The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 33 Use Your Mouth Well: The Art of Language That Makes Your Husband Happy (1)
Being praised by his wife is the first need of a man

"Fairy Tale King" Zheng Yuanjie said: "I think the secret to educating children is just 5 words: 'Praise him to death'!" This sentence is not only effective for children, but also applies to a wide range of interpersonal relationships. In your husband, I believe it is also a hundred hits.

There are many reasons for a man to fall in love with a woman. She is smart, beautiful, elegant, gentle and virtuous, and so on.Another secret is that this woman is lovable because she makes men feel better about themselves.When a woman can make a man feel smarter, more powerful, more capable, stronger, or more sexy, this man will soon fall into her sweet palm.

Like all male animals, men also like to show their beautiful and powerful side in front of the opposite sex. Only when there is no one in the corner, they are willing to lick their wounds silently or take a breath secretly.When they are sad and inferior because of their ordinaryness and weakness, if a woman tells him from time to time: "You can do it!", "You are great!", "You have always been the smartest", "I admire you the most!" This kind of praise will make his heart full of energy, and in turn, he will repay you with more love.

Women should maximize the effect of their sweet words, and they should reach their mouths and hearts.In fact, the husband is the man closest to us in the world. You and him face birth, old age, sickness and death together, and experience the hardships and sweetness of life together. The love between husband and wife is almost a part of our life.With this kind of mood at the bottom, when you praise your husband, your beautiful feelings and love and respect for your husband will naturally be beyond words.The heat of language and the heat of emotion will rise alternately in a good cycle.

To praise your husband, you must be able to see affection in the ordinary, and convey your appreciation and admiration to him continuously.As for the specifics of his pride, we still need to patiently discover them.There must be many praiseworthy behaviors in men, which are just ignored, and this requires attention at every turn.This requires us to be interested in everything about him, which is vital, otherwise the source of admiration is lost.In this way, every time he makes a beautiful move, he can get his wife's praise in time, such as: "You are really thoughtful about this matter", "You are so amazing, such a complicated matter did not go wrong", "Without you, this matter would not have gone wrong." It's really hard to do."This kind of well-defined compliment makes it easier for your husband to get emotional satisfaction.

If nothing special has happened in your life recently, it is also a homework that cannot be left behind in praising your husband.At this time, you may wish to use more general compliments, such as "I am so happy to marry a man like you, they all envy me", "With you at home, I don't have to worry about anything", the sparks of emotion are aroused like this up.

Women focus on being loved by their husbands in marriage, while men focus on being praised by their wives in marriage.No husband can resist his wife's words of praise, eyes full of tenderness and admiration.A good life starts with compliments.So, what do men most want to be praised for?

①Strong and powerful; ②Courage of a man; ③A sense of responsibility in doing things; ④Have leadership ability; ⑤Sexual ability; ⑥Decision-making ability; ⑩Achievement, success and expertise; {11} judges things very carefully; {12} has lofty ideals and ambitions.

Instead of criticizing and scolding your husband, praise your husband
"There are actually two souls living in every man's heart," an American gender columnist once said: "One is the reality, the present, the real self; the other is the ideal self. A smart woman will unite these two souls into one."

Many wives habitually pour cold water on their husbands, saying in a nasal voice with disdain: "You will succeed? Huh! I think even pigs can climb the wall." An ignorant wife who says such things will inevitably make the relationship between the two of them worse. worse.

A woman who really loves her husband will replace criticism and scolding with praise. You must know that there is no man who does not want to succeed.If a man is naturally shy and withdrawn, what he needs is more courage; if he doesn't have the confidence to network, what he needs is affirmation;

The biggest duty of a wife is to help her husband become the person he dreamed of.To do this, you need considerable wisdom. Don't criticize him, don't compare him with other so-and-so, don't overwork him, increase his pressure, but encourage him gently, praise him, Cheer him on.

There is a Parkes husband in the United States who is the owner of the Parkes Freight Company.He once told his story:

"Before my wife married me, she had everything she wanted. Her parents were rich, she was well-educated, and she had a happy family. During the difficult first few years of our marriage, when I faced When the spirit of struggle was interrupted by failures and setbacks, her understanding and continuous encouragement have always been the driving force for me to continue to work hard.

"If I have had any success in my life, it has been the result of my wife's constant support. She has been seriously ill over the past few years, but she has never lost her confidence and joy .Even when I was sick, her first thought was to help me. In the morning, when I was away from home for work, she never forgot to ask me: 'Is there anything I can do today?' When When I would come home at night, she would lean in and want to hear what I had to say about my day. I prayed to God every day not to let her down."

A man has been working hard for his family all day, and when he comes home, he sees his wife standing under the dim and warm light, waiting for you with a smile on her face. While handing you slippers, she asks you softly, "Are you tired today? Did you work hard?" The meal is ready, I will wait for you, the pillar, to come back and eat," or something like that.I'm afraid that at this moment, you only have one thought in your mind, that is to quickly embrace the beautiful wife in front of you, thinking in your heart: "In order to let you live a good life, I am willing to die of exhaustion."

Unfortunately, many women are not as intelligent as Pax's wife. Many women only want their husbands to do things beyond his ability and become who they imagine, without taking care of his physical and mental state and thoughts in mind.I kept saying to my husband, "You are so useless!"

If he's really failing, his boss won't hesitate to tell him.But at home, at breakfast, and in front of the children, you wife should encourage him that he will succeed.A wife who tells her husband, "You're never going to succeed no matter what" will only bring the relationship to a freezing point.

This is absolutely true, don't say a word without thinking.One well-thought-out word from a woman can change a man's entire view of himself, make him a better person, and give him a whole new perspective on life with immense power.

To make a man improve is not to force him or put pressure on him, but to praise him.

Ladies, praise him the way you want him to be

In real life, we all have such a mentality: for those who value us and place deep expectations on us, we will never bear to let them down. In front of them, we will try our best to maintain our good image and repay their praise. This expectation.

People are not easy to be conquered by external pressure, but they can be conquered by warm praise.Men have strong self-esteem, and they need to be affirmed even more.In this regard, the wives understand.

When you think your husband is too loose and lazy, and he should do more for your little family, a stupid woman will nagging and force him with complaints, but a smart woman can praise him as you expect , let him obey your guidance happily.

Do you want him to do more housework?Just make him feel needed, for example, by complimenting him on his strength.He feels like Rambo when he's armed with a loud drill.

As he hands you his salary, thank him for his "hard work for the benefit of every member of the family."When he goes to the bathroom, you can check again—whether he has also paid the overtime pay.

Remember: When he acts like a man and treats you nicely, be sure to show a little respect to his ego.Give him several opportunities to perform each week.

No matter what he does on a whim, like nailing a shelf, praise him.Maybe the shelf is nailed at a 45 degree angle, and things on the shelf might slide from one end to the other, it doesn't matter, you just applaud the best seal in the zoo, and then take advantage of his absence , called a repairman to change the shelf.If you say "the shelf is crooked" at this time, you will be miserable.Because of this, he will no longer do any housework, farther and farther away from your expectations.

Enthusiastic praise can make a man improve. This is an irrefutable truth. With the encouragement of a good wife, a man's laziness and lack of self-confidence can be greatly improved.

Yang Liu works as an assistant editor in a magazine. Although she dresses very trendy, she cannot be considered a beauty.It is such a woman, but her love life is extremely happy.

Her husband, Xiao Chen, is a college classmate with her. Xiao Chen is hardworking and hardworking. He started helping a large group with projects as early as his junior year.After graduation, he entered the Shenyang branch of the group and was promoted to sales director in only 3 years, earning a lot of money.

Her husband dotes on her very much, and every time he goes out on business, he buys Yangliu many fashionable clothes and trinkets that women like.When at home, I try my best to accompany my wife and take the initiative to share housework.

Yang Liu said: "My husband is perfect, although others don't think so, he doesn't think so either."

Her husband is indeed not perfect, wearing thick glasses, more than rigorous, not suave.

"I know what's wrong with him. He always thinks too low of himself," she said. He, sweet talk, rhetoric, rhetoric, I don’t believe he doesn’t like to listen to it. Now why is his performance so good and progress so fast, hehe, there is a motivator at home!”

The enlightenment of Yangliu's way of managing happiness is that in order to make her husband what she wants, a wife can support and appreciate her husband's characteristics and advantages so that he can display his unique talents.Especially when the husband is stagnant in his career, the wives may wish to praise him for his potential and is a blue chip stock. In this way, his self-confidence will be boosted, and he will give full play to his potential with high spirits. It will let him discover that he is really capable.

If your husband needs confidence-building, you can point to brave things he's done in the past.For example: "Remember that time, you told your boss how to reduce waste in your department? It took a lot of courage, you are amazing, you did it!"

Even the most timid man can be transformed if a woman believes him to be calm and capable.Furthermore, he will start to feel that he can actually be braver and more courageous, so he really succeeds.

If the husband is a lazy person who doesn't care about family affairs, wives can solemnly praise him for the trivial things he does for the family, and praise him as a new and good man who can bring happiness to his wife. Let you find that he is really a good man who can bring happiness to his wife. Take a look at the example of Eli Capelson.He is an excellent bridge player.Once, in an interview, Capelson’s husband said that when he first arrived in the United States in 1922, he failed no matter what he did, and even thought he was the worst bridge player.But his luck began to change when he married this charming bridge teacher named Josephine Dillon.She convinced him that she was a potential bridge talent.With the encouragement of his wife, he finally chose bridge as his lifelong career.

A woman who knows how to praise will definitely be able to make a man unleash the greatest ability hidden in his body, and a man will become better and more successful because of this!And women themselves will be happier.Ladies, let's praise our husband warmly and make him look like we expect!
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