The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 26 A little plan: Secrets of getting along to keep love fresh after marriage (3)
February 2th is "Valentine's Day". Young couples send chocolates and roses to each other.Even if you are an old couple, you might as well act as a lover first, isn't a lover actually a lover?If you think that buying roses is a bit flashy, you can remind your husband to go to the street to buy any small item you need, even if it is a pair of socks, it is also a Valentine's Day socks!A woman is in the mood to celebrate festivals—especially this kind of festival for young people with a little foreign flavor. It means that she is satisfied with her current life and that she has not been numb and dull by the years. How can a husband not cooperate? What about?Similarly, don't let go of the April Fool's joke on April 14st, toss him a little, and don't disappoint this great time for nothing.

March 3 is Women's Day, and the second Sunday in May is Mother's Day, both of which are days for women to enjoy.Even if you don't go out for a big meal, you can justifiably urge your husband to cook and cook a few side dishes for the always hardworking housewife. Poor cooking skills can't be his excuse, the key is heart.

Come and not reciprocate!We might as well give the labor day on May 5st and the new year's day in Vientiane to our husbands, cook some favorite dishes for them, pour a glass of red wine, thank them for their dedication to the family on weekdays, and wish them a higher level in the coming year building.Even on Children's Day on June 1st, you have to live it well. No one can have too many days worth celebrating.

In addition to these "public anniversaries", the most important ones are festivals that only belong to two people, such as acquaintance anniversaries, wedding anniversaries, and birthdays of both parties.At that time, you can take an appropriate form to give your beloved man a surprise, so that your husband will feel that you keep him in your heart all the time.

Also, on the days when your husband gets a promotion and salary increase, or when he gets some achievements or honors, you can hold a small "banquet" for him to celebrate, or you can buy a long-awaited Things, such as a new fishing rod, a pair of brand-name leather shoes, etc., as a long-term souvenir.

No matter how prosperous life is, if it is lived carelessly and listlessly, it will become dull.On the contrary, even if you are not very rich materially, as long as you treat it creatively and make a small surprise for your husband from time to time, happiness will always knock on the door.

Artificially create some opportunities to make the husband lovesick
Although the love of husband and wife has passionate and high moments, there are also moments of calmness and rest. Love also needs a rest, and this rest adjustment is for the next climax to come.

The former Soviet psychologist Zacebin and others showed in a study that there will be periodic "love dormancy periods" between couples who have an emotional foundation.After a period of warm and sweet getting along, the husband and wife will feel bored, indifferent and even hostile.The best way at this time is to do nothing, don't question the other party, don't complain, suspect or accuse the other party, and give him an independent time and space to adjust himself.After the dormant period, the relationship between husband and wife will naturally enter the next sweet period.

The popularity of "trial divorce" in modern society is actually an artificial adjustment to this "love dormancy period"—although the adjustment is a little stronger.

Couples who have relationship problems, let's stay together, if they are unhappy, let's separate completely, but it's not to the point where they can't tolerate each other and have to divorce.How to do?We had to agree on a piece of paper, not to interfere with each other's life, not to talk to each other, not to check each other's text messages, not to answer each other's phone calls, and the two people are like strangers.

After being separated for a while, facing the empty room, the two people may start to worry about and miss each other again: "I need to recharge the water card and electricity card; I don't know if he knows that there is a box of pure water in the first drawer of the living room." Service call; he shouldn't have locked the key in the house again..." "It's cold, and I don't know if she has added clothes"; "He didn't even bring a razor when he left..." After the stalemate, they get back together, and the sweet relationship can continue again.

In life, occasional business trips, family visits and travel, etc., very naturally achieve the effect of resting the relationship.

Once, Liu Haiyan went out for more than a month on business.In the first few days, she didn't feel any abnormal feeling, but felt very peaceful.But within 10 days, she began to miss her husband more and more intensely.It is strange to say that all the complaints about her husband in the past have been washed away by the longing at this time.What I think of is the magical attraction of my husband.

She deeply realized the value and status of her husband in her life.

When the business trip expired, Liu Haiyan couldn't wait to rush home.Unexpectedly, when her husband saw her, he jumped up and hugged her, hugged and kissed her warmly, just like when he was in love.

Her husband's warm embrace made her clearly feel that he misses her no less than she misses him.It is in line with the old saying: "A little farewell is better than a newlywed".After the wife and her husband have been away for a while, the relationship between husband and wife is like a magnet being strengthened, making them more attractive.In the eyes of the husband, the wife has become more gentle and charming, the dishes are more delicious, and the room seems to be more beautiful and clean.

In order to maintain the husband's "never fading" love for his wife, the wife may as well separate from her husband for a period of time to create an atmosphere of missing each other. This method is an effective way to deal with the "love dormancy period".It is worth mentioning that you must not leave your husband for too long, and you don't have to go too far. The key is to create an environment that makes your husband miss you, not to cause "everyone is on one side".

Anyway, if a wife stays with her husband for a long time, the freshness and mystery between them will disappear, and the enthusiasm for love will decrease.Smart wives, in order for their husbands to continuously accumulate new loving energy, women need to stop their husbands from taking "honey" for a few days and drink "plain water" for a few days, so that their husbands will cherish the sweetness of "honey" even more.

Women can't "faint" after marriage, they must know how to create romance

"Romance" is very important to all women, whether they are married or not, because it is an indispensable medicine to ensure the happiness of their marriage.

Every woman likes a romantic mood, spending time with the person she loves, making vows to each other, and expressing their love to each other.After marriage, women do not completely get rid of the romantic mood of girls before marriage, they are still wandering in the spring and summer seasons of love.However, their husbands, who were like a hot summer fire before marriage, quickly entered a period of emotional hibernation and fell asleep in their marriage.

This usually makes women feel disappointed, and most women will gradually adapt to all this, especially after women give birth to children, the complicated housework will become so entangled that they will gradually become numb to their feelings.The relationship between the two began to become flat, and they began to live like plain water.However, a woman's romantic sentiment has not disappeared, it just hides at the bottom of her heart, waiting for an opportunity.

In fact, it is not the privilege of men to create romance. It is not only men who can conjure up romantic tricks and capture women's hearts, but women can also create them to make the calm feelings return to enthusiasm.

He Shuang has been married for five years and has a child, but she always feels that everyone hopes to taste the wonderful moments of exhilaration occasionally in life.The way to do this is to make romance.

He Shuang's husband often travels on business, and they are always reluctant to part when parting.Once, in order to make my husband feel that although the two husband and wife are separated by thousands of mountains and rivers, their hearts are still connected all the time.She racked her brains, and suddenly had an idea, and called the hotel where her husband was staying.When her husband walked into the hotel room, what he saw was a bottle of wine, a basket of fresh fruit and a short "love letter" from his wife on the table.

The husband was deeply moved by this unexpected gift, so he reciprocated and invited his wife to spend the weekend in New York the next day.How can He Shuang not be moved by the wonderful New York travel plan.

Although she understands that in a hurry, it is difficult to find a nanny to take care of the children.And, it's such an easy way to spend a lot of money, okay?However, the joy of meeting her husband and the joy of spending the weekend in New York prevented her from caring so much.

The days in New York were really pleasant. She and her husband seemed to be in love again, and the hard-won date made them very excited.

It is difficult for most parents to leave their children at home and go out to play by themselves for a few days.Even, they have already given up the right to "play" to their children.When going out on holidays, the children are also playing, and the parents are just doing the work of guides or guardians.In fact, in order not to let the intimacy and romance disappear, couples should occasionally go on vacation together alone.Also, keep guilt out of the mix of sympathetic emotions.

It can be difficult for parents, especially mothers, to go out without worrying about their children.But between husband and wife, lovers, there is no lack of time for the two of them to be alone.They need a separate space for communication and emotional interaction.For such a well-designed date, it is best to temporarily put aside the children, daily necessities, oil and salt, talk about the interesting things that happened in the day, talk about literature, music or recall the good times, and even silently feel the feeling of being together.

Of course, a romantic husband will also bring laughter to the family and make his wife smile forever.Lao Zhang, already the father of two children, sneaked out of the house one night and rang his doorbell.The wife thought that a guest was coming, and as soon as she opened the door, Lao Zhang presented roses to his wife respectfully and sincerely invited her for a date.The wife couldn't hide her sweet mood, and recalled: "It seems to be a wonderful girlhood again."

Quiz: Is your relationship as a couple ideal?

1. In my opinion, the most ideal husband and wife relationship in the world should be ().

A. Everything goes well for both parties B. Both wishful and unsatisfactory alternately appear C. In most cases, wishful thinking
2. You are always () on some major issues in your small family, such as living arrangements, larger expenditures, and children's education.

A. Occasionally discuss B. Frequently discuss C. One person decides

3. The life of you and your husband belongs to ().

A. Not together all the year round, rarely seen B. Together all year round, never separated C. Sometimes separated briefly

4. Do you think that husband and wife often quarrel with each other, get angry with each other, ignore each other, etc. because of certain differences? ().

A. Great misfortune B. Better not to happen C. This is not important, the important thing is to reconcile as soon as possible

5. You always like to spend your free time like this ().

A. spend together as a couple B. spend with relatives and friends C. somewhere in between

6. It is always ( ) to deal with heavy and trivial housework.

A. Compete to do B. Push to one party C. Reasonably share
7. What is the requirement of your husband and wife for sex life?

A. Take quality and quantity into account when possible B. Only pay attention to quantity C. Only pay attention to quality
8. What is the common feeling of your husband and wife about sex life?

A. It is not only the enjoyment of emotional harmony, but also arouses yearning for the next sex life
B. Always present as an unpleasant process
C. It is only a more harmonious exchange of feelings
9. The topic that causes the most quarrels and anger between husband and wife is usually ().

A. Economic expenditure
B. Understanding and handling of some things inside and outside the family

C. Suspicion that one party is disloyal
10. The general process of your husband and wife reconciling after getting angry is ().

A. One party makes concessions B. Both parties make concessions C. Both parties don’t give in, so they resort to external forces

11. In the basic direction and methods of educating children ().

A. Consistent understanding B. Serious differences C. Inconsistent in a few cases

12. After the test of ups and downs in the life together after marriage, you feel that your decision to choose him as your spouse was ().

A. A mistake B. A smartest choice C. Something in between

Scoring:

1.A.5B.3C.1
2.A.3B.1C.5
3.A.5B.3C.1
4.A.5B.3C.1
5.A.1B.5C.3
6.A.1B.5C.3
7.A.1B.5C.3
8.A.1B.5C.3
9.A.3B.1C.5
10.A.3B.1C.5
11.A.1B.5C.3
12.A.5B.1C.3
Psychological test instructions:

47~60 points—the relationship between husband and wife is not ideal: your marriage lacks a foundation of love, even if there is nothing wrong with each other, it is just making compromises.Both husband and wife should make efforts to change this.The long-term relationship between husband and wife is out of balance, and it is difficult to communicate with each other. Even if they get along all day long, they can't feel joy and happiness, and it is easy to lead to "extramarital affairs".Remember a famous saying: "Choose what you love, love what you choose." As long as you and your husband reflect on each other and invest more in your relationship, everything may be fine.

23~46 points—the relationship between husband and wife is ideal, but you can still work hard: Generally speaking, the relationship between husband and wife is still ideal, but there are some unsatisfactory factors, which you should not ignore.We must see that even if the starting point of the two parties is the same, it does not mean that they have the same end point, and it does not mean that they will always be happy and harmonious in the journey of life. Therefore, there are unsatisfactory elements that should not be distressed, but should be regarded as normal phenomena.The key is to cultivate a common value orientation.Once the value concept changes, it will cast a shadow on the relationship between husband and wife, and you should always pay attention to this.

12~22 points - the relationship between husband and wife is ideal: for you, marriage is not the end of love, but a deeper attachment.Of course, sometimes, you may have a little awkwardness, but this is just a small episode of a peaceful life, not only harmless, but also adding color to the gorgeous life.After the dark clouds, the sky of love is bluer.

(End of this chapter)