.Therefore, most men will obediently buy the presents back after hearing such warnings!
Lie 6: "Actually, I feel like you should have your own 'confidante'."

Don't think that women are really so generous!She always wanted him to stay away from all women (except herself).In this way, she will have a sense of security. If a female classmate or colleague calls you, or texts you, she will care more than anyone else, and her ears are very good!When you want to go out to a party with your brother at night, she may follow your ass!
But if you say that, men will think that you are educated and reasonable, and they will feel guilty if they really have an affair.

Lie 7: "I will support you without money!"

Every man must be moved to tears when he hears this, and must be determined to make more money so that his wife can live a good life.

In love, sometimes lies equal sweet words.

There are many kinds of effective lies: "I was at the airport last month when I dropped you off on a business trip. Although it was late when I got home, I was not tired at all. I feel that my heart always It's empty!" This kind of lie belongs to the kind of slightly mysterious lie.

"Every time I dine with your friends, I always look in the closet for a long time. I always feel that every dress is not good-looking. I really feel a little crazy..." This kind of lie is a playful and cute The lie, the more profound meaning has been revealed in silence, and the other party will definitely be moved by you.

Some women are very considerate of their husbands, worrying that their husbands cannot bear too much financially, so when they come home late, they always say: "I don't know what's going on, I'm afraid of taxis. We still take the bus. go home."

"Every time I sit in a high-end restaurant or coffee shop, I always feel uncomfortable. I think that kind of place is too serious and not suitable for me. Speaking of it, I still like to sit on the balcony to enjoy the night and eat the noodles I cooked. There is no sense of restraint." If the other party does not have sufficient financial means, they will definitely be moved by the woman's tenderness and consideration after hearing these words.

Between husband and wife in the siege of marriage, the role of lies is like a lubricant, and they often get very good results.

Say more "ours" and less "mine" and "yours"

When a man and a woman live together after marriage, verbal exchange and communication are naturally indispensable.In the process of communicating with your husband, how can you make the marriage relationship progress more smoothly and your marriage life be happier?
Based on her own experience, the happy Mrs. Zhang suggested that wives should say "we" or "us" more, and say "mine" or "yours" less or not.For example, when talking about father-in-law and mother-in-law, calling your husband "our father" and "our mother" must give your husband a different psychological feeling. Compared with "your father" and "your mother", the former is obviously more likely to arouse Men's intimacy with their wives and their joy in marriage.

When giving some constructive suggestions to your husband, often say some words such as "we" or "us", which is more intimate, easier to be accepted and thought by him, and can also enhance the cohesion of the family.And often say "your" or "mine", the boundaries are clearly drawn, it will appear very narrow, and it is a big taboo in married life.Such an expression may give the other party a feeling of alienation, and it is easy to breed some estrangement and grudges in the heart.

Even if you have to use "yours", you must use a tolerant, open, positive, sincere, and trusting attitude to speak, be good at communicating with empathy, and be good at subtly emphasizing and amplifying "yours". The role of "your" sincerely expresses respect and trust for "your".

In the process of communication, one must not only be good at "eliminating" "yours" and "mine" from the form of expression, but also be good at changing "mine" and "yours" to the greatest extent emotionally and subjectively. into "our" and "our".

Just imagine, if only "ours" are left, how good it would be-why not worry about the strength of the marriage?Why not worry about the degree of harmony?Why worry about happiness?
After marriage, you are "one of your own", and you have to talk sweet words
When in love, "flowers", "coffee" and "movies", almost all the time after work is occupied by the sweet and warm world of two people.However, as one enters the palace of marriage, many trivial problems of practical family life begin to follow after marriage, and the opportunity for sweet talk between husband and wife is gone.As everyone knows, sweet talk is a catalyst in life, which can bring warmth and joy to life.Even old couples should talk sweetly.

According to the survey, in today's highly information-developed society, only 16% of couples communicate emotionally every day after marriage, 41% of couples can communicate emotionally three times a week, and 3% of couples can communicate emotionally every week. to 22 exchanges.In addition, 5% of couples only communicate emotionally once a week.

Few people realize how much we need sweet words in our daily work and life, because sweet words not only make us feel fun and warm, but also bring confidence to people.

As the saying goes: "One good word keeps the winter warm".Usually people will say some sweet words before marriage, after marriage they think they are their own, so there is no need to be so particular.In fact, a family also needs respect, and also needs to pay attention to the art of language.After marriage, if you can properly give each other some sweet words, the marriage will be happier.

There are many women who are always used to listening to men's sweet talk, but have never said anything "nasty" to men.In fact, men, like women, also love to listen to sweet words.A woman who can talk will send her sweet words to him in a timely manner to win his joy and favor.

In short, both men and women like to listen to other people's sweet talk.

Sweet words can add luster to a woman's love and enrich a woman's married life.Ladies, let us join hands, sow the seeds of sweet talk to every corner of our life, and learn to decorate our married life with sweet talk.

Always say to your husband, "I really appreciate you!"

What a woman can give her husband includes her love, kindness, tenderness, and understanding, but we must know that even if everything is given to him, this kind of giving is still incomplete.Among the love that a woman can give a man, the most important thing is to know how to accept his love.That is to say, we can't let our husbands spend a lot of time on love in vain. In the face of a man's love, we should be sensitive to it, accept it happily, and give a warm response.

When a man and a woman walk into the palace of marriage, it is equivalent to signing an agreement to love and be loved.Men have the responsibility to love and protect women, and women have the responsibility to love and be considerate of men.No matter what, we have to pay first and then gain, and the same is true for the relationship between men and women.

Men are very willing to do things for women, provided that women first explain what they need to help.After a man is finished, he is very eager for a woman to express his gratitude to him. Just say in a soft voice: "I really appreciate you!" It can make a man intoxicated for a long time.This is the trick to make a man willing to do things for a woman, and never get tired of it.

Love is the most wonderful thing in this world. It seems to be born with it, but it also needs continuous learning and improvement. Learning to love and be loved, and accepting the love of a husband gratefully is a compulsory course for all women in their lives.

A woman who doesn't know how to love is a woman who doesn't understand style, a woman who is numb and dull.In fact, there are many women who are superior in other aspects and deal with things in an orderly manner, but they are somewhat incompetent when it comes to love, and they have let down the most beautiful romance in the world in vain.

To feel love, to understand love, is to never ignore what your husband has done for you - even if it's just a trivial thing.If a man does something for you, no matter whether he does it well or badly, he must give priority to it with encouragement.Most good men are actually very willing to do things for women. Even if you don't expect it, you tell him, he will still try his best to do it.But whether you do it well, whether you do more or less, depends largely on yourself.

An Hehua's family lives in Montreal.Ann was going to take her son back to China for a month. In order to save money, she took the train to Toronto and boarded the plane alone.Hua is alone at home, and the days seem like years.After finally looking forward to the return date of his wife and children, he ran happily to Toronto to pick him up.Unexpectedly, the wife's first sentence was: "You are so stupid, if you come and go like this, won't our money be saved for nothing?" , suddenly became speechless.

There are actually many such ugly and stupid things that women do.Probably the biggest headache for men is buying gifts for women.If you buy a bouquet of flowers on Valentine's Day, although your wife likes it very much, she says: What are you wasting that money for?Buying a piece of clothing, but the wife said: It’s so ugly, or it’s outdated long ago.It is conceivable that it will be difficult to have more words.No matter what he buys for you, it is good to be able to see a heart that loves you through those substances, and be grateful for that heart.Even if it is not a heart that loves you very much, but with the seeds, are you still afraid that it will not blossom and bear fruit?

Love is a kind of ability, a kind of skill, human beings are born with love, but not everyone knows how to love.Therefore, those women who know how to love and enjoy being loved will exude a different light in the crowd, which deeply attracts men's hearts.

There is such a couple, the husband has outstanding talent and impeccable demeanor, but his wife is just an ordinary woman.What is puzzling is that they have been married for ten years and have always loved each other deeply. The husband is even more considerate to his wife, as if he has been enchanted by her.After drinking once, the husband finally confided the secret of his love to a good friend. It turned out that when they were introduced by others, the man did not pay much attention to the woman.But in the relationship, the woman's sentimentality moved the man. The most impressive thing was that on Valentine's Day, the man sent a bouquet of flowers as a routine.But after the woman took the bouquet, she buried her head deeply among the flowers and took a deep breath, then raised her head, her cheeks flushed and her eyes sparkling, which made the man see the most beautiful moment in the world.Since then, he has fallen in love with her without hesitation, and she has never let him down, even the slightest care, she has been deeply moved, and has repeatedly expressed that she is the happiest woman in the world.

Love is a duet of male and female voices, and the singing will be more beautiful only if someone responds.If one party is passionate and the other party is indifferent, no matter how deep the relationship is, it will gradually cool down.

When a woman accepts a man's love with a sensitive heart, it is actually the most complete giving.When a man sees his passion in exchange for a stronger passion, he will be proud of a woman who needs his affection so deeply, and secretly resolve to love her for the rest of his life no matter what.

Give your husband a look of admiration at the right time
There is such a small dialogue about the choice of men and women
Man: "I think women are more complicated than men."

Woman: "Why do you say that?"

Men: "A 20-year-old woman loves a 30-year-old mature man; a 30-year-old woman loves a 40-year-old rich man; a 40-year-old woman loves a 20-year-old handsome man again, but no matter how old he is, he loves a 19-year-old man. Women who are over [-] years old, because of their eyes, are always full of admiration and respect."

You see, although this story is simple, it explains a big truth, that is, a man is actually very easy to coax, as long as you give him an admiring look from time to time, he will be willing to work for you for the rest of his life.

But many women don't understand this truth at all. They always only think about their own interests, and only look at things from their own perspective. When they talk to men, they always start with "Why didn't you do it..." "Why didn't you Will..." "Are you a man..."

Whether such a tone is disdainful and a little threatening, of course it will make the man who regards face as his life extremely unhappy.In fact, in the world of love, most men are still rebellious children who have not passed puberty. When they are unhappy, they will adopt the counter-strategy of pretending to be dead or singing against you.

On the bus, a woman's mobile phone rang loudly. The ringtone was "At least you are still there" by Lin Yilian. It seems that nine out of ten it was a call from her close lover. But when the woman picked up the phone, the first sentence she said was "Are you admitting that you were wrong? If you don't admit it, why did you call me?...Do you want to say sorry? If you don't admit that you are wrong, then you don't need to call me!" Then he hung up the phone with a "snap".

The car suddenly became quiet. Everyone secretly glanced at this woman, and when they looked at this woman again, they looked anxious and kept looking at their mobile phones, but her mobile phone never rang again.

Women must understand one truth, that is, men actually want face, especially in front of their wives.When a man and a woman have an argument, no matter who is at fault, if you always adopt an aggressive tone and way of being unreasonable, uncompromising, and forcing a man to say "I'm sorry" in person, you will undoubtedly not give men down the steps.Because men are animals that want face, what they want is the face of others.As long as you give him face, he will give you the whole world; on the contrary, if you deprive him of his self-esteem, all you get is his counterattack turned out of shame.Then if he doesn't move, it's enough. If he moves, he will definitely accuse you: "If you didn't force me like this, I would never lose control. Now, you forced me to do it. Everything is your fault."

(End of this chapter)