The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 28 Self-improvement: A magic weapon for not worrying about being dumped after marriage (2)
Second, for men, money, in addition to providing a stable and prosperous life, is also a symbol of power.Therefore, when buying more expensive items, most husbands hope that their wives can discuss with him in advance and respect his opinion.

Third, almost all men like to continue dating with their pre-marital friends after marriage. The husband does not want his wife to restrict his contacts with same-sex friends too much.

Fourth, wives usually don't like their husbands staring at other women.In fact, men love to look at beautiful women, it is purely an instinctive reaction in psychology.

Fifth, in the subconscious of men, there is a kind of child psychology hidden.They will be deeply addicted to certain activities such as playing football, fishing, photography, audio, etc., and get mental relaxation from them. Generally speaking, this is helpful for them to cope with work pressure.Just their obsession and possibly neglect of the wife at times.

Sixth, not every man can be eloquent, considerate and considerate. Some men have too strong a tone and give their wives a sense of fierceness, which is actually out of his concern.Therefore, women should pay more attention to what their husbands do, and don't have to worry too much about what he says.

Sun Po met his current wife through someone's introduction two years ago. He was very happy with her at first, but as the number of contacts increased, Sun Po found that she was capricious and unruly, inconsiderate of other people's feelings, and lacked courtesy to others. Poe had a hard time accepting it.Originally, he wanted to break up with her before the relationship was confirmed, but she refused, crying and quarreling, so Sun Po had to agree to continue dating under the persuasion of her parents.

They got married last year, but her personality has not changed, and it seems to be getting worse.Moreover, she always quarreled with Sun Po over trivial matters, and she also held a completely distrustful attitude towards her husband.The only way for Sun Po to quell the family war is to keep silent.However, she is suspicious by nature and often suspects that her husband is having an affair with other women. Sun Po found her following her colleagues a few times, and every time she saw him say a few more words to a woman, she would get angry at her husband and even fight. Hit people.

Sun Po was really exhausted physically and mentally by his wife. He often moved from the bedroom to the living room, and even wanted to move out of the whole house.Apart from running away, Sun Po really didn't know what to do with her.

In this case, Sun Po's wife did many things wrong.Now that she is married, she has to make some changes for her marriage, otherwise she will be irresponsible.Such nonsense and inconsiderate husband's feelings, as time goes by, the marriage will only exist in name only, and the former lover will be forced to be disheartened.

In fact, a happy marriage can be met or sought. The important thing is to strengthen understanding between husband and wife. Only by understanding each other can we understand each other, and only by understanding can we have a harmonious atmosphere and a feeling of happiness.

Manage your own strengths and strengths

A married woman who is good at managing her own strengths can add value to her original ordinary life, while using her weaknesses will depreciate a woman's potentially brilliant life.Women, have you learned to manage your own strengths?

Let's start with a story like this:
When Mark was in the sixth grade, the math teacher who took over was a short female teacher, she was not good looking, and she didn't have any wonderful performances in class.The students were deeply disappointed, so they couldn't cheer up in class, and gradually lost interest in mathematics.But one day, Mark and they were all shocked by her.That was when I was learning the knowledge of "circle", I saw the math teacher spread his legs apart, squatted halfway, and drew a very standard circle on the blackboard with a sound of brushing. Not bad, Mark was stunned.Since then, the students have imitated the teacher's movements to draw circles during recess, and gradually fell in love with this ugly teacher...

Although the story is short, its meaning is profound.After hiding the paper, I can’t help but think of the following words: A teacher with a high level of Mandarin can definitely teach students who are excellent in Mandarin; a teacher with delicate and rich emotions, his students will not be immune to its infection.Everyone has strengths. If you want to achieve great things, you have to make good use of your strengths. It is a wise choice to develop your own strengths.Strengths are the fertile soil of life, and the seeds of success are buried under it.If you don't work here, you will lose the most precious things that belong to you.Looking around, among those successful people in their careers, who has not grasped their own strengths and brought them into full play?

To be successful, you must "develop strengths and avoid weaknesses."The researchers found that despite their different paths, all successes have one thing in common, that is, "developing strengths and avoiding weaknesses".Traditionally, we have emphasized making up for shortcomings and correcting deficiencies, and use this to define "progress".In fact, when people spend their energy and time on making up for their shortcomings, they have no time to take care of strengthening and giving full play to their strengths; what's more, anyone's deficiencies are much more than talents, and most of the deficiencies are irreparable.

The same is true for women. For a woman who is thirty, her mature and elegant demeanor is your greatest capital. If you deliberately affect it, it will be ridiculous.

A smart woman should learn to discover her own strengths and manage her own strengths.Franklin said, "Baby is trash if it is misplaced", and that's what it means.In the coordinate system of life, if a person stands in the wrong position and makes a living with his shortcomings instead of his strengths, it will be extremely difficult or even terrible, and he may sink in permanent humbleness and frustration.Therefore, it is very important to recognize your own strengths and strengths. Even if it is not very elegant, it may be a great wealth for you to change your destiny.

A smart woman should know how to manage her strengths and package her weaknesses well.

There is a joke:
A girl walked into a lumber shop with high heels and asked the shopkeeper to cut the cork off the heel for her, and the shopkeeper complied.

A week later, the girl came again, and she asked, "Are the two cork heels that you saw off last time still there? I want you to stick them on for me."

The shopkeeper was surprised by this request, so he asked the reason, and the girl said, "Oh, I changed a boyfriend this week, and he is much taller than the one last week."

Hehe, besides being happy, smart you, have you learned this kind of wisdom?
Positive and optimistic women are the happiest
People live to live a happier and happier life, and a happy life depends on their own hard work.In order to pursue their own happiness, people have the desire to fight for it.In order to achieve the goal of life, you must work hard, find fun in your work, make the tedious work full of life, make yourself healthy physically and mentally, live a peaceful life, and live happily every day.In order to make our lives happier, we must set a goal in life and do our best to achieve this goal.If you work hard, you will feel happy in the process of achieving your goals.

People's optimistic attitude will make your mental age young forever.As you move towards the goal you are striving for, it will increase your joy and self-confidence.You will naturally form an optimistic attitude, and happiness will always be with you; you will be able to obtain the greatest happiness psychologically, and have a happy day!I believe that you can control your happy and happy life and realize your goal!People live to live a happier life, as long as you have happiness, you will feel younger and younger!

Optimists are also more likely to overcome difficulties.If we want to make life full of sunshine and control our own life well, we can choose to face our life with an optimistic attitude.A pessimist who just complains, even in the spring garden, all he can see are broken branches and rubbish in the corner; while an optimist sees colorful flowers and flying butterflies. Spring is everywhere in nature.

What optimism gives to life is a kind of persistence.If you feel optimistic, you can feel the joy of life and enjoy the endless fun that optimism gives people.Facing life and everything with an optimistic attitude can make you feel unprecedented joy and happiness.

Here are some tips on how to make yourself happy.

1. Make happiness concrete
Visualize your future, at least emotionally prepare for what lies ahead.If you apply this trick to clear goals, you will find happiness.

2. Do what you love
Set aside time to strengthen the mastery of your own time and optimize the use of time.Try setting aside two nights in your schedule to focus on the things you want to spend time on.

3. Make expectations realistic

The higher the expectations, the greater the disappointment.When setting goals for yourself, you can set them realistically. If the goal is easy to achieve, it will be easy to obtain satisfaction and make yourself happy.

4. Balance work and family

Knowing the appropriate boundaries between work and home may be related to your happiness and improve your feelings of happiness.

5. Try new things

People have aesthetic fatigue. If you often do one thing that makes you happy, then try another thing that also makes you happy.

6. Happy memory
Learn to search your memory for your strengths, talents, passions, interests, practical skills and earlier potentials whether they have been realized or not.Memories of these things can reshape yourself and make you happier.

7. Do something nice for others

Doing good to others, whether small or large, to friends or strangers, makes them happy and fulfills us.

8. Move your body
Moving your body helps release a positive hormone in your brain that makes you feel good.

9. Count your lucky events.

Don't forget to count your luck, but not every day.Writing down five lucky things a week makes you feel happier than writing down three a week.

10. Eat some bananas

German nutritional psychologists have found that happy emotions are related to a substance called serotonin in the brain, and bananas contain this substance that can help the brain produce serotonin. This substance can not only make people feel happy And tranquility, it can even reduce pain, and it can greatly reduce the hormones that cause people's bad mood.

Therefore, when you are in a bad mood, you might as well eat some bananas to make the brain produce enough serotonin, thereby reducing the degree of pessimism and depression, and even make the bad mood disappear naturally.

Confident woman is feminine
A confident woman doesn't necessarily have a shy face, but she must have a temperament that stands out from the crowd.She is happy, she is happy, she enjoys the fun of life to the fullest, and keeps her soul clear and clean.She is well aware of the alternation of sunshine and night, and she still has light and hope in her heart in the face of difficulties, and she will never be discouraged.Her heart is like a seed, which has gone through vicissitudes of life, pierced through the smoke and clouds of the world, and will still tenaciously bloom flowers from the sand.Her laughter and whispers are like the warm sun in winter, which can dissolve the hard ice in people's hearts even in adversity.

Psychologists once did such an experiment: Put a flea in a cup, and at first, the flea can jump out of the cup.Then, the psychologist put a transparent lid on the cup, and the fleas still jumped up.But after touching the lid a few times, it hurts, and I gradually stopped jumping so high.At this time, the psychologist took the lid away again, only to find that the flea was no longer willing to jump, and would never be able to jump out of the cup...

Just like the experiment tells us: If self-confidence does not necessarily make you successful, then you are doomed to fail if you lose self-confidence, because you have lost the courage to make progress.Calm and confident will make you create miracles. Throughout the ages, every great person has always been guided by strong self-confidence in the journey of life and career.Napoleon once declared: "In my dictionary, there is no word impossible." What a heroic confidence this is.It is precisely because of his self-confidence that he aroused incomparable wisdom and great ability, which made him a famous general who swept across Europe, and also became the creator and synonym of miracles.

Only those who can trust themselves, others will entrust their responsibilities to her with confidence.Lack of courage, lack of assertiveness on anything, hesitation in dealing with things, and dare not make decisions on your own, how can you take up the burden and take responsibility alone to achieve success?Calmness and self-confidence is a feeling. With this feeling, people can start a great and glorious career with firm confidence and hope.Ease of confidence breeds confidence, and you can instill confidence in you and your opinions through your activities of confidence.Many problems and difficulties in life actually come from your lack of confidence. Once you gain confidence, many problems will be solved easily.Any woman may have shortcomings of one kind or another. If you let yourself become a complainer in the face of shortcomings, then you will only be with failure in your life. If we use a strong, calm and confident heart and practical actions to improve ourselves, then Even if we can't reach a high height in the end, and what brilliant achievements we can achieve, it can still prompt us to achieve a life without regrets!

Calmness and self-confidence can keep you in the best state of mind, give you the best state, and enhance your enterprising courage.Calmness and self-confidence are the best magic weapons to tap your potential. If you can firmly believe in yourself, then you will dare to pursue, realize your own value, dare to do things, and only then will you be able to stimulate your potential.Calm and self-confidence is not empty talk, and calm and self-confidence is not self-deception.Each of us has every reason to believe in ourselves.If life is full of calmness and confidence, life will be very beautiful.

The beauty on the outside will gradually fade with the passage of time. The natural charm born from the inside is the source of a woman's beauty, and this charm is built on the basis of calmness and confidence.The brilliance endowed by calm and self-confidence will never change with time. Calm and self-confidence is the mystery of a woman's long-lasting charm.

Min is a very intelligent woman, but unfortunately, she has more than wisdom but not enough beauty.She has a square face that looks full no matter how thin she is, with sparse eyebrows and eyes, and a terrible boy's inverted triangle shape. She is also a very unattractive woman.If most women were born like her, they would definitely be disheartened and too inferior to look at themselves in the mirror.But Min is as confident as a beautiful woman. Although she occasionally laughs at herself in front of the mirror as a "mistake", she lives in front of the mirror happily, free and easy, and fulfilled, which is enviable.Not beautiful, she knows how to make herself look beautiful. Her long flowing hair covers half of her face that is too wide. The loose T-shirt, tight jeans, and one-step skirt show her slender legs.She goes to the library, writes articles, learns the piano, designs fashions, and lives a more colorful life than many beautiful women.Because of her youthful vigor and special charm, many outstanding men are willing to associate with her. Her current boyfriend is a graduate student who has attracted many beautiful women. "No matter what you look like, youth is beauty, and calmness and confidence are charm." Min Ru said.

A person's ability to face life calmly and confidently is far more important than how she looks.Because a person who can face life calmly and confidently, she will have a pleasant smile, making people feel like a spring breeze, full of vitality, and attractive, and the charm exuding from her whole body makes people feel tempted.In fact, every woman has her own charm, just because you are too inferior and lack self-confidence, so that your advantages, strengths, and potential beauty cannot be tapped and displayed.Only by believing in yourself can you inspire courage to forge ahead, feel the joy of life, and tap your own potential to the maximum.Even if you are a very ordinary woman, as long as you are full of confidence in life, on the stage of life, you will definitely be able to radiate the charm of your own unique woman.

The following measures are designed to increase your self-confidence and improve your life.

- List the positive aspects of your personality to better understand yourself.

- Give positive comments on your own successes.

-Choose an aspect of your life and try to change it.

- Set achievable goals.

- Don't change too many aspects of your life too quickly.

——Find a suitable model, not an unrealistic idol to learn from.

— Don’t dwell on past failures and misjudgments.

- Don't use alcohol to stimulate self-confidence.Self-evaluation Jot down your strengths and successes with an eye toward living a positive life.

(End of this chapter)