The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 25 A little plan: Secrets of getting along to keep love fresh after marriage (2)
Although it is normal for husband and wife to have some small disputes, they must go in the right direction. No one in this world likes to quarrel. Rather than expanding the problem or turning it into a vicious circle of farce.There are many strong women who seem to go crazy when they quarrel, with disheveled hair and nonsense, and often the disputes lose focus, and most of them turn into personal attacks.A smart woman will never use threatening words to ask a man to "admit his mistake" or "compromise".

Wei Wei had just quarreled with her husband the day before, and the next day she said to him on the phone: "Honey, I was a little angry yesterday! Because he was washing the dishes at that time, and you asked him to collect the clothes immediately. Then If it happens again next time, can you help others first?... I know you are the best!"

After hearing such words, which man would continue to be angry? I'm afraid he just wanted to hold his wife in his arms, so he said quickly, baby, it's all my fault.

I believe everyone will be able to see that the biggest difference is whether you can give the other party proper respect and step down.This also understands why those women who are always low-key, who may seem too docile and not shrewd, can firmly grasp the hearts of men.

Men are inherently face-loving creatures. They desire to gain a woman's face, which is more important than money. Therefore, if a woman wants to maintain happiness in marriage and make her life a good life, she must learn to encourage men, give him face, and let him I have always had self-confidence, instead of blindly suppressing and abusing men.I believe that as long as you can give him a look of admiration, he will go up the mountain of swords and down the pan of oil for you without making a sound.

"Jealous" makes my husband feel the sour taste from time to time
Someone said, "Holding your wife's hand is like holding your right hand with your left hand."When a woman's identity changes from a girlfriend to a wife, you are no longer the sweet and frightened woman, and it cannot be said that he has no feelings for you, but "familiarity" is the sworn enemy of "temptation". No matter how longing and dreaming feelings, after getting along for a long time, it is still unavoidable to be numb.

A smart woman should be a cook of love, who knows how to master the emotions of joy, anger, sorrow, and joy, and knows how to add sour, sweet, bitter, spicy seasonings in life at the right time to keep feelings fresh.

Women in love are self-taught in the methods of "conditioning" their boyfriends. Their most common method is to make those stupid men jealous.

When going out with their boyfriends, they may intentionally have a good time with the man they meet, and leave their "he" aside; they may also order a large bouquet of flowers by themselves, and send them "coincidentally" at the time and place that he can see to her; or rent a luxury car from a service company with a handsome guy who "happens" to pick her up or go home.

Using the greatest imagination also allowed him to have one more "imaginary enemy" in his mind.A man has a strong desire to protect and conquer in nature. It is a psychological need of a man to show off his courage and strength in front of a woman. The more competitors there are, the more fascinated he is with that woman.

Married women should restrain themselves a little bit, so they can't be too free, and if they want to get some "flying vinegar" for their husbands, they should be gentler.A few days ago, there was a variety show about a couple who went on stage to answer questions.The host asked her husband: "Who is your favorite female artist?"

"Carina Lau." The man replied loudly.

"Who is your wife's favorite male artist?" The audience laughed.

"Liang Chaowei." The man did not hesitate.

The audience laughed even harder.This couple may often make jokes about "idols" at home.Do you like Carina Lau?Okay, so my dream lover is her boyfriend Tony Leung, who has been in love for more than ten years. Who is afraid of whom?

For women, there are many advantages to having a celebrity as an idol. First, it means "you are not the only one for me" and tells men not to be ugly; Yes, you can make him jealous, but you can't hurt his bones, let alone make him find a private investigator to investigate the details of "that kid".Stars, people are real, entanglements are impossible, and they are the best monosodium glutamate of life.

If jealousy is regarded as an adjustment, it must be two-way to have flavor.A woman who doesn't understand jealousy is like hitting a ball that can't bounce, which is boring.

Regarding the jealousy of love, the famous Japanese writer Takero Arishima has a very incisive insight. He said: "The presentation of love may be unreserved giving, but the essence of love is [-]% taking." You don't have to hide jealousy and anxiety , timely and just right jealousy can prove your love and importance to him, satisfy a man's vanity, and let him enjoy the feeling of being "loved" by a woman's jealousy.

"In the morning, why did you smile at that dancer downstairs three times?" You have to pay attention to his every move.

His female colleague always helps him pour water and buy lunch boxes, so you can say sourly, "Why is she being so nice to you?" Let him know that "being nice to him" is your patent.

"How can you call other women Darling?" Perhaps, Darling is just his catchphrase, so let him understand that "Daling" will be a proper term for you in the future.

Occasionally, you can ask him domineeringly: "You are not allowed to peek at other women, otherwise, I will ask you to wear blindfolds to go out in the future." Or, "Don't mention other women in front of me." Love too deeply , so that he couldn't bear the lightness of words, this kind of jealousy will definitely make the other party feel happy.

When life is too ordinary, we can't lift our spirits up a bit. That sour feeling is to remind each other not to forget the long-lost sweetness.

Reminisce more about the fragments of love with my husband

For most people, from their twenties into marriage, life in this besieged city is almost their whole life.But women should pay attention, after a long time, passion fades, fatigue rises, and it is time to refuel and recharge the relationship.

The feeling of surprise and joy that many couples feel when they fall in love will gradually drift away with their married life.A smart wife will recall some fragments of love with her husband from time to time, so as to add a touch of pink and even a heartbeat to the current married life.

In that boring night when the husband reads the newspaper and the wife watches soap operas, we can occasionally recall those beautiful pasts together and rekindle the spark of love.The method of opening the curtain is actually very simple. You can start with one sentence: "Remember that snowstorm night, the power went out, and we huddled next to each other in front of the fire to keep warm?" You can also use visible actions to imply—— You turn off the TV, flip through old photo albums, and savor the treasured memories.

When Americans Linda and Bill McConehow got married, they took a camping trip across the West.They had very little money when they got married, so they had to live in a small tent and eat canned food.Linda faithfully recorded all this in her travel diary.

Fifteen years later, they lived in hotels and ate in restaurants when they traveled the same route with their children.They read past travel diaries every night. "Wow!" said son Stein after hearing they spent the night in a rain-soaked tent. "You must really love each other for doing this!"

"We really love each other," Linda said. "What a wonderful memory that trip brought us."

There are many couples who have been noisy and disliked each other after many years of marriage. When they first met, they also had an unforgettable time.

There was a couple who opened a restaurant. When the husband returned home, he didn't care about anything at the end of the wine glass. All the housework was done by the wife alone.In a small chat, she complained: "My husband is not good at this point, and he still has another advantage, but what about him? There is nothing reassuring about him." Someone asked her: "He has always been like this. How did you fall in love with him back then?" "Back then?" She seemed to think of something, "He used to be very careful. When I first dated him, he smoked and drank, but never excessively. Once, We went to the park to play and rested on the bench. He was sitting on my left side. After lighting a cigarette, he suddenly remembered something and ran to my right side. I asked him what was wrong, and he Said, 'The wind is blowing that way, I'm afraid I'll choke you.'”

Speaking of this, her face calmed down, and she seemed to have lost a lot of anger.

Every couple has some memories that outsiders don't know. Sometimes, a caring detail, a moment of tacit understanding, will leave us with a good memory.This kind of memory is the bright color in the long marriage life in the future, and can awaken the tenderness hidden in our hearts at any time.

If you think this kind of memory is too thin, recall all the beautiful things that belonged to your youth together, and you can also adjust your ordinary life.

For example, if both of you, husband and wife, were born in the "post-70s", then there are some memories in common.

The first idol of the "post-70s" when they were young was Zhang Haidi. He also learned the fighting spirit of the women's volleyball team. He wrote a letter of condolence to the uncle of the People's Liberation Army on the front line of Laoshan, and wrote in his notebook: "Go your own way and let others say it." Bar!"

"Post-70s" have all watched "Widow's Village" and learned to say "not suitable for children".I have liked Weng Meiling, Momoe Yamaguchi, Huo Yuanjia and Xu Wenqiang.I have read Jin Yong, Gu Long, San Mao, Xi Murong, Bei Dao, Gu Cheng, Shu Ting, Wang Guozhen, Wang Shuo, Qian Zhongshu, Zhang Ailing, and finally found that the comic strips in my childhood were the most impressive.

"Post-70s" all like Cheng Lin's "Wine Dry If You Sell Nothing", Zhang Xing's "Late", Zhu Xiaolin's "I Was 17 That Year", and later Fei Xiang and Qi Qin."A Fire in Winter" sung by Fei Xiang at the Spring Festival Gala...

When you and your husband talk to each other and collect these fragments of memory, the enthusiasm and vitality of the boyhood seem to wake up today, and when you look at the person who faces each other day and night, it is much more cordial and cute than usual many.

Why do men always think that women outside are good, but wives at home are boring?One of the most important ones is that the women outside talk to them about romance, and the wives at home talk to them about daily necessities.In fact, even in the life of eating, drinking, and sleeping, you can find some details that moved your husband. Because of such good memories, the two have the confidence to accompany each other to move forward and build a happy life.

Might as well give your husband some "little surprises" from time to time

Small surprises are the flavorings and embellishments of ordinary life. As long as you are willing to spend a little time on your husband who you care about, you will find that when the other party accepts the surprise, you will also feel infinite happiness.Married life becomes happier and better because of surprises.

Generally speaking, the surprises that men are most willing to accept are:

(1) On his birthday, you gave him the long-awaited set of brand-name clubs.

(2) When he comes home from get off work, there is a sumptuous dinner waiting for him besides his wife.

(3) Before the holiday, you have booked the route of the parade and the round-trip air tickets you have obtained before him, and he only needs to attend.

(4) When he returns from a business trip, you promise not to pick him up, but when he walks out of the airport, he sees you standing beautifully among the crowd at a glance, so a sense of happiness arises spontaneously.

(5) Even ordinary days can be changed through some small ideas.

Sisi is a very shy woman, even in front of her husband, she often blush like a little girl.So, she wrote all the love words she couldn't say on the card.When her husband is on a business trip, she will leave a note in his bag and say naturally "I miss you very much when we are not together"; when the weather is fine and the mood is good, Sisi will buy a bag specially for her husband to like Wrapped carefully, tied with a beautiful bow, and placed on the seat of his car together with a small "Love You" card.

Sisi's husband, seeing his friends' wives who have been married for many years, has become rough and loud, and he doesn't care about everything. His meticulous and romantic wife is really more precious than a baby.

The days are the same, but the difference will be big no matter how you live.We have a ready-made saying to describe a good day, "Every day is like a festival."In fact, there are more and more festivals in our modern life. Local, foreign, traditional, modern, as long as you want, you can always have a different taste.

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