The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 4 If you want to paint a picture of happiness, you must resolutely stay away from inferior men (1)
The flamboyant man who attracts bees and butterflies—he just wants to take advantage of you

In the modern society where divorces and affairs happen frequently, women find that more and more men are becoming philandering.However, a philandering man will never admit that he is philandering in front of the woman he likes and loves.Therefore, it is really not an easy task to see through the playboy.As a result, the women who were focused on pursuing a happy marriage began to feel anxious: "Is there any effective way to see through the philandering man?" The answer is yes.Next, we introduce them one by one.

Trick [-]: A philandering man will only be intimate with you in every possible way when he is alone with you, and even ask for offside, but in public, he will pretend to be a gentleman, keep a distance from you, and will not introduce you as a girlfriend his friends.

Crack: If you happen to meet his friend when you are together, ask him to introduce you, pay attention to the title he uses and his expression when introducing you.If this trick doesn't work, find an opportunity to make some intimate moves with him in front of his friends and see his reaction. If his friends know that he has an affair with other women, he will definitely be embarrassed.

Trick [-]: If he is a playboy, he must be reluctant to take you to his house, even if you ask him to do so, he will hesitate to refuse.

Crack: Go downstairs to his house, call him, explain that he happened to be passing by while shopping, and then ask to visit his parents.If he said "no" in a panic, he must have a ghost in his heart. Even if he is not a playful person, it is difficult to trust him. It is better to be careful when interacting with him.

Trick [-]: In order to have time to date other women, philandering men often lie that they are busy at work, need to work overtime, or have other entertainment in business.

Crack: Call his unit to see if he's really busy at work.You can also ask your best friends to do this, which is safer.If the conclusion is that he lied, then you need to get to know the man again.It should be pointed out that this article must be cautious, and it is impossible to make a final decision based on this article alone.

Trick [-]: Playful men often want to fight multilaterally, so he will try to fix the time of dating you as much as possible, so that there will be no conflicts, and mistakes and misunderstandings can be avoided.

Crack: Choose a time when you don't usually date, show up in front of him suddenly without saying hello.If he is full of joy, it shows that his love for you is real and he longs for your presence at any time.If he shows embarrassment or panic, even if you're not the brightest woman, you'll know what's going on.

Trick [-]: Just after fooling around with another woman, when he comes to you, a philandering man will also feel guilty, so he will show his hospitality for no reason, help you wash clothes, do housework, or give you small gifts.

Crack: Express thanks to him, spend some time with him, and when he thinks he is smart and his heart is agitated, whisper in his ear: "Yesterday, a friend of mine saw you..." If he has a ghost in his heart , he will definitely get excited, and ask hurriedly: "What's the matter when you see me?" This trick has been tried and tested repeatedly.

Trick [-]: It's not easy to be a man with a heart. Matching skimpy.

Crack: Don't ask questions, just observe silently and pay attention to where his money is going.If there is no big shopping in the near future, but his wallet is empty quickly, it is necessary to check.Perhaps, he has consumption receipts in his pocket. If it is a place that is especially suitable for men and women to date, the truth will be self-evident.

Trick [-]: A man is easily influenced by the women around him, so he chooses clothes with different tastes and interests, cigarettes and alcohol of different brands, etc. Once he suddenly changes his habits, it is likely that there are other women around him.

Crack: Buy him a necklace and tell him to wear it every minute.If he was dating another woman, he would definitely take off this string of necklaces and wear an ornament given by one woman to make out with another woman. necklace, it is difficult to avoid omissions, you just need to observe quietly.

Trick [-]: When dating a woman, if another woman calls, it is a headache, so the veterans among the philandering men will turn off the sound of the pager and mobile phone and change it to vibrate.

Crack: When dating you, if his cell phone doesn't ring, but he slips to the balcony to answer the call by himself, he probably has something ulterior motive.Take an opportunity to pay attention to the messages and calls on his mobile phone or pager, and maybe you will find something.

Trick [-]: Women generally have their own favorite perfume brands, so if one day his body has a scent that you think is strange, then he is likely to have an affair with another woman.This is a very old identification method, but very effective.

Crack: Playful men pay great attention to hiding the scent of other women left on their bodies. If you find that he violates his usual lazy habit by changing out the clean clothes he just wore, or simply putting them in the washing machine for washing, then there must be something wrong. problem.It is easy to find out, the key is the countermeasure, you can call him when he is drunk or asleep, and let him guess who you are.Playboys are extremely fallible.

Dozens of tricks: Playboys are very cunning, and sometimes they pretend to be so subtle that you can't find them.But if he meets another woman who is familiar with you, then the opening will appear.

Crack: The loophole appears in the woman you know well.Women all have a desire for dominance, and it is painful to share the same man with others. Therefore, you will find in some small details that she is careful and gentle with the man who loves you, but she is evasive and even resistant to you, leaving you alone. A few eyes that are not very beautiful.Nothing could be more telling.

It is worth mentioning that whether a man is bothered or not depends on the combination of time, place, and characters.In this regard, we need to make a detailed distinction.

There is a kind of man who is born with a big heart and a big carrot, always wanting to be romantic with all the women in the world.They may be able to take good care of their wives materially, but their emotions are neither focused on their wives nor on any other woman, but pass tirelessly from one woman to another.For this kind of man, it's better to break up as soon as possible, otherwise, he will be confused for a while and suffer for the rest of his life.

Some people point out that flirtatiousness is a "normal" phenomenon in marriage.Sociologists once conducted a survey on "Marriage Satisfaction in the Family Life Cycle", and found that the most satisfying period for most couples is the sweet wedding period, after which they gradually lose their sense of freshness to their spouses.If the wife has another child, it will be even more boring, and the probability of the husband's new love will be greatly increased.

The temptation of the environment will also become a catalyst for a man to play hard.In the modern commercial society, there are all kinds of sensual and social occasions.Alone, surrounded by beauties, when a man is acting out, he will often have an extramarital affair.In addition, men with successful careers like to compete with other men deep in their hearts.In addition to having a wife, a house (or even a villa), a car, etc., if you only lack a romantic friend, you will feel that you are "short" and have no face, so you put your heart into it.

As a woman, once she notices the clues of a man's "favorite", instead of ending up in a situation of "opening one eye and closing one eye" or "taking every step to press on the man", it is better to "short-term pain is worse than long-term pain" and get rid of it as soon as possible. Get out of this relationship.If you just continue reluctantly, then happiness is really a mirage.

Finally, it needs to be emphasized that changes in women's ideas will also lead to men's fickleness. "Why can't I date or fall in love with a married man?" "Just have a meal with him and sing a karaoke, what's the relationship?" For the man who loves flowers, this openness is exactly what he wants.Therefore, women should also take some time to reflect on themselves and ask themselves: "What kind of woman am I?"

The "good boy" who lacks his own opinion

——Three sentences are inseparable from "My parents said..."

If you are a modern woman who is self-reliant, focuses on her own personality and independent personality, and pursues achievements, then forming a good relationship with a "good boy" who lacks her own opinion may not necessarily bear happy fruit.

Xu Wei, who works as a dance teacher in an art kindergarten, said so.Her ex-boyfriend Song Hui was infatuated with her, and his family background was good. His father was a person with real power in a provincial agency, and his mother was a professor at a prestigious university.Song Hui has listened to his parents since he was a child. He is excellent in his studies, and he walked smoothly according to the path planned by the old couple. After finishing his graduate studies, his father found a good position for him.From Song Hui's point of view, not saying a word of my parents is worth ten thousand words, but they can't make mistakes, so naturally I listen to them very much.

When he dated Xu Wei, the family followed him, but they were not used to Xu Wei's love of making friends, love of going to bars, love of nightlife in the city, and it was difficult to tell his unmarried daughter-in-law, so he asked his son to convey it, so Song Hui Often "enlighten" in front of Xu Wei, and often say "my parents said..." and so on.

Sometimes Xu Wei asked in a hurry: "What do you think?" He would answer: "My parents are right." Xu Wei was so angry that he had nothing to do with him. Mom and Dad", won't this sentence become a "curse" that gives her headaches when we get together in the future?Under the protection of their family, she may live very comfortably, but she really lost her personality and lost her freedom. Such a "good man" is not suitable for her, so she had no choice but to say "goodbye".

A "good man" like Song Hui has no independent opinions, lacks his own judgment standards for things, and dare not say "no" to others. Although he is very obedient and obedient, he can bring you a comfortable and stable life, but he also wants you Change into a good girl, let you suffer from the pain of breaking your wings.

The betting man who uses women as chips
——You are his "social business card"

As a woman who wants to pursue happiness, she must stay away from "betting men".Why is this?Because in the eyes of this type of man, you are his gorgeous "social business card".Once you fail to contribute to his social purpose, he will ruthlessly kick you away and find another beautiful woman.All they see in their eyes is benefits, and they will not show true tenderness, let alone a sincere love for you.In this regard, emotional writer Xu Junxia also specifically advised women: "Don't be a man's social business card."

A girlfriend from a poor family has found a boyfriend who is a small boss of a private enterprise.Turning a sparrow into a phoenix is ​​naturally a happy thing for everyone. The boyfriend is very willing to spend money on his best friend, and he packs her from head to toe in a gorgeous and noble way, as if he is a different person. The boyfriend's pampering makes the best friend a little dizzy.

Every time her boyfriend brings his girlfriends to important occasions such as banquets and receptions, he spends a lot of money on clothing and hairstyles, which greatly satisfies her vanity and self-esteem as a woman.But when she was sick or in a bad mood, her boyfriend didn't understand her pain, insisting that she accompany her to participate in some business activities and socialize with clients who had never met before.Similar things have happened many times. My best friend finds that her beauty has become a business card for her boyfriend to show off in public. He is proud of her everywhere, but it is just to decorate his face and achieve his career.

As the saying goes: "A man's bargaining chip is money, and a woman's bargaining chip is her appearance." This kind of one-on-one relationship is still good, what's more, most men take advantage of women's beauty.He is in love with you but refuses to marry you, he sleeps with you but refuses to give affection, he is in between Yingying and Yanyan, you are definitely not his only one, all he wants is your appearance today to make him icing on the cake , to pave the way for him to move forward.

When a woman's beauty becomes a man's signboard, at best you are his public relations lady, at worst you are just a vase on his desk, a business card embedded in a business card holder.The value of a vase lies in showing its beauty, and the value of a business card lies in attracting the attention of others. The value of both needs to be displayed.And a woman's appearance is her own, not just for those who please herself.You have spent a lot of money on your face and body, but you can't resist the traces of time.No woman can stand that a man pays more attention to her appearance than her inner self, and her appearance will always age. When you are old and pale, will the other party still love you?
In the matter of love, beautiful and smart women are always easy to be arrogant.There is such an unwritten law in the business world nowadays, when attending receptions and banquets, a successful man must be accompanied by a young and beautiful woman.Anyone with a discerning eye will know at a glance that this is "300 taels of silver here"!However, this social "business card" of a man should not be underestimated. She adds confidence and charm to a man invisibly, an extra capital to show off, and a success rate of business cooperation.

To be a woman of this kind of man, you have to "go up to the hall and go down to the kitchen", and you have to enter social places, you can attack when you advance, and you can defend when you retreat!Not only do you want to be a symbol of his identity and status, and grab his heart, but you also want to be the unknown woman behind him. Not only do you not have the right to be jealous of ordinary women, you also don't have the qualifications to "cry, make trouble, and hang yourself"!

(End of this chapter)