The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 32 Misfortune comes out of the mouth: A nagging wife can easily lead to the death of a marriage (2)
Sending off my husband, driving the car alone, listening to music and starting to reflect, yes, saying it once is enough, the other party is neither deaf nor fool, why should you look down on other people's IQ and memory?Repeating a sentence many times is it doubting other people's memory, or is your own memory declining?

As women get older, they talk more and more. They often repeat a sentence over and over again, which makes their husband and children dissatisfied.I advised myself, must pay attention to the point, this is also the respect for the listener.

My husband is only in Hainan for two days, so he is very busy. I called him last night. He was eating at a restaurant. I waited for him to finish his meal and called. When the hotel entertained guests for dinner, the clothes were hung on the chairs, the wallet was stolen, and the ID card and bank card were all in the wallet. He asked me to report the loss to him in Beijing!

Anxiety and resentment rushed to the top of his head at the same time!

It is common sense to separate bank cards and ID cards!It is also common sense that clothes hanging on the back of a restaurant chair are most likely to be picked up by people behind!Is there no one sitting across from you?Can't you see it?When I left, I told you over and over again, and you still thought I was nagging——I forgot what I had warned myself, and started to complain on the phone.

Except for the sound of breathing, there was no reply, and the husband didn't fight back, and endured it.

I suddenly seemed to have been hit in the head by someone!What am I doing?Impulse is the devil, you must be calm when encountering things.Things have already happened, is it meaningful to blame him and accuse him so hoarsely?The most important thing is to solve the following problems, how to minimize the loss, my husband must be more anxious than me when he loses something outside, and he must be in a terrible mood at the moment, how can I blame him instead of comforting him?

There was still panting over there, and there was no words, I bit my lips: "Honey, I'm sorry, I was too anxious, I shouldn't blame you, you must be very angry, it's okay, I'll report the loss for you, it's over , I'll call you."

"Ok."

When I hung up the phone, I was filled with regret.Hastily reported the loss of the bank card, then found a pen and wrote a few large characters on the wall: Remember not to nag or complain, be more considerate and understanding.

Then I sent a message to my husband, told him that everything was done, and apologized to him for the impulsiveness just now, and promised that such a mistake would not be made again.

My husband quickly replied to the message, he said he didn't blame me, he knew that I did that because I was in a hurry, it was his own negligence that failed my trust in him, and he will pay attention to it in the future.

That's all.

Lying on the bed, I was glad that I braked in time, and I was glad that I still knew how to apologize to the man.

Everyone has negligence, and there are many times when I lose things, and I also lose money and identity cards. My husband never complains, but only thinks about how to solve the problem. We cannot allow others to be negligent and make mistakes. Others have made mistakes. I was already afraid that others would say and criticize me, so I shouldn't add fuel to the fire at this time.

Nagging and complaining are the bad qualities of women, and they are also the direct reason why women are hated by men. They are the direct killers that kill women's charm.Keeping silent at the right time is a compulsory homework for women.All kinds of brilliance will eventually return to mediocrity. Only a woman who knows how to be silent at the right time can be accompanied by a happy marriage forever.

There is a joke: the Harrys are fishing by the river, and Mrs. Harry is nagging.Soon, a fish was hooked.Mrs. Harry said: "It's a poor fish!" Mr. Harry said: "Yes! As long as it shuts up, it will be all right!"

It is true that nagging in marriage is a common problem for women. Although most of the time, women nagging are because they care about their families, but it turns out that nagging cannot effectively solve problems. Sometimes giving the other party a little time to calmly think and reflect is better than endless Nagging preaching is more effective.Therefore, for the sake of family happiness, please follow a principle: moderate nagging, shut up when it is time to shut up.

Don't talk about things your husband doesn't want to know
There are some things your husband doesn’t want to know. If you are still a smart wife, don’t repeat the following things to your husband over and over again.

1. The husband does not want to know: how many boyfriends the wife has had and what she has done with them

Although men are as curious about the past of their other half as women are, men would rather pretend to be deaf and dumb than inquire about these old sesame seeds and rotten grains.It's not how broad-minded and magnanimous a man is, it's that he really can't stand the woman's expression of reminiscing when she states these things, let alone hear the details that can make a man burn with anger and gnash his teeth.Contrary to women who value the present and future of the two more, men are always brooding about women's past.

2. Husband doesn’t want to know: How wife evaluates herself to her girlfriend
Because men have heard how other women privately communicate about their boyfriends or partners. "He only earns so little money, and he won't go to another company if he is asked to change." "His mother is so annoying, calling him all day long." Send diamonds"... oh my god, this is horrible.If a man hears his wife describe him like this to others, he cannot accept it anyway.

3. Husband doesn’t want to know: What does wife think when she strokes her belly

Men envy Schwarzenegger, even though he has lost shape since becoming governor.But don't women always say that they are too muscular and look like monsters?Not every man is an actor, and it's not necessary to work so hard to stay in shape.Have seen "American Beauty", only when life has a new vision, men will pay attention to their body shape.

4. Husband doesn’t want to know: the price of the two pairs of brand-name leather boots my wife just bought

These were bought for those very rare "formal occasions" when she was feeling "stressed out", and a lot of them slept in the closet.To know that men have been trying to switch to plasma TVs, and the bank loan has not been paid off, and he is angry when he thinks about it.Even when he wanted to buy a lighter, she scolded him as a "waste".

5. Husband doesn't want to know: Is wife jealous at her best friend's wedding (that girl married a rich man)
Although the woman kept saying that the wedding was too vulgar, she still relished describing how many famous cars drove the road, built a private garden, invited singers to join her, how many banquets (seafood banquets) and big cakes over one meter high were arranged, How many carats did you give the diamond ring...

6. The husband doesn’t want to know: the details of the wife’s quarrel with other female colleagues in the office

Forgive them, it seems that female colleagues love to compete over small things.Women who are with a man always look like a little bird, don't let him know that they also have a strong and pungent side, that will reduce the image of a woman in a man's heart.If this woman doesn't need my protection, maybe he can protect other weak people.

7. Husband doesn’t want to know: How many drinks did wife drink the night she went to the bar?
After all, it is not safe for a woman to drink too much outside.Indulging drunk women in bars is the target of lecherous men.Women think that they drink a lot, have a chic posture, and can control themselves, but in the eyes of men, they are very naive.If women are drinking to get rid of their worries, since they don't want to tell us about their worries, men have nothing to say.

8. Husband doesn't want to know: Wife says "we should talk about it"

Conversations that start this way are usually boring.This means that the woman has thought a lot about certain issues and wants to communicate with the man.If you argue with them, they will definitely get upset, and if you ignore them, they will be even more angry.What is there to talk about?

9. Husband doesn't want to know: Wife says, "I actually respect your parents, but they..."

If women really respected them, this conversation wouldn't happen.But since they are so old and have raised men for so many years, what if women have any opinions?
10. Husband doesn’t want to know: Did my wife steal my purse and purse?
If a man really has something to do, he won't leave clues to a woman.Women's possessiveness is terrible, they stare at each other openly and check secretly.Turn over if you want, but don't be hit by a man, it will be very embarrassing.

11. Husband doesn’t want to know: how many calories are in a glass of beer

Maybe he has already controlled his fat intake, and he still exercises regularly and does housework. At this time, if she frowns every time he raises his glass and brings out the boring knowledge of dietary calories, that's a good thing for the man. It's really annoying!When a woman is eating boiled fish, the man usually doesn't say anything.

12. Husband doesn’t want to know: Wife had an affair with someone else

If he didn't want a divorce, then he would rather not know about this kind of thing, otherwise it would be difficult to convince himself to accept it.If he wants to break up, this may be the best excuse, but since he has made up his mind, what difference does it make if he knows it or not?

13. Husband doesn’t want to know: It’s up to his wife to tell him how to change a faucet and how to change a car’s spare tire
He might not do some things, but he would never ask a woman for advice.Men solve problems by themselves, so that they can be creative.Although the error rate is high, I am not willing to admit my mistakes humbly.

A Few Suggestions to Get Rid of Nagging Problems
Are you a nagging woman?Just ask your husband.If his answer is yes, then please treat it rationally, and for the sake of your love and marriage, find a way to keep yourself away from nagging. The following are some suggestions that may be beneficial for you to change your nagging problems.

1. Reduce the number of repetitions of the same sentence

If you remind your husband more than three times that he promised to go for a walk with you and he doesn't move, it means he doesn't want to go.Then, shut up and stop repeating, nagging will only make him determined not to give in.

If you have to impatiently remind your hubby five or six times that he once promised to do his own laundry on the weekend.If he's already doing the laundry now, you don't have to waste your time talking about it.Nagging just makes him want to say no more.

Women, train yourself to say something once and forget about it.

2. Use gentle means to achieve the goal

"It is much more effective to catch flies with sweet things than with sour things."When you nagging your husband not to buy you a birthday present, you might as well be coquettish to him and say coquettishly: "Husband, I know you want me to be more and more beautiful, so I am going to use the money in your wallet to buy A set of cosmetics is your birthday present to me, do you think it’s okay?” After hearing such words, which husband would refuse?

So, in addition to nagging, you can use some gentle methods to achieve your purpose.

A gentle approach is much more useful than a repetitive nagging approach.Men like to be asked, not ordered.

Another example, "If you'd like to do the dishes, honey, I'll make you your favorite sweet and sour pork tomorrow." Or "Honey, you clean our kitchen so clean every time, my My friends envy me for having such a good husband like you."

Words like this will achieve the goal more easily than your nagging.

3. Develop your own sense of humor
Treating what happened in a humorous way will lift your mood.If you get angry over little things, you're going to have a nervous breakdown sooner or later.

When some wives urge their husbands to go to the bathroom to get bath towels, they will get angry because their husbands are a little slow or ignore them, and start nagging their husbands that they don’t love them. This situation is unimaginable.

A smart wife often treats unsatisfactory things in life with a tolerant and humorous attitude, rather than a tense face all day long.

In life, there is no need to be angry about many things, but we often see some women tense for some trivial things that are not worth mentioning, turning sweet love into resentment of mutual accusations.How about developing your own sense of humor to keep you in a good mood throughout the day.Don't turn "love" into "resentment" for some trivial sesame seeds.

4. Treat unpleasant things calmly

Unpleasant things are the easiest for women to nag, they always tell their unhappiness and depression tirelessly.When your husband is also in a bad mood, don't chatter in front of him, it will only lead to quarrels.Find ways to control your emotions, or get rid of bad emotions through other channels, and then discuss the matter carefully when both parties calm down. During the discussion, you should be calm and rational, and you should not use aggressive language or chatter. complain.If it is a trivial matter, you will never bring it up again.If you think it's important, talk to your husband calmly and use mutual trust and cooperation to undo it with sanity and calm.

All in all, women, you must always remember this sentence: You can't hold a man with nagging words, and the result of doing so will only destroy his spirit and destroy your happiness.

(End of this chapter)